Hello! I want to share that I am 23 years old. I always did what my parents wanted, either for the education I was going to complete or for something else. Now that I think I'm old enough to make my own decisions, they're at war with me. I found a job that is not in my specialty but they do not allow me to start because it was not what I graduated from. I try to oppose them but they tell me I would have tired them out. Because I am from a small town and I want to move to a bigger one, they do not agree about that because I had to go to Sofia to develop. Complete horror I do not understand anything and want to dictate my life. Tell me an opinion.
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Listen, darling, I can put myself in your shoes to some extent. I am currently 18 years old, but I have taken the same path as you. I changed my desire to apply twice already because they were not satisfied. Yes, but so far. From the moment I leave, I will pursue my own desires and dreams. I advise you to do the same. He fights with teeth and nails for his own life. He is yours. And there is only one, so you have to live fully. Every time you do something you don't want to do and force something, you lose precious moments. Your parents will sooner or later realize that they were wrong. The sooner you break away from them, the sooner you will feel free.
Bad job ... Your situation is pretty crazy .. You can get advice from someone who knows you well. I would leave them, BUT, I'm a nerd! I hope you make the right decision for you!
Why are you listening to them? No matter how much you are pressured, you are also to blame. Some parents find it harder to accept that their children are growing up, but if you don't let go of your mother's skirt and don't stand behind your decision, you can't help them accept it. I'm not saying you don't respect them or you don't respect their opinion, they are your parents after all. But when you say "I've decided it already" and do it, then you can say that you make your own decisions. Not a few similar topics are encountered by people aged 20 and up. Abe, I don't understand what your parents are guilty of. It is their job to worry about everything and to protect you from everything, after they have done it for 20 years, there is no way they can stop from nothing. They will treat us like adults when you start behaving like that. Take responsibility for mistakes, stand behind your decisions, to keep your word, etc. I understand that they are dramatic in that you would have tired them out, but I think you are justifying yourself to them in front of you, because you are actually afraid to take the step. And not to say I don't understand. I am a girl of 21. When I was 18 I decided to work at the sea in a resort quite far from my city, where no one I knew. I applied to a site, I was approved. My father said, "Get along with your mother. I don't think he'll agree, but I won't interfere. Decide with each other." And my mother: - I'm not letting you go! "I understand you're worried!" You are my mother and I respect you and I respect your opinion, but I tell you, I do not ask you. I love you very much, I know you are not happy with what you hear and I hope you are not angry with me for a long time. "Well, I'm angry!" You can't solve it alone! - According to the law I can, I am already an adult. "I won't give you money then!" - I have saved BGN 200 from my grandparents since Christmas, so the money doesn't bother me. My apartment is arranged, there will be an advance for eating. "And what are you really going to do there?" !! - Yes. I have decided it and I will not think about it. He cried a little that he would not see me for 3 months, but he helped me with packing and getting out of school earlier. I was 11th grade. Yes, I had some difficulties at work, but I do not regret the experience, because I learned a lot about myself and came back a few ideas more mature. Again, this is the job of the parents, it is your job to stand up. He cried a little that he would not see me for 3 months, but he helped me with packing and getting out of school earlier. I was 11th grade. Yes, I had some difficulties at work, but I do not regret the experience, because I learned a lot about myself and came back a few ideas more mature. Again, this is the job of the parents, it is your job to stand up. He cried a little that he would not see me for 3 months, but he helped me with packing and getting out of school earlier. I was 11th grade. Yes, I had some difficulties at work, but I do not regret the experience, because I learned a lot about myself and came back a few ideas more mature. Again, this is the job of the parents, it is your job to stand up.
I know it may be difficult for you to accept, but it is very likely that your parents will manipulate you and not really care so much about you. My advice to you is to focus on finding a partner, not to pay so much attention to your relationship with them.
I think at 23 you don't need written parental permission to do something. Growing up is difficult, our parents do not always agree with us, and we feel obliged to discuss important issues with them precisely because we need their advice. However, you do not want to listen to their advice, you want to be independent. They are trying to teach you because they have seen more in life, they will not hurt you on purpose, but it is a mistake to follow their path. Make mistakes and don't be afraid, now is the time to make stupid decisions, otherwise you won't learn. You will fight, they will find it hard to accept that you want different things and you do them, but at some point the drama will disappear.
How come they won't let you go? Do they keep you locked up? If so, call the police, even your parents have no right to do so. If not, I promise you they won't die from it.
My advice is exactly the opposite of number 4 - the author must gather courage and impose herself completely on her parents, achieve independence and only then find someone, because now she is emotionally unstable and insecure, which will make her a magnet for emotional unstable, aggressive, and all sorts of negative types in general, who are just waiting to entangle an adult, but super insecure in themselves, which is easy to manipulate and control. Number 4 itself is a manipulator, and of the cheapest kind of rural speculators, telling an obvious, outright truth, which in this case is even a repetition of the author's specific complaint - her parents manipulate her, and then immediately stuck a lie. it was very likely that her parents were not so interested in her, which is a complete and obvious lie for any sober-minded person, but a girl like the author with a labile soul has some minimal chance to think in this direction and a natural parasite like n4 does not fail to step in. Author, once you find a job - just get started right away. Be tactful with your parents - once you have their genes, you can be the one you need to be. But it makes it elegant. For example, say that it is important to start this job now in order to gain experience and work experience, explain to your employers how annoying people are who have no work experience and tell them that thanks to this work you will have more a chance to find a job in the specialty, because you will have already worked on something. Make up stories there if you need stories about your peers, but fictional people, or at least those, that yours can't talk to them, how they haven't hired them because they haven't done anything before, give them a movie like yours at all. Tell them - let me start now, to create work habits, because serious employers are very keen on saving a little money to make it easier for me in Sofia. You will save, and you will decide exactly which city you will go to, and in time they may change their opinion about Sofia, and what not. Now don't think that, just start working. You just get up early in the morning and go to work. to save some money is easier for me in Sofia. You will save, and you will decide exactly which city you will go to, and in time they may change their opinion about Sofia, and what not. Now don't think that, just start working. You just get up early in the morning and go to work. to save some money to make it easier for me in Sofia. You will save, and you will decide exactly which city you will go to, and in time they may change their opinion about Sofia, and what not. Now don't think that, just start working. You just get up early in the morning and go to work.