Hello, I want to share here what worries me and ask for advice from you. I am a sophomore nurse. I do very well with the university, as I did very well at school, I even graduated with excellent results. Well, my mother and I have had many conflicts about not comparing me to people who study medicine, because she often did, so today it was about that again. My father said: Why don't you become a doctor? He jokes, and I get very annoyed when they tell me so, because the first thing is that I never wanted this and the second - I didn't even try to apply to be accepted. I say this because if, for example, I had wanted this thing and they had not accepted me, it would have been more appropriate for them to make any comments. And today, when my father said that, she thought about it and said, "Well, this is not easy. "It's as if he underestimates me and doesn't believe in my abilities. It hurt me a lot and we quarreled. I want advice from you, how would you react in such a situation, how would you feel, how should I deal with it?"
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Your parents want you to be a doctor, for reasons and for which you can think of yourself. Everyone knows that applying for medicine is quite competitive. This is the reason why they talk to you like that. They believe that after being an excellent student you could to become a doctor. Eventually. Such are the parents - they worry about their children and want the best they can. Children usually cannot realize this, and when they can, it is too late. What can you do after you have already chosen to be honey. a nurse, not a doctor? Well, talk to them seriously and explain to them that they will leave you alone.
When I was in my 20s, my parents also teased me why I didn't apply for a doctor, how prestigious and well paid it was, etc., but I applied for what I wanted and now I work in my specialty and I'm happy with the job. your (money, nature of work). Follow your dreams and desires, parents will understand it in time
Don't take it in, it's not easy, there is responsibility, you learn a lot and you need a lot of money. She didn't say you couldn't. I am also honey. sister, I wish you success.
I had similar problems - In short, the last time I lied, I just left and didn't call for 11 months. Then we met, talked and the relationship changed for the better.
Well, they are your parents, they have known you since they were children and they have decided that you are not intelligent enough to become a Doctor. It's really not easy and your mother is right. And since you graduated with honors from high school, why didn't you enroll to become a Doctor. Nurse and Doctor are medical professions, but you seem to feel that you have no intellectual potential for a Doctor. Your parents don't underestimate you, they just see your level, and why you get annoyed. Prove to them that you are up for something more when you are so confident in yourself.
Being a nurse is not easy either! The tension and responsibility are not small either! I'm also a student, also a medical major, and I've been told why I didn't enroll in medicine years ago, that I could have done more and so on, but I enrolled in a "less prestigious" major because that was what I really wanted. I just listened to myself. I think you did the right thing. There are countless examples of people taking the path their parents insisted on - the result is not very good. As for your mother's insinuations - try not to pay attention to that. Rarely do people who don't have a glimpse of the true work of health professionals actually realize how much character, patience, and dedication it takes to go down this path at all! The nursing profession is anything but easy and irresponsible, nor is it less worthy of respect than the doctor's! Good luck, author!
Author, why do you waste your time on nonsense? Let your mother talk to herself about whatever she wants - hit her completely ignore and don't let her drain your energy! Follow your path and don't care at all! I so stretched on my choice of high school and university, I do not regret anything! Now everything is ok, she is happy for me, and yours may come to her senses! Success! And number 5 should first see his own level and then comment!
Number 5, the question is not to prove something, why do I have to take any step in my life, to do something I don't want to do, just to prove something to someone? As for whether my parents know me, I'm not so sure. Because I really know I could only if I wanted to. I don't think I'm intelligent enough for that, on the contrary, but that's not my goal in life, nor has it ever been a dream. But if my mother really thinks such things about me, it hurts me because my own parents don't appreciate me, it makes me wonder if they really know me.
Your parents are right. You graduated with honors from high school and had the potential for a better education. You have chosen to become a nurse, which always means a second violin - both in the hierarchy and in the pay, after the doctors. Explain to them your motives for choosing this specialty. Prove to them that this is a conscious decision made by you and why it was made.
And honey for me. years ago my sister advised me when she realized that I was interested in medicine .. She said "if you are going to enroll, study for a doctor, not for a nurse which I chose. "I still remember her words.