My Parents Make Me Get Married

   do what seems right to you this is your not their life. I have a girlfriend who put a lot of pressure to get married, but they didn't get married and divorced for a year. if you're okay, drive like that, if you don't feel ready, don't get involved in their talk

   I think your parents are right ... After all, you are 36 years old, when will you get married, when will you give birth. At 56? And my sister is hanging around like that, and now she is 45 years old and with in vitro experiments for a child and it still doesn't work .... And if you are not ready at 36, you obviously don't have any maternal instinct. Your job ... If you want to get married, if you want to give birth .... but to know that then time does not go back .... and you will be left alone. If you like it that way.

   №2, isn't it better to live alone than badly accompanied? Beauty cannot be forced. If the author has not found a person she likes, how to get married, as in the past? Her parents nominate someone and she resigns herself to their choice. Then they will be happy, and she will be unhappy for life. Would that be better for her than living alone? Maybe one day a mother's instinct will be activated and in time she will adopt a child with whom she will give meaning to her life and will not be alone. But I don't see the point in writing the topic, how can we influence her parents not to harass her? The decision is only for the author, as soon as she gets a misunderstanding from them, just not to look for him there, and here and to get it, nothing will change her life.

   You're really an old girl and it's hard for anyone to take you. Act otherwise badly.

   Sit down and think about what you want from life. Where do you see yourself in 10-15-20 years? If you want to have your own child one day, you know that after a certain age things become much more difficult and it is good to think. Do you want to have a person next to you? Some people are ok on their own, others are not. But don't live for your job, especially if it's not your business. Tomorrow they will decide that they no longer need you, they will replace you or the company will go bankrupt. And you are left with nothing in your life. Don't let your parents blackmail you, but prioritize the things in your life ... Not for anything else, but not to regret at some point.

   You're missing the train, chicken. In a little while, no one will want to take you. Old bags are out of fashion, and you have very little time left and you fall into this category. Or you can marry someone pale so that you can watch him drunk every night and it will be very good for you.

   Apparently there's a reason your sister had an argument with them. They are people of another generation, with different understandings. You better get away at all and then MAYBE they will realize that they can't dictate to you how to live. It's a little strange at 36 to live with your parents. You don't say what your personal life is, whether you have someone or not, but if you don't have a person next to you, it's probably because you're too busy, incl. with your parents. I don't know why everyone is talking about missed trains - not everyone aims to multiply at any cost in their lives. Better later, but the person is appropriate and you really want him, than "because that's the way it should be." And at 40 you can become a mother, don't listen to hateful comments. And you can always adopt a child if you want. You have a stable income and will allow you. Live your life as you like, and disregard your parents.

   To some extent they are right. If you ever intend to get married and have children, you really don't have time. Until the age of 40, if you haven't given birth, then how will you look after a child? If you don't want children at all, it's clear. Of course, you will not marry and give birth just for your sake.

   This is your life, your choice, and it's good to tell your parents that no matter how worried they are, the decisions they make if you don't take a firm stand will make your life miserable, not that they haven't already. Things don't happen by force, do they? I hope you find a suitable person, yes, the clock is ticking, but not all of them can be mold, work, husband, children. Clearly say that you do not want to talk more on this topic and say it so that they stop. This constant whining and kneading in the lives of others is typical of the mass of Bulgarians, everyone has their head on their shoulders.

   You don't need a man at all, they are big pigs. They watch all night on which program there is a match and they faint. It was a nasty job. If you want someone, you can always find someone for temporary use. Then jog from behind and sing heartily. Well, I wish I was helpful. Kisses

   Tell them that you are a great woman and you will do whatever you decide. Also, if they do not stop the conversations in question, you will not go to them anymore, because they are stressful and you are uncomfortable. Safe from selfish parents. Our children are not our property and are not here to fulfill our dreams and dreams.

   Abe, at 36, you are not like at 18. But love has no limits. So even at 60 you can still find someone. And at 36, what do you listen to, Dad and Mom? Instead of getting married - go collect your toys, guests will come.

