Hello. I am a 13 year old girl. I wrote several times about this problem of mine and titled it with different titles, but not once did they publish my story. I will be very grateful if you do it this time, because I am ashamed (or rather afraid) to share it with my relatives and here, because it is anonymous, I am calmer. So ... in October (2014) I met a boy from my school. I knew him a long time ago, because he is in one of the neighboring classes, and I have been staying with them for 3 years, because my class are complete idiots ..: e Although we are in neighboring classes, he had no idea who I was. In October he ... I don't remember exactly what, but he had done something very funny at school and I asked a friend how his Facebook was. She gave it to me and I looked at his profile and noticed that he had posted a status for an opinion and I liked it. I didn't expect him to write to me because he looked bloated, but he wrote to me.
So I liked statuses a few times and he wrote to me, but I didn't dare to write to him either, I just said a 'thank you' to him, but one day I dared and we started a conversation. He turned out to be very kind. I started to like him .. and considering that I didn't have boyfriends and so far I didn't like others, I became too attached to him .. Now .. one or two months ago (February 2015) he wrote to me, we quarreled and I cried. I've been crying every night since. It became a habit. Many times my mother noticed that I was crying, but I always excused myself that my eyes were watering from the laptop. Three friends told me they were cutting themselves. I wanted to try it and I liked it. And now I can't stop. I feel like doing it .. Mom understood and made me promise to stop, but today I cut myself again, but this time my legs. I don't know why I do it, I just like it so much. I became very attached to him, and he hates me ... he ignores me ... and he hates me and that drives me crazy. Mom realized that I cut myself again and told me that I was a psychiatrist and just called me and insulted me like: idiot, idiot, poor thing, idiot, etc. I can not stand .. I want to ask you: What can I say to the boy to apologize to him, because just 'apologize' doesn't work. How do I get my mom to stop hitting and insulting me? Am I a psychiatrist? How would you act in my place? PP I will be very happy if you publish my story this time. Thank you! and he hates me and that drives me crazy.
Mom realized that I cut myself again and told me that I was a psychiatrist and just called me and insulted me like: idiot, idiot, poor thing, idiot, etc. I can not stand .. I want to ask you: What can I say to the boy to apologize to him, because just 'apologize' doesn't work. How do I get my mom to stop hitting and insulting me? Am I a psychiatrist? How would you act in my place? PP I will be very happy if you publish my story this time .. Thank you! and he hates me and that drives me crazy. Mom realized that I cut myself again and told me that I was a psychiatrist and just called me and insulted me like: idiot, idiot, poor thing, idiot, etc. I can not stand .. I want to ask you: What can I say to the boy to apologize to him, because just 'apologize' doesn't work. How do I get my mom to stop hitting and insulting me? Am I a psychiatrist? How would you act in my place? PP I will be very happy if you publish my story this time ..
Thank you! ? How do I get my mom to stop hitting and insulting me? Am I a psychiatrist? How would you act in my place? PP I will be very happy if you publish my story this time .. Thank you! ? How do I get my mom to stop hitting and insulting me? Am I a psychiatrist? How would you act in my place? PP I will be very happy if you publish my story this time .. Thank you!
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Girl, how are you going to cut yourself because of someone who doesn't deserve your attention. I understand that you cry, that you are sad, but even if you cut yourself and like it. I don't know if your mother is right that you are a psychiatrist, but when you say that you can't stop, you definitely need to share with someone. And what are these friends who tell you to get tired. Your mother is not right because she insults you, because you have to approach your problem with understanding. You can reach masochism with this attitude towards yourself. If you don't have people to share your worries with, it might not be a bad idea to go to a specialist. And as for the boy in question, because of which you become self-righteous, it's just not worth it. If he doesn't appreciate you and the stars to take him down again, he will ignore you. Forget it and stop cutting, that's my only advice!
What drugs are you on? !!
Yes - for your psychiatrist. You are not the first girl to fall in love, but the last one so that she lowers her self-esteem a little ...
