My Husband Has A Mistress!

   You have two choices, catch someone or get a divorce, you decide what kind of life you deserve for you and for the children - the decision is difficult, but life is one - success!

   For me, the issue is resolved. Grab the children and whatever else you need and be gone. Don't tell him you're leaving at all. There are already many instances to which you can turn, you can get a restraining order, etc. No one can humiliate you or hurt you if you don't let them.

   tsvya is like a joke who are you barking he already wants to have a slave next to him and not a wife think about it both for your children and for yourself they do not deserve to watch all this as you experience it

   I don't mind those who have written so far, of course the choice is yours, but listen to a divorcee long ago, you don't have to go anywhere, don't tease the children, just reconcile, swallow your pride, accept things as they are and find comfort in yourself, repeat to yourself "Only God's love is love" and you will see how things will only get better after a while. This is the system of teacher Petar Deunov, it is not mine, but it helps. However, this only if you love him very much. In time, if you resist now, he will pay you to smile. Courage

   Hello, I was more or less in the same situation as you a few years ago, but with the difference that he did not touch me and after thousands of lies and quarrels I managed to make him leave, I saw that he did not want much but he did. She went to live with her mistress with her parents !!!! When he came to pack, he cried with me. Every month he transferred a certain amount with the children. Every time he came to see the children, I could see in his eyes that he was not feeling well there, but he was one of those men who, without pushing them, did not dare to make their own decisions after 9 months of waiting and suffering on my part. has erred in his judgment of this woman because it is one thing to see her from time to time it is another to live with her and because I still loved him despite the pain he caused me I allowed him to come back to us.

   4 how are such things swallowed up that it became clear to me? To resign yourself to being lied to, not to see the ridicule in people's eyes? To feel indescribable pain from the fact that you were honest, faithful, that you gave yourself, that you loved, and you were betrayed ???

   №6 mine has been living with another for 2 years now and she swears she loves me I swallowed and believed but at the end of the humiliation it was completely difficult and I still hope that she will realize one day now I'm with the child and we are doing well somehow I stopped thinking it happened part of the furniture

   Dear ladies, you are not the only one whose men cheat. Some of us know about it, others don't. After twenty years of marriage, my husband got a mistress. Each of you has experienced what betrayal is. I have always hated hypocrisy and selfishness. Now I understand that I need them in unlimited quantities - for the sake of the children and for my own dignity. I feel perfect!

   You know what, dear ladies. The only thing that worries me in the story is that he hit her. I have not been in this situation, but it seems to me that it is a reason for divorce. Otherwise, we have seen the other. My husband has been living with his mistress for a year. I was thinking of getting a divorce because it seemed humiliating, but I didn't dare. I didn't know if I would be able to take care of the child on my own. Now the ball is no longer in my field. He is the one who continues to support us until now, because he quickly discovered that in the other place they do not put much different conditions on him and he does not want to lose us. His mistress is the one who stays alone while he is with his child in the evening and waits for him to return to her, not knowing if one fine evening he will not prefer to stay at home. She is the one who is alone on the weekends while he is with his daughter. I see no reason to divorce. Let those who allow themselves to have a relationship with a committed partner ruin their lives. And as for love and intimacy - well, thank God, I've always considered myself a beautiful girl .... The love and intimacy I experience now is much more romantic and tender. I'm even grateful to him. Before he decided to neglect his family, I would not abandon him, I would not hurt him. Now, however, I am free to experience all the pleasant emotions that life offers me. There is only one rule NEVER WITH A MARRIED MAN! Before he decided to neglect his family, I would not abandon him, I would not hurt him. Now, however, I am free to experience all the pleasant emotions that life offers me. There is only one rule NEVER WITH A MARRIED MAN! Before he decided to neglect his family, I would not abandon him, I would not hurt him. Now, however, I am free to experience all the pleasant emotions that life offers me. There is only one rule NEVER WITH A MARRIED MAN!

