I want to share my story with you. I'm a nice 17-year-old girl who until recently thought her life was perfect. I had a nice family - my mother is a great person and my father ... well, he wasn't one of the best fathers, but he rarely showed up at home. I also have a 5 year old brother, a big cutie, very kind and loving. Friends - as much as you want and all good, responsive and ready to help me. I'm good at school, I have quite strong success, I know what I want to follow and what I want to do from now on. And I have a serious friend, we have been together for a year and something - the Perfect. Well, that was until a month and a half ago. While my father suddenly started arguing violently with my mother, he got angry with my brother - he didn't beat him, but constantly threatened and shouted at him. He left us a few weeks later, without calling. moved out of us and now, as far as I know, is in another city. I think it's because of another woman.
My mother has changed radically since then. She cries all the time, she suffers, she wonders what she is guilty of ... her conscience is bad because she thinks that our father left us because of her mistakes ... And this is not the case! After this incident, I lost a lot of my friends because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they didn't understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now. My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ... My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ...
My life is a precipice! I think it's because of another woman. My mother has changed radically since then. She cries all the time, she suffers, she wonders what she is guilty of ... her conscience is guilty because she thinks that our father left us because of her mistakes ... And this is not the case! After this incident, I lost a lot of my friends because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they didn't understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now. My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ... My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ... My life is a precipice! I think it's because of another woman. My mother has changed radically since then. She is constantly crying, suffering, wondering what she is guilty of ... her conscience is bad because she thinks that our father left us because of her mistakes ... And this is not the case! After this incident, I lost a lot of my friends because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they didn't understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now.
My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ... My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ... My life is a precipice! she wonders what she is guilty of ... her conscience is guilty because she thinks that our father left us because of her mistakes ... And this is not the case! After this incident, I lost a lot of my friends because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they didn't understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now. My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ...
My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ... My life is a precipice! she wonders what she is guilty of ... her conscience is guilty because she thinks that our father left us because of her mistakes ... And this is not the case! After this incident, I lost a lot of my friends because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they didn't understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now. My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ... My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ... My life is a precipice! because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they did not understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now. My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ... My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ...
My life is a precipice! because I was constantly gloomy and unhappy, and they did not understand me. I also broke up with my friend, although he is ready to meet again now. My success has fallen sharply, I'm just failing in everything lately. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm depressed, which is new to me ... I've always been radiant and happy, optimistic, but after this incident ... My mother is unhappy, she blames herself, my brother lies that his father is abroad on a business trip ... My life is a precipice!
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In my opinion, the first thing you need to do is help your mother overcome this crisis in her life and stop blaming herself for what happened, because I don't think it's her fault. Sometimes men (in this case) act very recklessly and hurt everyone around them without thinking about the consequences. The fact is unfortunately a fact. In my opinion, in this case you are the person with the clearest consciousness and judgment, try to get on your feet, especially with school, because this is your future and it is not worth ruining your life because of other people's mistakes. You sound like a very intelligent person, so take your life in your hands. I know it's very difficult because I've been through something like this, only I was younger. He gets used to everything. Fight for your future, because this is the most important thing (it would help your mother a lot), follow your dreams and do not give up.
My dear, I am your age and I think I can advise you a little! You will decide whether to follow my recommendations or drive forward on your own! In both cases, the important thing is to move forward! Here are my tips: 1st - those friends who left you were no friends of yours! Don't trust them if they ever come back to you! As you say - they do not understand you! 2nd - I think it would be better to get together with your boy! You need him, and if he is ready to come together even now, even in such a difficult time, then he loves you infinitely! 3rd - be by your mother's side because she is going through something terrible! 4th - as for your brother, when he asks something about your father, somehow slap the topic, let him forget it little by little, no matter how nasty it sounds! and 5th - do not blame your father! He hardly wanted to hurt you that way! Continue as before! I know that everything will be different, there will always be emptiness, but life and such obstacles provide! I wish you a lot of happiness, your mother - to overcome her grief, and your brothers - not to feel this emptiness! Good luck! :) :) :)
Thank you both for the advice, you helped me a lot (: It's good to know that there is someone who understands you and who gives you good advice and ideas ^^
The first and most important thing you need to do (especially since it depends entirely on you) is not to ruin your future - INDEPENDENT OF EVERYTHING !!! Believe me, in time your mother will appreciate it as you deserve - you will see. Your life may be confused right now, but it will not last forever. However, once you lose control, there will be an incredible mess. Your little brother will suffer the most. I have a child of the same age, so I am convinced of what I am saying. 5-year-olds do not have as strong psyche as older ones, e.g. you or your mother. The child still does not know how to cope with such crises, which completely turn his tiny familiar world. Therefore, he will look for some stability and must find it in both of you - you are his favorite and closest people, if you betray him by falling into depression, etc. be sure, that it will affect him very badly in one way or another. If you and your mother each immerse themselves in her experiences and problems, then I do not see anything positive waiting for you - at most to quarrel with each other, because somewhere in time you have lost touch with each other. I'm not saying anything about friends and "Friend." Only this - if they are human, they will understand you without interfering, if not - goodbye! People are different, the world is colorful! This is not your most important concern. My advice - you as a big man already, call your mother for an open conversation. Talk, cry your grief, indulge your emotions - you will get even closer. The second step: accept the current situation as more than temporary and devise a strategy for action in these circumstances with as few changes in your rhythm of life as possible. This is the fastest way to get out of depression. But do not delay such a conversation, it is more than necessary - it is important to know about each other who is experiencing this moment. Dear ones (all three), I'm sorry that I seemed to overdo the advice, but I took your problem to heart. You will manage! I believe in this!
Girl, study so you don't wash dishes all your life! Talk to your mother, she must be very unhappy, but I think your father is to blame. The friends who withdrew were not real, don't think about them. For a friend - if you love each other, why aren't you together? Reunite with him when he wants you. I experienced the same thing. Both my children too. My son was shocked and stopped studying. I took him to watch a construction site, it was raining, it was cold. And I asked him if he wanted this to work and that if he didn't study it would work. And he stiffened, not liking the view. So it's good to go to a pastry shop, to imagine that you will work all your life, you will smell patties instead of perfume, you will become a tired and desperate aunt with varicose veins. And if your mother doesn't give up, this will pass, I know from experience. Success!
I did not read all the comments. I don't know if you need another one, which will hardly be very different from the others, but I still send you positive energy and a wish for success! The most important thing is to talk to your mother, to remind her of the things she certainly knows ... for example: that she gave you a good upbringing, love, childhood ... she took care of everything and did a great job. He should not look for the fault in himself, but also not to blame your father, because the negative energy will return to you. I believe that things will work out on their own :) I hope all the positive energy that, I believe, each of us sends you, will help you regain your previous self :)
I'm sorry to say that, but apparently your father is rubbish ... did my father leave because of a woman? !! From him comes all this depression .. he's your father, but he just doesn't think about it, he's obviously having a great time after he left you .. I have no words ... your poor mother, she's certainly a decent woman, you'll get well, calm down, you have a lot of time, life ahead of you, you will still find friends and everything else will not stay that way :)
God, my mother is the same as if I were writing my story
Why is a man "garbage", number 7 - he started a family, looked after it, but just did not get along with his wife and separated. It happens with 50% of marriages, is 50% of parents rubbish? The author is having a hard puberty, but will soon be an adult. It's time to start living your life. Otherwise, number 7, men always leave because of a woman - because of their own. When a marriage doesn't work out, people break up, but that doesn't mean they are rubbish !!!