My family has known for 2-3 days that my mother is pregnant. My father and I do not want the child because we know it will be difficult because we do not have enough money to support ourselves. I am used to being an only child and it will be difficult for me to accept this change in my family. Unfortunately, my mother is 4 months pregnant and abortion is more difficult and life-threatening. I don't want anything to happen to Mom. I just want to be just the three of us, like before. I want the child to be born alive and well, but I don't want him to live with us ... I want him adopted. In 3 days I already feel like I'm going crazy. I'm hungry, but something makes me not eat. I explode for the least. I can not sleep. The worst happened earlier today while I was taking a bath ... I noticed Dad's razors and a lot of things went through my mind. I reached for them, but told myself that was not the solution. Tell me what to do. Whoever I tell, they always try to calm me down ... how this was the best thing in life, how I wouldn't be alone, etc. I don't want to have a brother with whom we have a 16-year difference !! This baby has not been born yet, but it has created so many problems for my family, not just me! I want to know what to do. Help?
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I sincerely hope the story is made up. I can't believe how this child will feel in such a family… Black Sabbath
It's not good to think like a selfish person. One day your parents will leave and you will be completely alone. But it won't be like that if you have a brother or sister by your side. Now you only think about money, that you don't have this or that because of the baby. However, you have no idea that your best friend will be born right now. No one else will love you like a brother or sister for the rest of your life. When you grow old, you will be your only support in problems, and believe me, everyone has a lot. You are small now and you only think about what to buy, but if you remove the child now, you will regret it for the rest of your life. And you will understand, but too late. I tell you this because as a child I was asked if I wanted a brother or sister and I said I didn't want to. I reacted like you and all my life I regret it, I even roar that I have no one next to me :( Don't make this mistake, accept the baby and look at him like a big poop,
And what does your mother say? Does he want it or not? Don't you think that because of a 16-year-old girl she will leave her child at home?
Calm down, boy ... It's not the end of the world, you'll manage somehow ... You'll still be a brother, don't do that to the bad one ... Think of good things and don't be selfish.
Pampered smutla without apology. You are used to everything falling on your ass and not sharing with anyone. Emmy sorry, little one, your mother doesn't ask you if you want a child, because when your father scolded you, he didn't think, he was having fun.
If the story is real I doubt YOU ARE A PITIFUL SELFISH. There is nothing better than a brother or sister. Friends are up to date. Your parents grow old and leave, and your brother and sister are your blood. The baby brings so much joy in the home and will teach you how to love something more than yourself (with you this seems impossible)
Terrified selfish and pampered! It's you ... If you have a brother or sister ... it's friendship, support, respect in love It's a sin to say it ... I hope you get smarter, wrong girl :(
And I was a little skeptical before my brother was born, which happened during a crisis. I was in the early stages of puberty and had long lived with the idea that I would be an only child. As a child, I always wanted a brother or sister, but over time I accepted that I would not have any. Then, surprise! The first week I couldn't assimilate it at all, but over time I liked the idea. In fact, I only got excited when my mother was 9 months old. Today, 8/9 years later, I can't imagine life without this little creature. Our difference is big, it is a little difficult to accept that the baby cries for everything and needs a lot of care and attention, but gets used to it. Do not think nonsense, but accept the facts. Your mother is pregnant, life and health will give birth without any problems and you will be four. The first years were more difficult financially, then it all comes down to another plate on the table (not much) and some money to buy clothes and pay fees (also not much if the finances are allocated wisely). The baby will not take away the things you have in any way. I guess even quickly you will become a big weakness. And you are 16 years old, which automatically means that by the age of 3 you will have graduated and taken your life in your hands (study or work). Between us, the birth of a baby will take your parents' attention away and they will not think of harassing you for anything. If they want you to show them a notebook every day now, in a year they'll think of asking for it every two weeks, they won't. There are many advantages. Don't think it's a bad thing. Everything changes with a new life in the family and this change is good.
