Hello! A girl of 20 writes to you. Things are not going well with my boyfriend at all. He constantly commands me, forbids me to go out or allows me only with his acquaintances, and I have a ban with mine ... recently he even forbade me to go out with my sister because they don't like the two of them. To get away from this, I found a seasonal job at sea, but while I'm getting paid, I'm pretty bad with money. I have health problems, but I didn't have money for medicines and I asked him to buy them for me when we met on my weekends. He took them, but then he saw that I had collected BGN 50 to buy for food and I had a crazy scandal why I asked him when I had so much money .. Now I gave myself the last money to come to him in our hometown and I bought him a present and he is unhappy again. I don't know how to communicate with him ..
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It is impossible to communicate with him. I'll tell you what most people will probably say. And that is: run while you still have time. It will get worse. No, he will not change. No, you can't save him from that. It will only ruin your life and waste your time. And ... who is he to forbid you? Parent? I sipped this potpourri, first he started with his friends, then he started telling you not to wear certain clothes, then to stop putting on make-up ... this is the cruel truth. First he forbids with the sister, then with the family ... it's awful, you can't talk to your family, believe me. So if you have a little wit do your best and just get away. As long as you can. Until he crushed you mentally enough to make you sick. Turn your back on things like "but I love him." Better alone than badly accompanied.
Just don't communicate! You will not regret it, otherwise in time you will get more anger, although these are not small for you. ;) J. 24
Beat his jester while it's time and he didn't tie you up with a child!
You get up and leave
When you are not well with this person, show character, part with him. And learn to spend wisely - since you have no money, you don't have to travel just to see him and buy him a gift.
Get away, it will distort your idea of reality over time.
From the author: Everyone is of this opinion .. I have already suffered once, I had a friend before who was the same and led me to mental problems, I took pills and so on. I still can't recover from this with my ex and he ruins me completely, and he knows very well about these problems. It is normal for him when I do not like him to insult me how incompetent I am, how only he has achieved things in his life (for him only the material is important), how I am not good for anything, etc. Lately, he has started to raise his voice and insult me in front of his friends, which makes me feel even worse.
You're the same from the other topic of tightness, aren't you !? Why are you playing 2 and insulting our intelligence !?
MMM no? This is the first story I publish here: D
No, darling, it's not your first story, number 8 is right! But because I did not answer you in that topic, I will do it here. I also can't stand petty people. But! Your friend's behavior betrays not so much pettiness as irresponsibility. What kind of person - be it just a friend, colleague, neighbor, etc. - would refuse to buy medicine for a sick acquaintance? !! At the moment, an Israeli diplomat is visiting our villa - an old friend of mine. It so happened that something damaged the charger for his iPhone and he had to urgently go to Sofia to buy a new one. My husband immediately said, "Don't give me any headaches, give me the technical details of this phone." He went, bought a charger, put some watermelon on the road in the trunk of the car, bought drinks and vegetables, and went home. He said to me: I prefer to have fun here, instead of guarding us from the embassy in front of the door, so I solved the problem. There was no talk of money - equal men do not talk about money with each other. Instead, we are invited in the fall to travel with our guest's yacht. That is, what I want to tell you is that the "normal option" is in a relationship, friendship, friendship ... everyone should give of themselves what they can. If you squeeze your pennies and count your sips of boza and who gave how much, you better not bother each other.
You better leave him now, you won't regret it, on the contrary, he has developed pathological jealousy and this will probably continue until you leave him will get worse with you, you love him when you bought him a gift, which is sweet :) , but he no longer loves you as much as he: "" (, and takes you for a thing, it's nice to be jealous, but useful, but he has gone beyond normal to such an extent that it ruins and destroys your love for one another in pieces with each passing day and has already ruined it and thinks he can do whatever he wants with you, but in the end, usually painful jealousy leads to repulsion and retaliation.
From the author: Thank you! I told him that I wanted to separate because I met another boy and I have sympathy for him .. He immediately attacked me and when I tried to explain to him that the main reason for this was his attitude he immediately started insulting me how easy I am that I cheated on him (which is not true) and started swearing at me to get sick, to die, etc .. and with that our relationship ended .. it is very difficult for me to accept him, because I was very attached to him and hell it weighs a lot on me, I'm tormented.
From №11. Don't darling, all evil for good :) ^^
You'll be fine. You are tormented because you are used to it. You have decided very well.
From 1 Believe me, I had such sections ... endless. All insults, all criticisms, instilled in me a sense of guilt. Time will pass and you will rejoice. Think about it, will a loved one tell you to die? No. It's hard in the beginning. And I was. Distract yourself and ... give yourself time. Maybe the boy is your new luck.