Do you think it's normal for my friend to touch me with such a sick topic? Isn't there some other weak beautiful girl to whom she has feelings and is trying to change me and make me like her ... I am very confused, do you think you have any opinion, what is the reason for this sudden behavior on his part ???
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I am a man and I will be very honest to try to help. Being overweight in a woman is one of the most unattractive things for a man. Centuries ago, as far as I know, it was considered very attractive because it showed that a woman eats well ... but nowadays it is not so at all. High weight reduces the status of a woman among men, no man wants his wife to be fat. Some fat women are very charming and somewhat compensating, some men like full women ... but honestly I've only heard that they exist, I haven't met them. We men are a little more favored because our attractiveness is not so much about our appearance as it is about our material status and character, while with you women it all comes down to appearance. A man can compensate for a bad appearance with other qualities, a woman - no. Therefore - it is very nasty and insulting for you that your friend opened this topic after a year of relationship, but in any case it is good to lose weight. Whether you appreciate his sincerity and forgive him or your ego will take over and separate is up to you.
Lose weight, man does not think evil of you.
And why don't you just lose weight?
Lose weight! And I would not tolerate you like that. M 44
You women are strange to me. You raised a question, didn't you? What did he expect to happen? to trump you and carry out your command? Isn't it normal for him to have some requirements? Moreover, you admit that you are fat.
And why are you overweight? We are not born fat, though. She liked herself ... You want others to like you too, but you can't oblige someone. Take offense, but fat to say he likes it is like poor to say he's fine with 2 cents in his pocket. Yes, you may get used to your situation, but don't be fooled that you like your body. I will not comment on your friend, I can not judge the person by what is said.
Author, is it so difficult to use punctuation? I did not understand anything.
He acted ugly. Lose weight and get in shape, but for yourself, not for him! A person who issues such ultimatums does not love you or deserve you.
You don't care, and then a sick topic, so you still care! If you are overweight, it is good to pay a little attention, not because of him, but because of yourself. Apparently you have a lot of other claims and that just spilled the cup at that moment. You can lose weight and a very pleasant way for both of you when you go swimming together, play glass, hiking or something like that. This will make it easier for you after you have a baby.
There may or may not be a direct comparison with another. That's not important. It is a natural desire of people to be surrounded by beauty, according to their criteria. The important thing in this case is that there is a requirement for you. If you don't accept them, you either keep in touch with potential problems or you adjust. But you also have requirements for it, which is why it will also decide how to act - in your or his interest. You see, compromises have to be made. The most important thing is to have balance.
If he told you you had more rings, that's probably true. And your "I want to pay attention to you" is so selfish and banal that you have nowhere to go. Sick, not sick topic, that's the situation. In case you are wondering what to look at other women while you are sitting and waiting for someone to pay attention to your plump buttocks ...
How many kilos are you?
Why are you affected? He was honest and told you the truth. How are you going to make him change his attitude towards you? If you don't like something - everyone is on their way. That there are beautiful and slender girls - there are, why do you ask? Is he your property? I don't justify it, you ask, I'm telling you - grow up, girl, and then get a boyfriend.
It is only your fault that you did not remember that your ultimatums are not equal. If he wants to lose weight, you have to ask him the same or something similar (to play sports?). If you want his attention and care, he can ask for the same tenderness from you. The emotional has nothing to do with the physical, they are not equal, they are not interchangeable, they are completely different categories. Probably your man has teased that you want to change and at first decided to touch on a topic of your change, thinking only that you can lose weight, especially if he thinks that this is a sick topic. Many people in anger try to hurt their interlocutor with words, but rarely say things that they really think. If she was evil, you would look like a model and beat his jester. However, you are hurt and you love him, you tend to do everything that would make him happy.
First you say that you like yourself the way you are, then that you want to lose weight and finally you add that your weight is a sick topic ...?
Such an attitude towards the person next to you is absolutely unacceptable and very ugly. Love yourself and like yourself as you are, because each person is unique and beautiful because of their differences from others. If you have decided to lose weight and do it for yourself - go, but if the decision is prompted because of him - do not. If he does not respect your body as it is, then he does not respect you as a person. If he continues in the same spirit, I would advise you to rethink your relationship with him.