I'm used to being an only child ... you're talking about murder for abortion, adoption ... Why? But dear child, it is not your fault, you have grown so much, they have brought you up like this, they have created such a worldview for you. Whatever yours sow, they will reap. My child is your age, he asks me every month if I'm pregnant because he knows we're constantly seeing doctors for it. He only jokes about the gender and says that we will return it if it is a girl and I will not change diapers. We are so hopeful at home that it will happen. You will not be less loved, on the contrary, when you enter this little innocent creature, you should all be happy. Will you feel good if your mother abandons the child and is unhappy. If you know that your sibling is adopted somewhere. Will you be satisfied? You probably have a psychologist at school, go and talk. And support your mother. Your father doesn't want the child. But a baby needs two. You will take the road fat in a few years, do not interfere, squabble and do not control the lives of others. Tomorrow will you be happy to have your child determine how you live?
It must have been the same with you. Your father didn't want you, but it was too late for an abortion. It doesn't matter what you want for other people's babies, even if they are relatives. I advise you to drink contraceptives and use condoms so as not to fall into such a situation.
How many children your parents will have is entirely their business and you have no right to hold them accountable! You have become very impudent today's young people, how can a pickle take care of its parents? It's too late for an abortion girl and your brother will be born whether you like it or not! The world can't revolve around you forever, understand! And as number 9 said, when you see the baby, you may change your mind to love him and then wonder how you could have such disgusting thoughts of being unprepared. Apparently yours has spoiled you too much, and that is their mistake, if they had brought you up more severely, you would not be such a spoiled egoist now used to becoming hers. If I had a daughter like you, I would quickly put her in order by playing the slap factory!
"But dear child, it's not your fault, you grew up like that, that's how they raised you, that's how they created your worldview." But of course, everyone is innocent, someone else is always guilty and they are not responsible for anything ...
If you are jealous of the new member of the family - Do not become selfish
What is the drama, after 2 years you move out and go to study, then work, find a man who started a family, etc. It is not only mom and dad in this world to pay attention to you and support you financially. At 16, you are old enough to think about how you will become independent and how you will form your own life. If you were 5-6, I would understand you. I personally have a brother who is 4 years younger. The child you do not want will adore you more than anything and you will be his example in life. I will listen to you more than my parents. She didn't hate him before he was born. I tell you from experience that it will make you very happy. And don't be selfish. Your mother and father make that decision. And abortion is murder, do you want that to weigh on you for life.
This jealousy is usually inherent in 2-3-4 year olds who lose mom's attention for a while. And you are so cruel, nasty, elementary, vulgar egoist that you have nowhere else to go. You are 16 years old. And you want to tell me that if your mother kisses you in front of your friends, you won't be ashamed? Or if he hugs you? Or at 16 you can't pour food? You can't run your washing machine, can't you get dressed? Do you now feel what you are afraid of? And that with your father's blades is also selfishness. Did you think what you would do to her? You want it to be good, don't you? If you were in front of my eyes, I would kick you with great pleasure, so that your mind would come to a simple head.
Well, obviously the pregnancy is unplanned. I don't believe your mother deliberately let her in. The difference of 16 years is huge in practice and you will have nothing to do with this child. Don't listen to those who explain to you that this is your blood and fuck, fuck. To have anything to do with a brother, sister, you must have grown up with him / her. This creates affection, love and everything that makes sense to have these brother or sister. In the 4th month, nothing can be done. You have no choice because it is the result of your parents' choice. It's just that your mother waited 3 months and then she told you. You will hardly get used to the new situation, but you will have to come to terms with it. It will be very difficult for you.
wow .. at 16, and you think like a 6-year-old paw, threatened not to take his toys. Of course, when the baby appears, it will reduce the care and attention to you, but you are 16 (I repeat SIXTEEN) years old. It's time to start building your own life, your own environment, friends, interests, hobbies and so on. Because he soon finished high school and started university (in the better version). Enjoy the baby, this is a new life of your kind!
Would it be nice for you to one day find yourself on the other side wanting another child, and yours to keep the most brazen account of it? To number 17: I don't agree with you and I will give you an example . The daughters of one of his sisters were almost the same age, but he was still very close to them and always helped each other in difficult times.
Your mother apparently had no intention of removing it, and that's why she didn't tell you until 4 months later. She's not stupid enough not to know she's pregnant. Then the cycle stops and it is clear why. So get used to it from now on. You will have a brother / sister.
