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My Friend Had An Affair With A 52-year-old Man!

By angeellina September 19, 2020 50 answers Last updated September 19, 2020

I have a few questions for the readers of this site, because my friend admitted some things ... She is currently 23 years old. 3 years ago she was in Germany under the "Au Pair" program. There she had an affair with an acquaintance of the family she was with. This is no surprise. But a registered shipment for her arrived a few days ago. The gift was extremely expensive. Few men would "reach out" so much, whether they are Bulgarians or Germans. I asked her about him. He is definitely a man of money. Automotive engineer, works in a very successful company. He drives a car I only dream of, etc. Okay, but when I found out he was 52, I felt some disgust. I was disgusted by the fact that she had slept with a man who was 30 years older. And given its financial status, things seem more than simple. She says, that she truly loved him, but he pressed her, so they parted. My ideas about this girl have changed radically. We both live, it doesn't work. It didn't bother me, I even prefer him to wait for me at home and make me breakfast in the morning and send me away. But now I think I'm just a jerk who can handle it. I doubt love? ... Can such a young girl really fall in love with an old man, or draw the appropriate conclusions ...? Is it normal for him to? send gifts if they have been separated for almost a year? How can I be sure of my feelings ?? I doubt love? ... Can such a young girl really fall in love with an old man, or draw the appropriate conclusions ...? Is it normal for him to? send gifts if they have been separated for almost a year? How can I be sure of my feelings ?? I doubt love? ... Can such a young girl really fall in love with an old man, or draw the appropriate conclusions ...? Is it normal for him to? send gifts if they have been separated for almost a year? How can I be sure of my feelings ??

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lelepons_ answered · September 19, 2020

   Dude, I don't see what you're wondering, "the king is naked." Don't deal with pranks, find a good girl!

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shopruche answered · September 19, 2020

   For love, years don't matter, ......

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coronationstreet answered · September 19, 2020

   Get out of there, brother! It is clear, you don't need such women, they will only poison your nerves, let the automotive engineer take it, but hardly !!!

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cutie_sonya answered · September 20, 2020

   I also had a relationship with a 3 year older man, but definitely money was not a factor. In your case, it seems like she's really waiting for you to endure it ... find something better

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foodpanda answered · September 20, 2020

   Well, the obvious things are usually the truth itself, I think you have made the right conclusions ... M, 35

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xxmissjerkingslutxx answered · September 20, 2020

   There are no limits to love. However, there are only a few women who will go to bed at the age of 30. an older man than them, so they loved him. There is another type of relationship besides based on feelings, such based on interests, personally I prefer the second option. Now if you are wondering if she is the girl for you who will love you very much and will be faithful to you, the answer is no it will not be so. However, if you want an obedient girl next to you to watch you. And your girlfriend agrees, it's good for both of you, and it's better to stay together. Just don't fall in love - love is a weakness.

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sweet__18__ answered · September 21, 2020

   Don't deal with this K ** va at all with an apology. Everything is clear, she saw his money and threw herself into that job. It is with you to support her and for her to live her life. I'm sorry, but you'll have to find another girl and hope she really loves you.

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iloveyoucailey answered · September 21, 2020

   For you, as a man who supports her at the moment, it is very unpleasant. Your self-esteem is hurt because for her the bar is very high and compared to her rich German with very limited opportunities. It's weird, really, that the girl didn't just sleep over once, she had an affair with him. It is no secret that most women leave immediately for easy money. Yours seems to be no exception. If you still like her, try to overcome your ego and watch how she reacts. If he sticks to you, he will return the gift to the German. But if she kept it, at least I would break up with her if I were you.

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vivianisthere690 answered · September 22, 2020

   Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. In no other case.

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thecoreybrewer answered · September 22, 2020

   hey, you are very forgiven. Johnny Depp, for example, is 50 years old. Do you think that a 20-year-old girl will find it harder to like him than a 20-year-old Lyulin tsarvul? and you are immediately ready with the definitions - it is a mess, writes the specialist in female mentality ... the author - if you do not know your girlfriend and you are waiting here for someone to explain to you how he feels or what kind of person he is, whatever you are told - it is still she.