   And I was in the same situation, I found out from an SMS and from there a scandal broke out and I endured them. I don't know how until she called at 5 o'clock in the morning that by 5 minutes he was at home the day he changed, he became the same person. , who learned a lesson from what happened, but it got better, BUT I WOULD NEVER REALLY FORGIVE HIM WITH MY HEART NOW, AS HE WILL NOT EXIST, HE ALWAYS CARRIED ME IN HIS HAND. AND SOMETHING OTHER TRUST THAT IS LOST. AND HE MUST BE COOKED. 3 years have passed since then, forgive him, give him another chance and I hope he doesn't disappoint you. I DON'T SORRY I EVEN THINK WE ARE MUCH CLOSER NOW THAN BEFORE I WISH YOU SUCCESS

   My husband and I have been together for 8 years. We were very happy and united. The moment I found out he had a mistress, I would go crazy. My world has collapsed, everything built so far has evaporated. They were big circuses, things between them were serious. He wanted to divorce me and go live with her. But at the last moment he gave up, maybe because we have a 3-year-old child. He made me forgive him. I'm sorry I did. I soon realized that the story between them continues, although he denies it. I just wasted my years with him ... Once it starts, there is no stopping. Men are the biggest fools! No woman deserves to suffer because of her husband's prostitution!

   To № 4: how dare you write such nonsense here, and quote Peter Deunov ?! So you justify lying and violence? Do you advise her to endure? !!! How can you!

   Hello sisters. I have been married for 26 years. I've always known that men cheat. This is their goal. Many times I had reason to doubt, but my husband always came home, he was caring but also wayward. Now I know about him and his ex-colleague + her sister are his friends. They are old girls around 37 and 42. However, every night he waits for me to fall asleep and talks on the phone (maybe with the younger one). Our sons are outraged by him and hate him. I know too, but there is nothing I can do. If I make a scandal, he will deny it and behave badly. Maybe he'll go ... to them. Not that he is behaving now. good with us. We are silent and patient. I was soon operated on for a cyst. Take care of me. His phone calls had stopped, at least for now. He needs it at home. I hope all this will end. And for information, these two sisters are ugly, skinny, they dress very old-fashioned and simple. And they have a rustic accent. My husband is 52 years old. I am 44 years old. but I am young and many girls can envy my appearance and smile. That's why I have courage and I don't collapse. And it is enough for me that I also have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) And they have a rustic accent. My husband is 52 years old. I am 44 years old. but I am young and many girls can envy my appearance and smile. That's why I have courage and I don't collapse. And it is enough for me that I also have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) And they have a rustic accent. My husband is 52 years old. I am 44 years old. but I am young and many girls can envy my appearance and smile. That's why I have courage and I don't collapse. And it is enough for me that I also have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) but I am young and many girls can envy my appearance and smile. That's why I have courage and I don't collapse. And it is enough for me that I also have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) but I am young and many girls can envy my appearance and smile. That's why I have courage and I don't collapse. And it is enough for me that I also have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) And it is enough for me that I also have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) And it is enough for me that I have admirers, including one who is 29 years old. I always have the opportunity if I decide to take revenge and cheat. Girls, this is life with all its pros and cons. Look for philosophy. Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :)))) Divorce is not a solution, it is a punishment and suffering for all. Loneliness is also suffering. And there is no guarantee that the next man will be better. Do not chase the tame to tame the wild. And maybe the less we think about the details of this stupid life, the better. Personally, I do not expect anything from life and I am waiting for it to end and go to some more cozy place. Let's not get annoying. UP HEADS AND SMILES !! :))))

   Honey, don't get mad. I have been or have been married for 16 years. We always worked together and I didn't even think that my husband could explain himself to a colleague in front of all colleagues. I worked a lot and now I'm sick, I have a complicated operation. Now he works alone in another company. I don't know if I can forgive him, because 2 months ago I was in a lot of pain, and he went to this light woman, she is married with two children, but she is obviously a whore. And I don't know what to do - whether he will sleep with her at the next party. Write what you would do if you were me. It's behaving very well now, but I still think it's just a trick.

   I have been married for 27 years. After the wedding, by the time I realized my husband had already rolled 8 pieces. I handed it back to him to find out what it was. Then it started again. We stayed together because of the children. Big mistake. My life was spent in anger, servitude and humiliation. I am now facing divorce at his request. He wants to leave me to make a nest with his next conquest. I will not keep him. To go. There is a saying: "Be careful what you wish for because it can happen." I know it won't take long with the other. And again a clever tale: "From two chairs on the ground." Let - "Who seeks what he finds", "The pot rolled over and found the lid". Our people have good wisdom. Dear ladies I think

   Towards 15: they want, they want ... and how. They even tolerate being beaten, just not to be left alone ... and their children don't care what "family" environment they live in. Notice only the following expression: "I took perfect care of the children and HIM" ... it just broke my head ... HE is not disabled or weak-minded, so they have to take care of him ... God, God!

