How far can a man go to cover up his sexual infirmity? This is my case. When we met 15 years ago, he had the same problem again, apparently on a psychological basis he had a difficult childhood, it is difficult to relax in front of a woman, let alone have sex. He fell in love like crazy with me, he chased me for 6 years, but during that time we didn't have sex, I refused and I was in another city ... this moment it can be assumed that he was a virgin - 30 years. I'm quite sexual, he was inspired by that and things were fine for almost ten years we had no problems, he always told me that he loves to have sex and so it was. After I gave birth to our second child and the long stay at home was a little depressing, I decided to create a Facebook account, I received many compliments and male suggestions, he understood, because I later found out that he had a computer monitoring program and became very depressed, which again affected his potency and began to soften.
Many times I wanted to talk humanely to explain to him that I would not like to just communicate on Facebook with other people, but he is a very jealous, proud and depressed person, so he denied that this was the reason. Unfortunately, his mother and father have been against me since our first day, because I am different from their understanding, and we have never been able to become true friends, even though I really wanted to. The other is that I am white, and he is a little black, and his father always deliberately emphasized this in front of me in order to complex him and thus set him against me. When I married him, I looked at his intellect, not the color of his skin, because then he demonstrated such. Later, as the years passed, he became a copy of his father, and unfortunately his father is a very simple man, I would say mega ... but to be alive and healthy. So his father always told him that he had to find a black woman like him and so he would be calmer because white women cheated a lot, which in itself is incredible nonsense ... Separately, my second child was born completely squirrel and they immediately made a conspiracy that he was from another man ...
All this connected at the same time with my Facebook profile and became a great intrigue, the simplicity unseen by them. The whole family got organized and found him a semi-Roma girl, who they hired to live above us, then they heard that he was sleeping with her, and I know that's not the case, because you already know the background, to pass in front of people that it is from him and so to be even with me, and she the woman was constantly with someone, I don't know if she took money from them, but anyway, because before that there was a rumor that our second child it's not from him ... Terribly confusing story, but in the end, things are normal at home, only outside people eat us, I wonder if it's worth pretending to be something you are not, to ruin your life, your love and in the end to be frowning and dissatisfied again ... This story is not made up and such things happen between people, but in my opinion only between ordinary people, an intelligent person will do otherwise. If you break up, there is always a way to break up without anyone understanding and hurting you ... and here things are a big simplicity and family misunderstanding :) Unfortunately, I'm married to a man, who comes from such a family and although he is in a prestigious job, his root is a root ... Thank you for reading my topic. What do you think?
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Calm down and think a little. You write confused and illogical, it is difficult to understand exactly what is happening to you. I don't want to judge or scare you, but think about whether other people are wrong. Your husband is not impotent when he has sex with you. This means that he can have sex with another woman and expect a child from her. I do not believe that everything is ok between you, given that he has another relationship and is expecting a child. Wake up!
