Hello, I have a problem with my girlfriend that varies from time to time. Namely, he takes me for granted. When I show her that I am not and the given changes for a while and then it becomes the same again, so several times and now I do not know what tactics to apply. She has not respected my opinion for a long time, she does not keep her promises and I am far behind in her priorities. When she started behaving like me, she became the sweetest creature in the world again. And after no more than 2 weeks it becomes the same again. The problem is that I can't behave like her no matter how hard I try. I succeed sometimes, but at most for a few days after which it hurts and I feel sick because I really love her. He starts behaving like people only after he notices that he starts to lose me and then he starts with this attitude again, let him justify what kind of behavior it is. Pod does not keep his promises, I vary small things but who talk a lot, such as; '' then I'll call you '' '' we'll do this and that '', I say and a lot of things I don't feel interested in her talking to me a lot, sharing, not interested in my opinion on almost anything, angry at nonsense and he does all this because he knows that I always forgive her and it's as if I have no problem crushing me. On several occasions I proved to her that I am not a given and as I came I will go, and then it changes completely for a while and then it is the same again. We even broke up once, and then I totally wrote her off, but not long after she looked for me again and I was quite withdrawn and cold to her for a long time until I felt that she was changing. And for a long time she was the girl I fell in love with and everything was fine. Until a few days ago, I started behaving badly again and I am taken for granted. If anyone is wondering if she has any material benefit from me, no. Neither I nor my family are rich, the only thing I have is my big heart, which turns out to be a bad joke.
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It's not "your big heart." Rather, it is your great naivety not to break. ;)
I tell you this as a person who has been through the same thing. In time you will become guilty of everything. We are to blame for all this, because we are turning into mollusks. The trick is to be harder and when you feel such things from it again to trim it as it should be. I'm not saying you have to be bad, swear, beat her, but she has to understand that she can't do whatever she wants and she has to comply with the person next to her. Don't wait if you don't run. Believe me, no matter how much you think that if you wait, things will get better, no! I know it's hard to make sense of, but the time will come when you'll be sorry! You are a man, you are given to think rationally, and then to feel. Do you confuse your order lost. I went through this and for that now I tell you thoughts, thoughts, thoughts. If you think things over and come to the conclusion that you have to leave, leave because feelings obscure judgment. It's hard, but you'll be better in time!
this happens when a woman is beautiful and has a wide choice.
Change!
"the only thing I have is my big heart" - unfortunately my experience is that this is the cheapest you can offer a woman, at least today ... Your problem has no solution, such is the female nature. Learn to play these games, or learn to live alone. I chose the second ...
I'm sorry about the situation you're in ... but there's no point in continuing this relationship.
I'm in the same situation as yours, but I'm a woman. And I have been looking for a solution to this problem for years. We seem to love each other, and he behaves just like your girlfriend. In the end, I just accepted that this is a character and cannot be changed. We had a lot of in-depth conversations and in the end he agreed with me that I was right ... But he does it again. He forgets to call, I'm worried about him. He says - in 5 minutes I come home, he comes in 2 hours ... Something is happening and I am not informed at all ... And so, indefinitely. Indeed, at least for him, he has a character and I refused to change him. Not that I'm that good, but it's just impossible if we're talking about the long term. And I don't want to become the eternally annoying, muttering woman. I will not achieve anything, I will certainly distance him from myself.
Author, to such a jester on the ass and send her live to find a man who will tolerate her pampering. Don't be soft Ghana and let her play with you. Be a man and do not delay your separation. I wish you a happy future with another Woman.
At least load her with 2-3 teaspoons so she has something to do. And you catch a young mistress and have fun. Otherwise, throw them BGN 1000-1500 at home and lean on them. You can't go out with women on your head. You can only work them tactfully ...
I am the author. I can't understand and most of you don't know. What kind of world do we live in, can't people just respect each other and share the problems and find an alternative that satisfies both of them. Why does the ego need to guide people ...
By 9 Hahaah, brother me, the most tactful advice will not go wrong.