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tylersands answered · September 22, 2020

   I wonder in my mind what happened to you was my boy. let me ask you, if you meet a 53-year-old aunt with a lot of money, will you write to us here and take the gifts to go to bed with her. the years of my mind are not wars

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isabellemathersx answered · September 23, 2020

   I think they are shaking the complexes! It is clear that you have no chance against the uncle - neither financially, nor professionally, nor sexually, nor as an attitude. Your only chance is that you're younger than him and you can spend more time with her - a chance you're trying to fuck. Because yes, there are people at this age, in front of whom 90% of modern young people pale, and as №2 says - for love, years do not matter. Don't blame the man, but rather really worry about your girlfriend - because her feelings are "day to noon". What happened to him may soon happen to you, namely - tomorrow she will decide that you "press" her and go with a third ...

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hrnyotter answered · September 23, 2020

   Depends if he treated her well, talked and is beautiful and looks good, it is possible that she felt something, if she is with you now, then there is something to you ... Why exactly be a jerk, that you are messing in your pocket ..

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franchesca_dukan answered · September 23, 2020

   You will not see anything good from such a woman, you know. Once she's done it, she has no problem doing it again. She certainly still keeps in touch with the uncle in question when she sends her expensive gifts. Balamosva him and him steadily. Tomorrow or the day after tomorrow, if you have any financial problems, she was a jerk directly, she wants someone to support her, so did your uncle in Germany. In such relationships, everything is material for the woman, how the years do not matter for love, come on, don't. Why in all such relationships, between a young girl and an old uncle, the uncle has a lot of money. How could one not catch up with someone who receives a salary of BGN 500. I had an affair with such a woman. She kept telling me that I didn't often make nice gestures to her (by kind gestures she meant expensive gifts). If he starts to reproach you and criticize you financially, it's bad. If you ask me - RUN.

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sukisukigirlcb answered · September 23, 2020

   Dude, pack up your luggage too! Not that the 52-year-old men look bad and it's not bad to have had sex with someone like that, but to have had a relationship is already too much. It was pure prostitution, and as we know, there are no former whores.

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recreativohuelva answered · September 24, 2020

   You know that all women will justify it. You can see for yourself "Years don't matter for love ..." and the like. as I read in a topic on this site. It's just easier, there are women who think like that, why bother to achieve something as it can and it's easier. You've heard Napoleon's words "All women are ............................... ". And if she sends gifts, so they contact, she may soon serve you that she is leaving for Germany, which I'm really sure will happen.

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kittylipas answered · September 24, 2020

   Abe has men in their 50s who look pretty good for their age! There are, of course, those who seem immortal. It all depends on how a person is maintained. On the subject - why is it not possible to fall in love with this man? If he is handsome with a well-groomed figure, and financially well - I do not see age as a big obstacle, unless he has decided only now to create children and a family, because he will be a grandfather when his child turns 7 years old. Remember that young people are up to a time ... then they suddenly start to run away very quickly. And no, it's not normal for him to send her presents, given that she's with you and she's done with him. You still find out if they are secretly not in touch!

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benety712 answered · September 24, 2020

   Another mercantile holiday. Don't waste your time with such rubbish. I am a woman and I am already starting to loathe such performances ...

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luisg2121 answered · September 24, 2020

   She may have been really in love with him, don't write her off so quickly, but just check. In principle, every girl needs security. When she went abroad, she had no one to rely on, and she must have been very lonely. the smaller and infirm a woman feels, the more she needs a strong, mature man by her side. I'm 25 and when I was 19 I had a relationship with a man at 31. Yes, really the difference is not as big as in the case of your girlfriend. And he was the type who always stays in appearance and manner as teenagers, my friends accepted him as a set ... But still 12 years difference. Then I felt attracted to his mind, the way he thought, the experience, the security. And that's because with the previous boy my age, I felt like a "poop" playing the children's league, playful and insecure in the feelings of the other. Well, we broke up with my "uncle", now I have only good memories and I have the most wonderful relationship with a boy my age, but I tell you again - many of us go through this stage to like an older man. Will it be the children's school look at some cool teacher or at a later stage. the important thing is that your girlfriend broke up with this person and liked you. if he's with you, then he's not looking for "uncle's money." It is felt in my opinion. but, I may be mistaken - it may be a matter of some benefit and search for convenience. Still, I don't think anyone could stand being with someone if they didn't feel anything for him at all, they just wanted to use him. Because without liking and thrill, no relationship will last more than a month :) Good luck! I hope your girl is not a "gold digger"!

