Hello, This is the first time something like this has happened to me and I don't know how to explain it. My friend is 23 years old and claims that she does not like sex. We only had sex once and that was because we were drinking, I don't even know how I "lied" to her. Then she insists that she doesn't like to have sex and that's not the most important thing. I explain to her that sex really is not the most important thing, but a relationship without sex is simply impossible. We see each other less and less now, but she still thinks we're together. I don't insist on sex because I have enough girlfriends who give me what I need. Lately, I tried again to predispose her to sex, but again she refused. I don't know what to do with her. :)
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You also say goodbye :) There is no life without sex :(
Show her that she will lose you and that other women want you and she will feel that she will lose you and can change! :) Good luck !!!
Abe, man ... I don't know if it drives you crazy ... There's no woman who doesn't want or love sex. She may have had problems, as a child I don't know if you know her well? Ask if she has been a victim of violence that has caused her post-traumatic stress. There is no other way.
From the Author: Well, at first I thought it was driving me crazy, but it turns out it's not. I asked her about problems, things like that. He denies it. She just says that the first time she had sex she didn't like it. She then tried 2-3 more times with others and so on. And as someone said above - there is no life without sex - this is not a relationship. I let myself go with the flow ... I have others - if she recovers she can get something, if not ... good health.
I think it's frigid. Nothing will happen!
For me, the opposite is true, I really like sex, but my friend thinks it's not so important, if it was up to me, I would have sex every day, but I can't have it, so we have sex once every two weeks, sometimes a month goes by. .
Do not worry. And my girlfriend doesn't want us to have sex because she's worried about her parents and it's rare for us to be alone! People have said: -Sex is for glory, and the check is for doubling!
To number 7: Leleeeeeee, why don't I know you! hi-hi-hi-hi-hi
I have a girlfriend who didn't like sex until recently. That was exactly the problem with her. The first time she just wasn't ready, and she'd hated him ever since. But years later she found a good partner and she started to like sex a lot. In my opinion, you should predispose her mostly with French love. But there is a possibility that it is really frigid, which is already bad ... Talk seriously.
Well, I have the confidence of a good lover. :)) I know how to predispose her and so on, but she just doesn't work and that's it.
Emmy look now ... I'm a girl of 18 .. I have a boyfriend for a little over a month but we haven't done anything because I don't feel ready and I don't want to hurry .. I'll leave things like that still .. but there is also another reason why I don't want to ... I will say the same as number 4 .. I became a victim of violence .. it was something terrible and now I am afraid sometimes even when a stranger approaches me .. it affected me a lot .. so I think you better talk to her .. make her trust you .. it can happen ..;]] success from me
You know, I don't think you deserve her at all, you don't deserve to be given to her, if you wanted to be with her so much, you wouldn't have other girlfriends to have sex with, you would just be more patient with your girlfriend. and be able to make her trust you. By the way, sex with my friend does not give me much pleasure, but I do it when and where he wants, because I love him insanely much. You just don't care about the girl in question, that's the truth. If you cared you wouldn't do such things "if she recovers she can get something, if not ... cheers" STUPID comments.
I have a lot of women who don't like sex. It's not as pleasant for us as it is for you men, are you so superficial that everything revolves around sex .... I can't believe it ... Especially number 1 .. ...
Hello! I want to say something very important to all female beings! Why do you think that men resort to infidelity if they are not having sex with their girlfriend? pigs, rubbish (all epithets given by offended ladies), and because they are simply anatomically and physiologically arranged! we are talking! A moderately intelligent woman should be aware of these things, as well as one other thing: after sex, dear women, we do not fall asleep because we have taken ours and used you, but because we secrete oxytocin after orgasm! hormone, released unconsciously! So - nothing personal and the desire for sex, and the sweet nap! These are not our tricks, but NATURE! Point on the issue! In your feminine nature, sex is not important and you can do without it, that's clear! But keep in mind that if you hold on to a man and only want from him, you have to give! SEX! Even if you are unearthly beauty , even if you receive from the man caresses, attention, love, tenderness, money (ah, that damn money), in general, he is the prince for you, if you do not give him the sex he wants - at some point you will find your room empty, luggage he will miss it, and there will be a note on the nightstand (I don't know what will be written! My girlfriend gave me her virginity, but at the cost of hellish torment! Until I convinced her that I was not a butcher, but an excited man while he was under me, I used up millions of nerve cells and made a turnover at the pharmacy because of the purchase of sedatives! But to this day in bed it is round zero! I love her very much, but the other day we quarreled and I told her to think about whether she wants to help me solve this problem, or to be left alone! Because everything has a limit, and "everything" includes my patience! If she remains soulless and makes no effort, I will abandon her! And she will have no right to reproach me!
