Why? !! She has been so angry with me for two days now. Not only this case, there are others. Thank God, not always when I come home in the afternoon she is with us, but now she is in the hospital and at home. I just got home. - Go to throw away the garbage, then eat and sit down to study !!! You won't be wandering around the neighborhood like a deaf bitch !!! But it's Friday. The day I want to rest. Everything makes her angry. The smallest even. I'm not saying I'm innocent. My bad luck and my appearance (which I like) infuriate her. He is too strict with me. I can't cry in her presence. I cry when I'm alone or I'm out (alone again). I don't know what to do anymore. I know I'm not a wonderful daughter, but my mother bullies me too much. Why on earth, if I'm bothering her so much, why didn't she leave me in an orphanage, I ask? !! I do not know. And I can't know. After all, I'm only 12 and I don't understand much more. I hope you have some advice for me. Sometimes I look at this site and read your stories. I try to help you as much as I can
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"My bad luck and my appearance (which I like) infuriate her." - you answered yourself! At 12 you are still a child, behave like an educated child and your mother will love you! If from now on you grow your nose and pretend to be big, your mother will become even more radical, it is for your good, but you will understand it when you grow up and mature!
Darling, you are no longer a baby and you are increasingly unsympathetic to her. So it is with all living beings. Her love is changing. However, the things he says must be for your own good.
Dear girl, I understand your problem, my mother is the same, only that I am 25 (soon 26) but the problem is that sometimes I leave my room dirty and constantly sings to me about it, I told her a thousand times that this is my room and I will do it as I like. I haven't lived with ours for a long time and they are divorced. Last year I quarreled with her only because I left dirty stains in her dm then I cleaned them because she had shouted at me when I was her guest. On December 11 last year, I did not let her in because I remembered how she scolded me and then went to a psychologist.
I will tell you something important, if you understand it at once you will save yourself a lot of anger. No matter how great you feel at some point in your life, your mother will always have more experience than you and will try to guide you. She doesn't do it with bad intentions, only her methods are not right and that's why it seems to make your life bitter. You are 12 years old and you are entering puberty, it is normal to have frictions with her. She sees you as a child, you see yourself as a little older and you feel ready to decide for yourself when to do what. You are right, but she is also right. When she dictates obligations to you, reproaches you or is demanding, she does not do it to ruin your self-confidence, she does it in order for you to become a worthy and responsible person. If you finish the lessons on Friday, you will be free all Saturday and Sunday. You were at school on Friday anyway, the teaching was already present in your day. If you now learn to do your job at the moment it is assigned, then you will not accumulate debts in the future and you will have more breaks. Your mother says this with this thought, and you are angry because you are tired from school and want to rest. You're right, sometimes you have to rest and it's not scary, since his homework is only for Monday, and he has 2 more days to read. Try to understand her point of view, she wants you to raise your success and she wants you to look the way you look. You have the perception of a 12-year-old, and she has the perception of an adult parent. This difference between you is significant and you have to compromise together to fight less. I'm sure if you try harder at school, your mother will relax a little and start being kinder to you. Give something to get something else. You can't just persist, grumble and scandal, that's not the right way. Listen to it with at least one ear to keep your communication running smoothly. Believe me, in an orphanage your life would not be far more pleasant, and even then there would be no one to fight for your upbringing, future and success.