I met this girl online, I was far from Bulgaria (we knew each other before but we didn't even talk much). And even I don't know how it all happened - it started on Facebook - jokes like old forgotten friends - then we switched to Skype and our conversations were pleasant and light - we gradually didn't feel like we spent more than 5-6 hours EVERY DAY for 5 months in skype. She had a serious friend for 3.5 years and was not sure of her feelings - or that she was happy and what she had with him was what she wanted for the future. And gradually online we fell in love and after 2-3 months we already said to each other that we love each other as strange and incredible as I felt - we talked about the future and how many and what plans we have to be together and build a life. I decided to go home because it was big ... a very difficult step but I strongly believed that she was the woman for me and that whatever happened while I was with her we would handle everything. She decided to leave her boyfriend and give "US" a chance, even though everything was online and there was no way to be sure if and how everything would turn out. I'm shortening the story a lot .... So I went back to Bulgaria and we saw each other - during this time she had left her boyfriend under the pretext that she wanted to think about what to do (and it was very difficult and naughty to dump him after so many years together and he never hurt or insulted her) and so she spent a month with me - we had quarrels - I was jealous of her friend and with whom nothing was over yet like an idiot I quarreled with her - I was jealous of her, I was nagging, I suspected - the brake ....: In short ... after 3-4 days I talked to her again and I had changed my attitude - my stupid mistakes! I wanted and I am ready to change everything - I LOVE HER! and I miss her terribly ... just these 2-3 days I saw what my life would be like without her ... and I can't accept it and I DON'T WANT to be without her, especially because of my nonsense. I have changed - no matter how hard it is for someone to believe - I have changed literally in a day, now everything seems so stupid and meaningless - I had her .... what more did I want - she definitely deserves my trust and love ... but it is too late (in her words) she told me that she didn't love me anymore and that she was very far from love - she told me that I had killed everything in her - that she had for me, that she had no desire to do anything with me or give me chance - he just can't and doesn't want to give me a chance ... I REALLY CHANGED and decided ... at all costs to try to fix things even that she will go out with others and call me only when she wants to see me - this is the chance she gives me - to see each other from time to time for coffee ... Say please ... do I have any chance - can everything just disappear like this ... what should I do - I stick to it !! I will do what it takes - I will go through what I have to go to prove to her that I have changed and try to win love again .... Please - help me decide - how to act ... I hope women write - who may have ever been in such a situation (by the way, she leaves our hometown to go to work in another and ..to "have a new beginning" leaves in 4 days ... should I follow her there and try to fix things - I'M DETERMINED TO DO EVERYTHING - please tell me what to do ..... Idiot With a Broken Heart
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Dear boy, you are really too jealous, I hope you are not so principled. A bad advisor is "SHE". What can I tell you? Go to her, look for her, talk to her again. .You hurt her a lot with distrust of her, and the fact that she left a friend with 3.5 years of relationship and turned to you should tell you that after your attitude towards her, it will not be easy for you to convince yourself of any vote. You are to blame, but no, I hope you succeed. Nowadays it is difficult to find a soul mate.
I don't know the girl, so I can't give you specific advice. However, if you have feelings, be sure to try.
You always change, but only in words, then again, and I also had a fever, I forgave not 1 and 2 times, but after frying, everything starts again from the beginning .....
I had a similar relationship. The man next to me had gone mad with jealousy. It was really too much. He doubted my every move, pointless remarks and inappropriate questions, surveillance, incessant ringing - it would really kill any attachment. You were wrong! For her, you acted like a psychopath, like in the movies! And now the cover will be if you go to chase her to the other city! Do not! Stop and think how annoying all this is! give time if she loves you she will really look for you!
to No.4 She will never look for him. For her, he has stopped changing since they separated. There are few people who would accept the challenge to experience such horror again! Author, forget it, and get a GOOD NOTE for the next time (ie the next lady).
I can't let her go like that !!! I will fight to the end - and that is - if he wants to think I'm sick - then I will be convinced that it's the end ...
To 1. Thank you very much, she has already told me that she has another and she is happy with him and does not want me to try anything and does not want to be with me ... but I love her and I will not give up hoping to be with her - I just can't let her go ... and I'll wait for something to go between them and have my chance again - after a while I hope she somehow realizes that I've changed and that I still want her and I'm waiting for her, she cut me off to see me or to write to me ... it's terribly difficult but ... it's my fault that's right .. I know after a while everything in me can just disappear .. but until then I will I am waiting for her and I will hope to be able to see her