If he is impotent, I don't know if he will do the job for you in the future, but it is certain that at least he will not cheat on you :)
Epic fail, wasn't there a Bulgarian for you? You've seen him for so many years, and in the end you came across him again! Horror ... and yes, we realized you were a great beauty
... I don't know what to think after these essential conclusions you make .... I would even call them "mega" .. :) ZARA
This is the first time I've heard of such a form of paranoia - to suggest that a whole neighborhood is bothering you and to close your eyes to the obvious? On the other hand, the husband is faithful and impotent, the holy water is not drunk ... Here is what happens when the wife goes too far with the incarnation of a topic: "Let him break, only I don't know" - An interesting continuation of another topic. Hihihi :))
So what were people - the woman believes :) Comment number 8 I really liked if I have to be honest. I think her husband has been cheating on her for years and he just didn't have the "strength" to be potent with her. An acquaintance said that he first performed family duties and then went to his mistress, because the opposite was unthinkable. Impotent man here, some pregnant by him, but not true - this is a fabrication of the genus, because I'm beautiful. Otherwise, everything is fine with us, and the one who lives above us ... is such a fuck that one God knows who her child is from. But let it be from MY husband - nooooooooooooo! Absurd! He is as simple as his father, but he will not betray me. Why do it? He just thinks his second child is not his! Flame
You're fucking, but I don't think that's impossible. Perhaps for a bystander, the more likely explanation is that the man is cheating and the woman is not? I want to believe, but ... Knowing how many really simple people there are, combined with the fact that they are intriguers, I can imagine a similar scheme ... But I do not claim that in this case it is true :-) Number 8, you however, you stubbornly refuse to understand what the "other topic" was about and turn around as you see fit. First, the topic was not for and against the breakup, but for and against the intervention of a third, outside observer. And secondly, the examples that were given were not "Let him be a crook, only I don't know", but "Let him be a crook and let me know, but I'll pretend I don't know, because I have reasons for that". Kubrat
I understand you, I have lived in such a nightmare. My first husband was semi-impotent. Incidentally, educated by a very intelligent family - people of science. We walked for a long time, but we didn't have sex "so as not to offend me". Nonsense! A complete tragedy, and he was 30 years old. How I got pregnant - I know; I gathered all my imagination and patience to do something like "sexual intercourse" - it ended in less than a minute. I decided to fight for my family - we went to a psychologist, neurologist, sexologist and everything they advised us, to no avail - ZERO! It doesn't happen, from a dead letter, and still tired, always with problems at work ... The doctor we worked with at the Military Hospital - a prominent specialist, after long sessions and taking medication, told me: "Babe, save yourself , you are beautiful, you are smart, nothing happens from that ". I suffered a lot without sex, I thought to get a lover and drive like that, because of the child. But when that happened, I was totally disgusted with him, with his physique, with his complexes, he resisted me to death, and I divorced. And thank God! Now I found out that he was going with a girl, telling our son how they would soon live together because they liked each other a lot. And I know perfectly well what is happening in their bedroom and it is NOTHING or SUFFERING. I wouldn't be surprised if she got pregnant in her enthusiasm, if I could, so could others. Wishing her success. I just wanted to tell the audience that it is possible to have children who are semi-impotent. And you, darling, how you live this way, it's awful! I got rid of this nightmare and now I live a second life. already I was totally disgusted with him, with his physique, with his complexes, he resisted me to death and I divorced. And thank God! Now I found out that he was going with a girl, telling our son how they would soon live together because they liked each other a lot. And I know perfectly well what is happening in their bedroom and it is NOTHING or SUFFERING. I wouldn't be surprised if she got pregnant in her enthusiasm, if I could, so could others. Wishing her success. I just wanted to tell the audience that it is possible to have children who are semi-impotent. And you, darling, how you live this way, it's awful! I got rid of this nightmare and now I live a second life. already I was totally disgusted with him, with his physique, with his complexes, he resisted me to death and I divorced. And thank God! Now I realized that he was going with a girl, telling our son how they would soon live together because they liked each other very much. And I know perfectly well what is happening in their bedroom and it is NOTHING or SUFFERING. I wouldn't be surprised if she got pregnant in her enthusiasm, if I could, so could others. Wishing her success. I just wanted to tell the audience that it is possible to have children who are semi-impotent. And you, darling, how you live this way, it's awful! I got rid of this nightmare and now I live a second life. And I know perfectly well what is going on in their bedroom and it is NOTHING or SUFFERING. I wouldn't be surprised if she got pregnant in her enthusiasm, if I could, so could others. Wishing her success. I just wanted to tell the audience that it is possible to have children who are semi-impotent. And you, darling, how you live this way, it's awful! I got rid of this nightmare and now I live a second life. And I know perfectly well what is going on in their bedroom and it is NOTHING or SUFFERING. I wouldn't be surprised if she got pregnant in her enthusiasm, if I could, so could others. Wishing her success. I just wanted to tell the audience that it is possible to have children who are semi-impotent. And you, darling, how you live this way, it's awful! I got rid of this nightmare and now I live a second life.
