I am 22 years old and my life is like a soap opera. My friend, with whom we have been living on a family basis for 3 years, is of Roma origin, 11 years older than me and with a child of 10. And we have been enjoying our own child for a year .... And so .. ..I don't rely on anyone's help, because my parents deleted me from their lives when I met this man, I don't have a father-in-law, and my mother-in-law only tries to command me, and when it comes to doing some housework she gets sick and she goes to bed sick for days, if she carries it and takes it away - think for yourself. I don't know how to tell my husband, "My mother annoys me, she commands me, and I'm tired of her constant remarks", I'm afraid she won't be offended. aside / it is so, but constantly overplays in front of the son /, I'm tired of being a mother of 2 babies. I have no problem with his child from his first marriage - of course even he, my young child is more helpful than my grandmother. Now for my beloved, we love each other a lot, but we started arguing over small things "I asked you to cook something for me, you didn't please me, you're still dissatisfied, you're jealous of me" he helps me at home for men's work, he only looks after his work / and it is not easy, but ... I am not a man and a woman, a babysitter, a nurse and a housewife / I still think that we are both terribly nervous -he has obligations to support the family, the whole house for repairs, me-children, household, loneliness without parents, on top of everything the money is still not enough. Otherwise he pleases me, respects me, loves me, as if he is blind to his mother's mockery of me. I don't know who will look after the baby after my motherhood is over and I have to go back to work. Sometimes I feel like screaming, I have no one to share with ... I miss my mother, I can't share everything with him, my mother-in-law is absurd. This and one sorrow that my parents do not want us have not even seen my child, are not interested in him, did not share my happiness from the first tooth, the first word, the first step ..... I HAVE ALREADY BORED YOU, GIVE ME ADVICE, BECAUSE I'M HARMFUL, I REMAINED 20 KILS WITH WET CLOTHES. THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION....
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Milichka and I, when I got together with my husband, drove us away. I respect his mother and I'm silent. She gave birth to you. There's no way. I have a baby, I won't let them see it soon. When I needed it, they kicked me out on the street. DON'T YOU CARE
I'm sorry, but ....... are the Bulgarians over for you? It's your own fault, you can't blame your parents. You hit yourself in the 9th deaf ...
Well, how far have you come to marry a brazier.
It starts ... Author, be ready to take at least 5 more comments in which they will make you rubbish because of your choice. To all - the choice is hers, and I deeply doubt that you will be useful to her if you continue to blame her. (And I ... I can't give you advice, so you only get protection.) Good luck. SFA
Next to the SFA you are on every pot of merudia. How old are you and how old is your life experience, or are you just a theorist? Next to the author, you made your choice, and that is to live with a barbecue. You broke your parents' hat to go to serve gypsies. Now you have to respect our right to opinion and choice how to treat you. Ah, it is that we do not respect you and do not even want to give you advice or sympathize with you.
It's hard for me to admit, because I've always thought of myself as tolerant, but I really support №5 and previous similar opinions. "As you are afraid of the bear, do not go into the woods." If she had thought of that before you married a gypsy. Or did he not remember then what would happen?
Girl, I understand your pain. I am not married to a gypsy, but my parents betrayed me. So the origin does not matter. You have chosen your destiny. people react differently and don't get angry because after all you asked for their opinion and they give it to you. Gypsies have a different mentality than ours, you certainly know that. why did you let this happen ....
Hey, you are very narrow-minded. And what will you tell me that there would be no problems with a Bulgarian. But please, as long as you have written nonsense, stop with this "are the Bulgarians over"! This is her choice and if so happy no one has the right to blame her. And who has no problems with his mother-in-law and not only ... And I will tell the author, do everything possible to separate and live together, then everything will be different. Love and happy holidays .Good luck :)
To number 5. Who are you to speak on behalf of everyone? And who gives you this right. You must be very happy living with a Bulgarian and you don't have any problems, do you?
Being a gypsy is not the main problem for me. Well, I wonder how stupid you are at the age of 19 to live with a man who is much older, with a child, a brazier, but won't you study, develop, didn't you have dreams? You are to blame for everything, you are just a fool!