Aloooo, little one, I have news for you. This is your mother's life, not yours. If she wants not 1 more, but 5 more she will give birth and you are not the one to tell her what to do. Besides, you're 16, what are you whining about? When you turn 18, get out of yourself and do with your life what you want, but telling your mother what and how to do with your life - this can not happen now or in 20 years, just as when you turn 18 no one will have the right to tell you what to do with yours. The child had to be given up for adoption ... you're lucky that 16 years ago someone didn't give the same idea to your mother. That you would be in a home now. Just get used to the idea that you are not the center of the universe and the whole world does not have to comply with you. Believe me, if you learn it now, it will be much easier in the future. 16 years old, on the other hand, she set out to take care of people's lives, the child - in a home, your mother - to have an abortion ... what do you think? !!
Let me give you an example, the little one has two neighbor brothers with an 11-12 year difference. The eldest is 62-3 years old and the youngest is 51. They both do not have very good feelings for each other. The big brother is an old bachelor and a freelance artist and the little one is divorced with an 18-year-old son who will soon be a high school graduate and they are full - he sells what is more valuable he sees at home attracts other people with money and works on construction sites from time to time. and do not cast him out. He almost doesn't care about his son either. The boy grew up almost without parental care and it's good that they were his older brother, his father and his late mother, otherwise I don't know what would have happened to this child. Recently, however, the older brother began to be in poor health, became immobile, softened towards him, because the same brother he called passed away, garbage and dirty bastard now cancels him chat pat in housework and takes care of his dog. So do not rush to draw conclusions because of a damaged ego, because it is not known what will happen tomorrow. Maybe this brother, who today you do not want to be born one day, will be the only person who can lend a hand to you in a difficult moment.
Well done 21. You wrote it great. But the truth is that children en masse in Bulgaria have such absurd reasoning, instilled by our mentality and people's psychology. Horror big difference, horror when you take him from the garden, People will think that you are his grandmother, horror if you die, who will look after him. These are the considerations. My girlfriend during the social was born to her mother when she was 40 and she was ashamed to have gone out with her child. What kind of people are we Bulgarians? What is this mentality? Sometimes, reading the topics here, I wonder if we live in the 21st century or not?
I write it in article 4, but ... You are depressed, seek a doctor or talk to the psychologist at your school! I understand you, it's bad that you have thoughts of abortion, but it's not just your fault! The big change turns your life upside down, but don't forget that your parents will not stop loving you and paying attention to you! And to calm you down: - If you are going to have a brother, don't forget that he will become your friend and when he grows up, he will protect you! - If you have a sister, she will understand you and entertain you like a girl. - Since it will be less than you, the child will admire you and will love you, shouting to you,, I love you, how! ,, You know, I envy you, you will be the eldest in the family, and you have a chance for a sister! And I - no, I will not explain why! And then say what happened when the baby was born: what gender is it and are you happy. I will accept it as,, thanks, for my advice! Good luck!!! One girl
If all this is true, then your mother and father have made a lot of mistakes in your upbringing. But a lot! G30
23, what is terribly true to him - these are the realities. I don't know how you imagine a mother of 50 to have a 5-6 year old child and to look at all this in class. Children want time and energy - mental and physical. There is no way a woman of 50 can be physically like a 25-30. Yes, they also need love. No one knows what will happen in his life, of course. But some things are not difficult to predict, though, if all goes well. Finally, no one wonders how children born into families with older parents feel. A child at any cost to me and a manifestation of selfishness is nothing else. Every thing at a time.
Number 26, I had a classmate whose father taught us. She is currently 25, has a 10 year older brother, and her father is almost 67, which means that she was born when he was 42. I can tell you that the professor, although with white hair, is a young man. at heart l, in step with the new times and always looking to make our lectures interesting and not as most teachers do to dictate in a monotonous lullaby. I always went to his lectures with pleasure and his hall was always full. The fact that he teaches young people may also contribute to this to some extent. And although they have a big difference, father and daughter are very close and love each other. And she was very down to earth, she never flaunted whose daughter she was.
Rejoice that this child is not yours .... Yes, they will use you to watch him. Yes, they will ignore you, but you can always drop everything and not bother. I have a child and I envy you that he will be your brother. The responsibility is not yours. Rejoice!!!!
In my opinion, they did not make a mistake in upbringing at all! They are confused in life! She is not some foreign 16-year-old pickle, but their child and they must listen to the opinion! Isn't she her child, number 4? Hey, so, to do it for fun ... No sense, it's brainless. And for lifelong friends ... That's all ... Enough drama!