And I'm in the club of the dissatisfied. I don't know how everything will end for now, we've been trying for 4 years. I may just not like each other unconsciously, I don't know, but it's a big blow. male 30
I don't know what else you do with this girl ??? Sex is very important for a relationship !!!
I am a woman, I love sex and № 15 is very right. No matter how good a relationship is, without good sex it is sooner or later doomed.
TO № 15 What does it mean to make an "EFFORT" TO "force" WELL, SHE IS NAKED WATER, sorry for the rude expression !!! That's why my husband will grab his hat and go to "ANOTHER". Because of such your wife, men have lovers !!! We have been together for 14 years and when I get sick and I feel exhausted, I tell him, be the initiator, HE DOES NOT ANSWER, AFTER HE IS NOT GOOD, I CANNOT FORCE YOU !!! AFTER I DON'T FEEL YOU, I LIKE IT !!! AND FOR THESE MEN, THE ONE WHO WANTS THE "GIVE THE ASS" PRINCIPLE CONTINUES, I AM NOT OF THEM !!! There must be reciprocity !!!
Hello, I did not expect to get involved in the topic, but alas. I have a girlfriend of more than 4 years. While we were at a great distance from each other and saw each other very rarely, we had great sex. But 1 year later we got together and her passion for me always disappeared. We had hundreds of conversations and still nothing. I'm not saying that it deprives me of sex, but she lies on her stomach and so on until "I'm done" (for which I'm very naughty later) We want to have a child, but things are the same again. I don't know what to do ... Give me some advice
I thought there were no such women anymore ...
There is, there is. I have the same problem. We have been together for 1 year and 2 months, and we have not had sex for 9 months. She says, or rather I imply from her words, that she is afraid of getting pregnant. When I think about it, on the other hand, I start to worry that the reason is not that he has sexual attraction to another man or even cheats on me and cheats on me. I try to understand her if the reason is in what she says. I have patience with her, but if she turns out to have lied to me, I will have no choice but to leave her!
In principle, there are rarely people who do not like sex .. However, she is 23, it's not like you're 14-15 and she is afraid. Apparently there is a reason, something may have happened before in the past and then she does not want to have sex ... Talk to her and everything will be fine, show that you are the person who will listen to her and understand the most well, don't push so hard if you want to keep her with you. Yes, everyone is true to their needs, but still first find out what the reason is, then act :))) Ah ... "about girlfriends who give me what I need." .. this is not very good and she will not be happy if she finds out ...
There is something true in the words of number 15! My story is similar to number 20 and mine has no desire for sex anymore, if I don't want to I will have sex twice a month for sure. I love her very much, but I'm starting to look at other women already. As for the author, this is a torture for your brother :) it's good that you have girlfriends :)
Abe you men have wondered why women do not want sex. It's so simple - because they don't enjoy it. And the reason is probably you. Yes, you fight in your chest that you are big men. There are no frigid women - there are only incompetent men. Listen to sexologists who say that all women are orgasmic (ie, they can have an orgasm). Plus, read articles that sexuality is unlocked in women at a later stage. Well-of course the sooner the better-but we women are different and not everyone relaxes. You need to show her that sex is a pleasant pleasure, not an obligation. Then she will look for you herself and the better you are the more she will want sex.
