Hello readers! I want to ask you for advice about my friend. Tomorrow we will do 1 year since we have been together. My problem is this. At the beginning of our relationship everything was perfect, kind, charming, caring, great passion brought us together. However, I fucked up a lot. In the winter I decided to surprise him by taking out a loan and buying him a car. I know I was deceived by love and now I regret that decision. After I took it from him, he changed, got colder, pulled away from me, pulled away when I started to kiss him, and slowly his feelings for me began to evaporate. Mine are still the same as we have been together. His character is difficult, very stubborn and never admits when he was wrong. We haven't had a good time these months. He became more secretive, I realized that he was complaining to his mother from me ... And I gave him absolutely everything. Love, money, I bought him a guitar, in order to realize (he has a metal band) the housework I do. I look at it like a painted egg. However, I recently got into the history of google chrome and found out that he was looking for cheap plane tickets, he obviously wants to go somewhere, but he doesn't tell me. He has a girlfriend in America there and they write to each other quite often.
My question is ... Is it possible that he still loves me, he has repeated it to me many times, but he does not show it. And is there a possibility that he makes other plans where I am not included in them .. I talked to him about this woman, but he only tells me that she is a good friend who has always helped him ... Does she give me empty hopes? I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money and energy. Is it still worth the effort? I look at it like a painted egg.
However, I recently got into the history of google chrome and found out that he was looking for cheap plane tickets, he obviously wants to go somewhere, but he doesn't tell me. He has a girlfriend in America there and they write to each other quite often. My question is ... Is it possible that he still loves me, he has repeated it to me many times, but he does not show it. And is there a possibility that he makes other plans where I am not included in them .. I talked to him about this woman, but he only tells me that she is a good friend who has always helped him ... Does she give me empty hopes? I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money, and energy. Is it still worth the effort? I look at it like a painted egg. However, I recently got into the history of google chrome and found out that he was looking for cheap plane tickets, he obviously wants to go somewhere, but he doesn't tell me. He has a girlfriend in America there and they write to each other quite often. My question is ... Is it possible that he still loves me, he has repeated it to me many times, but he does not show it. And is there a possibility that he makes other plans where I am not included in them .. I talked to him about this woman, but he only tells me that she is a good friend who has always helped him ... Does she give me empty hopes ? I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money and energy. Is it still worth the effort? He has a girlfriend in America there and they write to each other quite often. My question is ... Is it possible that he still loves me, he has repeated it to me many times, but he does not show it. And is there a possibility that he makes other plans where I am not included in them .. I talked to him about this woman, but he only tells me that she is a good friend, who always helped him ... Does she give me empty hopes?
I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money and energy. Is it still worth the effort? He has a girlfriend in America there and they write to each other quite often. My question is ... Is it possible that he still loves me, he has repeated it to me many times, but he does not show it. And is there a possibility that he makes other plans where I am not included in them .. I talked to him about this woman, but he only tells me that she is a good friend who has always helped him ... Does she give me empty hopes? I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money, and energy. Is it still worth the effort? Which has always helped him ... Does it give me empty hopes? I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money and energy.
Is it still worth the effort? Which has always helped him ... Does it give me empty hopes? I've been putting up with it for half a year now. I'm running out of patience. I lost a lot because of him. I lost a lot of nerves, money and energy. Is it still worth the effort?
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Sweetheart gold. :-)
First, I think he takes you for granted. Second, talk to him. Tell him what's bothering you. And do it as quickly as possible before you lose it, unless you already are. That's why just as many relationships end. Because when there is a problem, no one is afraid to talk to the other and they both pretend to be hit, as if everything is correct. Yes, but it's not.
Honey, I'm sure you're a great person, but from what you've written, I'm under the impression that you've taken on the role of the man in your relationship. How many topics are there from women who do their best, pamper their husbands like a princess, do everything to be taken seriously, and then feel used and not loved enough. I've come across at least a few such topics, and I'm not very regular on the site. My advice is to keep more to yourself. You are the woman, you have to be flattered, he has to do feats for you, to feel like a man. Otherwise, he will not respect you as a woman. I will not allow myself to give you any advice about your friend and his behavior, only you can decide what to do. I personally would not tolerate it next to me. The only good thing I read was the music he played. I hope though,
It is possible that the person has other plans. Change your tactics a little, don't care so much ... don't pay so much attention to him and see how he will behave. He can use you, it is not excluded
Come on, I want a car too.
You took on the role of a man. You bought him a car for a few months together? This is not done. There is no need for such a waste of money for a person you have known for several months, it is a great gesture for the time you were together then. It may sound stingy, but you don't need such big gestures, especially if you haven't been together for at least a few years. Look at it this way - you've been going out for a few months and you're buying him a car. He feels flattered and perhaps uncomfortable. In his eyes, you may be the fool in love who spends money on him, buys him a car. Such big gestures, only for more time together, not just boyfriends. I understand that out of a desire to make him happy, out of love, but it was not necessary. It could be something symbolic, a dress, or a weekend for two somewhere, but not a car. Such huge gifts only if you are with someone for at least more than 2-3 years.
You must be a big cutie, but you give me the impression of being a little naive. Well, nothing, all lovers wear pink glasses for months or years. Your friend repeats to you that he loves you, but in no way shows it. Draw your own conclusions. In words, we can all be strong. Now I can start talking to you about rocket takeoff, but I don't even know what a rocket looks like from the inside. There are many theoretical gods, but if a person is not in the practical part at all, he is only a storyteller and nothing more. He doesn't let you kiss or hug him, he probably doesn't take the initiative on these things himself. He's not talking to you. You find that he was looking for plane tickets and you have no idea why. He didn't even let you know he was considering traveling abroad. That friend of his from the United States may really be just his girlfriend, but that doesn't excuse him, that he was thinking of leaving and didn't think to mention it to you. You've poured a bucket of money into this man, you've invested your time and your love, and he doesn't even think it's right to kiss you and tell you when he's considering traveling. I am sorry for you. I feel very sick when I know that a conscientious person has not happened to a partner. I hate your loan and your hopes even more, but it's better to open your eyes now than to waste a few more years waiting for him to come to his senses.
Hi, I'm in a similar situation and number 3 is very right. We offer ourselves to them on a baking sheet, watch them, take care of them and forget about ourselves. I have decided to radically change, first I will start with the look of makeup, hairstyles. Then I will change my attitude. I have instilled in myself that for such women men can kill. Those who know the price, proud and supported. I advise you to follow my example. From now on, think of yourself first, and don't even think about him.
From the author: thank you for the answers, I'm just very sad, I can't change. I am a good person and I always think about others, I am not selfish and I always pursue my goals. However, it sucks when such a person appears and you ruin your plans and turn your back on everything and finally fuck up. They take you for granted and they lie because you are good to them. I made a great mistake, but everything I did for him I had to do for someone who will appreciate me. Dear ladies, do not forget yourself because of such "men". I know that somewhere there is a great man waiting for me who will be worth it. Therefore, it will not change by ending this toxic relationship. I don't care about money, money is made. I am angry about the nerves and energy I wasted on the wrong person. Don't make my mistake.