Hi, I was quite surprised before I wrote my story. But I still decided to share it with you and I hope you understand me. I am 21 years old and I have been feeling terribly lonely for a long time, I have no friends or people to have fun with, no one likes me due to the fact that I am a very good person, I do not want people around me to feel sad and I do my best. It doesn't happen when I see that someone is lonely or sad I feel terrible. I like to help anyone who needs help, but no one appreciates it. Sometimes I feel so depressed by the fact that I don't have any friends or anyone to share and understand me with. Sometimes I wonder why I have to be nice to everyone because not everyone treats me well, but I can't change, so many times I try to change some things in my life but it doesn't work there is still a lot to write but I think I'll stop here. Please advice what to do.
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I don't know if I can give you advice, but I'll tell you that our difference is only in the years, I feel in exactly the same way. I love helping people in need, but when they get on their feet, they act like they don't know you. I know what you're feeling and I'd like to help you, but it's kind of impossible ... I'll just tell you something! Help people, even if they don't appreciate it, keep doing these good deeds ...! If you need a person to lean on, I'm on a date ... My email is [email protected] Good luck :)))
From №1 I apologize a lot, but I hastily confused the email ... [email protected] here is the right one. I apologize to you once again.
№1 thank you, I like to help others even if they don't appreciate it and I will continue to do so.
From № 1. This is what you want, not to lose hope, go forward with your head proudly raised ... Sooner or later you will find kindred spirits! Believe in yourself ... that's it.
It's weird to be a cool person and not have any friends, look for the mistake in you, the thing that limps you, change it and you will win! No matter how much you complain and share without changing yourself, you will not do anything just by sharing.
to №5 - for some time I have been trying to change some things in myself and I hope it is for the better.
I'm a boy of 23, I'm not much older than you. This is a strong form of empathy, one should not overdo it with kindness to people because then they consider it condescension and start behaving aggressively. Example: (I don't need help, I can do it myself, I'm strong enough) (ego and pride hurt) Start behaving more directly and firmly with people, do them good only as a last resort, if you you do not understand, the rest of the time behave at least seemingly that you do not care. You will get friends when you are hard enough with them, to let them know that you are not a lizard. Greetings. Ivo
By №7 thanks for the advice and the comment, I really sometimes thought of being "firm" and being more direct with people and I really might have to do it.
I like the position of №7. We must not impose our kindness and we must not expect gratitude from others. It is rather an inner need to be helpful and empathetic. But there is always a danger that good will be answered with evil. An acquaintance gave me advice "Do not do unsolicited good" Sometimes it is very difficult for me to refrain and I try to pretend that I do not care. I think it's much easier for me to be indifferent. Sometimes we have to be able to be bad - obviously life demands it.
Be who you are, don't try to change, it will hardly help you. I was not good, I may have helped, but for unclear reasons. 4 years ago, I decided that I could be different, and now I don't know who I am, I'm not better than before, but I no longer know who I am, what I am .... It is unlikely that you will get better if you get worse if you stop helping. There are choirs like you who try to help everyone, always, there are people like me who don't care about others, and I think everyone is happiest the way they are. In fact ... I wasn't bad in the beginning , just like you, I had no friends, I was young, quite young, I decided that if I became bad, if I didn't care about anyone, it would be easier for me, and that's not true, then I wanted to be like before .... man It's not made of plasticine, it can't be modeled every day, it just doesn't work. I have a baby now, but maybe I'll never see him, all I want right now is loneliness, I want to be somewhere away from everything and everyone. I don't know how this can help you, just be who you are, don't change, so at least you will know who you are, don't succumb to the temptation that there is an easy way, that if you are not like that it will be easier for you, that is deception.