I am 20 years old. I'm a student. I love my mother and I know she loves me too. But I never told her much. I am currently having problems with a boy I am in love with. Everything between us was wonderful. But various bystanders intervened and there are still issues to be clarified, problems to be solved. I told her that I was sad and sad. Because I really love him and I hope things will get better between us. And instead of supporting me, she started blaming me. He quarreled with me and hung up because we were talking on the phone. She has been against him from the beginning. She had even written to another boy who liked me and was trying to woo us. I have a feeling she doesn't want to reconcile with the boy I'm in love with. I have a feeling that I will be happy if things stay that way. I told myself I wouldn't share it with her anymore. But she starts by wanting to help me and worrying, and then attacks on me follow. I don't know what to do anymore.
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He doesn't judge her harshly, he's just a parent and he's worried. My mother is the same. She always tried to make me live her way. To study, as she taught, to date people like the ones she dated ... she tried to choose my friends and boyfriends, to control my life. There is nothing you can do, believe me. I talked, I shouted, I kept quiet and ... no success, in the end I just stopped paying attention to her and sharing too much. Don't tell her about this boy when you know she doesn't approve of him and live your life. Smile and talk, talk about things you can't argue about and don't judge her, she's just worried and wants the best for you, but she doesn't realize that you've grown up and you have to find your own way.
That's right, Author, I don't understand you - these are the mothers ... Do you understand her? !? !! Have you asked yourself the question - why does she not approve of it and have you asked her? In most cases, mothers and relatives see things from the sidelines and better than we do. I had a friend, everyone, but everyone was against my relationship with him, and I stubbornly turned everything they told me as a disadvantage into a positive trait. I obeyed everyone: parents, relatives, friends - Everyone and I blamed my parents for everything. The more they told me about him - the more I stood up for the "poor man" ... Years passed and he left me - it was hard for me and I thanked those who had remained my friends during that time - Everyone was happy and said - It's good that he left you if it weren't for him - I would certainly be with him by now. Now, from the point of view of time and years, I see how right my parents, my relatives, my friends were - yes, they are all with me again, but now I am 30 years old, I have a person next to me who is valuable and responsible! Then I had the audacity to argue with my mother to make her a monkey and tell her "I will be with him - whoever I was with - you still wouldn't like him - you don't understand anything". This is ... Yes, my mother, with whom I started the war because of him ... turned out to be 100% right and if I had stayed with him, I would have dragged him on my back, because he was just big in words and nothing else ... .no coverage and vulgar and manipulative behavior- I don't hate him now- it's all over, but my stubbornness was great and I ruined my parents' nerves ...
Look, I can't make her like him, but have you ever wondered why she's so against him? It can't be just because it's not cute .. Obviously there are reasons you saved to share or at least I think so .. I can't help you much, but still success!
In order not to like it, there is certainly reason and even more intuition when it comes to your child. But anyway, you will do what you decide. Your mother wastes too much energy to "open" your eyes. The wise learn from the mistakes of others, and the foolish from their own. The choice is yours.
look at 20 years old do what you know your mother leave her aside but ask her why she doesn't like it if it's because of your grandmother tell you not to listen to your grandmother for anything anymore but if it's not because of her ask her you still need to know why she doesn't like him