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_vanelope_sweet19 answered · September 24, 2020

   Beat and joke while it's time. This relationship has no future. Ask yourself why a gift suddenly arrives like this. I think she keeps in touch with him. I do not know how things are with your relationship, but if they are serious, such an attitude is not fair.

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belindahann answered · September 25, 2020

   Could she really be in love - yes, she can. But only she knows if that is the case. Basically, no woman would admit that she was with someone just for the money, so ... All you have to do is guess. More urgent, in my opinion, is the question of whether they still have any relationship. And here you do not have many options, the gift is not solid proof that she still has something to do with it. Maybe he's just trying to get her back without her reassuring him in any way. And lastly, you can't be sure of anyone's feelings. I mean, there is never a 100 percent guarantee. My advice is to end your relationship. Too many questions, too many, too many doubts. And at best, at one point you will get tired of "competing" with the other.

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ricoverhoeven answered · September 25, 2020

   I think keep one thing in mind, but still do not rush to conclusions. You don't mention if she accepted the gift, because if she accepted it, it's definitely not an honor. Otherwise, what is she to blame for him sending her something? In principle, it is possible that she had feelings for him. And as for you, you can very easily find out if he is with you for money. Just think that they have reduced your salary or that there will be layoffs in the company and it is possible that you will be laid off in the near future, so it is necessary for it to work more safely, but it is good for its development and your budget. If he starts to dodge or pretend to search and still not "find", everything is clear. Until 14 As for Depp, how do you know that he is a decent man and how did you understand him from his films, where he plays roles? If someone who doesn't know him personally wants to have a relationship with him, it will only be, because he is rich and famous, because she really doesn't know anything else about him. But then she may not be as cool as she seems in the movies, but she's very likely to continue to be with him because she has a situation. So this is still a form of prostitution, albeit in a slightly softer version.

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softolsen answered · September 25, 2020

   Let me ask all the critics here - since you think the girl was with her uncle for the money, why isn't she there yet? Or why, after she dumped him, didn't you find someone rich again to make her expensive gifts? Money is not always everything. Maybe she really loved him. My ex-boyfriend has his own business and enough money to take me 3-4 times a year on vacation. But for him, I was a supplement to his life as a businessman, a woman from whom to have children, someone to go home to when all his work meetings were over. I loved him and wasted a lot of time before I realized that he would not change and that I would not be able to rely on him (I could only if he had no other commitments or if he was not very tired). I am currently with a person with less financial means. But this man loves me and is ready for anything for me, just like I'm ready for anything for him. We can't afford to go on vacation several times a year, we can't afford expensive pampering, but I'm happy. My ex asks me to go back to him, but I won't. Don't judge so harshly because you don't know what the girl went through and what his feelings were. And I can tell the author - men are weird! She loves you, lives with you, lies down next to you, prepares breakfast and dinner for you, takes care of you. But that's not enough, is it? You don't want her to have a past. Well, I wish you success in your search for a woman without a past. And I'm telling you, you won't find one. F27 Don't judge so harshly because you don't know what the girl went through and what his feelings were. And I can tell the author - men are weird! She loves you, lives with you, lies down next to you, prepares breakfast and dinner for you, takes care of you. But that's not enough, is it? You don't want her to have a past. Well, I wish you success in your search for a woman without a past. And I'm telling you, you won't find one. F27 Don't judge so harshly because you don't know what the girl went through and what his feelings were. And I can tell the author - men are weird! She loves you, lives with you, lies down next to you, prepares breakfast and dinner for you, takes care of you. But that's not enough, is it? You don't want her to have a past. Well, I wish you success in your search for a woman without a past. And I'm telling you, you won't find one. F27

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romina_turner answered · September 26, 2020

   Try something simple: when you get home from work tomorrow and say you're fired and she has to get a job. I bet she'll be gone by morning. I hope I'm wrong, but I doubt it.

