Hello! I have been with my friend for 9 years. At the beginning of our relationship he had touched me, we were still small and unrestrained. Since then, my parents hated him. They have higher requirements, and he is a more ordinary boy, his life is more difficult. Correct your mistake, we understand each other perfectly, but ... he can't come to us. Constantly, as I walk, I make sure that we don't come across my parents, not for anything else, but so that they don't say or do something to hurt him. I am a child, and everything is very obligatory. They tell me to choose between him and them. The good thing is that I get along with his family and I can go to them. I'm standing there. I'm 26 now, and I still have to drive it like that, I come home in the evening. I have to comply with ours. They keep arguing with me about this and insulting him in front of me. He may have made the situation himself, they hate him, but it's not easy for me, and we love each other very much. Really, and when I look around me how many relationships are determined by money and set things .... this is not the case with us; I wanted to share what is wrong with me. 99% of people are influenced by the opinion of their parents - there are many examples around me. however, I have never been like that. have any of you been in my situation ?? Everything weighs a lot on me, and I want to be with him!
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And why at 26 you have to comply with yours? This dependence can continue for many years, and they do not return. Certainly your parents do not think badly of you, they have much more life experience than you and their judgments are more correct than yours, although you are from another generation with all its peculiarities. However, you can make your own decisions, as long as you are not dependent in any way on mom and dad and you can be independent in your life together, otherwise at the slightest foul you will be teased, and think about whether your relationship is so strong and promising - I doubt yours only because of a small incident in the past to have such an attitude. Winnie the Pooh
A minor incident? You are very wrong. Such a "small incident" shows the person. Your parents do not want to interfere in your affairs and impose themselves, they just want to prevent the evil that you have decided to inflict on your head. When a person wants to do something stupid, no one can stop him. Why don't you read stories here about women involved in abuse and teenage children who live in such an environment and seek help and advice from strangers here ... ask them if it's a small thing.
you started with the reproaches. my friend and I love each other. Have you not had difficult moments in your relationship ... come on please !!! 1 man is well received if he is a piece, with some lev in his pocket ... nooo if he is poor, usually a boy, everyone rejects him!
Hi, I've been thinking for a long time whether to write here, because I'm going back to the memories ... but I decided that if I'm helpful in some way, it makes sense. I'm 28 years old and I have almost the same story as yours. I also had a relationship with a boy who was not approved by my parents. They couldn't accept that I was with him. They couldn't stand him and also made me choose: either they or he. My parents didn't know about him at first and didn't learn for a long time that he existed because I lived in another city. I knew his parents. They always treated me wonderfully. I also spent Saturdays and Sundays with them and I sincerely admit that you and my friend were a family, a real family. They never blamed me for anything and always supported me in everything. This period of my life was the happiest. But my friend was very upset that they didn't know about him. He is very proud and could not accept that. I postponed this moment for a very long time, but because of it I finally told them everything. And then came the horror. They started harassing me a lot, they didn't want to understand me. They threatened me that they would give up on me, that they would not look at me for anything in the world. And I am also a child. It got to the point that they told me that they would not leave me anything in inheritance, etc. So I lived for 6 months. I started not feeling well, not going to work, I couldn't sleep, I was going crazy. They made me live with the thought of ruining them, they made me feel guilty about everything, and they had done everything for me in life. And my friend remained my great love. The decision I made was to separate. Since my father had serious health problems, maybe that's why I decided to do it. Time has passed since then and now I do not want to think whether it was for good to happen or it was for evil. I don't think my parents were right. I don't think I'll ever forgive them. Remember that your life is yours and that you should be happy in your own way! Make sure you are well and don't think about anything else. Build your life and do not repeat the mistakes of your parents. The lesson for me from my story was this: one day, when I become a mother, I will not raise my child like that and I will not treat him like that. And I will want it to be as happy as it sees fit. But I also think that if this person has attacked you once, he will do it again one day. So think really well! Good luck and may things work out in the most wonderful way for you! I don't think I'll ever forgive them. Remember that your life is yours and that you should be happy in your own way! Make sure you are well and don't think about anything else. Build your life and do not repeat the mistakes of your parents. The lesson for me from my story was this: one day, when I become a mother, I will not raise my child like that and I will not treat him like that. And I will want it to be as happy as it sees fit. But I also think that if this person has attacked you once, he will do it again one day. So think really well! Good luck and may things work out in the most wonderful way for you! I don't think I'll ever forgive them. Remember that your life is yours and that you should be happy in your own way! Make sure you are well and don't think about anything else. Build your life and do not repeat the mistakes of your parents. The lesson for me from my story was this: one day, when I become a mother, I will not raise my child like that and I will not treat him like that. And I will want it to be as happy as it sees fit. But I also think that if this person has attacked you once, he will do it again one day. So think really well! Good luck and may things work out in the most wonderful way for you! The lesson for me from my story was this: one day, when I become a mother, I will not raise my child like that and I will not treat him like that. And I will want it to be as happy as it sees fit. But I also think that if this person has attacked you once, he will do it again one day. So think really well! Good luck and may things be arranged in the most wonderful way for you! The lesson for me from my story was this: one day, when I become a mother, I will not raise my child like that and I will not treat him like that. And I will want it to be as happy as it sees fit. But I also think that if this person has attacked you once, he will do it again one day. So think really well! Good luck and may things be arranged in the most wonderful way for you!