Number 11, thanks for sharing. Your example once again convinced me that infidelity is a social manifestation, not a sexual one. The absurdity of the "impotent infidel" proves it. I have had such a "premonition" for a long time and I share it here from time to time, but no one believes me ... that the reason a person is looking for something outside is not necessarily missing or poor quality sex (or worse - when the man himself is the cause of the missing sex). Nor that the perfect sex life in the family is insurance against infidelity ... I just didn't understand why you tried so hard to get pregnant by this man, since it was probably clear to you that you were doomed to years of drought ... But you know . Kubrat
I am №11 to Kubrat. I always hoped that things would go somewhere. At first I blamed him for not having a relationship before and just not knowing what to do. I thought, "I'll show him, I'll teach him how to be nice to both of us." Then I realized: well, that's why he didn't have a relationship until 30! I got married at the age of 24, I also wanted to have a normal family, home, family friends, it seemed too late to look for another man to start a family with. I didn't start all over again. I had created a cozy and beautiful home (his inheritance, which he later sold and blew the money), the child lived there like a little prince .. I do not regret the child - my son is a wonderful boy. But my scorched hopes, missed other opportunities ... And I overestimated myself and failed. There are people from whom nothing, but nothing happens. You know, he didn't look bad at first reading — tall, well-trained — a former rower, a college colleague, with manners, he wasn't stupid. After a while, I realized how well-sounding lies, fabrications and nonsense he was overwhelming me with - but this is from the complexes. Oh, I don't want to be bad, but when someone physically resists you ... I just shudder at the thought of him; I'd rather have a snake crawl on me than shake hands with him. When I got divorced I felt 120 kg. lighter, it weighed so much ... I just wanted to tell the author that false and sick fantasies are not only inherent in people from minorities, they may show it faster there. A sexually weak man is very resourceful in his inventions, most people are attached to him; surely the nature of such still gives them some qualities to survive somehow, albeit day by day,
I am №11 and 13 Author, no wonder this complex is really expecting a child. He performed miracles of courage to prove to himself and others that he was a man and that he was wanted! I don't know if he realizes that he makes the women around him unhappy! Otherwise, it is full of lonely aging women who are ready to get pregnant by a monkey, as long as they curl up ...
The so-called sexually weak people are actually powerful snipers :) They themselves have no problem - they even see themselves as an incredible sexual athlete, a perverted type, a sex maniac. Their problem is that there is no beauty worthy of their erection among mortals - and they drive on fantasies or pictures and low-resolution movies. I have an ex who is completely impotent - this is confirmed by all his former and current boyfriends. At the same time, he masturbates daily. And because for health reasons I can't get it hard - she rubs her dick like a clitoris with circular movements. And even ejaculate!
Number 11/13, how did you decide at the age of 24 that it was too late for you to look for a new man, are you okay? There are women at 34 who don't have it yet, or if they come across an inappropriate one, they don't hesitate to remove it. Not that you overestimated yourself, you were just in a hurry to get married, for some reason. If you had waited, you would have reached these conclusions much earlier, and it would have been much easier for you to separate. Otherwise you are right about nature - in one place you give, in another you take. Here, as you can see, despite everything, he managed to make you a child (or you can make a child out of him - maybe more correctly), so purely biological nature has done its job successfully. And what's more: you are happy with the result (the child). That's right :-) Number 15, and thank you for the example, which proved clearly that orgasm and erection are two different things - one happens in the brain, the other ... where it is known: -) Many people do not believe this and consider both things as an indivisible whole. Kubrat
Both the author and number 11 married not the men they wanted, but the men who thought they could change at will. Interestingly, it is unlikely that Plum is right and the men in question are not as impotent as you think. Most likely, your men were just afraid and felt complexed by you - one because his wife is white, and he looks much, much more educated than him, the other for similar reasons. Probably both have found women to castrate them mentally. I'm not saying you're guilty, girls, you're not, you just didn't have to compromise in time. I think it's time for the author to finally realize that it's time to leave. That support from this man will not be anything new at all, if the man actually experiences himself as a real man with the burn found by his own parents. In general, author - what kind of family did you marry? As for the Facebook dumps - at least admit to yourself, not to others, that you needed compliments as a woman, courtship and beautiful male words. If you didn't want them - there are settings on Facebook that you can use to prevent them. Accept that you had these human needs and weaknesses and stop looking for culprits. Draw the line and decide - is this way of life worth it with this particular man or is it time to actually look for another life with another man. 11 succeeded, why not you? But for God's sake, finish with these men and stop looking for culprits. Most likely, both you and your husbands will find partners with whom you will be happy, because you will choose people who really like you, not the ones you want to change, the ones you want to brag about in front of people (look at me, I have a white, smart woman, for example). Also, accept that your men are probably not as impotent with other women ... but I can't understand what you're napping about. g. 27
11/13 to Kubrat. I have had a second successful marriage for a long time, in the beginning I wrote that it was my first husband, no matter ... I entered the topic out of solidarity with the author, because she was attacked for saying impossible things, and also because "This type of men like her and my ex "I can defend my doctorate. I wanted to tell her to get out of there, that there was a way out, she just needed courage. №17 my current husband does not look mentally castrated at all. From now on, all your philosophizing about "me and the author" falls apart.
