What do you think about mothers who keep their children ahead of everyone else. I mean, they ask when other people's children have spoken or walked and lie that theirs did it at an earlier age. Their child roars all night, but they lie that he sleeps like a stump and they are very well. These are just a few examples. Why are there women who do such things? They hide their troubles and lie that they lead a better and more comfortable life than in reality. All theirs is the best, they are the best and they have the best job. Do you have such acquaintances?
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I don't know about the kids, but the rest is just a matter of etiquette. It is not considered a good tone to complain. How are you? I am fine! This is the standard formula. Personally, I am very burdened by people who, when you politely ask them how they are, start: "I'm sick! They found my diabetes, my husband, the drunk, spends everything in pubs, I lost my job, my mother-in-law, the witch, harasses me, my masters they left their hands after the repair, I don't have money for a loaf of bread, look - my hair turned white, I broke a fingernail, my neighbor hates me and soils my laundry, and the children - a tragedy, couple after couple ... "And after 10 minutes such a verbal attack has poisoned your day. Yes, the man must have told the truth. But he could also put it this way: "I'm generally fine. I'm changing jobs, my husband is always busy, the kids are growing up with their problems,
Everything is from complexes. Every parent wants their child to be a better version of him. To be smarter, penetrating, open, etc. For example, my mother was a mathematician, all her life she was involved in numbers, accounting and managing accounts and people. However, at school I did not have a higher grade than three in mathematics. My mother constantly gave me lessons after school, she even bought me several types of textbooks in mathematics, and so on. but I did not absorb anything. Eventually, she started blaming the teachers for my failure. Instead of just realizing that math is not my thing. My father, on the other hand, was an unrealized football player and a big fan. He even escaped from the barracks at the time because of a Gundi match. We even had a big portrait of him on the wall. I wasn't even in football. I was fuller and clumsier, and I always sat at the door or in defense. My father always wanted to make me a football player, and in the end, in addition to math, I also hated football. I don't even watch football to this day. This is generally the case. Complex and crushed parents who do not think adequately, but blame others. Sick ambitions are a bad thing. Not every child can be perfect and good in everything.
Well, yes, I have such an acquaintance. She is honest with me most of the time, but in front of people who don't know her well, she composes such super pink things. Otherwise, she told me that she thought her child was super smart, in the sense that he was smarter than his peers, because he was looking at pictures on the tablet. It is about 3 years. He tells me - "yes, I know that every mother thinks her child is the smartest, but my son is really smarter because he can now use a tablet - he looks at pictures". Well I eat. I answer her: yes man, very clear. A few days later, I was watching a piece of news on Sky News about some chimpanzees looking at pictures of a tablet or a phone, I don't remember exactly, I don't remember what the news was about.
This is done by almost everyone in Bulgaria, not only mothers, not only for children, but for everything. Mentality.
They do it out of insecurity, especially mothers of babies and firstborns. Everyone wants to do well with the upbringing and education of the little man, she is not sure of herself because she has no experience, so she asks questions and when she hears that the other child has walked later, she is filled with such pride as if she managed to influence his to walk two days earlier. And the reality is that there are children who really walk earlier at 9 or even 8 months, but this is not the merit of either the mother or the intelligence of the baby. And believe me, when the children are 20 years old, it doesn't matter when they walked or spoke, the only difference between them is what is better brought up, and a lot of intelligence is also brought up.
I think they have one idea better parents than those who find their children stupid, compare them to other children and tell them things like "look at the other children, is anyone else rolling in the sand like a pig" or I once heard a father, super disappointed that his son could not ride a bike. The child was pushing the wheel, after the children who could ride, smiling, happy, and the father stopped him and told him "why are you pushing that wheel like a fly after the others". Otherwise, instead of teaching the child, he would sit and stare at his phone ... The other behavior at least teaches confidence.
Killing complexes. Another thing is very interesting with the clothes, some do not have two levs in their pocket, but they also give the last money for clothes, branded, in fashion, when you look at them dressed in a Neckerman, and they do not have two levs for a coffee. I find it very strange what and to whom do they prove?
Because they don't want to be accused of being bad mothers. Because the world around really loves to make it for their mothers, no matter what it is for them. I don't care. My husband and I are aware that one or two percent of people have "excessive" IQ and that the chances of our non-genetic child being a genius are not very high. And I don't want it to be special. The special ones are lonely, the normal ones are the most. However, we also live abroad and it is not customary to confuse strangers in the upbringing and development of the child, as I often hear that happens in Bulgaria.
9, even with low IQ there are super very special and lonely, so calm down. And the world, in principle, likes to make money on teenagers, if we have to be really 100 percent objective. What I personally have against women mothers is that most of them have such a frantic desire to impose themselves. Or constantly seek attention in connection with the fact that they are mothers. Often both. So are some men who have become fathers. But men are always somehow more tactful and down to earth in their relationships with people outside the family environment. While women tend to forget themselves. Otherwise, I am very annoyed by this Bulgarian trait - different people to confuse how you live your life in general ..