If he loves you, he will have no pretensions about how you look! A
This egocentric madness that the most important thing is to like yourself has fucked the lives of many people. In the end, you will feel good in the company of your five cats and your 120 pounds. It is quite normal to want and give to your loved one. Grandpa Torbalan
Comment number 1, the next time you walk down a busy street, instead of counting the women, notice how unsympathetic you think women have a man next to them. You will find out for yourself that you are wrong. Author, you insulted him - he insulted you. Nothing surprising happened. I doubt there is any particular skinny girl. If you lose weight, do it for yourself.
How can you not be ashamed or disgusted by these Emmy-like comments, loaded with super contempt and malice? Okay, yes, it's true that she needs to lose weight, just because being overweight will cause her a lot of health problems, fuck their looks and her boyfriend. You don't have to be so reckless if her psyche is more labile, they cost her everywhere. It's damn ugly and unfortunately most of these comments are made by people who are favored and have never had weight problems. Anyway, I'm not the person to teach you humanity. To the author-Evala, that you managed to accept yourself as you are. Look, there is no need for your waist to be 60, your thighs 45 cm, etc., there is no need to do it for the sake of your friend or society. Take care of yourself, yes, you like yourself, but please find information and see the consequences of being overweight. Reach a weight that is normal for your age and height, you can decide that you want to lose more, but do not overdo it. By no means do it with starvation or diets like "2 eggs today, 2 eggs tomorrow". There is no need for these - you limit sweets, frying and pasta and emphasize foods such as meat, fish, vegetables, fruits, I highly recommend green tea, soft drinks and alcohol exclude them completely. Start exercising if you are ashamed to go to the gym, exercise at home, go for walks every day and be sure to drink more than 2 liters of water every day. Don't despair, if you don't see results, it will take time, but it will be worth it. As for your friend's action, I can only say that I would have dumped him in your place, as your closest one he should consider and know that it is a sick topic for you and when there is a problem. by telling you as a person who loves you and wants you to be well.
As number 10 said: do it together. Both as you want, he will pay attention to you, and as he wants, you will lose weight while he helps you
FROM THE AUTHOR. 22 thanks for the advice since I was a child I have heard all sorts of comments on my address no problem let those who do not know me offend me ... I decided to do my best to lose weight the problem of being overweight is that as I was still taking a bunch of pills as a child due to a hormonal imbalance and since then they have accumulated I have had boyfriends and in recent years of school I have not lacked male attention despite my weight ... Some of you probably imagine a 200 kg girl behind the text, but so ... Yes, I'm round and overweight but I don't look like a troll and I think I have a charm for myself ... Thanks to everyone for the support .. Even to those who make fun of the topic ... And yet I turn to number 1 to be right that you men are all looking for the weak and the beautiful .. But I think that a plump woman can lose weight,
FROM THE AUTHOR .. My friend and I talked and he said that he doesn't really think what he said that if he doesn't lose weight he will leave me and he said it in a moment of anger ... And yet we came to the decision to get in shape together.
Number 13 FROM THE AUTHOR 78 kg I am 165
Well, you're quite full. Maximum 60 kg. for 165 height and I say it because not everyone wants to be a model, otherwise 50-55 kg.
The person may have caught up with you a year ago due to the fact that you had a good character, etc. and thought that you would lose weight later. This did not happen in the dispute, the topic came to light. So first, even if he wants to pay attention to you, we can't force an erection! He may pay attention to you as he is very aroused and can't stand it. If he was in shape, he would have more attention. Secondly, in his place, after 6 months, for example, I would end the relationship and find a girl in shape, because now if you are overweight and do not have eating habits, what do we do if you decide to start a family, get pregnant, hormones fuck and you are constantly hungry? You will gain 90 kg and say that you like yourself? And thirdly, there is nothing difficult in losing weight, I was fat and shapeless 185 cm 102 kg of fat. I didn't look like anything. for two and a half months of fitness and proper nutrition (not dieting and starvation but proper nutrition) I lost 10 kg and slightly shaped some muscle groups. For another half a year I will be in top shape and from now on I feel better. Girl, take matters into your own hands and you will see how things will get better in aspects of your life that you didn't even know existed!
Hello. The truth is that your weight is above normal. You are probably beautiful and charming, but for the sake of your health it is good to lose 10-15 kilograms. But do it gradually, through a healthy diet and exercise suitable for you. As for your friend, to be honest, if I were you, I would ask him to support me by changing something in himself. Hardly has the perfect body, Maybe it's good to make tiles, or, if it's too weak, to gain a little mass, to make a nice musculature. The point is to work together so that you don't feel bad about having to change because of him. I would do that, but if you don't like the idea or think you'll affect it that way, don't take it into account. Success!