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khalilramos answered · September 26, 2020

   I think that things that happened before your relationship should not affect or offend you. You are probably not perfect either - so just love each other and enjoy each other.

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mildredmayhem answered · September 26, 2020

   Think about why she received a gift from her ex-boyfriend now, 3 years later, rather than why she was with him. However, in the past she did not know you and with whom she went was her will. But my ex doesn't send me presents. That is why this is an interesting question and I wonder why you do not think in this direction.

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alektrastar answered · September 26, 2020

   I think that if she had been with him because of the money and she was a stupid materialist, now she would have pressed her rags with him ... But obviously something was missing. Money doesn't fix everything ... Judge by the gift that he is not indifferent to her ... and if she asks she can always come back, but she has chosen to be with you ... What does that tell you? Don't put nonsense on your finger. The girl is with you because she is happy and probably loves you ... if you are happy too, then what do you raise the question? Everyone has a past, right ... G. 25

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phmartina answered · September 26, 2020

   I can't understand these people who say that age didn't matter. So how can they not - these are different generations, with different values. When I see a young girl with an old man, it immediately dawns on me that she is with him for money and he with her for sex with a young boyfriend. Otherwise, what else could they have in common - he has already experienced things that she has yet to experience. He is already interested in completely different things, she is interested in others. There are just stages in life, for example, a student with more youthful thinking, who thinks about parties and discos, what do values ​​and understandings have to do with a man who is already thinking about retirement. I'm a woman and even 10 years difference seems a lot to me, not to mention 30. For example, I communicate best with people around my age, because we are interested in more or less some things and we are more or less at a similar level of development. The author is rightly worried, but she should be even more worried that she is receiving gifts from the man in question - THIS MEANS THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT ENDED AT ANY LEVEL. And if the gift is expensive, then it is clear why she was with him. The bad news is that when you get used to such a standard, then you will start rushing to provide it, and not everyone can achieve this and you will only become more complex. And there is no material basis for comparison between you and the old one. However, he has an advantage with you for 30 years for which he has achieved this. You may be even more successful at his age, but at the moment you can't compare yourself to him by that criteria. So think carefully about whether you have caught the right person. that she receives gifts from the man in question-THIS MEANS THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT ENDED AT ANY LEVEL. And if the gift is expensive, then it is clear why she was with him. The bad news is that when you get used to such a standard, then you will start rushing to provide it, and not everyone can achieve this and you will only become more complex. And there is no material basis for comparison between you and the old one. However, he has an advantage with you for 30 years for which he has achieved this. You may be even more successful at his age, but at the moment you can't compare yourself to him by that criteria. So think carefully about whether you have caught the right person. that she receives gifts from the man in question-THIS MEANS THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT ENDED AT ANY LEVEL. And if the gift is expensive, then it is clear why she was with him. The bad thing is that when you get used to such a standard, then you will start rushing to provide it, and not everyone can achieve this and you will only get more complex. And there is no material basis for comparison between you and the old one. However, he has an advantage with you for about 30 years for which he has achieved this. You may be even more successful at his age, but at the moment you can't compare yourself to him by that criteria. So think carefully about whether you have caught the right person. and not everyone can achieve this and you will only get more complex. And there is no material basis for comparison between you and the old one. However, he has an advantage with you for about 30 years for which he has achieved this. You may be even more successful at his age, but at the moment you can't compare yourself to him by that criteria. So think carefully about whether you have caught the right person. and not everyone can achieve this and you will only get more complex. And there is no material basis for comparison between you and the old one. However, he has an advantage with you for 30 years for which he has achieved this. You may be even more successful at his age, but at the moment you can't compare yourself to him by that criteria. So think carefully about whether you have caught the right person.

