Hi, I want to share what happened to me recently. We have been married for about two and a half years. I recently gave birth to our first child. In general, our marriage is happy, we have no problems and we were fine in sex ... Well, at least until a few days ago I thought so. But then I was looking for something on my husband's computer and accidentally a porn site popped up on the proposed websites, which turned out to be quite visited by him. I dug into the history of his browser and saw that during the day he watches porn while I'm in the other room and sleeps (or at least he thinks so, I don't know, he may have done it while I'm awake!). The same day I took up the topic and he told me that it is not recent and there is no problem in me or anything like that, but he just does it sometimes so that he can fall asleep easier. He works hard to have a baby now and says he's tired but can't sleep, so he does. But I don't believe him. I know very well that when he lies down next to me he falls asleep for exactly 10 seconds, even if he has not masturbated or we have had sex. In general, all this work hurt me a lot, although I always thought it would not be a cause for concern. In the following days I surprised him and threw myself at him as soon as the child fell asleep. The next night we didn't have sex and in the morning I saw that he was watching porn again. I surprised him again and the next day we did it twice. But I still have the feeling that he is not satisfied and in the morning when he goes to work I dig into the history of his browser again. I think I have a problem with trusting him and I need advice on how to overcome this mania to keep track of what he does every day. I've talked to him several times already and he said emphatically that I'm not tired of him and porn has nothing to do with me. But when he tried to prove it to me with articles on the Internet, he found nothing positive and none of what he pointed out as reasons for watching it. This made me think even more that maybe somewhere in me is the reason. Help me stop this distrust and feel like the woman I want again!
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I will answer you as a man: sex with you is not ok for him, that's why he watches porn, ie he gets aroused and enjoys situations, poses, a way of having sex that do not happen to you. I feel the same way with my wife, but after almost 14 years of marriage. I love her, I married her because I liked her, she is a good person, a very responsible wife and mother and this is more important, but sex is not the way I want it and it has never been. And she does it regularly, she is affectionate, but she doesn't fuck like I like. Even 50% is not what I have as a wish. What can you do with it, you can do it, it doesn't come from inside her. So I will give you a very serious piece of advice: play the porn movies he has watched and see what he enjoys. Men want sex with their wives to happen as if they are fucking whores, ie who do everything he likes with pleasure. It's like you were born for this - to fuck. When he wants a blowjob, when he wants 69-69 ... you on top, he on top, and if you want to cum together in your mouth, if he wants to ejaculate in your mouth, give it to him. Don't even give him the opportunity to want it, just act. And when I say whistle, don't just slap him, but make her dirty, passionate and whore - look him in the eye, have fun or at least imitate. Tell him you emptied while you swallow him. In fact, I'm giving you a guide, more or less, on what we're talking about. It is not said that this is exactly what he will enjoy, there are hundreds of things and we are still talking about standard sex. There is a saying that obviously enters women through the ear and exits through the other and that's just how they call it - Lady in society and whore / slut in bed. But when you say slut, you REALLY mean that. I hope they post my comment, because many ladies consider themselves active in sex, but things are zero. For activity, they think it's almost easy to show him that they want sex. Tell her when you attack him, what do you do - do you start burning, etc. Probably not - how many times did you tell him that you want to ejaculate on your face. Ha, not all men are like that, but most are. That's why porn movies give things that excite and delight men. Watch, see what and how he watched, and practice. So much for me. see what and how he watched, and practice. So much for me. see what and how he watched, and practice. So much for me.
Watch your baby ... You men can understand them a lot, whether it's enough for him or not.
Don't go crazy ... Glad he's not just watching porn, he's paying attention to you. Usually the opposite is true ....
Do not harass the person. Look at the story exactly what he watched and these are obviously his fantasies, not bad. Keep in mind that fantasy rarely becomes reality, and even less often does this reality correspond to the fantasy that gave birth to it.
