I start with the question: how to tactfully explain to her that what I will describe below does her child a disservice. It is hers and I have to somehow tactfully as a man explain to her how things are. here is the last striking case !!! I was shocked. First, she is a 33-year-old woman, and she has not yet realized what morons are the boys her son's age. He is 10 years old. and now he has decided that he is an "Indian" and she bought him a poncho and now he wants to go to school with a poncho, imagine how he will be mocked and how he will feel and he does not even suspect how much he will be mocked at school. separately he wanted to cut his hair like an Indian, he went with some bows to play, instead of recording him to play sports he climbed trees and shot a bow. there is another problem the boy is a little fat (neither she nor his father are fat) simply because he drinks Coca Cola (like a real Indian ??) and eats McDonald's and CFS every day. I try to explain to her to take him with her to the gym to play sports, etc. - he was not artistic, he did not like sports. and lastly I wonder how to persuade her to send him to his father to take her to sea in 1-2 months. the problem is that I'm much younger than her and I feel like she doesn't respect my opinion about these things.
Answers 17
It seems to you that you are very immature and you are not ready for a father yet - it's not bad, it's normal - you just slapped yourself -) Tip - don't confuse the woman, she's 10 years old It's ok with the poncho, there must be such a trend in school and quite a few children are tan. I do not believe they laugh at him, on the contrary - we have had such fashions. You're right about the food and Coca. Here try to help the woman by organizing cooking, say, and let the child help, then a lot of praise and so on. The car is very harmful. Let's replace it with Light at the beginning. I have a girlfriend who was very weak and is now fluffy just because of the car - as she is addicted and does not eat much else - full sugar. McDonald's is also addictive! Try to help here, but if it doesn't work - it doesn't work !!! THE CHILD IS NOT YOURS. Realize how you will one day raise YOUR child. For the summer - tell me? from now on what are your intentions to plan. It's not that easy - the father has to agree, he has to take leave and so on. But why not, if? you say now. For the child, I advise you to keep your distance. My husband has children from his first marriage and I do. Even one lives at home and I'm not mistaken for upbringing. I cook - if she doesn't want to eat, let her spend her money on rubbish (she only eats rubbish, she's a girl). This is the situation - I have no intention of being the bad Witch. Who has children - to raise them. I cook - if she doesn't want to eat, let her spend her money on rubbish (she only eats rubbish, she's a girl). This is the situation - I have no intention of being the bad Witch. Who has children - to raise them. I cook - if she doesn't want to eat, let her spend her money on rubbish (she only eats rubbish, she's a girl). This is the situation - I have no intention of being the bad Witch. Who has children - to raise them.
take my child with you to the sea, selfish.
He really made me laugh with the poncho and these bows :) :) :) :) :)
In my opinion, the woman raises the child very well. You really think quite limited ...
There are worse cases, believe me, and it still depends on you if you can get used to it, if you can accept things, etc. I have a neighbor, about the age described by you, who is a friend of my wife and there I see touching things. She lives with her parents, they pay for the child, they teach him because she couldn't and she really can't, because she is illiterate. She is considered great only because God gave her appearance, but even at this age she has not learned to write competently. One day she was ill, alone with her child, and had seen herself in a miracle because her parents were on vacation. He gave me a sheet of things to buy from the drugstore and the store, and I was shocked at how, in so few words, there could be so many spelling mistakes. It was a completely different matter when, after a long period of unemployment, he started working. With the first salary, he immediately bragged to my wife about how she had bought branded clothes. I also call for how much you work, she calls for 500 leva, and her clothes cost about 350, at least that's what she said. Then I wondered how it was possible to have such stupid women who accepted that someone had to fuck them and their children. It was quite another matter that she often changed husbands and introduced them to her child. For these 13 years, this child has seen so much that I am crying for him. Sumati men she met him, constant resentment, constant quarrels and talking through teeth and what not. So it may be worse, but I tell you again that you are still the individual who has to decide your own destiny and therefore you have to make a serious choice for which to take responsibility. I think if you think about living together in the future, you must also interfere to some extent in the child's development. If she's human on the spot, she'll have to agree to this future intervention of yours,
author: I've talked to her, she agrees but we just can't keep track of him or restrict him from eating this junk. but for example, when she goes to the gym, I don't know what prevents her from taking the child with her, she probably won't like the workout, I don't know. yesterday he got up from the table and got angry when I said that Putin is a racketeer and imagine getting into an argument over the child going to the gym or not eating junk.
