In short - I am a 23-year-old girl. I have one month left to graduate from the University. Until now I was dependent on my parents, they paid me everything and supported me, but I really wanted to find a job. So I found a job - it's not related to my diploma, it's not my specialty, but it's like a hobby and the money is really good. My husband is very happy for me, because this way I will help the family and I will be more independent and I will not live on the edge of misery waiting for ours. I was very happy for the job offer, because so far there was none, and it is difficult. I decided to share with my mother and she started screaming at me. He always reacts like that. She wants me to study my specialty and finish first ... I was going to fail my exams, etc ... I don't know what to do. On the one hand my husband supports me and gives me courage, on the other hand my mother shouts at me,
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I didn't understand what your question was specifically. But in the situation, in my opinion, continue to work, it is not said that it should be in the specialty. And don't listen to your mother, whatever her intentions, you are already an adult and married and she has no right to tell you what to do. And as a mother she should be happy for you, don't bother, in this case you are not guilty of anything. It's your mother who has to apologize for her behavior. Next time, try to explain to her that she is important to you and you don't want to hurt her, but life is yours and things don't depend on her. Because if you give up what you want one day you will regret it.
Hello - first congratulations on your work! Don't listen to your mother at all - start! I studied regularly in and I worked regularly and I did it again, and you have little left, you will do it! It will be much easier for you than if you wait for graduation - then everyone from your recruitment enters the labor market and the competition is fierce. I'll tell you how my husband did - they offered him a job 1 year before graduation. THE WORK WAS FOR A GRADUATE. He said they had not yet sent him a diploma from the university, but he had graduated. He studied and worked without a diploma for a whole year! It was quite hot, because in the end he had to write his dissertation, but he was already in a very high position and had no time other than work. His boss gave him leave because he thought the man was crazy - he worked all day and no results (he wrote his diploma). The term for the diploma passed, he owed it to the max. In the end, he even excused himself by mail - he sent her the job by mail ... What happens in the end - well, he graduated with honors, he made a career, and he got a job on a permanent contract! Don't listen to your mother - their generation doesn't get these things very much. With 20-30% unemployment among young people, it is a crime to refuse a job, especially desirable and well paid. The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my own choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27 In the end, he even justified himself with the mail - he sent her the job by mail ... What happens in the end - well, he graduated with honors, he made a career, and he was provided with a job on a permanent contract! Don't listen to your mother - their generation doesn't get these things very much. With 20-30% unemployment among young people, it is a crime to refuse a job, especially a desirable and well-paid one. The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my own choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27 In the end, he even justified himself with the mail - he sent her the job by mail ... What happens in the end - well, he graduated with honors, he made a career, and he was provided with a job on a permanent contract! Don't listen to your mother - their generation doesn't get these things very much. With 20-30% unemployment among young people, it is a crime to refuse a job, especially a desirable and well-paid one. The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27 both a career makes and a job provided on a permanent contract! Don't listen to your mother - their generation doesn't get these things very much. With 20-30% unemployment among young people, it is a crime to refuse a job, especially a desirable and well-paid one. The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my own choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27 both a career makes and a job provided on a permanent contract! Don't listen to your mother - their generation doesn't get these things very much. With 20-30% unemployment among young people, it is a crime to refuse a job, especially desirable and well paid. The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27 The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27 The higher is not to work in the specialty, but to learn to study, to be a scientist. The rest are details. Watch your interests. I decided to support myself in order to be a master of my own life, to make my own choices and to bear the consequences. Respect your parents, but don't let them make the choice for you, because the consequences are always at your expense !!! ж27
Don't miss the opportunity because it combines two very important things - making money from something you like to do. Eli
Don't pick up the phone, finish, earn a super high salary and one day, knead something tasty or buy a bouquet of flowers, visit her and say: Thank you for not believing in me, it gave me the strength to fight everything !!