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spunk4all answered · September 27, 2020

   Open your eyes to 6. Check out why he's getting a present now. It makes the most sense to keep in touch with the person and tell them that she is still in love with him, etc. If you have access to her computer, you can install software to steal her email / Facebook password, and then check what he's actually writing to the gentleman. And know, don't be against the German, and he and you are probably in the same situation - the problem is with your girlfriend!

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charity_witt answered · September 27, 2020

   It's funny to denounce the girl as a shallow "patchwork", considering how she wrote and what funny mistakes you make ... you don't send from intellect. Author, your story takes me back a few years. I was a 19 year old girl, young and inexperienced. I worked in a small hotel in a German resort. People rarely impressed me, it was always full, constantly passing me. Until one day my gaze stopped on a more mature and large man. He went to register, and I somehow secretly followed him with my eyes. Our eyes crossed several times, and finally he smiled at me. Then he headed for his room. In the evening I stayed in the lobby because there was wi-fi (or wi-fi, as he calls it). He came, smiled at me, and sat down in one of the armchairs. He asked me if it would be possible to give him the password. Of course, I wrote it to him. Then he introduced himself to me. We talked. We spent almost 3 hours in sweet talk, after which we went back to our rooms. The next day, at the same time, I was involuntarily standing there, he came again. We talked about all sorts of things for several nights in a row. He was 51, he told me about Germany before and now. It was a pleasure listening to him. He had a good profession. He also bragged about his car, when he even called me in the parking lot to see her. Yes, he was a man of money. Unfortunately, I knew that the short thing, whatever it was, would be over when he left. Two nights before he left, he told me that he felt very well in my company and that there would be a chance for me to follow him from now on. I refused him, precisely because of stupid prejudices. In the morning, when he left, I watched him ... At the last moment I asked him to wait for me. My boss was an understanding woman and "let him go." And since then, we have been together for almost 4 years. He is mature, experienced and knows what he wants from life. He is impressed by the essential things. 20-year-old boys who cram in steroids can envy his body. This is a MAN, in every way. Like your girlfriend, I don't work. Because I prefer home comfort. I prefer to wait for him at home and hug him on the neck when he comes. Sometimes things are much more complicated than they seem to you. Check how things are. If you want to see what he looked like, whether he was a tight, handsome man or a neglected, old uncle. She draws her own conclusions ... See how her relationship with her father is. If she grew up without him, it is normal for her to look for a replacement. Choose who to listen to. Evil and superficial people, or trying to understand things. You sound like a sensible boy, I hope you really are! That man obviously appreciates the girl, evaluate it and you before he comes with the "vehicle" and takes it back to Germany. Don't let the topic "How do I get it back?" After a while. Success!

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chayannemusic answered · September 27, 2020

   See She probably doesn't love him, but she uses him for his money. I don't trust a girl with a successful life and a friend to fall in love with an old man. She must love you (never doubt), and he must send her presents because she likes it (not surprising). Don't worry so much, because it may not be true. Don't worry, everything will be in order :)

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flower__di answered · September 27, 2020

   36, and now think about what your "tale" is due to, where its basis is ... Also how representative the sample is and how such stories usually begin and end. And what does this settled man really value in you? Isn't it precisely your youth and naivety to treat you like that - a mess with fairy tales, combined with a display of financial stability, lest he be impressed by your literacy and your perfect German language? What does he offer you at the moment, whether you have a marriage and children, whether you are his legal heir along with his children from the previous marriage or more precisely from his legal ex-partner, with whom he has not lived for years, but with dignity pays her alimony? I know you're tactfully keeping these "boring" details to yourself, but they're a part of life, and just because you don't want to think about them doesn't mean they don't exist ...