About 30: Yes, but wanting to dump the baby at home is too much. He can't yesterday ... ask this of his parents and make scenes for them!
H 30, the author's parents listened to her opinion. It just goes against their wishes, and they will not comply with it. Your life is theirs, and they make decisions about it. And I don't see why you call the birth of a child brainless.
If your mother is really in her fourth month, abortion is ALREADY ILLEGAL. However, there are doctors who perform such abortions for BGN 1,000 each, but the risk is huge. Doesn't it end up like the story from The Iron Lantern, where the Sultan unwittingly kills his daughter Catherine with an abortion? If your mother has kept the fetus so far, she certainly wants to give birth to this child. And after all, you are absolutely NOBODY to decide. Your father and mother decide, and since he is already in the 4th month, there is only one option - wear and tear!
It really sucks to have little brothers, I have and it's a nightmare, because of them I can't practice the guitar and I want to play in a metal band, but I don't have to make noise to them, they always get in my way and I feel like I kick them .... they touch my things, because of them our people don't buy me many things that I need so I understand you even more that I am your age and I didn't want them either !!
Well, practice in the park, boy, you won't stop anyone from teaching you that! Many young people your age do it. It is completely normal at home, especially if you live in an apartment, that it is not comfortable to play first because of yours and secondly because of the neighbors. Look at him, the squirrel wants the world to revolve around him, how many children your parents will have is their job and you have no right to hold them accountable! Tomorrow, if you are on the side of your parents and you want a second child and yours is angry, how will you react? In addition, your life may turn so that tomorrow those brother and sister you insult will be the only people you can count on in difficult times. My neighbor also doesn't have very good feelings for his younger brother, but since he lost his health and there was no one else to take care of his dog, he has softened towards him.
"Brother doesn't feed his brother, but it's hard for him who doesn't have it" people have rightly said. What is a child ....... nothing. It is completely normal for people to have twins, although with a big difference. Mine are 10 years old. difference and I have never regretted it. They are looking for each other, sharing and helping each other in life. Let there be more Bulgarian people in this country, that's how it went. At one time, people even in poverty and wars still had 6-7 children. to be alone ..... let go of selfishness and materialism.
I'm 36, 35, how will I practice with an electric guitar in the park, are you okay ?? Of course, I will take care of them, as they cannot provide for one child and everything they need, why do they do more? I need a place to play, I want a motorcycle, I want amplifiers, I need as many things for my future as I want, but I can't! Because of them! Because our people spend their money on them and they don't care about me! They screw up my life, if I didn't have them I would be much better. Where will every parent have as many children as he wants, thus ruining the life of his first child? I can't love someone who just bothers me!
The girl is right. They have no money and they are making a new baby. She thinks logically, and you judge her.
Wow kids, I'm just wondering! If the child was given up for adoption, it was a nightmare, there was no way to do what you wanted ... well, do you think that one day everything will come back to you? That one day this child will be your age, and you will be a lot older and I will say "that my old sister's bag" or "that uncle who is supposed to be my brother" prevent him from having a party or living as he wants . Will you be very goth, huh? And for 30-40 years when your parents leave and this is your only blood relative I will not talk. Then you can appreciate how nice it is to have a brother or sister. But you can understand it with that lapel's mind. You claim that you are very big, you want to be treated as such, and you behave, incl. and the author, but also some of the commenters, as at 6. At 6 to be jealous, that mom and dad ignore you because of the baby, understandably, however, at 16? !! Also, look at it from the good side. Yours will be terribly busy with the baby and will not have time for you, ie to watch you closely when you go out, when you come home and what is your assessment of the control. Well, it's true that babies roar and it's not pleasant, but it's a negligible price compared to the fact that no one will grind you for grades, and in 30 years you will have a close person to support you. I myself have a younger sister and honestly she made me angry and we argued that we even seemed to have fought as children, but now I am infinitely happy to have her! You have no idea what a treasure it is, but simply blinded by your selfishness you do not see it. Well, someday you'll see it, but I hope it's not too late. Yours will be terribly busy with the baby and will not have time for you, ie to watch you closely when you go out, when you come home and what is your assessment of the control. Well, it's true that babies roar and it's not pleasant, but it's a negligible price compared to the fact that no one will grind you for grades, and in 30 years you will have a close person to support you. I myself have a younger sister and honestly she made me angry and we argued that we even seemed to have fought as children, but now I am infinitely happy to have her! You have no idea what a treasure it is, but simply blinded by your selfishness you do not see it. Well, someday you'll see it, but I hope it's not too late. Yours will be terribly busy with