My Friend Is Tight

   Most likely he thinks like you. He does not want to be used for his money.

   Look at his ch. If you are a rich man, won't you think that a woman can use you for money? If you give it to her, she can say to herself "what should I worry about, if she supports me". If he fixes your finances, how will you learn to fix it and what incentive will you have to do it at all? After all, you are not a family and he is not obliged to share his budget. I don't think he's using you, you're just on a "trial period". If you stay with him long enough anyway, he will be sure that you are with him for his own sake, not for money. Then you can have his full financial support. But it will be another year or two until you earn full trust. Show him that you love him, not his money, show that you can do without him. It is normal to worry about the fashion of cheap and shallow gold diggers. He obviously wants a serious woman next to him, but you'll have to prove it. He hardly uses you. If he had the opportunity, he could always find a light woman, and he would have no problem paying her whims. It's like a self-respecting woman who wants a serious relationship. She does not play on the second day, although for most of today's "women" is congested. She waits a month or two and then releases after getting to know the person at least a little. As for the loan, what guarantee does he have that you will repay it. Do you know how many newly opened stores survive to kill their investment? 10%. Even if it works, when will you spend enough to bring them back? After 5 years? What do you think of her? You open a shop, he leaves immediately, everyone already knows about him, they kill each other to shop and hop after 2 months you have already killed the money and you are ahead? If you were so good at business, you would hardly have relied on his money. Do you intend to return them at all or do you want to fuck it up and use it? These are not my questions, I have little interest in them, but questions that he certainly asks himself.

   He is both wealthy and tight. In what respect do I ask? Why don't you admit you're with him for his money, huh? Tip, drop it, find a normal decent guy your age. You've been together for a year, how can he treat you like that, shouldn't everything be yours. Take him away, he may have a lot of money, or he'll get his money and dump him, and if you're not with him because of them (which I don't believe), dump him again, but with dignity. You see, without 5 walls, but with dignity. Okay good night!

   If he is much older than you, it means that you have a high school education and I do not know what claims you have for the job. The person is not obliged to give you money and support you. It seems that your friend is not tight, but you are greedy and impudent that you want to open a store for you.

   From the Author to Number 2: I'm not entirely sure, but I guess this comment was written by a man. Thanks a lot for that. Here is another proof of how differently men and women think. On another site, after I shared my story, all the women unanimously agreed with me that he was using me and dumping it. I guess both sides are right, and even more so if you are really a man, you also think similarly and so I can guess what Ch. item of my friend. But the truth is that he is really selfish and selfish. For him, the most important thing is for the woman next to him to be as beautiful as possible, and I don't think I'm any accessory to show off. Just as we go out together, he looks at all the beautiful women, which is a sign of disrespect for me. I understand he can't close his eyes, but does absolutely everyone have to look with an open mouth? !! I have a feeling that's why we're just going out. Of course, there are no perfect people, but .. that's all .. And yet what worries me the most is the fact that after he bought his ex-boyfriend a car for 30 thousand and after about a month she dumped him (2 years ago) ) is very angry with women, but not all are the same and has no right to blame him on me. Not to mention that when I moved in with him, she had her belongings in the apartment. I think that as a couple we should help each other, not each for himself. But he clearly doesn't think so. However, he does not go to wear a blouse for BGN 200, and I for BGN 20 ?? Maybe his whole life won't be enough for him to experience how his ex fucked him, and I can still wait for him to start trusting me ?? it is not known whether he will trust any at all. But it's my fault,

   I am 25 years old. Our relationship is serious. We live together. He is much older than me, but I am with him because he is mature, kind and caring. He is also quite wealthy. You are with him not because he is mature and kind and caring, but because he is wealthy. When you get tired of him and he beats the jester, he will take the few gifts he has given you. You're just a saleswoman who wants boots from the mall, and you're not for who he is, you're for the money. And when you beat a jester, young lady, not to say that the men were shoddy and there were no decent men in this world. Ok?

   Well, he doesn't want a gold digger, but what's stopping him, for example, from buying her something more expensive to show that she is dear to him and gives everything for her ... the relationship is complicated. Besides, they live together, today few people get married .Look how things will be in the future ..

   You have financial problems because you are not finding a job suitable for your education. Find a job that is not suitable for your education, but still make money. This in itself shows that you are actually waiting for your friend to support you. The person wants to see that you can work, earn money, it is normal what he does. Show that you can be independent, because looking at you, you haven't worked so far. How can he be sure that if you make enough money to support yourself, you will still be with him.

   In his place, I will seriously consider whether I should be with you. Not money for the bill and flowers, but for a shop! Hahaha!

   Miss, you are extremely impudent! I would have kicked you out if I were your boyfriend.

   The user started to feel used, God forbid ....