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afrobysara answered · September 28, 2020

   Hello number 39! Asked questions that I will answer. The "settled man" and I went through difficult moments, one of which was my miscarriage. This man has no children, his ex-wife was sterile, which is one of the reasons for their separation. Yes, we are not married. In Germany, the phrase that marriage kills love is quite popular. I don't know if I'm involved in wills because I try to think in the present. What did he see in me? Only he knows. Yes, I'm far from literate and my German was quite epic, no matter how hard I tried. I am not one of the women he is used to communicating with - a suit and an elegant briefcase. Rather, I take him back to his unexperienced youth. Something is happening to him that he missed due to healthy learning and diligence to make a career. Maybe he sees in me the child he didn't have. I notice how happy I am and how he talks to me, as if I were his little girl. It offers me care, attention, love. Well, he can just use me and live in delusion ... but I'm so happy! I don't know what the girl in the story is because I don't know her. But we must accept that everything has its exceptions. Isn't it better for the author to check how things are, especially if he cares about his partner? However, I express my opinion and give him advice, everyone has the right to do so. He decided how to proceed. especially if he sticks to his partner? However, I express my opinion and give him advice, everyone has the right to do so. He decided how to proceed. especially if he sticks to his partner? However, I express my opinion and give him advice, everyone has the right to do so. He decided how to proceed.

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harleyybabyy003 answered · September 28, 2020

   I do not agree that a woman is always with a man much older than her just because of her mercantilism. Understand that there are women who really like older men. And the money is not in the account at all. They like the more mature way of perceiving things in general, they like the security they give them, the calmness of the care that surrounds them, the attention to them. This, of course, does not apply in all cases and couples. But there are definitely some. I am such a woman. I'm not really talking about the drastic difference of 20 years or more. But history knows such cases. There is a lot of truth in the comment of the girl with the German story. Very often at the bottom of the "tale", as one commenter called it, is not the money, but the strong attachment to the father or the total lack of such. So I think that it is not good to judge categorically. Moreover, when it comes to mangoes, these things are obvious and more obvious. The author lives with this girl, he should know her and assess the situation. It is a wrong way to ask for an opinion here.

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sunniebrook answered · September 28, 2020

   Admirations, number 36/41. I have a similar story. I was 24 and he was 43. Stable, youthful, charming, educated, with an amazing vocabulary! Today I am 36 and he is 55. With the exception of the birth of our child, nothing has changed. So, all of you who condemn the girl from the story, haven't you wondered why the author doesn't mention anywhere what explanation he received from her for this great gift? I am very curious whether he bothered to ask her at all, or as an extremely loving one, he consults the audience of an anonymous site ... That's how human relationships are predicted / doomed .. maybe in court they should already be listen to only one side .. and be judged !!!

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just_lili answered · September 28, 2020

   Здравей 41, на първо място искам да отбележа, че не съм от хората, които са те оценявали, защото не съм аз този, който може да те съди за живота ти, ти си следваш своя път, добър или лош, времето ще покаже. Напълно разбирам мъжа до теб, някак си по-леко и неангажиращо, по-малко страшно е да си хванеш някоя млада и красива емигрантка, която не претендира за прекалено сериозно място в живота ти, задоволява се с малко, не е някоя хищна кариеристка или прекалено пресметлива жена, каквито впрочем са всички германци, твърде пресметливи хора, бих казал направо са груби в това отношение, може би затова са богато общество, защото никой не би си и помислил да ти върне 1 цент по-малко ресто:) Но така както ми представяш нещата мисля, че си попаднала на читав човек, дори и да те подценява в някои аспекти и да се вживява в ролята си не само на партньор, но и на баща, фактът че няма деца и надеждата му да има с теб, те поставят в една добра позиция, затова мисля, че наистина можеш да бъдеш щастлива с него, защото той ти дава сигурност, а ти го подмладяваш:) Бъдете щастливи:) Но сама разбираш, че твоят случай е по-скоро изключение и ми се струва, че не може да се приравни към този на автора, за жалост... М, 35

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carinaskyy answered · September 28, 2020