the baby and will not have time for you, ie to watch you closely when you go out, when you come home and what is your assessment of the control. Well, it's true that babies roar and it's not pleasant, but it's a negligible price compared to the fact that no one will grind you for grades, and in 30 years you will have a close person to support you. I myself have a younger sister and honestly she made me angry and we argued that we even seemed to have fought as children, but now I am infinitely happy to have her! You have no idea what a treasure it is, but simply blinded by your selfishness you do not see it. Well, someday you'll see it, but I hope it's not too late. that no one will grind you for grades, and in 30 years you will have a close person to support you. I myself have a younger sister and honestly she made me angry and we argued that we even seemed to have fought as children, but now I am infinitely happy to have her! You have no idea what a treasure it is, but simply blinded by your selfishness you do not see it. Well, someday you'll see it, but I hope it's not too late. that no one will grind you for grades, and in 30 years you will have a close person to support you. I myself have a younger sister and honestly she made me angry and we argued that we even seemed to have fought as children, but now I am infinitely happy to have her! You have no idea what a treasure it is, but simply blinded by your selfishness you do not see it. Well, someday you'll see it, but I hope it's not too late.
36 And did the little one think that your money is not shoveled and for them it is more important to be fed and clothed than to buy you expensive things? In addition, I have seen people in the parks with electric guitars as well as on Vitoshka. He hasn't earned a penny in his life, but he wants expensive things that are impossible for his parents, look at him! Do you realize that you can beat or clean yourself with the bike? When you become independent and start working then you will buy whatever you want to see how the money is made, that it is the easiest way to do it! If I raised such an ungrateful man like you, I would beat him every day until he came to his senses and send him to work in the summer!
40 - a very wise monologue! Let children be made who will be caregivers of old people tomorrow, rural mentality. And the quote from the song "Everything Returns", you play it very pseudo. The child explains that theirs has no money! You first praise the people who, without thinking, make more children and can't support them. And then there are you, whining about how rude the young were. The girl has an observation of how things are in her house. This is not jealousy, she is already 16, she is too big to be jealous.
41 I have the right to ask them and it is their duty to give it to me, when you make a child you have to judge what he will need, not only to have something to eat and dress, I am not a pet I only need to eat , of course I want things I like. As long as I start working, why do you have children at all when you want to get minors to go babbling ?? That you're talking about a fight? So that's why you make children if they want you to blow them up and then send them to tremble. Great parents !! I will tell you something because of your pleasure while you made them, the children are not obliged to suffer and be deprived of the most important thing for them, and even if they live, you can give birth to new ones again! From 38
I gave birth to two children one after the other. We lived hard. But I raised them as humans. When they got up in the upper grades, they saved, worked in the summer ... One of my sons is a musician and an athlete. He bought his own tools. He never waited for me. Anyone who plays music knows that good instruments are expensive. My child has been deprived a lot. It raised money all year round for a guitar or amp. I repeat, we lived quite sparsely, we did not give money for lessons. Alone, alone, alone ... With a lot of support and motivation from me. I cared terribly about my children's talents. The big one had a voice - having? Don't go on with music in another field now. Finance gives him leadership. The result. Two children almost like twins. Loving and supporting each other. Fortunately for me, even where I blame myself for not being a good parent, they say - only what we are is from you. There is no greater recognition. One works abroad and is professionally involved in amateur music with power sports. The other manager in an international company. Come on now Drislov wipe your buttocks and do not give inclination to the genitals of your parents. Because in those years you have sex (it's a sex ole male), and you behave like princesses from a badly invented animation!
Hey Hello! I was in the same situation, only with my cousin. I thought that everyone would pay attention only to him, that they would forget me ... but. This has happened to some extent, but now I am so happy. 8 years later I have a great cousin who can replace everyone - but no one! Yes, he is not my brother. He is more than my brother !!! One day you will think so, calm down ... - Girl, 13
I had a classmate, although his parents were well off financially and he and his sister were not deprived of anything. He preferred to fight for his life on his own, and as soon as he became an adult he began working on construction sites and at the same time delivering pizzas. Sam bought his first car with the money made during the summer vacation, and he didn't wait for mom and dad to be pampered like you, although he could ask for them, but his parity was sweeter when he made them himself! He currently lives and works abroad and is still struggling with life ALONE. My colleague and friend from university also struggles with life alone, although theirs are also wealthy and have their own business. And negotiate the spelling that you make elementary mistakes!