   And I am in such a situation we were married for 12 years until I found out about his infidelity with a light woman to call him and she is married. And during these years of marriage I did not think of cheating on him and betraying him as he did to me, everyone has the opportunity to make him get out of the way, but for me the family is very holy and means everything and now when this happens to me I do not know how to move forward for 8 months I live alone with the child he is not interested in him at all goes with the one but does not file for divorce, I have to do it I can not stand more although I love him which is a mistake but the heart can not For so many months now the pain for me and the humiliation have been the same, I can't overcome it. I don't know how it will be in the future.

   My husband also cheated on me. I found out about this 2 weeks ago. He was abroad and had an affair with a married Bulgarian woman with a child. Even she became pregnant and decided to give birth to this child. Her husband expelled her to Bulgaria when he found out. Mine is blinded, as if someone else is pulling it. This child of theirs is already 9-10 months old. I, with our 5-year-old wonderful child, went to live with my parents, and he was left alone, he did not want to live with her, he was afraid of losing us ... ??? !!! I wonder how I could have fallen in love with such a man that I still have feelings for him ... !!!

   Dear ladies, I am a 20-year-old girl, whose parents decided to separate almost 4 years ago, is still waiting for my father to appear ... The story is not so surprising, except that my parents were good partners so far , in which my father did not go abroad 13 years ago. My mother was always loyal to him and managed to build a personality of me and raise me ... While they lived together, and these were my first seven years, I never heard my father insult or insult her ... He is always a nice gentleman and attentive to her ... Well, until I came back 4 years ago and out of nowhere asked for a divorce from my mother, who was devastated and didn't know where she went wrong, and his argument was "It's my fault." My mother did not understand and was puzzled, and she is a strong, intelligent and smart woman. Well, this woman collapsed before my eyes. I was the man which was like a lifeline. My father didn't even have the courage to tell me in his face that he wanted a divorce from my mother, because he wanted her to keep it a secret, and he would, but unfortunately I heard them. My mother promised him a divorce after I came of age, and he left as a coward and with his tail wagged in a very proud way. So he never dared to return to sign, because he realized that I knew what he wanted from my mother and realized that I knew he had a mistress. A secret I kept from my mother for maybe 3-4 months after his return. And I did this because I thought that if he found out his secret, he would die on the spot and I would be left alone ... You are probably wondering why I am telling you this and what I understand, me! Well, I am writing it because you should not stop living for us, your children, but to show us that there is a better life ... Because one day your daughters will be treated like this and you would not want them to experience that. And it is said that we repeat the attitude we have seen in our families and look for prototypes of our fathers or mothers in the case of boys ... Dear Author, you would advise to take your luggage and take your children and you run. Believe me, we are stronger than you think and no matter what age we understand me very well. I hope you make the right decision for you and your children! Believe me, we are stronger than you think and no matter what age we understand me very well. I hope you make the right decision for you and your children! Believe me, we are stronger than you think and no matter what age we understand me very well. I hope you make the right decision for you and your children!

   I am in this situation. For 11 years I was an exemplary wife in my husband's eyes, and at one point I realized that he had had different lovers all along. The last two, which I found out by chance, I followed him and it turned out that he brings feelings into his relationship with them, which is the worst, in my opinion. What to do?

   IN THE LAST RELATIONSHIP I TRIED TO CATCH THEM FOR 2 MONTHS, BUT THEY ARE VERY SECRET AND THEY ARE EVERYTHING Eluding me. I WANT TO CATCH HIM TO EXPOSE HIM. BECAUSE HE IS ONE OF THE ARROGANT MEN WHO LOOK INTO YOUR EYES AND SAY THAT THEIR CONSCIENCE IS CLEAR, AND AT THE SAME TIME THEY MOCK YOU THAT YOU CAN'T CATCH THEM.