№5 - is there something wrong with that? It's weird how I haven't written here in months, now I'm writing a comment and I'm already a "merudia". Well, it doesn't matter ... What does my age matter? You know ... we don't have to jam people's topics that way. Here, write an answer, write in this one: http://spodeli.net/3/story-3207.html - I don't make an advertisement, or something like that, there is just a topic in which we can "argue" as much as your soul wants. It will be interesting to me. You don't have to read the story itself or the comments - just continue what you started here. SFA
I can't help but get involved in the dispute [!]. Mostly because number 5 really can't be spoken on behalf of everyone! The fact that there are too many narrow-minded and limited people like her / who support her opinion / does not mean that everyone is like that! All my life I have struggled with people's narrow-mindedness and racism, but so far I have never been able to achieve anything. I went with a Turk for a year and a half, the boy didn't look like that at all, but as soon as the others found out, they immediately started spitting at him. At the beginning I was very nervous, I cried a lot, I suffered a lot ... My parents were also against him just because of that ... But in the end I stopped caring. I let them say what they wanted, I was happy with him. So / I turn to the author /, don't get attached to them, darling. We are in Bulgaria, here it is more than normal - to attack you, that you love different. Let them insult and spit as much as they want. One day they may realize ... As for your problem, support number 8 - do everything possible to separate, this is salvation. Talk to your husband, tell him carefully what is bothering you, he should understand you. Tell him where he is wrong, tell him that you are aware of your mistakes and do not attack him. It's better to know than to keep quiet and explode at some point. I am with you and I support you. I wish you a lot of success and love in the future :) And Happy Holidays! that you too are aware of your mistakes and do not attack him. It's better to know than to keep quiet and explode at some point. I am with you and I support you. I wish you a lot of success and love in the future :) And Happy Holidays! that you too are aware of your mistakes and do not attack him. It's better to know than to keep quiet and explode at some point. I am with you and I support you. I wish you a lot of success and love in the future :) And Happy Holidays!
You know everyone makes mistakes in their lives. They are divided into repairable and irreparable. The important thing is that you have realized or you realize that you have made a mistake. I will not blame you, you need help and advice. Look for your parents, find a way to talk to them, apologize, ask forgiveness and tell them you want to break up with him. I believe that is what they want to hear. They probably grieve for you and they need you. If you do this now during the CHRISTMAS HOLIDAYS, the chances of you reconciling are very, very high. Pack your luggage when you don't have it, take your child and run away. Life is ahead of you with the help of your parents you will cope. Take care of your child and do not abandon him, it is not his fault. I wish you success! Happy Holidays and good luck in 2010!
Dear people, thank you for the reprimands and advice equally. Some things did not become clear because I did not specify them ... 1st I have no problem with my beloved, I do not know what you mean by mentality, but he never allowed himself to raise my voice, to be rude to me, to affect me, to me commands, not to mention encroaches on me and so on. 2nd I did not think it was necessary to mention it in the article, but I am an excellent second year student 3rd my husband's family has lived and been in contact with the most elite and learned hsra here all my life and I assure you the thinking and mentality is nothing in common with what you imagine. 4th no one chooses the origin sia dig in the articles on this site and you will see for yourself who are more - women whose lives are ruined by their husbands BULGARIANS, or those like me. 5TH PLEASE, THINK IF THERE IS ONE REMAINING A TRUE BULGARIAN IN THIS COUNTRY, AFTER 500 YEARS OF SLAVERY, WE HAVE INTERVENTED SO MUCH THAT PLEASE DO NOT RAISE YOUR HEADS SO MUCH. 6th when will we finally eradicate the old stunted thinking in this country. I was already sorry that I wrote here, I just wanted advice on how to deal with my mother-in-law's intervention and find out I have no problem with it. 7th if you know people you will understand why a whole city reproaches my parents and not me.