FROM THE AUTHOR: Thank you for the advice! Mainly I don't seem to have a question, maybe - Should I listen to my mother or myself? What should I do? But you have already helped me a lot, you have given me the support that my mother does not give me ... She has some ideals, she is competing with another family - whether their daughter will be more learned or I ... which is stupid! I have a husband, I will graduate in 1 month, I know that I will manage, because I studied regularly, I have taken all the exams and I have not missed a single one. Only now I have a summer session in June, but I have only 1 more serious exam, which I studied regularly during the semester. And we are not so busy at the state exam and we have learned things, I will just negotiate. My mother's words are that I have to get my diploma, graduate and then get to work, and then drive a master's degree, which is only Friday, I will work on Saturday and Sunday. I was going to decide which exercises to go to and I'll do it again ... but I don't think that then I will also have exams like now and it won't be much different .... The work doesn't require higher education, in general you shake your legs all day and take BGN 600, which is good for a young man nowadays ... I feel crushed, I've been waiting for them all my life, I'm young, I have a husband and I don't have self-confidence because I drive with some meager money given to me by ours ... instead of making a living and feeling good that I can buy what I need .... Thank you again ... I would take more advice, dear people! :( in general, you shake your legs all day and take BGN 600, which is good for a young person nowadays ... I feel overwhelmed, I've been waiting for them all my life, I'm young, I have a husband and I don't have self-confidence because me from ours ... instead of making money and feeling good that I can buy what I need .... Thank you again ... I would take more advice, dear people! :( in general, you shake your legs all day and take BGN 600, which is good for a young person nowadays ... I feel overwhelmed, I've been waiting for them all my life, I'm young, I have a husband and I don't have self-confidence because I drive with some meager money me from ours ... instead of making money and feeling good that I can buy what I need .... Thank you again ... I would take more advice, dear people! :(
From number 1 Well, I'm glad you decided to work. And one more thing to tell you, if you prove yourself at work, this will be just the beginning - you will have a good CV, recommendations !!! Of course you can handle it. You are not the first and the last, we have worked during the whole study and we have only benefited from it. I don't know how meaningful this master's degree is, you know, but one thing is obligatory - catch and learn at least one English. German and Russian are preferred, but English is REQUIRED. For many young Bulgarians, it is not the master's degree, but the ignorance of the language that is the stumbling block for further realization. Forget about your mother's sick ambitions, watch your life!
AUTHOR: I talked to my mother calmly, I managed to make her listen to me, but she grumbled. Lately she behaves like a small child, she always wants to be paid attention to her, she doesn't want to give it, she is offended at the very least ... She told me to do what I want, but it spoils my mood enough and I'm kind of naughty .. Thanks once again for the tips !!!
It's very funny to me that "I have a husband" and repeated it several times. As "you have a husband", isn't it better for him to support you and to make a distribution of family finances and who should work and who shouldn't. What else do you interfere with your parents and their financial support. You are already a separate family once you get married and it is not right to extort money from your mother. As long as they give the money, they will have the right to vote and try to impose themselves on you. It's always been that way - whoever pays, he orders the music.
№6, I wrote the first comment, why do you say it's you ?? Next to the author, it's good that you got along with your mother. I guess after a while it will pass and things between you will be smoothed out, I wish you a successful completion :)
Number 8, you didn't understand well, the author WANTS to work and earn her own money, but her mother won't let her. This is the funny thing about the whole thing ... You both give money, you complain that you give, and you don't want your child to make only his money ... Dumb job.
I have the same situation, I study regularly in a not very big city, there are not many job advertisements for part-time students, and I do not have the support of my mother to start work even though I have no money. Her words are that I should take my education in my hands, and this torments me, and that I have no money and I can't work because it deters me and controls me and I can't take anything in my hands because it will criticize me for not being able to to cope and I lose hope and give up.
Be a little more independent than your mother !!! I am a student and I work ... At the moment my work requires me to be available 24 hours a day - literally and seriously, sometimes I don't rest on the weekends, but I know that this helps me pay my expenses and not depend on from their parents, and not to "weigh" on them. My specialty is complex and very voluminous, so to speak and it's really difficult for me, but I manage because I have ambitions, so you have nothing to listen to your mother, given that you obviously live separately and are married ... braver..