up to 26 - you are not 100% right. I know asexual women (even my own sister is among them) who don't need sex and just don't want to. These women don't even masturbate. Sex has become a very important topic in our time, but there is nothing abnormal about a person's sexuality - including his asexuality. If your girlfriend masturbates regularly, the man is to blame, but if there is no such need, no sexual urge and needs - then there is no guilt, she is just asexual and you either choose a relationship and a life without sexuality, or you break up. There are frigid women, in my opinion. Under certain circumstances (stress, after ovulation, etc.) I do not experience the normal pleasure of sex and I can not finish, no matter what. Maybe these women always feel that way, they have some mental or physical problem. Of course, it also depends on the partner, but to refuse sex with the partner completely ???? This is not frigidity, but asexuality
Hi, I know it's been a long time since it's been written here for the last time, but I have no idea how to make my own theme, etc. I'm a 22 year old girl. I have been having sex since I was 18 years old. I've been with four, including my current boyfriend. I had the best time with him. And it still is (when he manages to persuade me to do it). For as long as I can remember, I don't like to have sex and I do it really rarely, and it happens to me to masturbate up to 2-3 times a year (when we have to be separated for longer). My friend has already started to get angry and think that I have another (and it's not like that, I don't even look at others). Please advise me what to do to change this, because I feel that very soon he will look elsewhere for what he lacks. I tried to be with him without really wanting him, so that he would be happy,
28, you have a serious problem, especially if you need sex, and you have once you have graduated anyway. First - see if the causes are stress, lack of sleep, malnutrition. If you are on a diet, stop. Get a good sleep. Maybe you're tired of the boy, start doing things on your own, and he'll go out on his own. When you get home, you will have a lot to tell and share. Share with him that something has not been going well with you for some time, come up with some variety. Since when have you not pushed yourself on a bench, haven't you just gone out? Are you fighting? Fix these things first. Another thing - buy some lubricant and ask him to massage you before an act of love. There is no way not to react purely physiologically with a slight arousal and at least you will not feel raped, it will not hurt like that! However, do not stop trying, appetite sometimes comes with eating. Create a relaxing atmosphere for you and break away from the idea of orgasm, of "oh, sex again". For example, what would I do? I would buy satin bed linen to slide on the skin, fragrant massage oil and lubricant, I would play classical or other music (ambient, muted Latin, something quiet and erotic) and I would invite my friend for a massage, first I him, but then I will ask him to massage me, reaching down to the bottom. Enjoy. Don't think about sex, but about being at the spa, let's say you get a great massage. Imagine that you will not have sex, and he will just massage with his penis your lubricated femininity, relax, enjoy the massage, the union and do not think about orgasms or pleasure - let only you and the man next to you, and the massage! No, it's not naked sex, fucking - imagine, it's just a massage. Relax, relax your muscles, and close your eyes. Forget about all the defects of your body, about the problems and relax. It is! If you like something else, do something else. This is my way. You can have an evening of porn, forget your thongs at home when you go out to a disco and go crazy with a short skirt without anything downstairs. Another thing - perfect your technique for plowing love. 70% of men want more oral. This is how you get away in a very gallant way! Good luck and don't stop trying if you love it. Appetite comes with eating! when you go out to a disco and drive him crazy with a short skirt with nothing downstairs. Another thing - perfect your technique for plowing love. 70% of men want more oral. This is how you get away in a very gallant way! Good luck and don't stop trying if you love it. Appetite comes with eating! when you go out to a disco and drive him crazy with a short skirt with nothing downstairs. Another thing - perfect your technique for plowing love. 70% of men want more oral. This is how you get away in a very gallant way! Good luck and don't stop trying if you love it. Appetite comes with eating!
- That I need sex, I have, but much less often than my boyfriend. -Fatigue, stress and lack of sleep in isonilia (it's hard for me to want to do something, knowing that the next day I'm at work all day, and the other, and the other ...). -I'm certainly not tired of it ... and it was the same with my exes, even worse. -We've never pressed on the benches, etc. :), we don't go out to the disco (he doesn't like it, I can hardly predict him to go out to the tavern sometimes). -We fight sometimes like any couple, but it's nothing serious. These things really do matter, but I haven't been much more active than I am now. - We rarely have rough sex, it's rather light, slow, gentle, that's why it's weird and stupid to feel bad (as if I'm being raped), especially since he never did anything to you if I didn't want to. Thank you very much for the advice, I listened to them and it was really much better.