My husband always watches porn with his morning coffee. Then he goes to the bathroom - often masturbating - and only then goes to work. I get up much later, my working hours are from noon onwards. And what? Should I hang him? And mainly why? This wakes him up and gives him pleasure. When we cuddle in the evening, he tells me about his orgasm in the morning and what exactly he imagined until he reached it. I am me. Fantasies are fantasies. Author, if your husband has the stupidity to lie to you that he is only with you in his thoughts, won't you be so naive to bond? Which doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
The topic has been discussed many times already, but variations of all kinds. To me, this sounds a bit like - he drinks a lot of brandy, but drinking together is not enough for him. Why drink alone or with friends. Just accept that everyone has fetishes and desires, and is not ready to share them. Even if he wants, I can give an example right away - he can want sex with a black man, and I'm sure you're not like that. Even if you are, he may want to fuck her on the porch and you don't want to, and he doesn't want to share it with you for any reason. Development of all kinds, decide for yourself. Greetings.
And my husband watches porn very often and sends me phone gifs and writes me what he will do to me tonight and various such jokes and we watch a lot of porn together before sex on Friday and Saturday nights, I don't even know a normal man who doesn't watch porn often .. you have nothing to really worry about if you are smart you offer him to watch together and offer him new games or poses and while watching watch him and stop the dog and act .. the flies are like children you have to have an approach and give him you offer something else in return .. he doesn't cut much and it will take him a while.
Do you know what a hollow watering can is? What exactly do you not trust him for? Once he shares with you and is honest, you have no problems. I haven't heard anyone watch. Get used to it.
Agree to stop the internet for a month. It's an addiction and nothing more. But over time, it can degenerate into something else. How many spouses play electronic games is unbelievable.
You are a very limited woman. Every normal man watches porn. He looks, he doesn't - the difference is huge. Sex is sex, porn is separate. A woman who also watches porn
From the author to number 8: But I'm really a hollow watering can! I sit and laugh like crazy at your comment or rather at myself that such thoughts have come to me! Your comment seems to have helped me the most!
The author to number 1: Ah, did you share with your wife what you want and what are your fantasies? Probably not. That's why you will watch porn. So does my husband, he doesn't share anything, he wants things to go in bed. Well, it can't happen. And why should I watch his porn, can't he say to himself as a person what he wants? Or to call me to watch with him, I'm not so stupid, it will light up that it pleases him ... What only we women should do and give everything for a relationship, and men to be so passive?
Author, I'm number one. Don't ask me if I've shared with my wife - but of course I've shared, I haven't said anywhere that I'm not, just that things are not the way I want them to be. She tried to please me, but it didn't work. It doesn't come from inside her. And since I don't know how it is with you, at least you can try. Look, for the advice to see what he's looking at ....... I'm giving it to you, because obviously your husband doesn't share it with you. Ie you tell me what to do, but in reality your partner doesn't. Well, then how will you solve your problem - the man is obviously silent and says that everything is ok, BUT IT IS NOT! And what now, let's sit and wait for the man to take the initiative and open his mouth, what he wants. However, the problem remains unresolved. You come here for an opinion, I give you my what to do, but no - you are not satisfied and it does not suit you. Well nice then :-) If you think of any other approach,
I'm a woman and I watch porn, I'm not ashamed to admit it. There is hardly a man who does not watch. However, it is one thing to spend an hour in the evening, it is another to be with your dick taken out in front of the computer every day. Porn is addictive, I didn't invent it. So more gently. No normal woman wants a porn maniac.
From the author to number 1: I appreciate your advice, but I was angry when I wrote the comment. I tried to talk to him several times, but I was convinced that it doesn't make sense ... He keeps watching porn when I can't do it with him. He can't sleep every night without ending. Is this already, in your opinion, addictive? I can't explain it any other way.
When a man needs to cum to fall asleep, the problem is psychological, not sexual. There was a case of a guy fucking his wife three hours a night, cumming five times, and finally still unable to sleep. Then he goes, hits a villain in the bathroom, goes to bed and falls asleep. There is a moment of addiction here, but I don't know if it's for a sexologist or a psychologist. I think some stress is involved.
All men watch porn, excl. extreme congestion. And we are glad that the Internet gives us great opportunities for all types of women to watch. Personally, standard American porn makes me sick and I never watch it. I prefer normal amateurs and milf women, naturally hairy, not teenagers who are not interesting to me. My wife has never had a problem with that, sometimes I let her see what I'm looking at. I rarely do checks. The important thing is that your husband does not watch porn with fagots, because then it is bad.
I can't understand women like you. You think he's cheating on you watching porn, hahahaha. Start watching porn with him, even start touching him down there, show him how you masturbate, if of course you ever did. There's no way the man won't get aroused, he'll grab you right away.