Hello, at the age of 23. I am. My mother is constantly dissatisfied and teases her views and wants me to follow them. He says, "I'm not telling you what to do, I'm just advising you," but that's just in words. If it doesn't happen to her, it becomes a scandal. We don't live together and I don't have to put up with her every day. Do you know? I feel good that I am sharing here and she will never understand these ugly words from a while ago, because I do not want to hurt her, but for years I was silent, I gave way and now the glass is overflowing. I don't want to hurt her. I cry about it when we argue, because I know she's suffering, she's far from me, because I never want to break up with her. Why didn't I call to hear how she was, I'm "no mother". I don't think I have to call her all the time. I'm not the kind of person to call all the time. I have a feeling, that she still can't believe I'm grown up and I'm no longer with her. Ok, I understand that, but why it offends and hurts me. Why he pushes his ideas and doesn't believe in me. I know I'm big and I don't need to comply, but I can't. She is my mother and I do not want to be in such a relationship. Please give advice or share at this age how often you hear from your mothers, whether you go out with them. My husband and I talk once a week, I visit once, twice a month and we rarely go out together (once every three months).
Am I wrong somewhere? I keep asking myself this question. I forgot to say that I haven't lived with her for 3 years and I have a man next to me for several years who will soon be my husband. I never quarrel with my father, he is like me, who wants to hear someone ringing, short conversations in my style for 2 minutes, we even help each other. They live together, are not separated. My mother is a little jealous of him, but my character fits better with his. I can't get any closer to her. Maybe time has passed. Ah yes, if I have a child she told me she would not look after my child. She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant, she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ... I have nothing to do. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. My mother is a little jealous of him, but my character fits better with his. I can't get any closer to her. Maybe time has passed. Ah yes, if I have a child she told me she would not look after my child. She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant, she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ...
I have nothing to do. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. My mother is a little jealous of him, but my character fits more with his. I can't get any closer to her. Maybe time has passed. Ah yes, if I have a child she told me she would not look after my child. She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ... I have nothing to do. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. I can't get any closer to her. Maybe time has passed. Ah yes, if I have a child she told me she would not look after my child. She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ... I have nothing to do. My dream, when I get pregnant, is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. I can't get any closer to her. Maybe time has passed. Ah yes, if I have a child she told me she would not look after my child.
She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ... I have nothing to do. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant, she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ... I have nothing to do. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. She had looked at me alone, to see how she was. Horror. And I already know that if one day I get pregnant, she will not be the first or the second to understand. This fact hurts me, but ... I have nothing to do.
My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again. My dream when I get pregnant is to scream with a full throat of happiness and throw myself on her neck, and she will be happy, but I don't know if that will happen. Rather, there will be "don't hurry, now was not the time for you". The truth is that she is a victim. How awful I was. I rather defended my own. Thanks in advance to everyone. I need advice, not insults. Thanks to everyone again.
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Too bad for you, not all mothers are like yours.
Ehhh, if my ex-wife thought like you, we would be a family now, but alas, unfortunately, many mothers act like yours and you feel like in a shell from which there is no way out. Keep the person next to you and keep it away, just advice from a sufferer :)
I completely understand you, I was in a similar situation with both my parents. I moved away from them and things got better. And you know, there is nothing better than looking after your child alone. This is what I thought in the first months after I gave birth and the baby started doing something new every day, I just watched it and I can't believe that I would leave it to another person to experience it for me. I wouldn't leave my child for a day, we don't bother working both of us to watch it. You can try to talk to her carefully and tell her how important she is and how grateful she is that she cares about you, but you would also like to make a mistake yourself.