not you but they must understand and comply with your decision. in the end they must have understood that this is your choice. do what you think is right
Number 4, your story is interesting to me. That is, it is like mine and I want to write to you. I listen to my parents a lot, even though I'm almost 28. And my father is unstable and I don't want to cause them stress and trouble. And I will probably sacrifice myself! All my life I have dreamed of having just such a person next to me, and now that I have him, I have no right! Should I leave an e-mail or leave it to you.
you have no right because you do not give it to yourself. it may sound nasty but the parents are up to date and it is rare to meet a real person. if you think only of others and their health, you will soon lose your peace and, most importantly, your life. understand that this is your life and not theirs and you are an adult you can live as you want
numbers 4 and 6, I am the author. do you want to exchange emails>
Yes, write to sadbina_ @ abv. opensubtitles2 en, no one understands me because no one has experienced it, I hope to find an inner balance with you!
number 9, the author I am giving me an invalid address.
I am the author again :) it became the job :)
Nonsense! She had no choice! You have more. God, my head doesn't collect it, people of years, they listen to mom and dad! Shock! How can you not realize that your parents are MANIPULATING you to WATCH them in the old days ... And when they leave this world, what will be left for you? What will you be - a lonely unhappy middle-aged woman ??? People, realize, your parents need you, not you. You are the strong side and you dictate the terms. And when I hear about property and inheritance, I just get sick, honestly! To leave LOVE for HERITAGE ??? You are not well ... Why don't you admit that you are just cowardly and interesting? He who loves is with his beloved DESPITE EVERYTHING. For the record - I love my parents endlessly, to be alive and healthy! They love me too - THAT'S WHY THEY GAVE ME FREEDOM! Author, don't be silly ...
Girls, all in order where you wrote. I am a parent, I think I am not too old, I am 47 years old, but this is not jealousy, but fear on our part. It is not about inheritance, the fear that something might happen to you, the fear that such an unfortunate person may use you and then humiliate you. This is boys. don't think h. and so strong. Yes, you are young and life is in front of you, but know that everything comes back, and we mothers were before and now we are sitting behind you! If we shout, cry, shake only because we do not see the good in the person against you! We love you!
I am the author of the topic. number 13, I would say that parents' reproaches manipulate some and make others ambitious. (like me). they have their reasons for disliking him, but in a scandal with them, even if he has hurt me a lot, I find some solace in him. stupid or not, fact
Well, I had a serious relationship with a boy who our people didn't approve of ... even in the end he himself said that I was almost ashamed of him, that I was addicted to them. However, my parents did not approve of him for the simple reason that they both grew up in good families, which always relied on upbringing and education. And he wasn't educated, he didn't even have the ambition to write something like that, but he had high pretensions about how much better he was, he also drank outrageously a lot, poured himself like an animal and was even indignant if someone remarked to him that once again he is drunk as a Cossack. In the beginning, they still appreciated that this man worked, supported himself, was good to me, but they did not hide their insane joy when we parted. Now they admire my new friend and come to think of it ... I think they were absolutely right, that the former was not for me. It's just that people have to constantly evolve and one day you will feel the difference that sits between you.