   In what sense "help"? Shall we find you a boyfriend? Your parents are right for themselves, for them it is a supreme value. You are right for yourself, if you do not feel ready, your life is yours. But why are you so annoyed by their grumbling? Aren't you depressed by your loneliness? Are you still looking for their approval at the age of 36? Why do their opinions bother you so much?

   Dear author, I am absolutely on your side. You are an adult and mature enough and you have the full right to be the mistress of your own life. How you organize your personal life is entirely your choice. No one, not even your own parents, has the right to interfere in whether or when to marry or have children. What kind of nonsense is this? I do not understand such parents who impose their opinion and do not care how their children will feel and whether they will be happy. Did your parents marry them at the time and force them to have children? Which would you prefer - to see your daughter married but unhappy, or without a family but happy and satisfied with her life? They have no right to threaten you. You are the direct heir of this home. I'm sorry I got so affected and attacked your parents, but it seems unjust to me to impose and oppress a man to do something against his will. But, since you have a stable job and are financially independent, what I can advise you is if you have the opportunity to rent or buy your own home, where you decide (in Bulgaria or abroad), thus you you will live completely alone and independently of them and they should no longer interfere in your life. If possible, you could also dilute your contacts. This is the only thing I would advise you. I wish you healthy nerves, good luck and you are as happy as you wish. 32 year old woman What I can advise you is if you have the opportunity to rent or buy your own home, where you decide (in Bulgaria or abroad), thus you will live completely independently and independently of them and should no longer get mixed up in your life. If possible, you could also dilute your contacts. This is the only thing I would advise you. I wish you healthy nerves, good luck and you are as happy as you wish. 32 year old woman What I can advise you is if you have the opportunity to rent or buy your own home, where you decide (in Bulgaria or abroad), thus you will live completely independently and independently of them and should no longer get mixed up in your life. If possible, you could also dilute your contacts. This is the only thing I would advise you. I wish you healthy nerves, good luck and you are as happy as you wish. 32 year old woman

   At 36, she wasn't ready for a wife, let alone a mother? !! When do you think you will be ready? After 4 years you are already an old grandmother. Then your parents will no longer ask you anything, except that you will be spoken of with pity and inconvenience, as if you had entered a madhouse.

   If you have not experienced the inner need to become a mother, there is no point in creating a child who is not wanted. I think your parents' angry reaction is a sign of helplessness - when they see that they have nothing else to control you with, they resort to "threats" about how they will kick you out of the house. Their desire for grandchildren is understandable, and it is normal for their generation for a woman to get married and have children, but in the end you live your own life, not the one they have planned for you. I don't see what you can do but talk to them calmly and explain your point of view, whether this will help is quite debatable.

   People just want grandchildren, and whether you get married is up to you. Once they quarrel with your sister, they rely only on you.

   An old girl is not so scary, but an old boy. I am like that and my muzzles are sagging like saddlebags.

