My husband and I have been a family for 3 years. We live separately from the mother-in-law. We haven't been breathing since our first meeting. Such intolerance just doesn't exist, people ... She's not a bad woman, you know. On the contrary. And I'm not a bad girl. When we see each other, we are both kind to each other, as long as she doesn't drink, because then she only talks nonsense and insults me. Otherwise he is a good and honest man. We behave well with each other, even though we are fake and this is obvious. At first glance, when I saw her (this was long before my relationship with her son) and we didn't like each other at all. I don't know if it has anything to do with our zodiac signs, because we are both scorpions, and as you know, this is not an easy zodiac sign. Over the years, I have tried to be honest with my feelings and love her, or at least remove that intolerance of her. It cost me a lot to suggest that I like her, that we like each other a lot. Until, in which I boiled it to dig into my computer. He knows where I keep my personal belongings and how I hate getting into my space. She didn't see me and she didn't know I understood. Since then, he's been kind of naughty because he saw he wasn't hiding anything. I swallowed this too and, atypically for me, kept silent. If he was a person with whom it makes sense to clarify, I would do it, but in this case, it would get much worse, and they would quarrel with my husband. I have accepted our incompatibility, but I wonder what could be the reason. Considering that intolerance dates back to our acquaintance, long before she became her daughter-in-law. I swallowed this too and, atypically for me, kept silent. If he was a person with whom it makes sense to clarify, I would do it, but in this case, it would get much worse, and they would quarrel with my husband. I have accepted our incompatibility, but I wonder what could be the reason. Considering that intolerance dates back to our acquaintance, long before she became her daughter-in-law. I swallowed this too and, atypically for me, kept silent. If he was a person with whom it made sense to clarify, I would do it, but in this case, it would get much worse, and they would quarrel with my husband. I have accepted our incompatibility, but I wonder what could be the reason. Considering that intolerance dates back to our acquaintance, long before she became her daughter-in-law.
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Personally, I support the theory of "jealousy" even more so if your husband was an only child. In short - she is used to being the woman in the foreground of his life, and yet she is his mother. You know how all mothers like to be very worried, to know best what is right for their children, and so on. In my opinion, she will not find a perfect woman for her son. She will always find flaws, and the fact that she dug into your computer proves that she is looking for them. I wouldn't be surprised if she talked nonsense about you before you even met her. Just mother stories. That's what I think .. * Syndrome
But good luck to this daughter-in-law !!!
Yes, it was the same with my mother-in-law :(. We held politics for peace. But she also interfered in my affairs, and I once boiled her to dig in my closet with documents and my personal works / photos and other such things. / ... and we lived apart from them ... she used to come out early in the morning / supposedly / to see the child, and to ask me: what are you going to cook today ?? !! I also said that this is not her job. .. but when I saw her digging into my things, I got cold ... I almost started a scandal, so since then I just stopped pretending to like her :) and let me tell you, I was relieved. Well ... I don't know exactly the situation with you, but it's harder and harder to pretend that you like someone you don't really like, it's very unpleasant and depressing. Just state a position, be yourself and don't pretend to like it. You don't live in a house, do you? You don't have to pretend and hold politics for a long time, as I did without need. He just stated his position: I'm the one who doesn't like to leave. You will feel calmer and freer, instead of squatting and hypocritically out of fear. This is what I think from my experience, SUCCESS
Beauty does not happen by force, I am glad that you do not live together, rejoice, you author. Although you are not sincere with each other, it is still nice and commendable that at least out of respect for your husband you are kind to each other.
What do you care, you have already started a family, you live separately, you are kind ... And I will hardly ever get together with my friend because of my "candidate-mother-in-law".
Number 5, isn't there a way to live separately with your friend? Are you dumping the boy for the mother? In my opinion, you have a quiet life and you wonder what to do. Why don't you live with her for a month. Then, when you get home, you will see how happy you will be. I mean, you don't appreciate living separately and clinging to nonsense.
Due to the difference in generations, you don't care, it will pass in 5-6 years, you will get used to laughing at all her actions and words. You have nothing to hide so
"My mother-in-law is not a bad person" - she just gets drunk and digs into your computer - well, she's a bad person! You have the right not to tolerate it.
Honey, all women are like that. Yesterday I found my grandmother rummaging in my student ID. I went in the bathroom, but I caught her. Out of concern, she dropped my student ID and nearly tore it up. ~ Bloody victory ~
Not pretending to be an actress at all will not help. Say what you think. Ask her what she doesn't like. I had a problem with my father-in-law, he was still nagging and in the end I couldn't stand it and we talked. He is just used to some things in one behavior in the house, nothing that we live separately and he wants me to acquire this behavior. In this case, he is right because I also think that their way of life of the whole family is good and correct and not like mine, so I make an effort to change it to fit. We haven't had any annoyances since. If she has something else against you that you think cannot be changed, she is older and will not change. You can't make an old dog learn new tricks, then you say look at your work and point. She must respect you because YOU CONTINUE THEIR KIND!