Hello. My husband and I have been together for more than 5 years, we live well, he helps me with everything, we usually talk a lot, we have good professions and a good income. When I invite my sister, my mother or my best friend for a visit, she starts grumbling. He usually behaves well with people, but he argues with me before and or after. After the last visit of my mother and sister, he said that he did not want to see these people at home anymore. Coincidentally, my best friend called me that they were in Bulgaria for a while and when they left for the sea the next day they would pass through my town to have coffee. I don't make my husband come with me for coffee and such, and he told me to take them home. From where to where we pay both rents for the apartment, I am an equal partner in every respect. That's what I told him. I can't understand it, honestly ... They were like that, they were like that. When a relative or friend comes home, I behave normally, I never say a word against anyone, even if my comfort has been disturbed for a few days due to the presence of other people. How do you explain such behavior? Have you had similar life situations?
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Yes. I hate all my husband's friends and almost all my relatives. I must have the problem, but I'm just answering your question. He just liked you - to spend time and life with you. He has chosen YOU! The problem is that your close people in question go with you :) and he did NOT choose them. You know? Meaning is obliged to reconcile with their presence, as you yourself say that you show understanding to his relatives, but the context shows that you are not "comfortable) :) He is just asked to be more tolerant, but ... obviously his character is like that.
He wants him to command the parade as well. Don't let him, because your whole life depends on such situations and whether he defends himself and his rights. Don't be a dumb pitcher as a person and if it doesn't work, then it's not your man. Be firm, because you are right in this situation!