   I don't know why you are so humiliated. I am about to start a family and from now on I put the cards on the table. I told him to think carefully about whether he was ready to take such a step, to think carefully about whether he would keep his word, whether he would keep his promises. I explained to him that I would not pass whore numbers and if he deviates from the path, I will dedicate myself to ruin his life. He agreed to everything, told me he was ready. But as I watch what happens to women, part of me begins to doubt the bright future. I'm ready to cut it if he starts lying to me. And I wanted not to be afraid and to enjoy all the good that lies ahead. It's so sad what kind of world we live in. How much meanness there is. You can't trust anyone and you should always have one thing in mind. If I were you, I'd probably hire a few people to beat up and make fun of the scoundrel, but in any case I would not stay with him. Don't cry, dear ladies. You are not guilty. Gather the courage to get rid of the garbage. Your children will one day grow up and take their own path, and you will have to put up with the lucky ones for life.

   As long as there are dumb sheep who come to terms with the infidelities of their husbands and submissively endure humiliation and ridicule with the hypocritical excuse "for the sake of the children," so be it. In fact, wives who put up with it hide their fear of being left alone because they are unable to support themselves financially, and this is essentially a form of prostitution. At least the lovers have guilt in this type of triangles.

   In my opinion, the topic is quite worn out. Yes, according to a Cosmopolitan poll, two-thirds of women were in one of two positions, the gap is downright biblical, and there is even God's command on the subject. So we are not the first and the last to shake their heads with this problem. In my opinion, however, the tone here began to resemble croaking in a chicken coop and everyone is croaking according to their plate. Let's abstract a little and look at the problem more broadly and be more feminine in solidarity, not eating and plucking while men whistle and watch their lives - with their wives and mistresses. 1. Wives in Bulgaria, in most cases mothers with children, should not think that the law gives them any privileges. From time immemorial, the Bulgarian woman has been forced into a home "gifted" by the man's family, and if she is abandoned, she is left alone with two children and a meager patch. That should be clear to you, girls at the time of marriage. So think ten times about what you do before you get married at 20 and become addicted to a little-known person and his family. The other option is to earn enough to be independent - it means to have a career and not get married at 20. 2. The mistress is really to blame, as far as she enters this triangle in most cases knowing about the marital status of the man. However, I personally know many cases in which this was not the case, or men lie that they will divorce, are facing divorce, etc. Nowadays, many families have not signed, this does not make them, in my opinion, less married, and this does not make the situation less complicated. 3. To offend sheep and k-vi here will not bring us anything as women - it is better to take to unite and secure legislation, to protect mothers with children and to ask more questions about the third in the coop - ROOSTER. In my opinion, only the infidel is to blame here. The mistress is, after all, a single woman, unattached, and able to do her own thing - she is not the one who cheats on you and swears allegiance to the priest for fidelity, etc. The wife in the present situation also has little choice. , cannot be called a prostitute, remaining with the infidel, because any woman in Bulgaria is able to feed herself and two small children. Girls, calm down. You are on both sides of the same coin tossed by a rooster in the air for his pleasure. I personally sympathize with the author, but honestly I would choose the position of the mistress, if I had to choose between the two - she can at least leave when she's tired. By the way, many women with a career in politics choose this position because they deliberately do not want to have a family, but are committed to their field. Think about what you want in life - besides a wife or a mistress, nowadays you can be much more - a mayoress, a principal, a teacher, a doctor, a writer. Marital status says nothing about your success as a person, the time has passed when the unborn woman is nothing, the unborn woman has succeeded. The author is an example of this. I can't say in this case who is wrong, who is right, because we hear here only one of at least three countries, but I can tell you one thing - it is not a coincidence that in civilized countries the so-called "Guilt" in divorce cases - EVEN JUDGES CAN NO LONGER FIND WHO IS GUILTY AND WHO IS RIGHT. Even in the Ottoman Empire, there was a divorce if one refused to perform his marital duties, and the author is obviously disgusted by her husband's sexuality. I do not see another solution here in particular. I do not want to fall into such a situation, but everyone must realize how important fidelity is in his relationship and look for the right partner. Who marries young and is 100% addicted, who marries for money because of the physical attractiveness of the man .... will most likely find himself in this situation. I would abandon him if I ate bread and salt, not because of infidelity, but because he allowed himself to hit me. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is fulfilled, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie I do not see another solution here in particular. I do not want to fall into such a situation, but everyone must realize how important fidelity is in his relationship and look for the right partner. Who marries young and is 100% addicted, who marries for money because of the physical attractiveness of the man .... will most likely find himself in this situation. I would abandon him if I ate bread and salt, not because of infidelity, but because he allowed himself to hit me. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is met, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie I do not see another solution here in particular. I do not want to fall into such a situation, but everyone must realize how important fidelity is in his relationship and look for the right partner. Who marries young and is 100% addicted, who marries for money because of the physical attractiveness of the man .... will most likely find himself in this situation. I would abandon him if I ate bread and salt, not because of infidelity, but because he allowed himself to hit me. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is fulfilled, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie how important fidelity is in his relationship and to look for the right partner. Who marries young and is 100% addicted, who marries for money because of the physical attractiveness of the man .... will most likely find himself in this situation. I would abandon him if I ate bread and salt, not because of infidelity, but because he allowed himself to hit me. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is fulfilled, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie how important fidelity is in his relationship and to look for the right partner. Who marries young and is 100% addicted, who marries for money because of the physical attractiveness of the man .... will most likely find himself in this situation. I would abandon him if I ate bread and salt, not because of infidelity, but because he allowed himself to hit me. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is met, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie not because of infidelity, but because HE ALLOWED HIMSELF TO HIT ME. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is fulfilled, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie not because of infidelity, but because HE ALLOWED HIMSELF TO HIT ME. For me personally, there are three key criteria 1. Alcoholism 2. Aggression 3. Mediocrity if one of these is met, I do not communicate with this person I wish success to everyone in the henhouse, including the Rooster - the problem will outlive us for millennia, give it more -civilized Marie