Calmly, my girlfriend used to want us to have sex and now she doesn't want to. I don't know why so .. are there guys with such girlfriends .. I guess I'm the only one but I know there may be someone like me
32, horror! On top of everything, you express yourself as if you are guilty and abnormal. I can tell you. that it is not normal. I'm a woman, but I'm telling you - dump her!
There may be a problem it may hurt there are many options there is no person who does not like sex this is the best thing in life
There may be a problem it may hurt there are many options there is no person who does not like sex this is the best thing in life
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Women who tell them like that lie 100% or they already do it with someone else, or they have such an intention / attraction. When they do this number to me, I always catch them, that they were guests of other boys during the period when we are still going, don't ask how lucky I am with guessing passwords and tracking phone calls, but I always catch them, raise the issue and if he doesn't tell himself the truth he eats the slaps, then he says so and so, ah! Mutual understanding and open relationships should be sought, not numbers like "I don't have sex" because scientists like the porn industry have proven otherwise, and asexuals are only 1-2% of the population (it's really crazy). In my opinion, if there are any, save them because the experience and the approach of everyone is different;)
Okay. I have a question for all women. If the reason for NOT having sex is incompetent men, what can I do with such capable women. If she thinks that her friend is not good and does not offer him a solution to the problem (because there is always one), what is he expected to do, to stand and wait. Rather, I think that he should also point out her problems and whip himself to someone as incompetent as him (even if you think that an incompetent woman does not exist). So, dude, you're in a nasty situation and the solution is to show her that you need sex. And if it doesn't happen in the end, it is not the last in the world.
"She is OK. I have a question for all women. If the reason for NOT having sex is incompetent men, what should I do with such capable women? “Very simple - find another woman with whom you will be fine. There are definitely a lot of women who are bad at sex. As a woman, I say it. I have girlfriends for whom sex is limited to undressing and lying on your back. If she doesn't have a headache. Otherwise - they smoke 2 packs of cigarettes a day to be thin and nice. I don't understand - what is it for you to be weak when you don't have sex ...
Try to convince her. Just talk more and so on. Tell her if you don't try, you won't know what it could have been or something. Just be more assertive. Repeat it constantly. And do you do oral in principle? And if she is still firm and categorical - you have to respect her decision. Good luck :)
well, obviously this phenomenon is quite common. At the beginning of the relationship - great love, great passions ... and already after a while, when the woman is convinced that she has recruited the man and gets what she wants from him ...: sex goes out .... then what do we do except compromises and self-satisfaction. .. there is love ... it should be expressed with sex to some extent, not three times a month and that ... with great effort .... if you do not like it, do not hold back tell yourself !!!!
I have the same problem with my girlfriend only that I do not want and will not cheat on my girlfriend because I love her very much, I will try to dissuade her and understand that I really need sex and start doing it regularly, but if she doesn't want to, maybe we'll have to separate because I don't want to lie to her and cheat on her back! THERE IS NO CONNECTION WITHOUT SEX !!!
Tell your girlfriends the positive effects of sex that are thirteen thousand - that you lose weight, that releases a hormone that makes them happy and calm, will people who have sex regularly are concentrated and work much more successfully ... Reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease , improves sleep, regulates menstruation, reduces stress, raises self-esteem, During sex, women produce the hormone estrogen, which makes them more beautiful (hair - shiny, skin - smoother and softer) and more :)
The topic is more than four years old. He dumped this girlfriend a long time ago. He must be happily married with two children. And as for sex, I adore it! But this is clearly genetic or something in the character. I was brought up very strictly, otherwise at 16 I would have parted with my virginity. I broke up with her at 20, and at 22 I got pregnant and gave birth. I am very happily married to a man I adore and we have amazing sex even now after 14 years of marriage. But physical attraction is also important. if there is no such thing, there is no sex.
