He is married - he loves his wife and will not leave her, but I do not want that - it suits me to have a non-committal relationship just for sex. I do not live with my husband and I have only been in a relationship with him for 3 years. I don't feel loved by him and the problem for me is exactly this - I put a lot more feelings than him and that's why I want to end our relationship, but when I try to do it - either by talking or by withdrawing, he clings to me, it becomes another person - exactly the one I need and somehow does not let me go. This has happened dozens of times in a year, and I both feel the need to throw it out of my life and it keeps me from doing it. What is this? It is unlikely that a man will react like that just because of one sex, given that he has a very strong ego and that he is an attractive man and will not be left without a female presence if I am not there. The only moments when I feel feelings and attachment from him are during sex - I feel an incredible intimacy and a feeling as if he makes love to me, not just sex. What is this?
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What do you want to hear darling? Maybe he's in love with you? Your situation is complicated, men are a complicated thing, we hear from everywhere that women do not know what we want, and in fact men in many cases come out more insecure in their feelings and actions. Many love their wives can not live without them, do not think about divorce, but at the same time stay their time, their attention outside the home with the other, stranger and wrong. They come and grab our attention, reassure us with the words "nothing will go wrong, it will be just sex and that's it", they give us the attention and the attitude we are looking for. We women are naive and allow ourselves to be confused by not saying anything clear and significant. I was in the same situation only for a period of several months. I also no longer lived with my husband, we were separated for months, an old acquaintance of mine started writing to me and convincing me, that infidelity is normal. He is married with children and has solid experience in infidelity, it took him a long time to convince me to meet. We talked accurately and clearly all the time without hesitation. I agreed with the clear attitude that it will be for one night and then who is from where, yes, but it did not happen, he kept looking for me, we met 5-6 times. He went to work abroad with his family, but this did not turn out to be an obstacle for our relationship, he kept writing and calling me. Like you, I began to wonder what was going on, he had experience with these things. I never thought he left his wife, but he told me that I was giving him peace and warmth. I was very confused, I decided to move away from my lover and save the relationship with my husband. Fortunately, with a lot of effort I managed to revive my marriage, now we are with my husband and we are happier than ever. We write to our ex-lover from time to time, he recently had a health problem, suffered a heart attack, was clinically dead, but fortunately escaped. I decided that after all the problems that came to his mind he would not remember me, but he did not write to me again. What should I think? I cannot give you advice, nor can I judge you. I can only wish you to find the answer you are looking for soon. Here on the site is definitely not the right place, you will be attacked and abused and you will be more confused. It is best to talk to your lover and find out for yourself what he feels and what he wants. Good luck !!! F32 nor can I judge you. I can only wish you to find the answer you are looking for soon. Here on the site is definitely not the right place, you will be attacked and abused and you will be more confused. It is best to talk to your lover and find out for yourself what he feels and what he wants. Good luck !!! F32 nor can I judge you. I can only wish you to find the answer you are looking for soon. Here on the site is definitely not the right place, you will be attacked and abused and you will be more confused. It is best to talk to your lover and find out for yourself what he feels and what he wants. Good luck !!! F32
It suits him. It's also ambitious when you say the story is over. You said it yourself - "he has a pretty strong ego". Grandpa Torbalan
Married with two or three children, And you are the ninth hole in the flute. Think for yourself what it is and how you will proceed.
Precisely because he has a huge ego, that's why HE will dump you when he wants, but YOU to dump him is unthinkable for him. Get rid of him. I also felt that I should not communicate with a man, but something in his behavior kept me from leaving, and I finally realized that I was just prolonging the inevitable, which is better for you, to happen when you are. ready ... It's selfish, I know, but no one but yourself thinks about your feelings.
Another victim! You live a funny life. One person, when he loves another person, has eyes only for him and lives with him, and does not explain to him hot - unboiled and leaves him to be a second violin. This man is manipulating you to spread your legs. He doesn't care about anything else, and you believe in what you want.
