I am a 17-year-old girl who constantly has problems with her mother and I can no longer stand it. To begin with, I live only with my mother and grandfather, I do not have a father, because they divorced when I was 4 years old and do not maintain any contact. 3 days ago I had a birthday and I asked my mother to give me 40-50 euros to go to a restaurant with friends, but she told me that I would not go anywhere and would not give extra money. I didn't get a cake for my birthday, nor did he congratulate me on it, but on top of that he was out all day, he came home for a while and I heard her talking to a man on the phone because she was talking and arranging a meeting and said "I will I'm waiting, baby "and she put on her make-up and went out and didn't come home until the next morning.
And this is not the first time. Yesterday I took a T-shirt from the mall because I had collected the money, which he gives me for school (he gives me BGN 2 a day) and he shouted at me that I had taken such an expensive T-shirt, and the T-shirt was one of the cheapest possible in the mall and cost euros 7. And he called me to return it and some scandals and finally told me that I would see no more money, no clothes, nothing. I've been without a phone for 2 weeks because it broke down completely and I can't even turn it on, I went to several repair shops, but they said it couldn't be fixed and she hadn't taken my phone yet and said she wasn't interested. And I don't even have a place to call. I'm just tired of everything - to be deprived and the others are not. And don't say we don't have the opportunity - we do.
My mother only goes with branded clothes, jewelry, buys from boutiques, eats expensive food, and for me, it's second-hand clothes, some old food and that's it. And on top of that, she insults me in front of my friends, that I'm a freak and that she's sorry she gave birth to me. In front of the boy I like, and I went out once, and she called me in front of him with words like slut, idiot, and drug addict. What should I do now? I can not stand.
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Talk to the school psychologist or ask for the child's protection or call 116 111 from your grandfather's phone. On the telephone number 116 111 children can seek help or advice 24 hours a day from professionals - psychologists, social workers, educators.
Go to Child Protection immediately and tell them everything!
Hello, dear author! I sincerely sympathize with you. What a man your mother is, to treat you like that and insult you. It is unfair for her to go out and buy expensive clothes and deprive you of a cake for your birthday. The fact that she has problems does not give her any right to make it up to you. I don't know if you have other relatives and if you have the opportunity to go to them, but if you don't, when you are now 17, next year, when you turn 18, you will be able to leave it and go to study in another city. This is what I can advise you. Good luck and courage!
Get tight, start work - hourly or hand out flyers if you're still a teacher. You can also work part-time if you are resilient and start working full time. Go home late and beat the jester of your irresponsible mother. Don't talk to her, treat her the way she treats you. Finish and move out - apply to another city and / or work in another city away from her and dump her. And never call her again. Such parents deserve it.
Terrible. What to say. Wait until you're 18 and get a job, if you can't tell her. And when you raise money, get out, find roommates to get a cheaper rent and take care of yourself. If things are as striking as they seem to be I don't know what this woman's problem is, it can be difficult for her or you can visually look like your father, with whom they have no contact. Whatever it is, it's not your fault. You are no longer young and start taking care of yourself. I advised you not to tell her about your job, because she could take your money or kick you out before you could move out. Just when the time comes, go out without telling her anything. If she didn't do her best for your birthday, I don't know what she will do for your prom. Also, BGN 2 per day is extremely insufficient. Take care of yourself.
There is nothing to do. After a year, save yourself and do not look back.
Wait until you're 18 and just go live with your father!
And where is your grandfather in all this time? !! Don't you tell him what your mother does? Otherwise, if you really need all kinds of advice, you can write to me, just tell me if you want?