"There's another problem. The boy is a little fat (neither she nor his father are fat) just because he drinks Coca-Cola (like a real Indian, huh ??) and eats McDonald's and CFS every day. I try to explain to her to take it with her fitness to play sports, etc. - he was not artistic did not like sports. "10-year-old child at the gym? What are these maniacs? If you care about his weight, you can limit his McDonald's and the car (the first is proven to be buggy with GMOs, and the second spoils teeth). But fitness at an age when children are still actively developing and growing? Why don't you just recommend an African diet (to stand and just listen to how foreigners eat two or three times a day) and finish it quickly and painlessly instead of torturing him? "Instead of recording him playing sports, he climbed trees and shot a bow." And isn't that equivalent to a sport? Or climbing a tree does not help to develop muscle strength and possibly to lose weight? And archery is so easy to shoot that it's like throwing a paper airplane? If he doesn't kick football or lift weights, then he is not an athlete for you. They look after the child well, and you better take notes before talking about the upbringing of a child. I'm fed up with people who don't understand anything, but are louder than those who really know something?
hahah and I climbed the trees and we shot bows, no problem with that. As for nutrition, explain how harmful this food is, but not once to make it, but every day give her examples of how harmful it is. Watch the movie super size me. Google why the car is harmful and read it to her. A ten year old at the gym is not a good idea, enroll him in some sport for kids. And create physical culture for him, he doesn't need to become an athlete, but it is important that his body is healthy.
All children love this harmful food. If you really want to help your child, everyone in the home needs to change their eating habits: eat home-cooked things, more fruit, soups, replace the car with juices and gradually - with water. This does not happen in 1 day of course. Also, the various snacks and snacks in front of the TV should be replaced with nuts. I do so and I succeed without imposing absolute prohibitions and restrictions. When a child asks for chips, he buys them - otherwise he will just buy them. There is always chocolate at home - that's why it's not something interesting and you break 1 block, you don't eat it all. There is always a cooked meal and a salad. Soups are a favorite, I take recipes from the Internet, I invent others and diversify them. Just as the mother manages to target his favorite dishes, she will not eat so many ready-made foods. Not bad in this regard so that there are no conflicts, you take the initiative to cook a meal, it doesn't even hurt to help with cooking;). In this way, the woman will both have the feeling that she is pampering you and will imperceptibly start cooking more home-made food. You will pass the diet recipes with the argument that you want to maintain your figure, especially in the summer, so - more soups and salads, fruit salads, etc. :) Regarding sports - this is not possible by force. I was very happy about the poncho, but I think the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation? it doesn't even hurt to help with cooking;). In this way, the woman will both have the feeling that she is pampering you and will imperceptibly start cooking more home-made food. You will pass the diet recipes with the argument that you want to maintain your figure, especially in the summer, that's why - more soups and salads, fruit salads, etc. :) Regarding sports - this is not possible by force. I was very happy about the poncho, but I think the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation? it doesn't even hurt to help with cooking;). In this way, the woman will both have the feeling that she is pampering you and will imperceptibly start cooking more home-made food. You will pass the diet recipes with the argument that you want to maintain your figure, especially in the summer, so - more soups and salads, fruit salads, etc. :) Regarding sports - this is not possible by force. I was very happy about the poncho, but I think the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation? You will pass the diet recipes with the argument that you want to maintain your figure, especially in the summer, so - more soups and salads, fruit salads, etc. :) Regarding sports - this is not possible by force. I was very happy about the poncho, but I think the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation? You will pass the diet recipes with the argument that you want to maintain your figure, especially in the summer, that's why - more soups and salads, fruit salads, etc. :) Regarding sports - this is not possible by force. I was very happy about the poncho, but I think the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation? but in my opinion the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes out if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation? but in my opinion the child knows very well what the reactions will be when he goes to this kind of school, he probably tries to provoke :) For the sea, personally I would tear your eyes out if you give me an ultimatum to be without the child. You can ask her how she plans the vacation and clarify the situation. Isn't this child a father to take with him on summer vacation?