And I love sex ... and I was raised in a conservative family, at 19 and a half it was my first time - with my husband, a year later we got married ... and so for 24 years There have been ups and downs periods, but in general sex goes. It's all chemistry ... and art to keep the fire alive.
How can you speak so unprepared, you know 2 terms - frigidity and asexuality and now they are all, or frigid, or asexual, or violent in the past. Not so. I am a woman of 26 and I do not like sex. I am neither frigid, nor asexual, nor have I been raped. I consider sex an obligation, otherwise I masturbate several times a day for pleasure. I have not had an orgasm with a man. In general, I am not aroused by a stranger, only by myself. Even when I have sex, I try to look only at my body and touch myself, because it does not give me pleasure to look at hairy men with unformed bodies, and even if they are shaped, I still do not see anything interesting or sexy. Not to mention the whistles, I really hate them, even though I did. It was stellar again. Yes, I'm done licking, but not every man licks, and there are those who lick quite badly.
48, don't worry ... and for you there is a concept and term AUTOSEXUALITY ... it is typical for narcissistic personalities. You don't suffer from it, only your poor husband if he's a normal man, not autosexual like you
49, it's hardly just autosexuality ... I suffer as much as society demands it, that people should be in pairs. And sex is the hottest topic in the 21st century, all the songs are about sex, every article is about sex, there are sex scenes in every movie, etc. At some point you can't help but feel wrong about the whole thing. you don't like it, and people glorify it so much. And not a word about a husband! I very rarely use a man for a short time, as I wrote out of obligation. For example, when I like someone very much and he likes me very much and is very insistent. I don't want him at all, but he doesn't understand what it's about and I do it out of obligation in general. Then I feel disgust for the subject in question. of 48
Well, in the 21st century, just like a woman, you have all kinds of freedoms. Nobody said we had to be a couple - it's full of people living alone for other reasons. Yes, I have your problems ... it is difficult for a man, you can even have children and so on. I don't think you have a problem, but you are short-sighted yourself, accusing people of being limited - being autosexual does not mean that there are no asexual and frigid people. This is also a kind of sexuality. It is only important not to torture others and to live as we want without being a burden to them. As you are asexual or frigid, but you WANT to live with a man as a wife, you must at least make an effort to change or give him the freedom to separate or have other women. The partners are so guilty that if the problem had been there from the beginning, they should not have started a family with such a woman or man. You have to fit.
I don't know who you're talking about, but I don't turn anyone's life into hell. Just sleeping with my husband, I never pick up the phone again. And he was aware of that because he put me to bed at 3,000 dawn. Again, I'm not interested in spouses and relationships at all.
I am a 17 year old girl and I am a virgin and I will stay until at least 20
52, I'm not talking about you personally, but in general. The site does not revolve around you, but the topic is about a girlfriend (relationship!), In which one is not sexual and nothing here causes possible. You say that people are limited almost because they had two words "frigidity" and "asexuality", you describe your sexuality - here's another word "autosexuality" (narcissism) and I just summed up that any form of sexuality ( non-sexuality) is OK as long as the person does not live in a relationship or is in a relationship with such an individual, but does not pretend, lie or deceive to bind someone in a marriage / relationship. I'm not talking about you, of course, you are a great example of an honest and dignified lifestyle with autosexuality. But one thing I can't understand - why do you deal with men at all? What do you need them for? Why THEY deal with you is clear - you are interesting to them, because men are hunters, and you are a challenge. With them, testosterone makes them run behind every skirt, and the harder, the more interesting :) Honestly, I don't envy them. There are so many more important things than this constant thing in you that makes you scan your buttocks, thighs, tits.
"I don't insist on sex because I have enough girlfriends to give me what I need." Well, you just don't have a drinker (boyfriend)! You have several sexual partners and one who is your friend, but she thinks she is your boyfriend. And you are the one who de facto DOESN'T!