Hello, writes a 15-year-old girl. Today my parents found out that I smoke. Basically, my friends and I get together every day after school to smoke a cigarette, but this time my father decided to take me by car as a surprise, but everything went wrong. He saw me smoking and just shouted from the car- "Come here now." At that moment, I shivered and threw away my cigarette, I had no choice, and I went to him. He just told me to get in the car and give him my phone. I gave it to him, and by the time we got home I hadn't stopped explaining myself to him, but he was pretending I wasn't in the car. But when we got home it became scary. He told me to sit on the couch and called my mother, and while he was explaining to her what had happened, I trembled and prayed that she would protect me. Then she didn't say a word to me, she just went to the bedroom. My father took off his belt and I shivered and went to his room, but Dad told me to go back and turn my back on him, I didn't listen to him of course, but he caught me and started beating me brutally and locked me up. in my room and said that everything has consequences. He didn't let me go out to the toilet for a week, he only brought me food and told me how many pages I had to learn. And today he just returned my phone, but he called me in 5 minutes to see what I was doing, and my mother forbade me to go out until the second term. I don't know what to do, I know I'm wrong but they go too far. I feel like they hate me, I don't know how I can have a normal relationship with them anymore. We don't talk at all, my father keeps scolding me and telling me that I won't leave home until I'm 18 years old. I wonder how to escape, as they are constantly watching me do what I do.
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They are right. This is the worst habit I have. I started smoking 2-3 years ago ... maybe a little older than you. But the difference here is that they didn't catch me, and I told them. There was no drama. My father is a heavy smoker, and my mother also lights up from time to time. I'm smoking on the balcony with him at the moment :) Try talking to them ... That you've stopped already ... Don't expect to get away quickly. I've seen worse cases than yours.
The posture was favorable for something else, the educational effect of which would be much stronger, lasting and pervasive.
I would never be happy to know that my daughter smokes, if she is over 18 years old. First, cigarettes stink horribly, and worse, they are terribly harmful. There is nothing for Jacob to smoke this child, but it is ugly. Do you know what your face will look like in years to come? Your father has gone too far with paint, but you deserve increased control and rigor. Fighting is definitely not the answer. You disappointed them, what do you want? You showed them that they didn't raise you well as parents.
As. So, today they caught you, your father took your phone and kicked you, for a week they only let you go to the toilet and today (again today) he returned your phone ... I didn't understand what your problem was? D)))
Pff, there's nothing worse than a smoker. Smelly, bad breath and yellow teeth. Besides, without money, because everything goes for cigarettes. Broken health and many unlocked diseases. Your parents want to protect you from such a bad future that you are headed for. Listen to them as your brain and thinking develop, because they are still smarter and more experienced than you. And remember - no one in the world, but absolutely no one, loves you more than your parents.
That it's not good to smoke at 15 - it's not, but the parents really reacted too much. Your father beats you at 15 for some cigarettes ... You have to regain their trust. Slowly swallow what happened, try to do what is asked of you, even without being told, and they will begin to soften, your daughter anyway. And if not, you'll have to wait until 18 and come on bye. But it's best to find a way to reconcile.
I'm only 21, I don't smoke, I don't have a child, but I thought if I had the only thing I would be for and I would argue with him a lot and I would probably take his cigarettes and the phone. Those who smoke must either be very careful not to get caught, or get used to the consequences once they are caught.
If they hated you they wouldn't do anything after they caught you smoking :-)
Look now I also smoke from time to time, I started at 18. My father has not smoked for almost 20 years and my mother has been smoking since she was 16 and she was admitted but that was at that time - the 80s. I think your father went too far when he took off his belt to beat you, it's better to sit down and talk to you normally than to beat you, you're not small anymore. Too bad your mother couldn't take your country. Let me ask you if your father attacked you another time.