Hi, I'm a girl of 12. My parents live together, but they fight a lot. That is why I am seeking help from you. There's something else: So my mother is a very naughty woman. She supports herself, but she cheated on my father with three different men. He knows only one and continues to tolerate it. I had a nice family until a moment when the black grief knocked on our door ... Everything went to hell, I ruined my grades at school, I started hanging out with inappropriate children, everything just went wrong for only about 2-3 months .. I know that Mom slept with my father 's best friend and two of her colleagues. I just don't know, I'm terribly sad, I don't have any tears left. I will not tell my father and mother do not know that I know about men. I was told by some of my friends who saw them. My heart broke ... the man I relied on the most, I loved and appreciated the most, a failed woman ... Know that every letter I write has tears in my eyes. For me, when a child tells his mother, who has watched him all his life and loved him, that she has failed, she is really much more than failed ... I don't know ... I'm just trying to be strong because of my father ... But I will take revenge on her ... It will hurt her as it hurts me .. She will cry as much as I cry now .. For me she is past .. for the last time I write the word mother ...!
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There is no excuse for any infidelity, civilized people simply separate, but do not lie. The bad thing in this case is that you are between the hammer and the anvil and you are the most injured, and the bitch has no fix. Sooner or later you will take revenge, sooner or later the truth will shine, but at least try not to ruin your life, get educated, choose your company, because help, you seem to have nowhere to wait.
Dear child, it would be nice if you didn't judge your mother for anything! There is someone to judge her! Besides, the fact that he's taking off his pants back and forth has nothing to do with you! Did she become a worse mother after realizing she had relationships? And the biggest whores are wonderful mothers. Unfortunately, women always think only about what comes in and what comes out of them. You may not be the same family anymore, but think about your father. Better not to know than to understand! Especially from you! And besides, did those who told you about your mother shine on them, or did they see her on the street? It is said - do not judge and you will not be judged! And you will see that you have wonderful, maybe not very moral, but wonderful parents!
Instead of tormenting yourself and crying, you better talk to your mother. Tell her how you feel. She will help you.
Try not to repeat her mistakes and in years to find a worthy partner in life. Then you will not care about your mother. And she should live her life and be protected from diseases.
I also think you have no right to judge or insult your mother. Some things may not be what they seem. At the age of 12 a person tends to think that he knows and understands everything, and others are bad, old, incapable, etc. But this is not true. The better option is to focus on yourself. To be the best you can be. Otherwise, what do you think are the girls with broken success, dubious friends ..., well - failed. How, then, will you judge your mother to be "failed" when you are? There is logic, isn't there? And there is a sentence in the Bible - "Do not judge others, lest you be judged." You have a responsibility for yourself and your own life.
I support the previous writers, do not make final conclusions, you are very small. There are crises in every family, everything can go away and after years yours will be in harmony together again. As much as your mother has failed, I also advise you not to say similar words.It is not known at all whether this is true, people sometimes talk a lot, especially about good-looking women. Even if she cheated on your father, that doesn't mean she "failed," and there are reasons for everything. It's a pity that instead of thinking about your teenage problems, you have to think about things like infidelity.
Dear girl, don't judge in a hurry, because as you write, whoever saw them ... What exactly does that mean? Didn't he see them in bed? Why don't you assume that you accept things this way because of your father's friend, with whom your mother cheated? I don't excuse her for this man, but isn't your father to blame for what happened? Anyway - it is very difficult for a child to learn about such things, but the relationship between your mother and father and their sexual behavior have nothing to do with you. If their care and attention are the same - think with the final conclusions, because every child wants the perfect family - everyone loves each other, there are no conflicts, but believe me, unfortunately it rarely happens, which unfortunately hurts the most innocent - children.
Dear child, you are already entering an age when you will start thinking about men (boys). Then you will understand that there are men and men and sometimes you have to choose between several, because not everyone could give you what you are looking for! And the most important thing for a woman is to be sexually satisfied ... If she is not satisfied, she will certainly act like your mother! In fact, I'm sure your mother is looking for something suitable to fill the gap that yawned between her and your father! This is normal and don't judge her!
I don't know how you feel, but I don't want to know either. I understand you somewhere. And I'm an 11-year-old girl. Be strong and be by your father's side. That's all I can tell you.
I want to tell you, dear child, not to judge your mother because things may not be like that. You don't know the relationship between the parents. Maybe your father is to blame too? Talk to your mother she will help you.
Enough nonsense .... "Some of your friends saw her" ...- where did they see her? On the street. Does that mean anything? What if they deliberately make up nonsense to annoy you? Have you thought about this option? And what do you know about their parents? Do you think everything is fine? It just doesn't affect you. Watch how your mother treats you, whether she cares for you, whether she loves you. It is important. She is your mother, not a life partner, so no matter how rude it may sound, you should not judge her from this point of view. Don't be fooled!