What is this mother? !! wow girl I sympathize with you. How can your mother not remember that you have a birthday and you turn 17. For me, this is not a mother. I'm sorry, but she doesn't seem to care that you're her daughter. And how can it not give you money to go with friends this is an important moment you grow by another 1 year. This is not a mother. I am a young man of 24 A week ago it was my birthday my mother gave everything she even gave me 100 euros- now I have about 30. When you turn 18 you have the right to move out and rent a room with your girlfriend you can share and to her about the problems. There are also parents who do not care that their children have a birthday. You have to be strong and fight, you are a human being and whatever happens, don't give up. Next to you I am a Man of 24
About the words she called you, you're not like that, don't listen to her, she insults you because she's not good in her head
Happy birthday with a slight delay darling to be alive and well and very happy and I have no words for your mother. I am a girl of 13 and I will tell you that my father did not greet me. I understand your grief, the first 2 comments are from my brother. When you turn 18, you can move out and work to make money. and now you can summer. What is this mother not to give you money to go with friends I have always had money. Dear girl, be strong, don't let your mother ruin your life! Valentine's success
Your mother brings her dissatisfaction with life to you. Or maybe you envy that you are young, beautiful and life is in front of you. Ignore her. Wait until you turn 18 and try to go to study in another city. In the summer it works to save money. And she, when she grows old and needs you, don't call her and don't take care of her. Then she will understand what she did. I know that mothers should not be like that in principle, but what to do ... There are some, unfortunately. Keep your head up and make sure you are away from her and don't call her.
Talk to your father to live with them, find a job, I've been working in the summer since I was 16 and I don't ask my parents for money (I'm 19 now), you have options to go to the apartment with the money collected.
Another life example that signals to us that it is high time to introduce strict laws on who has the right to become a parent and who does not!
When you turn 18, move out quickly. Or go to a friend. Mothers are very cruel to you, if you know who your father is go to him. And now you have to study and find a job to get out easier. Success!
Number 14 is a good idea to talk to her father, but the story says that when the girl was only 4 years old she was without a father. Maybe he doesn't remember her after their divorce from their mother. Grandpa doesn't know where he is in this whole complicated situation. He writes that he lives with his mother and grandfather
In 1 year you will be an adult! Run when you turn 18 and that's it !!
You don't mention anything about your attitude towards your mother, about your success at school, about helping in the household. And did you deserve to be given money to celebrate? Give more details, because so far you look like an angry child.
Find a job and do not give in to your mother's manipulations. Whatever it tells you, start working, save your money. You will soon be 18, you will have to enroll in university, gradually separate from it. If possible, go to another city to study when you graduate or move out. But start some work hourly, for example, a promoter.
Bad job! If things are really that bad, your situation is not rosy at all, but there are two good news. One is that whether you like it or not, you will learn to deal with the problems in life on your own and in the future it will be easier for you, and the other is that you are 17 and you will graduate soon, you will be able to find a job. and you are taken away from you. That's my advice, study hard and make a plan from now on so that you can find a job quickly and get rid of your mother accordingly. Even if you can find something hourly from now on, even better. The sooner you stop depending on her, the better. However, like the others, I will ask, relatives you can't count on? Grandparents, aunts ... an adult at all? Success! And head up, you'll handle it.
The woman is selfish. Many are like that, but they have no right to be like that with their relatives and especially with their children. Unfortunately, many people who would be great parents cannot have children, and bad, selfish, and irresponsible people multiply like mushrooms. Your parents are the typical example. It's not your fault, it's their fault. You will have to become more independent and rely only on yourself. And when the time comes for you to become a mother - do not take an example from yours and take good care of your child! Success!
Dear girl ... poor thing :( I'm so sorry for what is happening to you ... my advice is no different from the others -> wait until you turn 18 and start your life. And if you don't have the strength anymore to wait for 18 ... talk to your grandfather and your relatives and this topic .... and make sure your mother doesn't understand not to shout ... that I don't want to know then what scandal will happen ... but in case she finds out, tell her the whole truth in her eyes and I can't believe I'm going to tell her, but play her as an actress .... be damn sensitive on this topic, it can happen if she doesn't understand you .... one sentence "THIS WOMAN DOES NOT HAVE A HEART" separately, as an option, I also give you a psychologist.