Hello, a 20-year-old girl writes to you, so my problem is that at the beginning of the year I stopped the gym due to financial reasons, I was in shape and everything was ok. Then I gained a lot of stress, nerves, depression ... I'm angry that I can't find a decent job, my boyfriend and I had problems, but we got better, my sister was only causing problems and therefore I still treated her as older. And I relaxed, and I never got my hands on it again, because it's hard for me to just start a regimen and some sport. But now I have decided - I start with a friend to walk on different paths, to the forest and walks, remove the jam and bread and I will get in shape, because it is not good to work 20 kg up. And my mother just overdoes it !!! But what can I tell you, these were not comments like: reduce food, you need exercise, you need a walk, with this night meal you will not lose weight! And all the same, and I just repeat to leave me alone, I will fix myself and lose weight, because she has lost 10 kg, and already a big deal, but as she was fuller, I have not made such comments! Please tell me what to do, that she can't support herself, and now I live with her, my sister works and is staying in another city ... I also told her that I don't like it that way, it just stresses me more, and she answered, that she is my mother and will tell me things as they are, she will not laugh like the others, but she disappoints me a lot! It doesn't stop at all and it just makes me angry! I also said to support me, not to press me like that, to irritate me and stress me! But he doesn't understand me !! Even the boyfriend just asks me if you're okay ... I told him no, of course, I'll start exercising and eating healthy and he said ok, no sense in telling me such offensive and nasty things .... But she insults me like that! Please tell me what to do, that nothing happens, I'm just nervous! I figured out how to do this with weight loss, I just don't know how to deal with my mother !!! It drives me crazy!
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Find SOME JOB and as long as you stay home, you're a young man. Your mother will stop harassing you if you don't hang out at home and do meaningful things. Work at sea and abroad besides a lot, why do you stay? The weight will be lost when you move out of the house and start living your life. I recommend all types of low-carb diets and the most important thing is not to consume more calories than consumed, and if you want to lose weight should not be more than 1000 calories a day, mainly from protein and fat. Good luck
Boy! Say everything.
20 years old, and still with mom !? You have a friend who perceives you as you are, you go to him, and the question is solved, what are you upset about. If you want to go to mom, you will be patient. When you want to be impatient, you leave mom!
From the author: the thing is that he also lives with his parents, he will hardly agree to live together somewhere in an apartment, for example, but I will ask him ... :(
For a start, accept yourself as you are and the opportunity to never be what you once were. If you love others, they will like and accept you. I know how easy it is to say and do, but this is the way. Most problems are in the head. You can't lose weight while under stress, and your mother's words can literally drive you crazy. She certainly thinks well of you, at least because a lot of hernias interfere with the body. Apart from the fact that our society is a bit cruel and we all know how to look at those who are a little over the norm, I don't think about those who are overweight. You should either talk to your mother to stop the tossing, because SHE is your MOTHER and she is obliged to support you, not to complex and ruin your nerves, or literally stop listening to her and reduce communication with her (in both cases there is a danger of ruining your relationship). I write all this to you from experience, if you lose trust in a parent it is almost impossible to fix things. At least you're lucky to be like that recently. Find a job (no matter what), hobbies, try to communicate more with people outside your home. Do the exercises! Every day for 30 -60 minutes and you will see that in a month you will at least tighten up. I don't know how much you eat, but you may need to cut down on food if you haven't already. Now at least the season allows you to eat more salads and fruits, so end up with heavy sleds and calorie bombs. Take advantage of this, if you can not run, try to walk every day or at least every other day for at least 1 hour (this is separate from the exercises). As a person who is still losing weight, I advise you to make a diary. In it you will write down everything you ate. When you see it in a pile, it's a little scary. Also, if you have the financial means, drink more fresh juices and avoid natural juices. The latter make you fat. It is not said that you should not eat sweets and other pleasures for the soul. You choose one day of the week and you will eat more caloric things in it. This does not mean, however, to cram as the last. Put smaller portions. I recommend that you go to an endocrinologist, get tested, because you may have a disease. I think I wrote you the basics. Success! :) The latter make you fat. It is not said that you should not eat sweets and other pleasures for the soul. You choose one day of the week and you will eat more caloric things in it. However, this does not mean that you are trampling for the last time. Put smaller portions. I recommend that you go to an endocrinologist, get tested, because you may have a disease. I think I wrote you the basics. Success! :) The latter make you fat. It is not said that you should not eat sweets and other pleasures for the soul. You choose one day of the week and you will eat more caloric things in it. However, this does not mean that you are trampling for the last time. Put smaller portions. I recommend that you go to an endocrinologist, get tested, because you may have a disease. I think I wrote you the basics. Success! :)
Male, author, it's as if I wrote it !!! In the same way, I gained 20 kg, my bites were almost counted, there were constantly vicious comments, which makes you close yourself even more! I did so - I started fitness, lost 15 kg, at least now there are no comments about the weight. I started a job, one that I earn a great income for me and the second that I work 6 days a week and I have no contact with ours at all. I feel better now, try it!