   I, as the eternal optimist, believe that infidelity does not bring the end of the world. And with whom, where, when and at what time are details of the landscape. It is these details that cause unnecessary headaches, and worse - diseases. You either find the strength and forgive or close this page of your life.

   Ugh, old people have a not very pleasant story about infidelity - "A pot of honey needs a spoonful of la * na". Once done, things will never be the same as before - you can tie the torn ends of the thread, but the knot will always be visible.

   I am 16 years old, I have not been in such a situation, but let me tell you. So my mother and father have been together for more than 20 years. I once saw that my father did not turn off Skype and I decided to see who he was writing to (and he does in mine) there was a Skype that he had renamed with a male name, but it was actually a woman. He wrote something like "I'll wait for you" and others. I think this is his mistress (and in the chronology I found that he entered Gepime, Elmaz, etc.). He's been coming home late lately, but the excuse is that he had a lot of work to do. I'm not sure if he has a mistress. Please advise me! : /

   N.30 "Once I saw that my father did not turn off Skype and I decided to see who he was texting (and he does in mine)" Do you know what the difference is between a parent and a child? The parent is YOUR GUARDIAN, he is OBLIGED by law to take care of you, to know where you are and with whom, what you do, because he wants to PROTECT you from pedophiles, murderers, rapists and drug addicts. The PARENT is responsible for the child, not the other way around! When you have a child, you will understand these things! Don't dig into your parents' things because you are not their guardian. Even if a man was on your father's skype, you shouldn't care. You are still young to understand some things. Maybe the profile was of another man, maybe your mother and father have an open relationship, even having threesomes with other women / men. You have NO RIGHT to confuse them! One day, when you have your own home, you make your own money and you are over 18, no one will dig into your skype. Don't do it with adults!

   I take occasion from the statement of №27. I am a successful woman of 42. I have no financial problems. I am married, but I also have a lover. Also married. We don't think about the perspective in our relationship. We enjoy the pleasant moments when we are together. We also have responsibilities to our families. This situation corresponds to my current attitudes. I don't worry if I have to break up with my husband. Ultimately, the essential thing is to experience all stages of life fully and meaningfully. It is foolish to put ourselves in the position of a Victim and experience ourselves as such. Especially if the real reason is not our fanatical belief in ancient family values, but the fear of whether and how we will cope with the difficulties ahead. Act boldly, with measured determination and firmness. It's a fact,

   "I'll fuck you" No-eeeee how can you think this is his mistress - nonsense! He wrote to his best friend! You want advice! Leave him and watch your life! He and your mother will get better and remember one thing. NO ONE is to blame for the fact that feelings cool down between people ... NO ONE is to blame for the fact that he loved another and that he is attracted to another. And if you judge him now, one day Fate will give you the right to see things from his side. The fact that your father has a mistress, in what exact way do you think it will affect the relationship between him and you? Huh? He will not stop being your father and creator, because he no longer has a sexual attraction to your mother, right ... And the fact that he hides ... men do it because they think that's the way it should be, that's easier for everyone ... Love him father, because he will not stop being like that!

