Hello. Apologies that I'm another girl with a problem with freedom ... Yes, I'm only 12, but at school they consider me withdrawn, but the smartest and most mature among them, I don't know if that's the case - but my whole class thoughts. I started school early - I'm in 7th grade. Okay - I've never dated friends, if I reach out to open a can or cut something, they immediately pull me and do it for me. I don't get pocket money. I want to help, but my mother says, "No, here's a new twenty, I'm not a nice plate at your age, so you're not ready yet." I wanted to invite only one friend to spend the night with us, I prepared everything, I organized, there is a place to sleep, but my mother refused despite my father's consent. I love her very much and I know she thinks about my safety and happiness, but she is hellishly strict. I tried to talk to her about this, but she on the street in front of the people (we were going to the store) started shouting at me that she was pampering me, and I wanted inhuman things from her, she took me home, muttering: - How dare you lie to me, I never forbade you anything if it was logical! - and brought me home, and then I was punished. She never beat me, but she constantly scolds me, I feel terrible and I don't have self-confidence. Please tell me what to do without hate!
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And for me it's the other way around. I'm 17 and my mother constantly scolds me for doing something at home. To clean, to wash dishes, to iron, etc. And I only get upset if I get a 3rd or 4th grade at school. Otherwise I have no problem with going out and pocketing. Mothers have no problem until you turn 18, start a job and make your own money, that's how it will be.
I agree with your mother for one thing, children are not obliged to house. However, if my daughter wants to wash the glasses, I will leave her. You're still young, you certainly don't feel that way because you're in puberty, but you're a child. Tell her most humanely that you are growing and want to learn to cook, wash dirty dishes, sweep and wipe. It is commendable that you want it. Indeed, few children are interested in these things and want to help their mothers with the household. One day you will grow up and it will be nice if you can make lunch, ask her to watch while she cooks, then ask her to peel the potatoes, and after a while to cut them, and after a while to make moussaka for dinner. Let everything happen in parts, you are small, do not hurry, the desire to be independent and mature is a trap. It's not normal that he doesn't give you pockets. Personally, I would not be at peace with my child if I knew that there was no money for water or food. Because everything happens, I'm panicking and I'm worried he might lose his sandwich and run out of breakfast. But the topic is delicate and you have to speak maturely, to show that you are responsible and you will not spend money on nonsense. In general, keep fighting, but do not do it with rebellion, but with normal communication, with requests and good speech. Make an effort to understand your parents and they will make an effort to understand you at some point. and with normal communication, with requests and good speech. Make an effort to understand your parents and they will make an effort to understand you at some point. and with normal communication, with requests and good speech. Make an effort to understand your parents and they will make an effort to understand you at some point.
Either your mother forgot that she was your age, or she was raised just as severely, and she thought this model was right for you. Unfortunately, such behavior has lasting and negative consequences on the child's psyche, but the parent who undergoes the same in his childhood does not realize it and deeply believes that he is doing the best for his child. If it doesn't work with your mother, try it with your father. After all, you have two parents and you don't want anything, much less wrong for your age. Explain to him how you feel, that this inevitably affects your self-esteem, your contacts with your peers.