I have had a friend for 2 and a half months who is sure that he wants to be with me for a longer time ... but our relationship is terrible ... he is currently going through a difficult moment - he has not had a job for a month - I helped him financially, he has no accommodation at the moment, I sheltered him, and he gratefully tells me that he doesn't have time to see me because he agreed to go out with friends after work ... he prefers to watch a movie in a computer room than to go out for a drink, and all upstairs he doesn't even want us to talk while watching a movie ... he doesn't want me to bother him while he's out with friends and he gets angry when I call him at such moments ...
After dinner he hugs me and falls asleep - he doesn't even want us to have sex. When I asked him if he still wanted us busy, he told me that he didn't care what I did for him and if I helped him when no one else wanted to stand by him. If he wanted to dump me, he wouldn't hesitate, if he didn't do it, he obviously wants to be with me ... But in the end, after all this, I got quite cold ... On top of everything, beef love came back after 3 years in the UK. and in 2-3 days we'll get married ... I don't know what to do - I've talked about it with my friend many times ... and he says that everything will be fine as long as he finds a place to live, but I don't know what could to get better ... People said to themselves "A wolf changes its fur, but not its temper".
I wonder what to do because I was really happy when my steak boyfriend called me ... and I know that if I start from the beginning everything will be fine, I won't have to pay the bills, he will pay attention to me, he will pamper me a little, maybe he will love me ...
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Hello. I am a man and I can only tell you that if he gets annoyed when you call him or want to have sex, then he has another one and only uses you at the moment. You decide what to do but I think lose it and find true love -whether with the previous one or someone else.
in my opinion he will not change. you should rather break up with him and be happy with your ex-boyfriend. maybe when you want to separate he will start to persuade you and promise you that he will change but don't believe him- if it changes it will be for a while enough to throw dust in your eyes. I don't want to be rude but have you thought if he doesn't use you? I know such a person - my sister's boyfriend. they live together in a dormitory and he behaves badly with her and sometimes chases her even though he works from time to time and she supports him. after he drives her away and his money runs out the grass and the great promises of change begin. we all talk about abandoning him but she loves him very much and always comes back to him. she is very stupid. don't do that too so as not to miss the real happiness with some others. success and be brave and strong.
Remove it!
"Maybe when you want to separate, he will start to persuade you and promise to change" - yes - that's exactly what happened ... I've talked to him more than once, but I think ... not to part with him until I fix my relationship with my ex-boyfriend ... I don't know if he's right or not ... I'm sick that I'll almost have to kick him out of the house :(
If you fix your relationship with your ex, you will still have to evict him. Why do you have to keep suffering?
comment2-have you seen your ex already? I'm curious what the outcome will be. write if you want
Darling, THIS GUY IS PURE AND JUST CRAZY ..... DUMP THIS RURAL TYPE AND CATCH THE ONE WHO YOU THINK HE LOVES YOU DON'T BECAUSE OF THE APARTMENT OR EITHER
Are you crazy? I still don't understand how you keep it. Drop it outright, don't be a fool. I am sure that you will find a person who will appreciate you, have a little dignity and requirements. But if he doesn't want to have sex with you - that's too much, what are you holding this mold for then, in order to pay his bills? Safe from such parasites already, men have become bigger whores than women!
DO NOT OFFEND YOURSELF, BUT THIS IS A PARODY OF A MAN IN THE LITERAL MEANING OF THE WORD. IT IS NOT ENOUGH THAT YOU PAY HIS BILLS, BUT HE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO HAVE SEX. NOT TO TALK ABOUT THE ATTITUDE AND THE EVENINGS IN QUESTION WITH FRIENDS OUTSIDE. ABSOLUTELY RURAL HISTORY. HE JUST DROPPED IT. I THINK YOU HAVE ALREADY CHOOSED THE RIGHT PATH WHEN YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND.
Let's break up;) But with the steak ... things are a little more complicated than I thought ... we saw each other - we spent 2 stormy nights, now we will go to sea together, but he claims that I should kill him and that there is no way we can be together again ... it's just strange why all this is - I'm not his only admirer, but for now he prefers me to others, and at the same time explains to me that he doesn't want to be with me?
He must have saved you some details from his stay abroad. In my opinion, he has feelings for you but is attached to another but you should not despair - there are so many free and decent men.
And so full back! Well done! Some people only know that!
I don't think you need either ... or the other. For your boyfriend and I think like the others, and for your ex ... I think he has no feelings for you, but just has fun with you ... If you have feelings for a man, would you ask him to forget you? Look around ... there are still decent men, but I don't think these are for you ... :) good luck
you can't expect anything good from him. Just dump it.
He's just chasing him out of his house ... he doesn't deserve anything, renew your contacts with your ex and you won't remember this freak you're with now !!