Hello, I have a problem with my mother, she always controls my life, she doesn't like my friends, she tells me where it's good for me, I live and work, despite my 26 years, I can't stand my hatred. I can't talk calmly on the phone, who was it what does he want? where are you going now who? where do you go all day to the point of horror. I even recently found a job in Belgium in a small town there called Beringen, in European football, but such a scandal raised me, I was naive, I do not know what, despite the owner says to come and see her with me, but no and no, I I even saw the workplace on camera, they showed it to me, but even if he sent his passport, there was still no guarantee for my security. I don't know how to act and I really like it, so I decided to write here.
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You seem to be old enough to let your mother draw your life. Just don't let her and let her know that you are already big, independent and you have to have your own life. I think it's time to stand up to her, but I don't know if running away abroad is the right decision. Just be firm and show her that you can take care of yourself, if that's the case.
You are 26 !!! Get out of them and live somewhere alone ... She can't control your life !!!
I think your mother is very worried about you. She's not angry. My mother is the same. One day I just thought about these things and realized that she was right in many ways. I really wanted to study somewhere far from home and I did. Now I follow 200 km from my parents. My mother told me I would be sorry, but I didn't want to hear about it. I'm really sorry now, but I can't turn back time. I thought I could handle myself ... being independent, but alas, it's not as easy as I thought. I think you should listen to her. In Belgium you will be completely alone and when you have to seek help, there will be no one to turn to. You will be in a foreign place there, and you will hardly be able to set aside more money. I think you can find a lucrative job here too. My advice to you is to listen more to your mother's advice, because she wants to help you. No parent wants to harm their children. Listen to me!
I read your story very carefully and I can tell you that before the relationship with my mother was exactly the same as with you and still sataka to some extent. I know it's very annoying to bother you all the time and try to pull your strings but she does it out of love. She just can't accept the fact that you're already independent and you don't need her constant care. Instead of arguing with her, sit down and explain that you can take matters into your own hands. No matter how annoying you are, let her interfere in your life - tell her where you go and with whom, constantly ask for advice, treat her like a friend (pretend if necessary). I think that's exactly what your mother wants. For me, things should calm down, I hope it will be the same with you ...
Concerning that in Belgium his fuck, but she interferes everywhere, you can't have a phone conversation or go somewhere quietly, this one I don't know what, you won't go out with her, who called you, what she wants and the like, you always have to to hide, it does not last.
Apparently you just put up with it and listened to what your mother told you, and that's why she has such control over you
Are you 26 or 6 years old ????? I have enough stupidity and despair! True, he is a parent, he must be respected! BUT your life is yours! Take matters into your own hands and don't let it interfere like that. Tomorrow will tell you how to fuck your husband!
Hi, I have a similar problem. My mother has no one but me and since I moved out of her house, she has been living alone for 4 years. In the same way, she asks questions about everything possible and does not feel confused. He wants to know everything around me down to the smallest detail. Example: when talking to my husband and his family about his work problems, he takes an opinion without anyone asking him, which offends him as a person !!! I just don't know how to tell her she's hellishly tactless! At the same time, he is a very sensitive and supposedly resourceful person, and if I tell her directly, she will be offended with absolute certainty! Please advice.
To 8: hello, I think it's a mistake to look at your mother as a stranger, and to consider your husband and his family as your own. Don't do it just because you live with them ... It may seem to you that your mother is "annoying and confused" and says her opinion without being asked, but she is the person close to you, not you. If you haven't seen him in these 4 years, you will see him later. He mentioned that you want advice: my advice is not to reject your mother, no matter what the relationship is or where you live, no matter what.
Maybe first you need to get to know yourself, grow up, GET LITERACY and understand the more connected ones.
I fully support you and advise you not to be afraid to do what you think is right. I would go in your place and become independent. Your life is yours and it has no right to be confused with you. Unfortunately, many mothers do just that and do not feel that they are suffocating their children. The bad thing is that there are those who do it out of selfishness and think they do it for the sake of their children - in fact, it turns out that you turned 30-40 and missed so much of life. Live for yourself - not for someone. Good luck!!!
My mother is very powerful, she always wants to impose herself, my situation is similar to that of a girl who opened the topic ................ raises a crazy scandal that I did not make my bed, and this happened once in 20 years ........ he constantly finds flaws in the things I do ......, he constantly tells me that nothing happens to me, that I don't lose 5 money, and I I am a law student at Sofia University, I speak three languages - English, Italian and Greek, I have always been a child for example, she has never had problems with me, I have always come home on time, I have not communicated with the scum of society in general. I'm a decent person, I clean the apartment mainly once a week and I tell her that I don't always clean, I'm still 20, and she cleans every day ... it's terrible perfection! It burdens me when I talk on the phone, he asks me who he is, he asks me what I'm talking about with my boyfriend,