   Оле ужас...какъв егоист!!!! Значи на себе си маркови и скъпи неща, а за тебе най-евтиното, пък ако може и без нищо да мине???? Ужас! Ако приятеля ми някога ми подари нещо евтино или някоя плюшена играчка от некой детски магазин ще я гледам като попарена . Или мъжете не знаят какво да подаряват, или са стиснати. Аз бих го зарязала на твое място...Хубаво е една жена да си знае цената!!!!

   Number 1 - where did you conclude that the author uses her boyfriend for money, huh? Her boyfriend is a narcissistic narcissist! It seems that he uses and manipulates her, presenting to her his selfish and material nature !!! For me, the behavior of her boyfriend is INADMISSIBLE! And who is he talking about with these branded things, obviously not for his girlfriend, who hardly has a branded blouse in her wardrobe. Just to add that in BG it is unlikely that branded goods are really like that, and not well-made Chinese fakes. Author - your friend is a simple complex. I would drop it in your place. I don't like narcissists ..... I don't let any idiot be more than me;)

   Well, find yourself some work. Seats for CEOs, MPs, advisers, etc. they're done. Seeing that you are more or less financially independent can open the purse. Otherwise you fall into the "gold diggers" column. It is quite logical. I would do exactly the same.

   Maybe he doesn't believe in your ability to develop the store ... Maybe he just likes to be dominant, and the woman to be dependent, weak. You know him best! But if you really want to achieve just that, with or without his help, you will succeed! Ultimately, you can start working, even if it is not in your specialty, to be solvent for a possible loan. I don't think that he "uses" them, but he is obviously tight, since his gifts are the same .... But if you manage without his help, it will be much sweeter, better. I will tell you this: 15 years ago my ex (then present) husband was a successful businessman, and I ... well, I was still studying, I had my ambitions and no support from him, neither financially nor morally. Now, my ex works in Germany for a salary, and I have a very good company :))) And no, I didn't take anything from him during the divorce, not even a single needle, only the clothes on his back ... the happiest day of my life. I went out and said to myself, I CAN !!! And you can!

   I don't understand something ... the original justification applies to the man - I am a hunter! Well, isn't it true for the woman that I'm a guardian of the family hearth and I'm looking for security? !! Hmmm, once again, male hypocrisy and complexity kill in an ugly, humiliating way. So the woman in this case will be .... mercantile? !! And the man ... a whore? !! We both live now, in the 21st century! And if a man can't be like that, he hides in a corner and either tries not to catch his eye or looks for another man! Your wife is a woman, we are :))))) eh, I like the guardians of the "cave" so that we will look for the best "hunters" and everything that "catches" everything in our cave must be worn, if not - another hunter! So, I have a "male" surprise - now we can "swell" with a bone on the head of a man and drag him to the cave. It's called emancipation !!! Author, think carefully about this, he obviously uses your beautiful vision, to "wash" outside in front of other hens - you see, I'm a man, I'm probably GOD, so this beautiful girl is next to me ... Find some kind of job , don't waste your time, a lot of men, and among them there is a MAN !!!

   God, how I can't stand tight men! I personally do not allow them to pay my bills for meetings and I have been supporting myself since I turned 19, but I am very annoyed with tight men: / The fact that the woman next to her does not want to share her material goods means that in love and Your emotions will be frugal and selfish. What shocked me the most was staring at other women - I would never be with TOOOLKOVA brazen man! And don't listen at all to what people tell you about your business with ideas - once you have ambition and desire, it will happen! (In Bulgaria it is easiest to spit on the other for having courage or ambition. There is one word .. "envy" is said, with such villains;) Do not listen to them :)

   FROM THE AUTHOR: For all those who have criticized me, read a little more in issue 6! And I want to add that if my friend took a salary of BGN 600, I would not ask him for money, but with an income of a few thousand, to pay me only for coffee is something else ...! And one more thing, when we met, I didn't know his financial possibilities, he carefully hid them on purpose, so I'm not a gold digger! The truth is that yesterday I hinted to him that I was thinking of going to another city and maybe we would part ways. I said I would leave him the phone card he had given me and he told me and left my phone (which he also gave me). And the funny thing is that this phone is some broken old Nokia that he had given to his ex (I accidentally found out), then to me and in time he will want to give it to the next one, can you imagine? !! So whatever you comment on I think

   Number-13. If you thought that a plush toy or something "cheap" for some is not so cheap. What am I asking you, of course, you did not think. "your girlfriends" and on Facebook. You obviously know the price but you don't know the value

   author, partners in a relationship really need to help each other. the problem, however, is that people perceive help quite differently and the extent to which it extends and from which they begin to feel used. above you have written adequate male opinions from which you can deduce the way in which your friend most likely thinks. you really are not to blame for his ex, but you also have no right to ask him to help you with business. when you live together, he obviously pays the maintenance of the two of you, which is not a small amount, whether he has a problem or not. and I don't think you have a reason to feel used. the way out for you is to find a job and become more or less independent, because at the moment you are obviously dependent on it. so you will show that you are not a gold digger who is with him because of his money. F42

   I want to ask the author after you live together and you have no job, does this mean that he pays all the bills and food. That is, it turns out that he fully supports you, and you are still dissatisfied and greedy for branded clothes and shops. Having bought a car for so much money from his ex, so he is not at all tight, few men even with money would do it. He just got burned and now he is more careful, unfortunately he came across another gold digger in your face again. Maybe, as they said above, he wanted to see that you could do it yourself and tighten up and find a job, and instead of doing it, you sit and complain. Well, I don't know what else you want - you to shake your legs and he to pay you for everything, think about why you are with this person and try to change. Not everything is money, and it is foreign.