Well, to be honest, you're really mentally ill. You have a problem and it's called obsession, you'll soon start looking at this boy's garbage in the buckets. Really go to a psychiatrist.
Yes, you are a psychologist, but you are not a psychiatrist because you are not crazy. You take things very deep, people with a weak psyche resort to self-harm ... That's why you need a psychologist to listen to you and relieve your soul. Your mother insulted you because she was worried about you. She didn't think all this, but when you see your child being cut in the head, terrible thoughts arise. Forget about this boy, why are you ruining your life for a loser? He doesn't think about you, and you will make fun of him and you will roar and cut yourself for him. In any case, you can feel so bad from puberty and everything. But at 13, don't think you've lost your true love, because a chat means nothing. Forget it and continue on your way, you will take a little more to kill yourself for a garbage!
Everyone has suffered love disappointments. You are a more fragile, sensitive and vulnerable soul, that's why you take things so inward. First, clarify with the boy. Explain the problem to him. Be honest with him, apologize to him. I hope they are fixed! Second, talk to your mother. Tell her that you need her support, that you don't like her insulting you. That you know you're wrong, and you need her to help you. She is your mother, I hope she understands you and is by your side. Third, stop hurting yourself. Cutting is not a solution! It will only create more problems for you and depress you. Fourth, go to a psychologist. Calm down, there is a difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist. The psychologist is not for crazy people, but for people with problems. You have to go to school if you want to go private. He will help you! You are neither stupid nor miserable. You're just confused. And in love. You will still face love disappointments and vicissitudes of life. You don't have to take it all in. And to look at life with a smile. He seeks joy in small things as well. Good luck. :) ^. ^ Girl, 14 years old
Yes, for your psychiatrist. Listen, your mother is right, this is for a psychiatrist. You need help.
Stop cutting yourself. Stop apologizing to the boy. Start talking to your mother that you do not want him to address you with insulting words, but you want understanding and a desire for dialogue. Stop thinking about the boy. Start thinking about the future and that you will still communicate with boys with whom it is worth communicating. At this age, it is normal for all boys to be frivolous. Use the moment to build inner strength, understanding and calmness in such situations. No one said life would be champagne and roses. Everyone has difficult situations.
I apologize for my sharp opinion in advance. It was a girl, are you normal? Where has your mind gone? How are you going to cut yourself like that because of a boy? Please tighten up and don't terrify your mother, because the woman must have been shocked to learn. I understand what's wrong with you, etc., but you don't have to cut yourself for anything in the world, much less because of a boy who ignores you. Recover. The world does not end with him. You are only 13. You have yet to fall in love, to face the sting of love (it sounds stupid, doesn't it? But to a certain extent it is so), etc. Please be at least a little reasonable and don't nonsense. Just keep going !!
You're somewhere for a psychiatrist. ;) You are 13 !!! Yes, you can have a boyfriend. You are not so small ... but to cut yourself .... remember that life is 1 and you have to live it well !!! Your friends are full of hooks;) to cut themselves .. don't be like them .. think about how many good moments you have to ruin now .. stop, show your mother that you have changed, and about the boy ... find a way to show him you're suffering. Success! : * / * kattie-music * /
About cutting ... the request passes after a while. I tell you this from personal experience. I'm emo (I don't know if you know what that means, but it doesn't matter) and I'm 14. I cut myself at your age, just a lot of things piled up and so, I relaxed, but over time I did it more and more often. My arms and legs hurt (I cut myself there) and I was always cold - from the loss of blood. At physical education school, I was ridiculed for being cut and eventually stopped doing so. Don't worry you're not a psychiatrist. Over 70% of teenagers cut or have cut themselves. :)
You're not even a psychiatrist. But it would not be bad to visit a psychologist. There is a difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist !!! You are still young, you do not understand what mistake you are making. At this age, even the smallest problem seems like the end of the world, but it's not. At your age, I did this stupid thing about cutting for a boy, and now I see what a fool I was. At the moment, I don't even want to look at boys (I'm 16, if that matters). As for your mother ... Her approach to you is wrong. Apart from talking to her as a big girl, I see no other option. And the boy ... tell him how you feel and that you're sorry, if he doesn't help, leave him, there will be other boys. Success! :-)
