Hello dear anonymous friends! I am 41 years old, married with two sons, 20 years and 9 years old. I have been dreaming of a girl for many years. Initially, when I got married, I wanted to have three sons, but over time, the desire for a girl prevailed so that it is constantly in my head. The problem is that my husband doesn't want us to have other children because he feels tired and would like us to spend more time with ourselves during the rest of our lives. I try to look at it from his point of view as well. Two years ago, I even got pregnant by accident and failed to convince him to leave. For a long time after that, I was tormented by nightmares. I really need to give my love to a little creature. I still feel young. I didn't want to act dishonestly, but in February this year I removed my mascara and now I'm waiting to get pregnant. I don't know how I'm going to convince him to leave this time, but I really want him. I believe that my sons will be happy too, especially my little son, who even without knowing about my wish wished for his birthday to know that we will have a baby. You will probably reproach me a lot for the act, but those who understand me, let them write me how best to deal with my husband. I want us all to be happy.
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I think your husband is absolutely right. It's really time for him to think for himself. I have 2 girls and I've always dreamed of a son, but that doesn't mean I have to try until it happens. Think about how this child will feel with older parents. When he turns 10 years old. you will be over 50, it is somehow unnatural and unpleasant especially for the child. I know this from personal experience and many times I wish my parents were younger. Now, instead of helping me with the children, I watch them. It doesn't bother me, they are my parents but it could have been better. Do not take away the youth of your child in the care of old and sick people. I hope you think well.
You act quite unreasonably and definitely very recklessly - even if you give birth to this child that you so obsessively want, keep in mind that your husband can then have a special attitude towards him for the rest of his life as an unwanted but intrusive child that will ruin his psyche. not only think about yourself but also about the future development of this child in a more hostile atmosphere, another issue is that in principle such important decisions for birth should be made by both parents and it seems to me that you act unjustifiably arrogant-fact who may not forgive you!
Do it! I am for :) If I have the financial ability I would give birth to a second, I envy you for the decision.
Doesn't it bother you that you're 41 and you're an adult for a child? And after a while, when the child grows up and is asked if this is your grandmother or mother, how would it feel. And your husband is right, you have already raised 2 children, when your grandchildren are born you will give them your love :)
But you can give birth to a third boy. I am lucky - I have a son and a daughter. It is said that a woman who has a daughter has dinner with the Mother of God. True, the girl is a wonderful gift. My two children are a huge difference, my ex didn't want a second one, he was afraid he wasn't a girl, he couldn't imagine that anyone but him would fuck him. I gave birth to her and divorced. She is a beautiful girl at 15.
I think it will be a little risky for you and the baby I think is not a good idea for a baby.
Your decision is wonderful! This should not bother you at all for elderly parents. My husband is 50, I am 30 and I am expecting my first child. And I have a sister who my mother gave birth to at the age of 46 and is now 13. It's no problem that the parents of the other children are - or seem to be - younger. But don't blame yourself for the child's gender. It could be a boy again. I personally want to know my gender only when it is born. I hope your financial situation allows you to raise another child, I hope it happens to you, and soon! And your husband will just adore him !! Good luck and success !!!
From the author: Thank you very much to number 7, you understand me, because like me, you look at life very positively and are not influenced by people's stories. A person who realizes the true value of love between loved ones. Thank you!!!!
I think your husband will accept it in the end, a child will rejuvenate him incredibly much. Don't worry so much, listen to your heart, this may be your golden chance. No one knows what can make a man happy, so don't worry so much.
Of course, it is not too late for a child and the THIRD! Don't listen to anyone, act!
I want to ask the author that she wants a child (girl) so much, where she is sure that she will be exactly a girl. then imagine how much you will want a girl again, I have the feeling that most mothers do not love their sons and always leave them in the background, this is your job, I think you act like an 18-year-old girl who saw a little cutie, and wants a lot and if she had one, you were just lucky to have two sons, I don't think there's anything wrong with having boys, it's true they're crazier and they do more mischief, there's nothing wrong with that. To number 5 how can you divide your children into a girl and a boy. And when you gave birth to the boy, didn't you have dinner with the Mother of God again, don't you feel that the boy understood that, that you divide them on this basis, I think it's very stupid. hey people as I read these comments I have the feeling that you entrust your children to a catalog, you have to love them equally, they are not pets over time this can be reflected. I have a friendly family, they were two girls on the other side, and they wanted a boy and they reached h or 5 children until the boy was born and now how do the other children feel when they watch the boy being pampered, and there is nothing about them. you can create complexes in your children on this topic, love them equally. it doesn't matter if they are boys or girls ... I wish you success with making children. they are not pets over time this can make an impact. I have a friendly family, they were two girls on the other side, and they wanted a boy and they reached h or 5 children until the boy was born and now how do the other children feel when they watch the boy being pampered, and there is nothing about them. you can create complexes in your children on this topic, love them equally. it doesn't matter if they are boys or girls ... I wish you success with making children. they are not pets over time this can make an impact. I have a friendly family, they were two girls on the other side, and they wanted a boy and they reached h or 5 children until the boy was born and now how do the other children feel when they watch the boy being pampered, and there is nothing about them. you can create complexes in your children on this topic, love them equally. it doesn't matter if they are boys or girls ... I wish you success with making children.
I really want to know what happened to the author of this story 3 years ago. Please, author, write if you are reading this site. I'm with you!