I have been married for 17 years. 20 days ago, my husband told me that he had met the woman he wanted to grow old with. He had known her for 7 days. He is 42, she is 17 years old. He immediately moved out to live with her. We have two children - a 15-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. As long as he is with her, he hardly looks for the children, I gave him what he wants and I let them live with my new "wife" in my hereditary house in the village, because they have nowhere to go. I decided that he was still the father of my children - he couldn't do badly. I left the house furnished, took only the clothes from the wardrobe. Since there are two houses in one yard, we agreed that they will use one, and my children and I will sometimes go and use the other house. He didn't mind. They applied. He was surprised to find that he had changed the cartridge on the front door a few days later. He has been aggressive towards us ever since, threatening us, that he would set us on fire, kill us, level us to the ground, set fire to our houses if I tried to get him out of there ... We live in some hell. Besides, his wife - 17 years old - who lives in my house, wears my slippers, sleeps in my bed, tells me with my husband that I don't really have anything, everything is HIS. I was irritated. They set the children against me. In fact, my life has turned upside down since this girl came along. Yesterday I went to a lawyer and filed for divorce, this situation offends me. I also filed a complaint with the prosecutor's office for self-government, so they seized my property and I no longer have access to it. There I have my things that I need, in fact all things are mine, rather even my mother's. What do you think I don't know if anything of the above is understood at all, but I'm very confused. I don't understand - to do good to someone and retaliate in this way, to let the enemy into your home and he jumps to insult you ... Do you think I'm doing the right thing? Is such a relationship normal - a 42-year-old man with a 17-year-old child? Every night at discos? Every day new clothes, and the children - to get better ...
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Your story seems implausible to me! I just can't believe a normal woman could do that. I'm not going to discuss your husband's actions here now - she's absolutely irresponsible, and if it was at least about making love to a woman suitable for him, I'd understand, but with a 17-year-old kid, it's just outrageous. The fact is, but how did you do after that? In my opinion, extremely stupid. To be good to the one who made fun of you behind your back and give him a part of your house? Which you didn't even build together? To live there with the little pickle? IMAGINE YOU ARE CLEARLY NAIVE AND STUPID (I don't want to offend you, I want to bring you down). I suspect you did it on purpose - for example, the apartment belongs to your husband and you kind of make a replacement. I don't know - I may be wrong - you will say. There's something else - no less important - do you think that it is healthy for your children to see their father near you living with a l yesterday ..... If you thought at least a little about how it would affect them, you would not do this great nonsense. I'm sorry, but now I have to tell you myself (with the help of lawyers - that is, it will cost you a lot of money) to fix the mess you messed up. This is no longer goodness, this is naivety and stupidity, which I do not justify in any way. Such people only when scalded by their own stupidity, understand something .... But it takes a long time. I'm sorry, I was sharp, but only to sober you up, not to offend you. I hope you understood me correctly. Success in business no matter what! but now I have to tell you myself (with the help of lawyers - that is, it will cost you a lot of money) to fix the mess you messed up. This is no longer goodness, this is naivety and stupidity, which I do not justify in any way. Such people only when scalded by their own stupidity, understand something .... But it takes a long time. I'm sorry, I was sharp, but only to sober you up, not to offend you. I hope you understood me correctly. Success in business no matter what! but now I have to tell you myself (with the help of lawyers - that is, it will cost you a lot of money) to fix the mess you messed up. This is no longer goodness, this is naivety and stupidity, which I do not justify in any way. Such people only when scalded by their own stupidity, understand something .... But it takes a long time. I'm sorry, I was sharp, but only to sober you up, not to offend you. I hope you understood me correctly. Success in business no matter what!
It's all up to you, get those out of your house, let them lick your soles when they don't appreciate your kindness! And the little whore can very easily be arrested by your husband for pedophilia with minors :)
Of course, this relationship is not normal ... it can't even be called a relationship. And your husband has acted very selfishly, if you ask me, find any way for him to get them out and take everything that belongs to you. Good luck darling!
The situation you described is a big ABSURD. It almost sounds like a fictional story to me. I can't tell if you're acting with your mind or just with your emotions. If this is not a fictional story, and if your thoughts are on a healthy psychic, I think you loved this man too much and were willing to do anything just to please him. You were able to compromise, but at least keep his respect. But instead you faced resentment and ingratitude. Maybe only you know the truth - you were obviously hoping for something. Maybe you relied on this as a temporary hobby and he would come back to you. And maybe you're to blame for that. I hope you get better. It will be very difficult for you to find a way out of this situation. I feel for you.
It is not clear from your letter what kind of relationship you had before this story of your husband, bordering on insanity. I think he will run out of "feeling" and beg you to come back. I would not accept this humiliating role.
From the author: I haven't thought about replacements, we don't have an apartment - it's a departmental one and they will take us out of there with the children at any moment. The idea was to use one house and he used the other, the two houses are in the same yard. But he changed the cartridge on the front door and wouldn't let me into the property. We did not build the house, but I bought it, with the help of my parents, I wrote it in my mother's name, because my husband is a gambler, a person who constantly makes loans. Now it is sought after by three banks, it is full of loans, money spent on pubs, discos, clothes, trinkets and more. for him, not for me or the children. All my life I have paid off debts and eaten moldy bread, now it's like that again, but I'll be fine. And no, I don't want it back, I don't hope it's a temporary hobby, ie. I wish it was to find a woman for normal cohabitation, about his age. I didn't give him part of the house, I just gave him a roof to live in until he settled in for a while. I did not expect such behavior from him in return. The little one and she started to gnash their teeth and they made me ambitious. I filed a complaint with the prosecutor's office for self-government. I expect them to get them out of my house. I won't be good with him anymore. He was not good to me.
Woman, tighten it! This sounds like a fictional story to me. Were you a good person, how can you be so humiliated.
In my opinion, it is best to lose them not only because your husband is selfish, but I also think he is irresponsible and does not know what he wants from his life. I personally would not leave my family because of the 1st attraction to someone. But we are all different in our minds. Anyway, I can't believe a 42-year-old man left his children and his wife because of 1 pick who could be his daughter, this is absolutely absurd. Find a way and get them out of your house. Once he has decided that he should be with her, he must bear his responsibilities + that she is 17 and he is an adult and can be tried for pedophilia.
I'm sorry we don't know each other, otherwise I'm in a situation and I'd gladly throw your husband and his little bastard out on the street ... as long as you ask me, of course ?!
This is not a comradely court of communist times. Divorce, share the quota you have to share. Children choose who they want to be with. Alimony is paid and that's it. You can't become a beggar at the heart of the author's husband. Having decided to break his head, to break it. And you number 9, why don't you come to me to grit your teeth. You don't have to be mean.
Your mistake is that you let them into the house and did not leave them on the street. And this is called the crisis of middle age. One day he will come to ask you to come back again, but will you let him go? Think about whether it is worthwhile to have such a thing close to you. I do not think....
To number 10 ... Dude, did you even understand what I was talking about .. :))))) If you're in my house like a leech, I won't just bite you ,,,,,,, :))) a and I will bite you. Bravo number 9
Are you crazy? I'm just wondering. Instead of expelling him, you give him shelter for him and his mistress. I'm just wondering.
I am the author. They have already left the house. They are expecting a baby. Now they live in a dormitory. We got divorced. I'm calmer. Thank you all.