Hello! In short: My mother receives various messages that she hides. Months ago, I came across a chat in which they exchanged flowers with a man. Yesterday someone wrote to her on Skype, I wanted to find out who he was, but she refused to show me and quickly left her account. What to do? I love her, I don't want to cause her problems with my father (who on the other hand is harassing her mentally at the moment, and at the time there were moments of physical harassment), but I am infinitely confused. I'm already afraid of going really crazy, because in recent years life hasn't given me anything good, and that's the cover.
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I know how you feel. You're not going crazy, sense ... Everyone would be mistaken if they found out they lived in a lie. I have already experienced this feeling for the same reason, it is really depressing. I will try to give you adequate advice - live your life. Don't let your parents' relationships interfere with you and ruin your psyche. And as for whether he is cheating - even if so, do nothing. Not to tell you, there's obviously a reason.
After you admit that she was harassed mentally, and it happened physically by your father, what is the problem for your wife (because besides your mother she is a woman, a man) to have her secret happiness from the exchange at the moment? Don't you think that you deserve to feel what it is like to be loved, respected, valued by someone? Your father will go to bed sooner or later. Be thankful that he tolerates it at all, most likely because of you. If you are close to adulthood, you will soon take your own path, your own life, and she will have to continue hers, God forbid, alone or with a person who treats her similarly.
Don't despair, many women today are such rubbish. They have done this in the past, but they have done it without anyone understanding them. Now they are so dumb that they do it in the lowest way. Here you see, a supposedly mature woman, and she posts everything on the Internet. Isn't this a stupid woman? And if she was smart, she would fuck secretly, and no one would know, and now her child is suffering. I blame her, not because she does, but because she does it in the dumbest way. But apparently she is so smart, that's why her husband's attitude is like that. "If she sat still, she wouldn't see a miracle."
He looks after his work
By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. Let them handle this. And another thing - there is nothing scary in infidelity. In most families, such things happen all the time. For example, in my pedigree, almost all men have constantly cheated on their wives, but no one has divorced and no one has suffered. There was no tension. So, infidelity accepts them as a widespread reality.
Leave things like that. If there has been violence, you risk your mother's health. If she takes good care of you, leave this world of hers to her. Happy Holidays! :) F 28
Don't interfere where you don't care. Your mother has the right to privacy and privacy; before she was a mother and wife, she was a human being. However, harassment by your father is a very bad thing. Is there no one to seek help from? Close relatives? Maybe chatting with this friend is your mother's "escape." However, if you can't do something to stop the harassment, don't take it away. I sympathize with you and hope things will work out for you, but I tell you again, do not interfere in your mother's personal affairs and in no case share your worries with your father. If there has been physical harassment before, it is possible that it will happen again. In general, otherwise such internet friendships fade with time.
Talk to each other in private. Don't ask her directly. If you place it, she will tell you ... And you told her that you can't stand it ...
Talk to each other in private. It's simple!
Leave her alone, it's none of your business. The woman should have left your father, since she didn't, let her at least have some side joy.
Boy, don't listen to what number 3 is telling you! Your mother was rubbish! Garbage is number 3! Everyone has the right to make mistakes and correct their mistakes! What your mother or father does is their job, not yours! You remember one thing: No matter what your parents do, they will always love you! And you want to judge them out of love! It's none of your business what they do! Do you never make mistakes and have you made mistakes for me, so you judge?
You write that your father harassed her both mentally and physically. Now think, isn't your mother entitled to happiness? Isn't she entitled to be loved? So if my mother was in a similar situation, I would fully understand her. Everyone needs love and respect, but unfortunately sometimes they don't find them in their family, so I fully justify your mother. She thought that maybe these friends were the only thing that sustained her and gave her the strength to keep living and fighting. Or do you prefer to fall into complete depression, get sick and God forbid take your life? For women victims of harassment, such a chat is a necessity. This gives her self-confidence and strength.
tell your father! tell him!
Leave her - she knows what she wants. Take care of your things. Let her be happy if she wants to.
your mother even had to divorce when there was violence. n3 is a fool, he may be a bully. Her husband's relationship is not an attitude, but violence. Everyone hates bullies