avtora: No. 11 thank you for the answer! So I start answering confusedly. I always help her with what she needs, but neither she nor I can cook at home, everyone orders whatever they want to eat, sometimes we even eat in plastic plates, because she is very tired and does not wash (coming from the restaurant in different dishes and etc. right eat). Otherwise I will take advantage of a lot of advice he gave me. For the sea - she just wants to be on a sunny beach, and I, and there the child will not see things that are suitable, the environment is not for him, and she also really wants to rest, and with the child can not relax. Why not go to grandparents or dad?
You are not the author of this woman. If you want to be with a woman who has a child, first think about whether you can fully accept her child. If you can't, give up on time.
Well, that's actually what I'm asking, too - why doesn't he go to his father and you be on his leave on his vacation? But make the suggestion come from her - so that it doesn't "scratch your eyes" :) This is just how a mother would react if you said you didn't want the child to come with you, it would be different to tell her that you want to hit him hard in life, not to go home at all, night baths, sex on the beach, etc. - you talk enthusiastically and temptingly about all these things, hoping that at some point she will realize that the child is not to be carried out.
I forgot to write to you that the last one is from 11 again. And with your eating, the regime is obviously wrong in principle, to whom should the child with a healthy diet be thrown?
Author you live strangely, how can a child live normally with you? How can a child eat soups when he has not seen them and does not know that they are eating? I also do not eat cockroaches, because I have not learned from an early age in some Asian countries would take it as strange! Why do you, the author, find it strange to copy your diet and behavior? It is normal for children to copy the behavior of the adults around them, your child is not strange, you are strange.
What is this for you anyway ??? Aren't there free girls for you, not to say you're in love now. Your friend gave birth at a very young age and is raising her child on books and watching a lot of American movies maybe? You can't confuse her, the child has a father. In general, what are you looking for between them, what if they are separated? If the child is calm and happy, what confuses you with everything else? If there is something so disturbing and disturbing, inform the father or the relevant services. On the other hand, this relationship of yours will be a good experience for you in life and for your future family. My advice is to carefully step away from this woman though. Especially if you're a lot younger, right? You are right about a healthy lifestyle and sports, if the mother is really irresponsible and buries her head in the sand about her son's health problems, alas, no one can help. You'll just come out guilty and hint that you don't understand anything from children because you don't? Did I guess? There's nothing stopping you from trying and asking her without accusations if this and that isn't better than that, if she pulls and persists and doesn't care, then it doesn't make sense.
Author, at the beginning I was teased, but after reading what you wrote under №7 as an opinion .... Look, run away from this one. She goes to the gym, and the child what? If you like, take him to the park, challenge him to a ball game or something. I don't think it's worth the effort reading them. Find a good girl you like and watch your life. A single woman of 33 with a child is a sad job. Just because she has a 10-year-old son and is still 30 doesn't mean she's experienced or mature, it's not that simple. I think you are an intelligent boy or a young man and it is not worth experiencing it so much, just accept it as an experience in life. I approach the opinion of №1.
If a woman doesn't respect her own child and doesn't care about his health and tramples him with caffeine in the form of Coca-Cola, how do you expect her to listen and respect you? Wake up! Drop it!