Hello! I am a 20-year-old girl, my boyfriend is 22 years old and we have been together for a year and a half. At the beginning (the first 5-6) months, my mother got along well with him and me. Then he started making trouble about not studying at university, that he had diabetes, that he only used me for one sex, and I was stupid and attached to everything, that I paid for everything (which is not the case at all, but she is not there and does not see him) and what not. She started asking about him, making people tell her what we do, where we go out, with whom, etc. (we are in a small town and everything is known). He started to set my aunt against me, as well as my father, but it didn't work out. We drive constantly and we have months when we don't talk, we don't eat together, and she just repeats to me that because of this relationship she has no daughter anymore. As for my father, he didn't tell me for sure if he liked it or not, but he told me that at that age he had no right to tell me what to do, and that I, like everyone else, would learn when I made a mistake. He doesn't mess with my relationship and behaves normally with my boyfriend. This whole situation is very stressful for you.
I don't want to quarrel with her, but I also don't want to part with him so that there are no quarrels. I think I am still young and this will not be my first and last relationship and I will have a lot more until I find the right person to start a family with. I only know that I feel good with him at the moment, but everything else on my mother's side comes in handy. There are many such cases, shared and unshared on the Internet. Can you tell me how to deal with this? I do not want to continue to hear insults to both me and him. I'm very sick, that his parents like me and my mother doesn't like him. That's why he doesn't come home, he avoids my mother on the streets, because most likely she will scandalize him or insult him with something. Please give me an opinion, guidelines on how to deal with / is there a way to stop this.
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Your mother is jealous of him. - scorpion
"I think I'm still young and this won't be my first and last relationship and I'll have a lot more until I find the right person to start a family with" After reading it and being disgusted, let the boy find one while he was young a girl who wants to be with him FOREVER, not like you, just not to be alone or to have someone to fuck you. And with a mother like yours, she will only get angry with you!
Talk directly to your mother because she seems jealous, I don't see another problem
Eventually, will your mother live with this person or you? Is he her choice or yours? Are you an adult (to have the right to choose) or not? Answer these questions and you will answer all the others ...
The author To 2: And why are you disgusted? Do I have to think at the age of 20 that he will be my first and last? It may be, but many more years will pass until then, I don't know. To 1 and 3: And I've been thinking about it because it's from the older generation. He doesn't even let me hold hands outside because it was embarrassing. To 4: I know the answers to all these questions. But I don't like him insulting me that I'm a whore, saying that if I have a child, he won't recognize him as a grandson, because he'll have diabetes, that the boy in question is using me, because another one won't want him because of diabetes, that he was dumb because he didn't have a university degree, we didn't have any other topics to talk about except for *** and so on. I don't want her approval, I just want her to comply with you, as my father does, and to let me break my head as he says.
Author To 1: I forgot to add that she is a virgin To 2: Am I to blame that my mother is like that?
Your mother is trying her best to impose her own insecurities on him. Her expectations for life that she has for you are huge. If you do not leave immediately you will begin to doubt him more and more and lose the great relationship you have at the moment. I was like that. I was half a head shorter than her. Everything was wonderful. However, her mother used the moments when we were arguing to pour oil into the fire to separate. And after 4 years he succeeded. My friend became the lowest whore, looking for the magical prince, according to her mother's expectations. He finally hit 33 and made a child out of some random tramp who had 3 marriages and 3 other children. He left her, of course, as soon as she got pregnant. She is alone now. He doesn't even have friends. Her mother, too, because her daughter blames her for everything and doesn't want to look at her at all. No perfect, but there are those we love. Your mother doesn't know what that is at all. Run, run while it's time. Both. The sooner the better. One phone call a week is enough for her. And don't listen to what people say about youth and "living" while you're young. This is the whore mentality in Bulgaria, who knows where it came from after the '70s. There is a love for you and it is now. You will have less trust and more expectations for everyone next to you. Until you finally fall apart. You will have less trust and more expectations for everyone next to you. Until you finally fall apart. You will have less trust and more expectations for everyone next to you. Until you finally fall apart.
I can't figure out what age your mother lives in, she didn't like your boyfriend, let alone impose her own opinion on it. What a mother must be a woman who does not like the friends of her sons - her daughters.
Maybe he just wants something better for you, someone different, a person with ambitions. He may think that this boy cannot be your support. Parents see things differently because they are not blinded by feelings, and how much someone tells you that they love you. Sometimes they are right, sometimes they are not. But I don't think it's because of jealousy, I just think it's not right for you at this point. As a person, you may need another type.
Author: Up to 7: I can't run away and want to, because I don't work and I can't go somewhere, the rents are expensive ... with each passing day I feel worse, I know that because of everything I don't yes I want to look at it in time .. Until 9: I always thought that my parents were there to support you, even when they think you will be wrong. I may be mistaken in my choice at the moment, but I feel good about it. He is, as they say, my first teenage love, because when I was still in school, my mother wouldn't let me go out, she determined which girls in the class to socialize with, she suppressed me and told me I didn't look good (because I'm more -full within normal) that fat women can not have children, no boy would like me, I was a pig, etc. Weakened, I started going out,
In the end, your mother will succeed in what she does ... I guarantee you ... I say this from experience and it is very bitter .. M24
Leave him, sooner or later he will find a girl who will not doubt that HE is the man for her for life, and will not poison him mother-in-law, as would be your "mother"