Girl, as many people have told you - you are to blame for the situation you are in. Look, if yours had written you off from your life, given that you are with a Bulgarian, intelligent, stable and reliable - then the fault would be theirs. In this case, however, you have come to this yourself. It is true that love "does not ask", but ... still ... a gypsy ... with a child ... I am very tolerant of the differences in each of us, but the only thing I do not approve of and to which I am fierce opponent, these are the gypsies and their way of life. They are brazen, impudent, rude, smelly ... I'm sorry to put it that way, but I think so. And how do you expect your parents to support you? And what do you want from your mother-in-law? Let's abstract from the fact that she is a gypsy. Imagine, that you live alone with your husband and child - will you expect someone to come and do your job? And think about it - what have your parents done for you so far? Remember how many sacrifices they made to be well. And what do you thank them for? With a barbecue, which has a child as a lid. Well, you chose this path yourself - with all its obstacles and you have no right to complain. When it's a fact, it's silly to say to each other what it would be like if you ate what you were ... but think about what it would be like if you were with a decent boy (Bulgarian) only with your child, your mother next to you ... You are very you knew very well what your parents thought of this relationship and what the consequences would be if you continued it - well, you are stuck in the situation yourself and you have no reason to complain. You have to complain when someone has done this to you by force.
Dear girl, live your life the way you chose it. At least, because you think your choice is the right one. People are too different to expect only support from them, so don't be fooled by negative comments. It is true that every person has some virtues and you have found a lot in your husband, but it is also understandable that most people treat gypsies. You are the one who will sift only the useful ones. And you, who shuddered at комента5's comment, why did you decide that she / he makes summaries on behalf of everyone. On the contrary, he takes a purely personal position. As for the SFA, I read such a silly comment from it about Christianity that I didn't even bother to answer it.
Do you have number 16 vision problems ?! "Ah, it's that we don't respect you and don't even want to give you advice or sympathize with you." - Isn't it on behalf of everyone, eh? Or are you blind. number 8
EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO OPINION, DIDN'T I? Stir in life I wrote tHIS STATIYA.NA never fret about words, but again I emphasize IF-in that State shall have one thoroughbred Bulgarian cOME ME PLYUVNETE.NYAKOGA grandmothers and great-grandmothers were so lift his foot peaks THAT YOU DON'T KNOW WHICH TURKISH OR GYPSY YOU ARE FROM. SO, PLEASE ... WELL, I DON'T SAY IT NOW WHEN I'M IN THIS SITUATION, IN PRINCIPLE I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN OF THIS OPINION AND I HATE RACISTS.LET ME GIVE ADVICE, SO FAR I HAVE ONLY LISTENED TO YOU - DEAR PEOPLE, BREAK YOURSELF IN YOUR PEDIGREE TREES, SOMETHING CAN BE JUMPING OUT OF YOUR NOSE AND OF INTEREST .... INTERESTING ....
№17, obviously everyone has a problem here. The author - with her relatives, №16 - with her eyesight, and you - with your punctuation. Different intervals, commas ... who needed them, the important thing is to write something, even though the others can't read it for half an hour.
Many comments are not substantive. It's a big deal to be a gypsy - if a Bulgarian woman marries a fat and fat, clumsy and lustful German - you will say, she "hit six in the lottery", but you put the gypsy a priori in some category. The girl is hardly so deluded as to like rum from the bottom layer. Think about it, there are all kinds of Bulgarians - fallen, wandering, unwashed, uncombed, cramped, whatever. And what about the fact that they are Bulgarians? As individuals they are round zero. And with the author I have to argue about how pure-blooded Bulgarians we are. What her grandmother did is one thing she may know, please don't generalize about my grandmother. And my advice is essentially - live separately. It is.
You got into the soap opera on your own and, as far as I can see, quite consciously. You first insulted your parents, at least because at the age of 19 you met a man 11 years older and with a child - they could hardly be deprived of such gratitude and such a future. Second - what is this mold, which at 30 and a half lives with his mother and is incapable of separation? And third - he is from another ethnic group, with other cultural and everyday values, there will be contradictions. So, if you have not yet come to your senses, you will serve and the problems will deepen, and for the excellent students it is better not to comment - at this age and to tie the donkey in any university and it will receive a diploma.