   №33, who gives you the right to speak in this way to an injured child? Everything comes back, remember !!!

   34, you killed me !!! She is not a child at 16! And he probably knows more about the world than you! And how did I tell a "child" that I didn't understand? And how is this child hurt ... by the fact that dad and mom have their own lives? Hide somewhere - honestly, I'm tired of people like you! In what century do you live, for God's sake !!

   Number 34, first comment 33 is definitely the most meaningful and reasonable so far. And second, what is "this way" in which she speaks to this "child"? (even assuming she's a child ...) What did she say? She told the absolute truth - parents have their own lives, just as "children" at 16 also have their own lives and do not want to interfere. With the difference that at the age of 16 sometimes he really does a lot of nonsense and it is good for the parent to keep an eye on what his child is doing. Unfortunately, adults also sometimes do stupid things, but this is already their problem, not their parents or their children. A big THANK YOU at numbers 33 and 35! Kubrat

   When you have children, №33, 35 and their father starts fucking some hot bitch, neglecting them and harassing them with his relationship, I will ask you what age you live in. My daughter is exactly 16, but even if she gets 160, she will still be a child for me. You are very open, but know that the coin has a flip side. And you will see it in this century.

   At 48 o'clock see. This year we are getting 28 years of marriage. I always knew that my husband had fleeting chills and I accepted it because it is in their nature. The attitude towards me has always been unchanged. We have three children. But what are you looking for. This year, things got out of hand. He found his master in the face of a 23-year-old girl. Now the 50-year-old uncle is in love. I don't know what will happen from here on out, but the pain is great for me. I thought that over the years the men calmed down, and it turned out that they clicked despite the fact that he had freedom. It may have turned this freedom into freedom. The conclusion for me personally - look at life philosophically, no one is eternal, everyone must burn out what is written about him. And only God knows what is good for each of us.

   You had a mistress, a great miracle !!! For me, it is quite normal for a person to be baptized. Over the years, the feelings cool down and there is no such thrill that we all need. I can't judge a man for having a mistress, especially since he thinks of his wife as the perfect wife, because he cleans, cooks and washes ... To expect that love will have her throughout their life together is very naive . The important thing is to have friendship and understanding, everything else is transient. You can't make someone love you, and if he has found something he needs in another woman, let him live it, because in the end life is lived once. Hysteria, persecution, scandals and accusations only make things worse.

   On the other hand, I liked the story of the old people from the opinion of 29 the most: "A pot of honey needs a spoonful of la * na". And if someone doesn't care if they cheat on him or not, or doesn't understand how unpleasant this situation is at all - obviously his cauldron was full of shit at first; ') that's why he doesn't feel the difference.

   When you have children, №33, 35 and their father starts fucking some hot bitch, neglecting them and harassing them with his relationship, I will ask you in what age you live. ooooooo I understood !!! I understand you! Darling, the "child" can't be hurt because Dad's fucking someone ... you're hurt, not to mention it's just your pride. And the 16-year-old I did not see that she shared that her father neglected and harassed her? However, if you read your own fears between the lines of people - that's different!

   When I read your stories, I despair. Personally, I would not tolerate a person who cheats on me. You can always find happiness in the eyes of someone who truly appreciates you and will not spin such whore numbers. It may be naive on my part, but I still believe that there are honest and correct people who keep the person close to them and would not hurt him. The rest, the breakers, are fools who have no place in our lives. Do not allow yourself to be humiliated and underestimated in this way. Preserve your dignity and move forward with your head held high! Because it's better alone than with such jerks next to you!

   Kubrate, you have a lid on every pot. What you need, what you don't - you're still there. We already know how honest you are to the woman you are committed to. As they say "toads are found in nine hills" - Kubrat + 33.35 !!! Come on, dear ones, when your child turns 16, call him how life understands him. And, by the way, when I look at your upbringing, your reasoning and your speech, your parents probably only looked after you when you were 16.