Instead of grumbling that yours doesn't buy you a motorcycle, get literate, that it's a shame at the age of 16 to make elementary spelling mistakes! With such a spelling you will receive expensive gifts for a cuckoo summer!
you are a little selfish muffin. it is on this side is more than inhuman, it is reprehensible. shame on you! and how can I tell you, your mother and father definitely know for a long time that you are expecting a baby .... it is not something you can hide for 4 months .... separately You and your father do not want the baby because of financial reasons ? please? Do you earn that money at home to know what your financial situation is and to determine what you can and can't do? Instead of being your mother's support and stable shoulder, you chirp and pretend to be a jealous teen. Do you think that it is easy for your mother and father with a teenager who is just looking for a reason to complain about how misunderstood and how unhappy he is in this life. isn't it? she will commit suicide because her mother will have a baby ... this is complete nonsense. instead of helping the family, you become an additional burden to them. I started my first job at 15, so that I could support me, my mother, my brother and my grandmother, because my mother and brother started a business and we had nothing until it worked. we didn't even have bread. If I chirped - no, I got to work and helped them. you do not deserve these parents, nor the roof over your head that they give you, nor to have a brother / sister. family is the best thing in the world, you don't deserve it
Hello author, a girl of 16 writes to you and I will tell you that having a brother or sister is a very good thing and I am the only child in the family, but since I was little I want to have a brother or sister but I can't, that you will have a brother or sister is a very nice thing, obviously you are a selfish person who thinks only of herself and does not want this child, because there would be no attention or her parents would satisfy her, this in years may be your best friend with whom to share such things that I wouldn't even share with you, I'm very sorry that I don't have a brother or sister and now I really want to have it true that they won't pay so much attention to you, but there are a lot of positive things, it will be with you one day when you have problems you realize but late ...Plus, you have no right to tell your parents what to do with their lives, they can do whatever they want, and you will have to accept the fact that you will have a brother or sister, because our people did not ask me if I wanted to have brother or sister, however, I have wanted a brother or sister since I was a child so that I can share my problems with him, because it will be something much more expensive for you than a friend ... but you are a selfish person who thinks only of her and that how her parents look at her as a princess ...but you are a selfish person who thinks only of herself and how her parents should look at her as a princess ...but you are a selfish person who thinks only of herself and how her parents should look at her as a princess ...
To number 35 I am a girl of 16 and I even envy this selfish and duck who does not want a brother or sister I ENVY Ѝ BECAUSE I AM THE ONLY CHILD AND NOW IT IS VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME I HAVE A LOT OF PROBLEMS AND I HAVE NO FRIEND she has an older sister and her sister always protects and supports her even in such moments when your parents don't understand you there is another girl and a boy who have sisters and their difference is 15 years but they love them very much I can't believe that there is such selfish people as you and the author, I envy you, I hope one day you come back because having a brother or sister is a very good thing ...
I'm just a kid and I've always liked that. It is not true that I am selfish - if I have a partner I always comply with him. I'm quite lonely, which I don't think is a minus, because in a lot of situations I know how to handle myself. About sharing - I don't like to share with relatives, anyway ... So don't blame the author, if you get used to being independent then it's hard to be with other people. PS I am 31 years old.
I'm 53 .. 54 you're wrong here it's not about sharing it's about because this little drisla wants this child to give it to me for adoption if some time ago they gave this idea to your mother huh? now you would not be with her so others have every right to blame her ..
I have always wanted to have a brother or sister, but it never happened because my mother became pregnant again a few months after I was not ready for a second child and had an abortion, it happened in those hungry years at the dawn of democracy . To this day, I wonder what it would have been like if this child had been born. It has always been hard for me to see how other people around me are close to their siblings and how they share how they support each other. I always wanted the focus not to always fall on me, especially when I do something stupid or fail at something, to have someone to share what torments me and someone to lean on in a difficult moment, to have someone to cover me sometimes in front of ours as well as I him / her.