Hello, I am writing about the following "leaf" story. I have a girlfriend with whom we love and live together, apart from our parents. We are independent, we support ourselves and we are happy together in our own way. However, my parents, at their first meeting, became angry with her - it's not for you, she uses you, she wants to keep you away from the family, in general, the care I take for her (quite normal things for me - good attitude, respect etc.) come to them a little more. The thesis is almost obvious - be selfish, trample on the feelings of the person next to you and if he really loves you, he must be patient, so that he can tolerate us! If this is how it treats us, one day it will treat you the same way, you will suffer, and so on. When I look for contact with my parents, I always start with a positive accent, but alas, the conversation ends the same way every time - conflict, pointless arguing, and I end up feeling drained. And so day by day the conflict begins to ripen, my wife ignores them completely, and the situation is "choose between her or the family," which in itself is murdered for me. In order for them to be calm, I have to part with my girlfriend, but at least for now in this scenario, I would definitely not be happy! Please advice if anyone has been in a similar situation to share and in general what would be the right approach in this situation I have to break up with my girlfriend, but at least for now in this scenario, I definitely would not be happy! Please advice if anyone has been in a similar situation to share and in general what would be the right approach in this situation? I have to break up with my girlfriend, but at least for now in this scenario, I definitely would not be happy! Please advice if anyone has been in a similar situation to share and in general what would be the right approach in this situation?
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They are just jealous. If you are a man on the spot, you will stand next to your wife. If they love your parents, they will accept her (if she is not an alcoholic, etc.)
I don't see the logic in breaking up with your girlfriend just because of your opinion. I understand that it is difficult for you, but I think after only one meeting yours to react like this ... Do you even give this girl a chance? !! What has she done so much? Apparently they managed to instill their ideas in you. Look, I'm a woman and I've been in your girlfriend's place. Years ago I had a relationship with a boy we fell in love with a lot, my first love. However, his mother was a naughty man. Older. And he was jealous of me. We were still young and had to graduate, to develop professionally, but she had instilled in herself that I wanted to tie him up and marry him by force. He also went to fortune tellers. He managed to turn his father against me. Nevertheless, I behaved well until the end and endured all my remarks, nonsense and accusations. And there was no reason for such an attitude. In the end, we separated, not without the help of his family. So think about it - everyone's parents are dear to them and they are almost the right ones, but this is not always the case.
Well, you live together and you manage, you love each other and you are happy. Explain to your parents that if they want to contact you, they will stop with the topic, she does not need to see them anyway. We live in this way, we see each other only on holidays and we can be patient, it can be said, although over time, when they see their grandchildren, they soften.
don't pay attention to them if you are happy with her I don't see what you are hesitating about ????
My father was in the same situation, then my mother got pregnant, got married and eventually he is now in the other room and obviously does not regret his choice. I know it's hard, for women it's basically a question of "friends or love," but in the end, every single person has been in that situation. Balance as much as you can, as your soup boils in clear text, you tell both your parents and your girlfriend that their conflicts are driving you crazy, and in the end you will fuck them all.