   I sympathize with you very much! Mine, on the other hand, have made up their minds that I must give birth, and I have no desire to become a mother at all, and to be honest, at times they bring me to the brink with this eternal jingle of biological clocks, grandchildren, and so on. At least you see yours less often, but I live near them and I see them every week and almost every time it starts: "Yesterday I met someone, her daughter is younger than you, and she is already pregnant. with a second. "Or" Start at 35. When are you postponing it? "," I'm retiring next year. And I want a grandson to make sense of my time, otherwise what will I spend all day? "... so I am well aware of this manner in which relatives give you wisdom. However, the most iconic was when I complained to my mother that I had problems at work and was thinking of looking for a new one. And instead of sympathy, she asked me "Why don't you take me to give birth? You will just go on maternity leave and they won't be able to cut you!" I was going to shoot myself !!! I've always thought our people are cool and they really are, but on some topics they just scroll! They decided that they had almost failed as parents because I am 34 and have no children, and my sister is 31 and not even married. We are both under constant fire, because people cannot understand that 2016 is not 1980 and, accordingly, our lives cannot be like theirs with the bachelor tax and all the other downtime. I don't know what to tell you. At first I just tried to pass all the talk by my ears, but at one point I got tired and directly told them to stop, because the only thing they would achieve was to refuse me to visit them. Well, now they've calmed down a bit, but from time to time they mutter something to each other. I don't know what to do anymore! After all, I don't want to mess with my closest people because of that. What's worse, I'm confused by other people, including people I know very vaguely. I can't understand where this eternal desire of people to teach others instead of looking at their own lives comes from. And if I can still forgive my mother and grandmother, I will definitely not forgive someone I hardly know and who, when he hears that I have no children, starts asking questions and giving advice. Don't these people have an elementary sense of tact? !! After all, their lives aren't perfect, and it would be a big mess if, instead of smiling silly and wondering how to change their subject, I fired something like "Why did you get divorced?" I don't like to be rude. with people but if they keep putting their noses together in things that don't affect them, I'll eventually start giving it back to them. In the worst case, this may be a solution, but not for loved ones. Like I told you, I don't want to be rude to them and ruin my relationship. Bad work! Everyone thinks that his life is a model and everyone must live just like him, and if someone wants something different, a vomit of fire and brimstone begins, how "One day you will regret it!" Yes, yes. And at 100, I won't regret traveling the world instead of tying myself to the stove and changing diapers. But according to my older relatives, a woman my age is expected to do just that. To give up her job and dreams and become a submissive wife, mother and housewife. And when I refuse to be like that, you remember what's next. For that, head up, it's not just you in this situation! Maybe 70-80% of young people today are like that. Either they didn't get married when they "should" (understand up to max 25), or they don't have children, or they aren't the "ideal" parents ... My friend's grandfather even set a deadline for him to get married! Well, guess what, he's already 35 and doesn't even want to hear about any wedding! Precisely because it has been in her head for years that she MUST get married by the age of 25. Don't these people even realize that with this eternal insinuation they finally achieve the exact opposite effect? !! Precisely because it has been in her head for years that she MUST get married by the age of 25. Don't these people even realize that with this eternal insinuation they finally achieve the exact opposite effect? !! Precisely because it has been in her head for years that she MUST get married by the age of 25. Don't these people even realize that with this eternal insinuation they finally achieve the exact opposite effect? !!

   Авторке аз пък те разбирам и напълно те подкрепям. Всеки разбира живота по свой начин, а това, че болшинството от хората мислят, че всеки трябва да се ожени и да създава деца си е лично техен проблем. Мъж съм, над 40 съм и въобще не ми пука, че не съм женен и, че нямам деца. Живота ми малко се различава от твоя по това, че аз постоянно живея в чужбина. Когато живеех в БГ (до 29 г. ) имах много приятен живот с момичетата. Приятно ми беше да си ергенувам. Сетих се за женитба когато мойте приятели се изжениха по на 26, 27 г. Точно на тази възраст аз бях вече решил да напусна БГ. Имах 2 приятелки от които или за едната или за другата можех да се оженя. Но защо да се женя след като вече твърдо бях решил да напусна БГ. Не напуснах БГ на 27, а две години по-късно на 29г. Всеки знае, че живота в чужбина, поне в началото, не е лесен. Взема време, понякога години, докато човек се стабилизира с хубава работа и добре заплатен. При мен този процес малко се поудължи, но накрая всичко се нормализира. През тези години си имах приятелки, но това не значи, че всяка приятелка става за съпруга. Да, ама вече станах на 40 г. и като се поразмислих и анализирах живота си то този момент прецених, че на тази възраст няма смисъл да се женя и да създавам деца и така я карам и до сега. Интересното е, че много обичам деца и когато около мен има деца много им се радвам, а и на тях им е приятно да се забавляваме заедно. Майките им (това са все познати семейства) винаги ми казват защо не съм се оженил и да си имам свои деца, а аз им отговарям, че не можах да намеря подходящата съпруга. Имал съм връзки с разведени жени с деца и винаги съм третирал децата им като свои, но решението ми беше окончателно-да не се женя. Не съжелявам, нищо не ме подтиска, че нямам деца. Живея сам и ми е много приятно така. Познавам семейства с деца, които имат много мизерен живот, дори някои съжеляват, че са ги родили. Ами кой както разбира живота така да си го живее, никой няма право да ни съди защо не сме се оженили. Много хора се чувстват самотни и нещастни ако не са женени и ако са без деца. Аз не съм от тях. Предполагам, че и ти споделяш мойто мнение. Желая ти здраве и си живей живота така както на теб ти харесва. Горе главата.

