Hello! I have been in a relationship with a person who is not from my city for almost a year. In the beginning, everything was perfect. But after 5 months, under the influence of countless lies from other people and jealousy, my friend cooled down and began daily scandals and insults on his part. He is hellishly jealous and even when I listen to music or do anything else he gets angry and we fight. Naturally, I get tired and start shouting at him. And his reaction is always the same to insult me. He called me in ways that hurt me a hell of a lot (whore, bitch, fool and many other insults that I can't explain to you because they were the result of some situations). I ask you for advice if you think it makes sense to be with him or better to leave him. Let me just say that I love him a hell of a lot, but my patience is running out.
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If you love him enough, you will endure. I am with a boy who has hurt me in many nasty ways ... and many more. He said stronger words, but I love him ... and I can't give him up, on the contrary ... I can still endure, just to be him ... Why don't you talk to him and explain to him how are things ..?
Hello :). We've talked many times and we always promise ourselves that everything will be different and that we will both change, but lately we are both very nervous. Lots of naughtiness is obtained; (Thanks a lot for the advice :)
Divide for a while to see if it will change.
You will be the biggest fool if you stay with him! She's not the only one, don't expose her! He is no one to kill you like that! No matter how much you love it, it's not worth it !!! You love him again now, but after the next scandal, after the next murder, do you know if he can fight to attack you? Leave it now until it gets worse!
Tolerate such a person means that you do not respect yourself! How can someone kill me and I thank him? I love myself and I would never let him, dump him don't be stupid!
That's why men are like that !!! I don't know if you are rags or what? The first comment shocked me: "If you love him enough, you will endure." Are you Normal? Ok. You love him, but he doesn't love you. Why be with him. The fact that he insults you only says that he does not respect you at all. Be aware !!! How can you be with someone who doesn't deserve you at all. He will reach out to you tomorrow and you will be patient again ... Do you know how many more men you will meet in your life? And if everyone insults you like that ... You are not a woman, you are a "toy" in the hands of others. Learn to be strong and drop it. If he loves you so much, he will ask for forgiveness and learn to respect you. Then decide for yourself if it deserves a second chance. And how can you be with him when he doesn't trust you? What's the point? A relationship is based first on trust, then everything else. I don't know how old you are, but you're obviously still young and haven't seen anything in life. I wish you happiness and success! Be a strong and proud woman !!!
to number 1. Have you talked to your friend? What did he tell you? (I'm not the author)
To nom.1-go to a psychiatrist - how can you love a person who humiliates you in any way, this is a sign that he does not love you and I do not understand then why you are with him. And what to explain to him how things are - to tell him that it's not good to insult her, that he doesn't know it - oh my god. To the author - throw it away, don't waste your youth with such a jerk, there are as many good and educated men in the world as you will meet. Good luck.
Hello! I'm sorry №1, but what you're saying is pretty stupid. No man was born into this world to be offended, hurt, and beaten. What kind of love is this ?! Everyone has dignity and it should not be trampled on by anyone and especially by those closest to them. You love him very much, of course. But don't you love yourself? Will this be your life? Insults and scandals. Set conditions for his behavior, if he does not fulfill them, then he does not love you enough.
Call him a whore, etc. If he still doesn't recover, leave.
If you ask me, you shouldn't tolerate this at all, even if you love it. I don't know why the girl who wrote the first comment gave you such advice ?! She's obviously a masochist or she just likes to be humiliated. But I doubt you deserve to be crushed and killed that way by your boyfriend. If he calls you with such words, he obviously does not respect you, and if you are patient, then you do not respect yourself. Talk to him, if he doesn't take a word, run away!
From the author: Thank you very much to everyone who responded. I knew for a long time that I had to leave him and I would do it. Thank you !!!
Hi, I'm the bad guy in this story. But I can tell you all that what my girlfriend wrote is not everything, I don't know why she didn't write that most of the lies were from her and a few from other people that she confirmed !!! We are not from one city and I told her that if she wants she can sleep with others which I will not like but I can't do anything, just not to lie to me, and there was a period in which every day !!! I was learning a new truth that had previously been a lie. I just wanted to address all the commentators with my advice. All the best to all.
Well, here's a soap opera. You are getting big intrigues, people !!! And why are you together at all? You both don't respect each other ... Separate her and take your own paths that will never cross. Love is a good feeling. Don't spoil it with childish actions and ligatures !!!
I had such a relationship ... he was jealous of me for some nonsense, I was angry and I hung up my phone, I left him, he pulled me and called me by some humiliating names (which I had not allowed myself to happen until now) (and to be honest, I'm sorry now) so after a while when everything got really rough and I was already at my limit, I had decided to find out what was going on and I went to them and of course I realized that there was another ... or rather many others with which he was..so he allowed himself to humiliate me because he had something on hand to replace me and he didn't care ... well, I'm not sorry because I learned a lesson - a man is never allowed to trample you because you allow are you already superfluous to him..for me he doesn't care about you and doesn't deserve you, find someone more worthy;)
Well, if you really love him very much, try to fix things, talk to him to clarify, but if you don't love him, the strong just doesn't make sense, it's not worth suffering
I also have the same problem, but I love it very much and I don't want to separate, I do my best to be together, but not successfully.
In my opinion, you have no future with such a person, no matter how much you love him, you should have wasted your life ... to be satisfied with the least he gives you ... to suffer, to cry, to pray to change ... to give but not to receive, to love truly and he does not love you as you want, just let him know that like you he will not find let him suffer for what he has done to you, if he loved you truly he would not love you call that way whoever it is ...... I'm just giving you advice to find the person who would give his life for you ... to make you happy ... I would say I found it ... Good luck to you I wish :) You will manage :)
To the boy: Don't care about a friend! I also went through such a period and how to be silent, learning new truths day after day, which were cleverly disguised with lies and nonsense ... I'm tired of what I didn't call her - a dirty whore, a shitty rag, a smelly scumbag ... I even grabbed her by the throat, because she was screaming from above me, despite her shitty ass ... - I kicked her and found another ... only that four months later, my beauty came and told me that she only loves me and there will never be anyone else in her life besides me ... now we are together again, for two years, but I didn't have to offend her and it didn't get there, I tell her one thing - let her vomit ten .... as before ... even provocations on my part are no longer caught ...
Oh God, a self-respecting woman with at least a little dignity will not tolerate this.
He loves you and that's why he talks to you so that he knows if you love him ..
If only she had heard me! What do I "call" - not to mention! And everyone loves me very much ...
In anger, a person can utter not very kind words in order to hurt more severely. However, if he does it constantly, he does not respect you at all.
To tolerate it means you do not respect yourself! how will you tolerate such behavior. Look around her and see how many boys are looking for a girl like you. Whichever is calm, trust your friend. Because once you walk a distance, you trust him. How are you going to let someone insult you ... You won't take your hat off to anyone. Head up and that's it!
I'm in the same situation but it even affects me but I can't give it up