   Author, until a few years ago I was with a man 15 years older than me, who did not work and had an awful lot of loans and debts (which I repaid). I lasted it for 2 and a half years. His friends (who obviously didn't know his financial situation) looked at me the same way - like a user who wants to suck his money. I calmly let them look at me with their arrogant moral views, because I did not want to humiliate him in front of them by revealing his real income (which started with debts of about BGN 400 every month, continued with cigarettes for BGN 200-300, fuel for at least BGN 100, because he did not walk and ended up with revenues of 0. 0). So please, explain to me again how all women with older men are materialistic. Now I'm with a man 15 years older than me, but with different incomes (he can't stand me, don't jump in a hurry) and people still look at me the same way. And guess how much I care again. Not everyone lives their life according to the clichés of others.

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shapifymylife answered · September 28, 2020

   Abe may have loved him. I know one with a bigger age difference with the man, but he is not rich. Even she lost a lot of money because hers had opportunities, and she gave up the easier life to be with him. Everyone knows.

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dafuqdisis answered · September 29, 2020

   If you're 100% sure you still don't keep in touch I don't see what to worry about. Only they know what happened between them. Maybe it was love, maybe not exactly, but you can't be sure that if she didn't love him, she doesn't love you and only cares about your money.

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bigbreastsandpussy answered · September 29, 2020

   In a relationship, trust comes first, once your girlfriend has admitted to having sex with him, then she's holding on to you. It is very easy for him to babble you for the famous gift, then you will really be a bastard, maybe his goal is to test your feelings. If you act like a Neanderthal, she will surely beat you.

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ketialready answered · September 29, 2020

   One thing I understood when dealing with women, you have to be honest with yourself, no matter how bad it is !!! You can't go wrong that she was actually with him because of his charm, his beautiful body or his bright smile. Of course, the most important thing she saw was money. The fact that she left him shows this perfectly. She put up with it for a while, drained what she could and now continues to sharpen it in a better way for her (expensive gifts). And just because he's not rich with someone else now doesn't mean he doesn't want money, but that he can't be rich right now or prefers to have someone younger. He drains it, he is younger and can tolerate it. Author, I want you to understand one truth, "gold diggers" are not the women who give on TV with Uncle Hefner or just some scoundrels. These women often do not even have plastic surgery, nor are they with heavy make-up. They look like perfectly normal women, but they are not exactly like that. However, they have almost no choice when it comes to the rich, because rich men make up less than 5% of any society and are often not young or married anymore. That's why they catch someone younger, naive, who is ready to give them money to suck. In general, it has almost always (at least for me) with women always been a matter of interest. In your case, it's the money. Be honest with yourself and see the truth, until you are as old as that uncle, then go crazy and be tempted to go to different girls! almost always (at least for me) with women it has always been a matter of interests. In your case, it's the money. Be honest with yourself and see the truth, until you are as old as that uncle, then go crazy and be tempted to go to different girls! almost always (at least for me) with women it has always been a matter of interests. In your case, it's the money. Be honest with yourself and see the truth, until you are as old as that uncle, then go crazy and be tempted to go to different girls!

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tandalgirl answered · September 29, 2020

   48 very naive speech. She told him this not because she wanted to reveal her soul, but because she had a guilty conscience, she was worried about learning elsewhere. To the author: There is nothing right or wrong in this case and hardly any of us can help you. I had an affair with a woman who I later found out had slept with her boss, who is 34 years older than her. Personally, I was disgusted by this, although I know that she is good, kind and so on, but I just found it very perverse for my understanding.

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officialafghanghag answered · September 29, 2020

   My husband is 17 years older than me. He has an apartment behind him and then when we lived together we saved BGN 12,000. All his friends and relatives, who directly, indirectly lined up to talk to him and hint that I am with him because of his "a lot" of money. I took insults and heard rumors that hurt me a lot, but I swallowed everything that was said about me, but I could not forgive the insult to my family. From him I met support and selfless love, for which I thank him endlessly. I will never forget the faces of my father-in-law and mother-in-law when they found out that I have an apartment in my name, that I am the only heir to the one where my parents live and that I will inherit another 70 decares of land. This was my reward - their surprised faces. And how quickly I became a nice and good daughter-in-law. However, the insult is not easily forgotten and I will always have one thing in mind for these people. I will respect them for the person I love, but so much. Why am I writing this to you? !! To show you that it is very possible that your girl loved this man and you have to stop behaving like a minor. Respect her past and leave it there, because now she loves you and you are her present. Just be careful with your attitude and the complexes you have not to become a thing of the past! Good luck which you have not to become and you past! Good luck which you have not to become and you past! Good luck