   God! This is your life! If you want, you will get married, if you don't want to, no! No one can oblige you to do such a thing. I'm young, but I'm planning kids somewhere your age, if I decide I'm ready, right! Everyone can give birth, it is a miracle and I do not dispute - how amazing it is to have a child, but what you have achieved not everyone can. Live your life the way you like it.

   Are these parents normal? Everyone is already nerdy. Don't let anyone interfere with you. When you meet the person you will decide for yourself whether or ... Take a place where it is profitable ... And when you come to Bulgaria stay elsewhere Grandparents aunt sister ... And can you not come and live in Russia and from there to forward you ...

   Tell them that your life is yours and they have no right to interfere in it! And you don't have to have a man by your side to have a child, you can also conceive in vitro. g. 23

   I do not live with my mother and father, but since I come to Bulgaria for a week, and I do not have many friends to go out with, there is no point in taking a house there. And I wrote here because I decided that someone in such a situation would read what was written and give advice. Thanks to the people who did it. I told them that if they didn't stop threatening me, nothing would stop me from packing and flying away in no time. Well, they told me one "right way and come on". Then they saw me packing and were a little startled. Now they do not grumble about it. Thank you very much! All the best!

   One more thing, one of my classmates is 50 and has a son at 15 and a daughter at 12, respectively, the first gave birth to them at 35, the second at 38 and she doesn't worry about it at all. My mother's cousin, aged 50-51, could not have a child for a long time, and gave birth somewhere around 43. At the moment, she and her husband and an Italian are enjoying a wonderful 8-year-old girl.

   I, on the other hand, number 15, want to tell you that for the madhouse there are exactly some parents who, having made a child and have neglected their appearance very much, walk limp, with bellies, always with some tracksuits, allow themselves to raise their voice in public places, because they just don't realize how bad they've become, and they don't sleep because they're scared. But otherwise, compared to their peers and colleagues at work, they are mega-complex and still have their heads bowed, especially men, and only in front of their children they pretend to be big "and shout at them for nonsense and when they fail they fight. And even some they only complain about their children on the internet, but otherwise they keep saying that being a parent was the best thing, and they always complain that their state is to blame, that they don't make enough money, and they still have to blame someone or the state ... Yes, definitely these people are crazy! And the so-called "old maids" are people who don't bother anyone, they look after their lives, and the only thing they want is not to be judged for not caring about their children. And besides, I think the author has tried to tell us that she doesn't need the inheritance from her parents at all: "when I was kicked out of the house and left without anything, which is stupid, because I'm coming home in a week," would earn many times more than the two of them together and as nothing can take an apartment, and even in a small town to be in Bulgaria and thus provide a home for their old age. Don't worry about it. And even if "something happens" with her current work with 4 languages ​​everywhere in our regional cities they will take her as "warm bread" as they say, if she was 56 years old. I have not heard of unemployed / penniless people with 4 languages.

   It's your job! But if you ever decide to get married, entrust the choice of a husband to your parents, even if it sounds ridiculous! It has long been proven that young people in our country always choose the wrong ones, and then fill in the criminal chronicles or resuscitation. For the good of Bulgaria it is to stop choosing all kinds of jackdaws or jerks.

   4 and 6 are super stupid opinions. Old girl is a communist expression, from communism, when the state forced people to get married, and even stimulated them with a bachelor tax. You must be over 50, and if you are not, you are outdated. And for the author - if there is an opportunity it is good to rent an apartment and live independently. I know those who got married early, at 20, not to remain unmarried, and at 40 they are divorced, some single fathers with 2 children, who really have no chance and no one would take them, with luggage, and the unmarried don't think of them. 6, I think you are an old bag, do you know at least 1 foreign language? Maybe a gypsy?