I don't know where to start because I'm shocked. I have been married for 16 years and I thought I knew the person I live with, but alas I lied. About a month ago, I found my husband in the arms of another man. A person who also has a family and 2 children. I do not know what to think. Should I call his wife and share with her what I saw I also don't know what to talk to my husband about. I pretend to know nothing, and he is also silent. We have children and I wonder if I should pretend to be hit and keep going. What is worse to cheat on you with a man or a woman?
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What would you do if you saw him with another woman? Many men want to try something different - let him look for himself. He may come back and you still want him. He doesn't think it's unheard of. On the contrary.
Complete disgust! If you're sure you're not mistaken in your judgment, just call a serious conversation and put things on edge, if it's the other way around! Now someone with a fictional "modern" morality will say that these things are normal, but in my opinion they are not! I am sure that for 16 years you loved and wanted to live with a man, not to have a bisexual housewife at home!
I don't think it makes sense to call the other person's wife. I know this seems very strange to you. My story is almost the same with the "small" exception (which is by no means small) that we have neither marriage nor children. And de facto nothing keeps me from him. Yes, but I know that he loves me very much, as of course I love him. I let him decide for himself what he wanted and realize for himself what he really was, and he did. We are still together and we are very happy. Yesterday we made 8 years since the beginning of our relationship, and this incident happened about 2 and a half years ago, but now everything is only in the past. I advise you to do as I do if you really love him and want to keep your family, if you think of course you will be able to live with it in yourself. You have to sit down and decide for yourself. You should not keep silent about conversations with neo but kind and gentle as much as possible, of course, to control yourself in this situation at the beginning is difficult to assimilate this situation. Don't tell the other man's wife. There's no point. Sometimes there are things and secrets that should not come to light, let alone be understood in this way. Of course, I wish you a lot of patience and success, I hope everything goes well, but even if it doesn't turn out the way you want, remember that every evil is for good!
Isn't it your fault? Keep it to yourself, that if you dump it and fan with another, just look at the other one, he's grown up
Well, he felt how sweet you are and has become a competition for you already.
Why are you afraid to talk to your husband, so you bury your head in the sand like ostriches, talk, at least to tell you what he intends to do, and if you get a disease, do you think, do not ignore the problem, but whether it is a man or a woman - Infidelity is infidelity, at least understand his motives and intentions, not to wait for the next bomb. If necessary, look for another. You decide anyway, but talk