   From what I read, I conclude that your friend is not a commodity. He doesn't respect you. If I were you, I would have dumped him a long time ago.

   "I hinted to him on loan to help me with a small cosmetics store and cut me off" - Wow! I would not allow myself to ask for such funding from my parents, let alone from my friend ... even if we were married. Look now darling, true love does not have to be paid for. True love is unconditional! And now more seriously. As we know, everything is rooted in childhood. You grew up in certain conditions, you saw a certain example => you became what you are today, now. And I (at least in terms of money) are just the opposite. You have to admit to yourself what your thinking is and not give vain hopes to men who want to receive unconditional love (not to pay for it). And accordingly to reorient to those who would suit them to help you financially. Know that you will not receive understanding and support from a lot of people because of this way of thinking => it is better not to share / demonstrate that you think like that when you feel that you are among people from whom you will not receive understanding, and vice versa - criticism. I have two acquaintances like you, but both have confessed to themselves what they are (how exactly they want to receive material benefits) and each of them quietly and meekly fucks a wealthy family gentleman. In fact, I show understanding for them, for you, for people in general (because there are such men) with such thinking. However, everyone has the right to be who they want to be and to live as they wish. To achieve his goals as best he can, as he sees fit, etc. The only thing I don't like is that some emotionally hurt men put all of us women "under a common denominator." But actually yes, in this case, they are stupid because they do not think correctly, they do not have sober judgment, it is difficult for them to choose exactly what they need. Realize that you and your friend are just wasting each other's time. Woman, 26 years old

   Naturally, everyone declared the author a user ... There must be reciprocity and support in a relationship - and not only financial. In my opinion, you are right (the author) for some small things - that he gives you cheap and so on - somehow it is as if he does not care about you. But you are not right to want a "shop". Seriously, wtf? She thinks about big things like work and basic income on her own, about small things - dinner, a gift, etc. to think the man next to you. But not the other way around ...

   Honey, spit on your heels while it's time! Such a person cannot be relied on. His money is more expensive than yours. My husband is the same. That's not how you live. Until the 9th month I dragged myself to work, the last month even with sciatica. He returned with money from abroad and did not hesitate to say at least this month is not working. For the child did not move, all the burden fell on my relatives. Isn't that why it's a family to be able to rely on someone when you're having difficulty, when you're sick. Of course, not only financially and morally. That's why I would joke with him, to be happy with his money and his friends! Of course you decide, but you don't change.

   I fully support number 26. It sounds tight that he doesn't want to buy you something nice on the occasion, but a shop ... it's pretty brazen. You don't want BGN 100 for a blouse, and you want a few thousand for something that is not certain to work. So many companies with a developed clientele and market went bankrupt, and you went with foreign money to want a store. After all, if you have the good prerequisites and qualities, you do not need it - there are banks for this job. We heard separately what he did not give in his relationship, but you thought about what he gave you. Men like to take care of women, but for a while - everyone needs a companion next to them and to the point, the point is not just to say I love you and have dinner together. He must feel that you are a strong woman too. Otherwise, I read your other comments, but I was impressed by the chronology. You were outraged in the first place, because he didn't give you money, and you see he bought a car for his ex, and then what is his attitude towards you. For me, at least, it is more normal for a person to be offended by his overall attitude, but for the store you have no right to want or be angry. Ana

   He is wealthy precisely because he is tight. He has made an account of money and therefore has a good education and / or a good business and / or savings. Find a job, and keep looking for your specialty does not bother, in Bulgaria 47% do not work in their specialty! After a year of relationship, he doesn't have to give you cash! You will never be tight, but you may never be wealthy. It is common for the rich to do their job well, this is how they have accumulated capital.

   I support comment 2!

   And you all take that for granted. You combine money and love. And then we wonder why there are consequences. My girl, I'm 40 years old. I would advise you to do an analysis based on emotions and separately on finances. When you get to the point of evaluating the analysis, the answers will come on their own to clarify the confused ideas of all those who have written on the subject. This person knows what he is, and do you know? Have you discussed your relationship? What kind of relationship do you expect from each other? What are the qualities that connect you? So far I have read negatives about him, but are there any positives?