   Abe and I will always be a child to my parents, but I'm 33 and hardly any of you would call me that. As for Kubrat and numbers 33 and 35 - they say many meaningful things, don't spit on them, but read, you can learn something.

   to the author: for 10 years I was an ideal wife everywhere, and a little further down you share not that I was satisfied .... something I can't understand well - an ideal wife where exactly you were - for in front of people. The ideal family is not in ostentation, sunshine ... Why did he start behaving like that? Because the fact that you discovered him probably broke off his relationship with the other ... holds you responsible for losing her, no matter how cruel it sounds to you. He hit you in a fit of rage to stop the hysteria I'm sure there was when you left. Who likes demonstrations ... For the children, your sentences are also not very very clear ... Just do it ... while he is at work. Tell the children that you will live with their grandparents for a while and just do it. give yourself some time to think and calm down, he also needs that time. You hire a relative (father, brother, uncle, grandfather) to "keep" the door and attend the children's meetings with their father and provide yourself with the necessary time to go through everything more easily and smoothly. And then you sit down with your husband for coffee - somewhere where there are a lot of people, so that you are not tempted to scare, and he is not tempted to hit you, discuss your marriage, your feelings and find a solution together - reasonable, suitable for mature people . Just tighten up !!! adjacent to mature people. Just tighten up !!! adjacent to mature people. Just tighten up !!!

   I read, read and decided to write too. My soul is so sick that, as my grandmother used to say, if the earth opened at that moment, I enter it without thinking. I have the most important decision in life ahead of me - whether to stay with the person with whom we shared joys and problems, or to start a new life, alone with the children - 5 and 10 years. I'm so confused, at this point, I just put together the puzzle about the infidelity of the man next to me. The children adore him, I feel betrayed and used. There is no logic in his explanations and justifications. As I took care of our children, as I stood behind him, as I tried to please everyone, somewhere in the busy day I forgot about myself, I missed in the busy day that I also needed a little warmth and now, as I poured out this slop on me, I just don't know how to react. I know for sure that this is the situation I cannot and do not want to put up with. It is difficult to make such a decision, especially in this emotional feeling in which I find myself. But it is even more difficult and painful to look back to see the past that you have done everything for the person next to you, for the family, and to face the bitter truth that you have been lied to and used. Please have the strength to make the right decision for me and the children. Pain and desolation ...

   To number 30: I know how confused you are. Until I was 16, I was extremely close to my father. At one point, however, I caught him having a mistress. It was about the age of my older sister - 22 years. At first I was very shocked, I felt betrayed, I started following him, but I didn't tell him I knew anything, nor did I tell my mother. At one point (2-3 months after I found out) my father and I quarreled a lot, and I exploded and spat everything out. I packed his things and threw them out the door in anger. I don't remember if she cried, but after 2 days she came home and never heard from another woman. Whether he did it for me or for my mother, I don't know. And my mother turned out to know her wife, but she decided to last. I am now 24 years old, my parents will celebrate 30 years of marriage, but I still bear the consequences of this whole story - I am not able to create a long-term relationship and trust a man completely. Still, there has never been violence or other problems in my family, maybe that's why I was so shocked by what I found - like thunder from a clear sky. So number 30, I advise you to talk to your father, but do not interfere in your parents' relationship. Let them take care of each other, but don't pretend to be hit in front of your father, because you will only suffer from it. Good luck and know that you are not alone :-) but do not pretend to be beaten before your father, for you will only suffer from it. Good luck and know that you are not alone :-) but do not pretend to be beaten before your father, for you will only suffer from it. Good luck and know that you are not alone :-)

   Number 37/43, you are a cover for every one of my comments, and if you read my comments, then you are in every topic that I am in, and you also speak in it, so I don't see where the difference is? Ah, in fact, I see - I speak constructively on the subject, and you, except to spit on me and chat-pat someone else, I see nothing else to do. What exactly is my upbringing and expression? I think that in 98% of the cases I speak quite politely and politely, and with respect for other people's opinion, something that I somehow miss in your comments. God forbid that I have children and that they become 16, that we be alive and healthy until then. And in the meantime, you can start to get used to the idea that your 16-year-old daughter is not a child, no matter how much you want to, and even if she is always like that for you. There is nothing more offensive than treating you like an infantile. If you have a 16-year-old daughter at all, because when I look at your way of thinking, I don't want to believe that you are so old. Number 42, correctness and respect is one thing, so-called infidelity is another. Of course, the person next to you must be honest and sincere with you, appreciate and respect you and behave correctly. If not, you beat his jester without thinking. But all this does not contradict infidelity in any way - if he came and told you that he was with another, it would be honest, correct and respectful. Just think about whether you would appreciate this, whether you would take it as a valiant act on his part, or whether you would attack him at the first sign. Kubrat you beat his jester without thinking. But all this does not contradict infidelity in any way - if he came and told you that he was with another, it would be honest, correct and respectful. Just think about whether you would appreciate it, whether you would take it as a valiant act on his part, or whether you would attack him at the first sign. Kubrat you beat his jester without thinking. But all this does not contradict infidelity in any way - if he came and told you that he was with another, it would be honest, correct and respectful. Just think about whether you would appreciate it, whether you would take it as a valiant act on his part, or whether you would attack him at the first sign. Kubrat