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matthewlasko answered · September 29, 2020

   Dude, the situation smells pretty good to me of what you're doubting. The only thing I wonder is why she told you about it at all. It's best for me to check it out. In that sense, not to dig into her face, mail, etc., but to ask her what she thinks about her future. What he wants to work, where to develop, etc. If he tells you that he doesn't know or something like that, that the man is obliged to support the woman, the job is clear - run with 200. Decent women work, they don't lie at home all day thinking about nonsense.

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jennacompono answered · September 30, 2020

   To 36: You look like an intelligent person to me, sorry if I offend you ... but the sight of a 19-year-old girl having an affair with a 51-year-old man can only make me laugh ... and in some cases disgust. No matter how young and young he is, he is your parents' age. You realize that at the age of 40 you will not be his wife, but a babysitter. I have an acquaintance in a similar situation, she went abroad, got caught with a foreigner of her parents' age ... and nothing good from that, it is true that he supports her and she doesn't work accordingly, but still she can't she brought him to Bulgaria, simply because her parents did not allow her, ashamed of their candidate-son-in-law. And to be honest, not even her and not quite comfortable with him, I mean, it's awkward for her to hold hands with him, to kiss him in public and places, and so on.

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pineapple_exxpress answered · September 30, 2020

   I did not read all the comments, but from the few I read it became clear to me the attitude of the people here. I want to say that I am a 26-year-old woman and I am in love with a man who is 27 years older than me. So do not speak unprepared and do not judge a person without knowing him. I want to tell the author that many women are desperate for the actions of their peers, women seek security and protection - physical and moral.

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claroronaldo answered · September 30, 2020

   Number 2, I recently read in one of the western countries there was a 60 year old who was with an 11 year old girl. The court, you know, acquitted and released him because it was a "real relationship" and there was love .... If age is just a number, then prison is just a room. Otherwise to the author: If you love her so much, you will be with her. After all, she is with you now, her past is hers. Hmmm, it's possible for a young girl to fall in love with an older girl. The motive does not have to be money. Especially if the girl is more mature. Just then a mature and settled man could be more attracted to her. But such a relationship really has no prospects. And how to be sure of her love? Talk, tell her what you need, etc. Only you two can solve the problems between you.

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fancy_sirena answered · September 30, 2020

   Author, if you love and respect this woman, I don't understand why you make things worse by having a public discussion and letting it become chewing gum in the mouths of strangers and being labeled. Don't you know her? Haven't you seen her, what kind of person she is, how she reacts in different situations, how she behaves when you encounter difficulties? None of the people here can know that. It is not difficult to turn the head of an inexperienced girl of 20, only in a foreign country, without friends and environment, especially from an experienced and attractive man with opportunities. But she's here with you now, isn't she - she broke off the relationship there. She chose to return. What does this tell you? You cannot accept some parts of the person you love and reject others. It is what it is - the past and is part of it. What you like, you can't have without what you don't like, you know? Either you accept her as she is without judging her and you are happy with her, or you better stop things if you intend to poison yourself and her with doubts. She is with you right now. She chose you. However, you are obviously not sure about yourself or your choice - maybe it's time to decide.

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jewelmichel answered · September 30, 2020

   I also have a relationship with a person much older than me, but I love him and I don't think age matters either, I'm with him because of my feelings, not because of money (there are some, but I don't care). At the moment it makes me happy, and in the future we will see .. g23

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joconda answered · September 30, 2020

   and I have a relationship with a 42 year old woman but I am 21 years old what before a young man or woman fall in love with 20 30 years older this is normal