It's about sex. He'll play theaters in the future. Why? You just come cheap to him;)
It's nothing, stay calm
you wrote it yourself: his ego does not allow him to admit that someone will dump him. He doesn't love you, he's just happy with your current relationship. And what does "don't let you go" mean? Didn't he handcuff you? If you decide, you get up and leave your relationship, if not - you stay, it's simple.
Run! If you want to be a second violinist all the time and be used. Do you want to ruin a family or seek your happiness? Sooner or later, this romance will end. The question is when? When you turn 60? There are many ways to quit. The important thing is that you wish.
Feelings during sex? Are you okay, can you hear yourself? Who really has feelings proves them in everyday life and in difficult moments, not during sex. Get down on the ground, see. -....
Both you are satisfied with non-committal sex, and you feel sorry for putting in a lot more feelings. I do not understand you.
The problem is that good sex is not Love, Genius
This man just has a huge ego and can't stand being dumped. Most highly attractive people of both sexes are like that, unless we are talking about an individual with a very high level of consciousness, but they are too few. Alpha, w. 30 years
You want to hear from us that he loves you. But no one else can tell you that, and what does it matter if he loves you if he "loves his wife and won't leave her"? It is normal for 3 years not to be indifferent to him, to be attached to you and what you give him, but affection and love are different things. In my opinion, the worst thing for you in this regard is that you imagine that you have someone when you are really alone. Even if you don't interrupt her right away, look for someone else.
The opposite is true for me, I don't know what this person is doing to me. I'm from Varna, he picks me up from the cathedral every morning and brings me back from work, he's the driver of the company. In the beginning he gave me flowers. At 40 I am 60 years old. and it makes me feel small, and his age is not visible. He is shorter than me, but he kisses great. I even abstract from everything and go against those who step on it. It just fills the lack of flirtation that I don't get anymore. Because I live outside Varna, and I catch a bus to the city, wetting me with a viber, he drives me directly to the village, we stop in a grove and do it in the official bus. I make him feel like a man, and advise me on business matters. She calls me a little raspberry. I am very jealous of his second wife, and I love him very much, female envy.
Until 13 Please explain to me why then in my life I have not had love, no ..., but I still have not had any good sex ?! If I love, I will have sex too ... I know him because I liked a man at the moment, I have known him for months (albeit vaguely), but I have such a cruel desire that if I fall, I will melt his camps straight :)) When I dream about it and masturbate, I end up with an incredible squirt, and this has never happened to me with a man ... For me, the thrill will lead to good sex ... I do not have good sex without feelings .. F44
"he loves his wife and he won't leave her, but I don't want that either - it suits me to have a non-committal relationship just for sex" This sums you up as a person: the mud of society. You want a love affair. You do it with a family man. You don't care about his wife. You don't find anything wrong with your actions, you don't care about this woman's potential suffering. Why do you have the right to breathe the oxygen intended for real people?
Typically feminine - always someone else does something to you, you are never the initiator of anything ... "He didn't let you go" - take it, read it a dozen times, then write it in the right way, so I hope you understand the problem. Otherwise, it only became clear to us that you are fine, and that's why you stay, but you want something more. Apparently you've played this game long enough to know it won't give it to you. Either enjoy the fuck or cut it. Just as you don't live with your husband, why don't you get a formal divorce and find a normal person and make a normal relationship? In my opinion, your problems are serious enough to take a visit to a psychologist at best ...
This is called manipulation. It is not love, if you hope so. You think you're more special than the others and even his wife, but you're not. You live a fictional life, the life of a second violin. If he loved you as you secretly hope, he would have divorced long ago. I've seen him. An acquaintance was always with lovers. And he is rich and beautiful with a wife and children. She didn't get a divorce because of anyone. Eventually he fell in love with his last mistress and divorced in 2-3 months.
What does it mean he doesn't let you go, does he chain you? !! Come on, please. You don't want her to let you go because you're a poor soul who's afraid of being left alone and dry. The world will end, you know. Well, let this one trample you then, and you hope he loves you. It's going to be a cuckoo's summer, you know. So two and two make four, but you see five, that's your situation. And then - who's in my pants? You, darling, you.