   49, can I ask you something, but I want you to answer me honestly. Why did you decide that with your father, with whom you were extremely close for 16 years, your relationship should end only because there is another woman to whom he feels feelings very different from those who feel for a child? Was it jealousy (Freud has his own explanation here, but let me not bother you) Or an insult from the fact that the father-hero was dethroned, that you saw him just as a person - wrong, tempted, weak ... with the right to choose and etc. That the hero's father did not say honestly what he was feeling, but sowed wings with the young monster in the motels and lied to all of you .. Let me tell you, a man lies in such situations because he DOES NOT WANT anyone to suffer because of him. He makes sure everyone is fine ... I understand his behavior, but please - explain yours to me, because this is not the behavior of a child whose parent has a mistress. I take into account the fact that there was no adjustment on the part of your mother, who later found out that she knew everything and was silent. Yours is like a woman's jealousy, a woman's love ... not a daughter's. I find it strange - explain it to me, please! * I accept that your story is real, and you are not one of the above commenters who said to herself "now I will teach you and show you what long-term traumas the infidel can inflict on the poor child"

   My husband constantly has lovers, so far I know about 6, and there are probably others I don't know about. When I found out about his infidelity for the first time I fell into a difficult depression, I couldn't explain how he dared, but now I don't care anymore, I live my life, I don't work, he supports me and the child, he comes home late, I don't care where he goes for me he is a vile traitor and nothing more, I do not love him. when I find a good job I will leave it forever. started with infidelity once no matter how much he promises no stopping.

   I support Kubrat and 51, and at 52 I can say not to rely on my husband - he has not yet found the right woman, dear. You lie lazy and wait for him to support you, but after 10 years you can wake up without income, with half an apartment (if he is not in the Capital of his Ltd. already), grown children, sagging tits and POOR and alone. Who will ever hire you? Dear women, do something, your husband is not guaranteed, especially if you do not make him happy. Children grow up, and your tits and cheeks will not become tighter. With or without marriage, one cannot live by events and rely on a man. How are his lovers less than you? At least they pay the rent and their lives themselves, even if they have some other gift, they can do without it, and you? Can you pay for your food and shelter tomorrow? What is the difference between you and the woman who placed an ad in the newspaper for BGN 150? per hour? Well, you're more expensive and the man hasn't slept with you in a long time, but otherwise? You both do something you don't want to do and it doesn't make you happy for money. However, yours is socially acceptable and desirable, and hers is illegal. The line is thin, very, very thin, but the result is the same - a life, a woman that a man can pay with money. She is hired by the hour, and you for years ...

   49, I want to ask you the same questions as number 51! And one more question from me: How will you react if at some point you find a friend you love very much, but who your disapproval of for some reason, no matter what (often happens), and then your father came to you and his take your friend's luggage out the door, and to make it more colorful, they can get along in a masculine way by slapping him a few times. M, I ask you - then who is right and who is wrong? Will you be grateful to your father, or will he be guilty of interfering in your personal life? I hope you understand what I mean. Kubrat

   51, my story is quite true. And no, I'm not jealous of him like a woman is jealous of a man. Maybe it's your second guess - the debunked myth of the ideal father. As I have already written, we were very close, the relations in our family have always been more or less harmonious. There are scandals in every family, but in mine the good tone has always prevailed, regardless of the situation. My parents never treated me like a child, even though I was the youngest in the family. They have always talked to me as an equal, for which I thank them, because as Kubrat said, in the eyes of our parents we are always children, even if we are 50 years old. It's just that at that moment I felt offended, betrayed, just as you feel when you are infinitely disappointed in a close friend. That's it. PS Now I'm close to my parents again, don't think that we don't talk or anything like that. Over time, everything passes, but I personally with this incident explain some shortcomings (?) In my character and the problem that it is difficult to build a serious relationship with a man. I fall a little like 'e * a and run', but thank God I found my master and now I am very happy with my friend. :-) I slapped myself, sorry.