For the boy - if he sticks to you he will forgive you, if not - you will know that it just doesn't make sense (why are there people who don't care about you) And for cutting - why do you do it? !! Find a new reason to be happy and forget this nonsense! Your mother should support you, not insult you, so don't put your words too deep. I don't know about a psychiatrist, but you can visit a psychologist of your own free will - there's nothing wrong with that and it doesn't mean you're crazy. Personally, I had to walk and believe me - people help. Success! :)
Hello :) .. I am 14 and I would like to give you advice. So I went through exactly the same path. Even a friend just told me that it was as if I had written this. I cut myself, I cried. But this is temporary. And I will ask you to stop doing it. Not worth it. At the moment I'm thinking and wondering why I cut myself for someone who used to be mine and not now. You will realize that this is a mistake and you will see that it is stupid to cut yourself for nonsense. And I will advise you to leave this apology. If he has any sympathy for you, he will look for you himself. :)
Relax! I understand that now it seems like something very big, but in time it will not be so. Most teenagers go through such periods. Stop cutting yourself and you will see that it will get better. By itself. And if you can help your girlfriends stop. Self-harm is not a solution. Try to reconcile with this boy by simply apologizing to him. Don't show a lot of emotions, because that way you can repel him. And if he doesn't accept the apology, then it's not worth the effort. Try to talk to your mother and tell her what you are going through to calm you down. Success! :)
In my opinion, your act is quite stupid ... there is no point in cutting yourself and I don't think that you are a psychiatrist, just stop doing it, because it can become a scourge :)
Well, you seem to be a psychiatrist, and a CHILD psychologist. Your mother is very simple when she insults you, because you are still young, you have made a mistake, you should be scolded, but not insulted. and she is a psychologist, taking you, tell him what you share here, there is nothing shameful, in other countries it is even fashionable to walk, so you unload, but not a psychiatrist, the psychiatrist treats the mentally ill with drugs, and you do not such a diagnosis. And stop cutting that it's a bit perverted. If the boy found out about the cut, maybe that's why he avoids you, I hate that. How much the world has changed in the last 15-20 years ... horror. At the age of 13 I was still playing with dolls, and for boyfriends and bars we didn't even think that it could happen to us at our age ... I'm sorry for the young generation that they don't have a childhood!
Your mother will stop behaving like that if you stop cutting yourself. If you continue like this, you are definitely a psychiatrist! Try to paint where you will cut. Whatever comes to mind. Butterflies, flowers or whatever you like.
I read laughter again. Only the insane went to a psychiatrist. Alcoholics and drug addicts are crazy, but they are also treated by psychiatrists. If your instinct for self-preservation doesn't work, you're a psychiatrist-doctor. Not someone who graduated in psychology from a university to work as a psychotherapist. This is yours from idleness, it also causes vices. Poor parents, what children they like from the genetic lottery! M50
Abe number 11 you're not in class! 70% but another time !!! Just because your friends did it doesn't mean everyone is like you!
It's normal to feel sick after all, he's your first love, but that doesn't mean it. that you have to cut yourself for him. Once you've had a fight, talk to him and try to make things right. And your mother is not doing the right thing by insulting you. It would be better if he talked to you. Try to talk to her calmly without shouting. F 15g.
You are not a psychiatrist but you can talk to a psychologist. You don't do this by cutting because you like it, but because you think that the pain from the wounds will be greater than your mental pain. My advice is to stop cutting and tighten.
Psychiatrist - no, psychologist - yes! Cutting yourself is the dumbest and most meaningless thing in the world! I strongly doubt that the glass, the knife or what you are "chopping" with is disinfected in any way. At most, to get some disease from this nonsense. And I'm sure of one thing, when your boy sees these scars on his hands, his legs will surely be charmed terribly :))). However, when you cut yourself, you raise a few levels in front of the other girls with clean, smooth and without scars skin for sure! GG