18, I understood you correctly, I was talking about what you wrote at 13, that you got married at 24 because you were in a hurry for a family. Kubrat
You are not the only one if this calms you down. They get complex and do everything possible to hurt you, they blame the current men
If the problem is not biological, "impotent man" - there is none. There is a woman who either does not arouse him, or many unexplained and unspoken things that psychologically interfere with sexual intercourse and health. Talk, women! But before that, start with yourself - self-respect for you and respect for HIM. Ridicule (even unspoken) or prejudice does not help. Don't be fooled. Do not think that after 2 minutes of sex by saying: "Everything is ok" and HE will believe you. On the contrary! Either silence or blows to his self-esteem only make things worse. You both know there's a problem. Don't bury your head in the sand like an ostrich! Say there's a problem, but it doesn't matter right now. Hug the man, caress him and do not seek sex. Nothing next time. Talk. Say what you think. Men are not telepaths. With meaningless lies or silent reproaches, you only fuel their fears. About the author - your husband is not impotent. He's just impotent with you (most likely). How come in 15 years of marriage you are not sure where exactly his problem comes from, but you are looking for a solution? !? !? !! 15 years of marriage! Do you know this person at all or have you labeled him "impotence". That's it - you're calm, the problem is not in you, and your husband is tied in a towel, because "it does not work" If the neighbor has managed to do what you could not in 15 years, do not be surprised that " your "impotent" man will become a father IMPOTENT MAN - IS THERE ANY INCOMPETENT WOMAN OR A BIOLOGICAL PROBLEM Fortuna are you looking for a solution? !? !? !! 15 years of marriage! Do you know this person at all or have you labeled him "impotence". That's it - you're calm, the problem is not in you, and your husband is tied in a towel, because "it does not work" If the neighbor has managed to do what you could not in 15 years, do not be surprised that " your impotent "man will become a father IMPOTENTAL MAN - IS THERE ANY INCOMPETENT WOMAN OR A BIOLOGICAL PROBLEM Fortuna are you looking for a solution? !? !? !! 15 years of marriage! Do you know this person at all or have you labeled him "impotence". That's it - you're calm, the problem is not in you, and your husband is tied in a towel, because "it does not work" If the neighbor has managed to do what you could not in 15 years, do not be surprised that " your "impotent" man will become a father IMPOTENT MAN - IS THERE ANY INCOMPETENT WOMAN OR A BIOLOGICAL PROBLEM Fortuna
"But I think only among ordinary people, an intelligent person will do otherwise." Unfortunately, darling, when it comes to intimacy, there is no simple, no intelligent, everyone is stubborn and stupid ... it's not just you, if I reassure you :) Is he an Aquarius?
Number 22 intrigued me with this about Aquarius. He told her more that I also have an Aquarius, where I wonder what's been happening to him lately. Otherwise I know and understand him even more than he knows, but that's another topic :)