Hello, everyone! I am a 14-year-old girl with a friend of almost 23. We have been going for almost a year and four months now. In the last month he hasn't paid as much attention to me as before, while I'm talking he doesn't listen to me when I say "repeat what I said" he repeats only the first two words and nothing ... I talked to him so he promised me he would try changes but does nothing about it. In the last few days, I'm just crying not to lose him, because I love him really strongly and truly. He works next to people non-stop, next to girls who take him down and are offered to him, they even left him their numbers several times, but of course he doesn't pay attention to them. My problem is this. I love him a hell of a lot and I'm jealous a hell of a lot too. The weather is warming up, the girls are undressing and I'm worried about not doing something. When he looks at a girl in her bust for even a second, I go crazy and start crying and screaming at him. Every day he repeats to me that he is not interested in another, but my jealousy of him is huge. Lately we fight every day for nonsense and it's like "why are you looking at this one, why is she looking at this one, I saw you looking at her ass" 6 months ago he was different, he didn't allow me to sit next to boys in public transport but now he allows me to say whether she is sitting next to a boy or a girl. The truth is, I'm afraid of losing him.
I cried for 30 minutes for fear that someone else would steal it from me. Our people know him, he sees me every day, but my jealousy of him has no end. With each passing day, it gets bigger and bigger. Many times I have cried from girls I don't even know who I see for the first time because they are either beautiful or have a nice body. He always reassured me and said "nice don't cry, I don't care who has what body I want only you" does not show his jealousy and gram, I have told him more than once but he always answers me with "I'm like that". He knows ours as I know theirs and we understand both he with ours and I with theirs. Quarrels are regular because of girls who strip naked, so as not to get along with anyone. His attitude has changed for a long time, he is not the boy he was radically different before. He says that I treat him like a friend. That when we fight, I fight and he's right here, but I'm just like that. I love him, I really don't want to lose him, because for me he is the whole world without him I am nothing. I have always envied my brother for being 17 or for a girl who is 17-18-19 ... he is 23 and it is time for children but it is not for me. I am too young for children and I do not think of giving birth soon. I can't imagine him having a child with another. We have known each other for 3 years, I have always loved him and I will always love him. I'm afraid he'll cheat on me with someone bigger than me to start a family with. A few days ago I cried on the flight because I asked him if I was 20-21 if it would be better. He told me that it would be much better because we would live together to help him with the costs and not wonder how to connect the two ends and the most painful thing for me was that we would have a child. It broke me into millions of pieces, I started crying, he calmed me down and asked me why I was crying. I haven't thought about the fact that he can cheat on me with someone they can have a child with before. This thought kills me every second. Many girls are offered to him, even if he cheats on me, I will not understand. I'm afraid of losing him, he keeps me afloat. If it weren't for him, I would be one of the typical girls nowadays with her breasts out and her ass as visible as possible. I'm asking for help!
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The difference in your age in this case is of great importance. I'm the same age as you, but I haven't had a serious relationship so far. I think you should talk to your parents, because they will give you the best advice and will always think well of you. You're right because he's a big man now and maybe he's thinking about family. The fact is that it certainly takes you at least 10 years, if not more, to get on your feet and no longer think about children, etc. Talk to him and your parents and share your worries. and watch his reaction. You have to stop showing your jealousy so clearly. He will suffer, he will suffer, and in the end he will get tired. If he truly loves you, he will not look at anyone else. Think about whether your relationship has a future. You have a 9-year difference, which if you were 20, wouldn't matter. But you're 14, you are at different stages of your life. You grow, you still change, and you don't even know yourself. He already wants stability. As much as we do not acknowledge it, carnal desires have an effect. If you haven't let him go yet, it's normal for his interest in you not to be so strong anymore. But this does not mean that you will immediately offer yourself to him. Only if you want it and only if you are sure. Just really think about the future of this relationship. Will he be able to wait for you to grow up? If you both think you won't last long, end it, no matter how painful, and stay friends. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. If you haven't let him go yet, it's normal for his interest in you not to be so strong anymore. But this does not mean that you will immediately offer yourself to him. Only if you want it and only if you are sure. Just really think about the future of this relationship. Will he be able to wait for you to grow up? If you both think you won't last long, end it, no matter how painful, and stay friends. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. If you haven't let him go yet, it's normal for his interest in you not to be so strong anymore. But this does not mean that you will immediately offer yourself to him. Only if you want it and only if you are sure. Just really think about the future of this relationship. Will he be able to wait for you to grow up? If you both think you won't last long, end it, no matter how painful, and stay friends. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. That's all from me. I hope I really helped.
I don't know what made me read your story, but I am infinitely surprised that only one comment is waiting for approval. I won't blame you, I won't judge you, but why was it, darling, you start relationships so early, why do you abandon your childhood? !! Here, you are not happy, why instead of living carefree teenage years, you are consumed by jealousy and insecurity? !! As a mother of boys, I don't understand either you or his parents. I would never accept a relationship between my 20-year-old son and a 13-year-old girl, it's disgusting. !! I can't give you advice - you won't like it. Success!
You are too small for such relationships. I started having sex at 19. I'm definitely from the countryside. Your life will change completely, now it just seems to you that it is everything, but you will see that it is not. You may be more appropriate to meet. It's absurd at 14 to talk about your baby. And it's super early for him. Children's story. I'm 29 now and I'm wondering how not to give birth to a bark. Only worries and boredom ...
A typical adolescent with complexes. Think about it, what is he to blame for the girls getting naked? But these are normal and typical nervous outbursts of a girl your age. And what kind of man is he to tell you that he wants you to be bigger in order to help him with expenses? !? !! A complete joker. He can't connect the two ends, but he wants children ... Nowadays, after 30 years, men are already thinking about marriage, let alone children. If you want to keep him, stop jealousy and stop crying - daily scandals drive men crazy and make them back off.
Hello, 14 year old girl! Believe me, your boyfriend doesn't want to start a family, otherwise why would he be with you? 23 years for men is not much, they are just now starting to live, to build their future. 20-23 year old girls, just like boys, are not ready for a family because they are starting to develop, they are just peeking into life. I'm sorry, but your thinking is like the old generation, who said 20-23 year olds should have families? Who told you they thought of family? Your friend is small for family life, I understand he is 33, then completely normal, but ... You are still too young to understand that relationships are changing. He can't behave like he did at the beginning of your relationship, he's used to you, he knows you, he's not jealous of you. Every girl can take his mind, do not think that only those with beautiful bodies and faces can. The heart does not ask who to love, you are just immature, you think that everything depends on appearance, but there are many other factors. Don't be so jealous of him, because you will lose him, don't be angry and don't envy the other girls, because that's to your detriment. Anyway, someday you will always separate and take your own way, but until then, love it, without these panics, if it is written it will happen. -Elizabeth, 20
Hello Sweetie. You are a minor at 14 and your boyfriend is big. He is withdrawn because you are jealous and pressuring him, and men are annoyed by that. He's a big man and he wants a grown girl, I don't know how you met at all, but for me it's not ok for the years, but if you love him well. It's too early for children when he turns 30, okay, but he's still 23 and he's building a career, it's normal for girls to take him down, you're still young and you don't understand that you're pushing him yourself and that can hurt you.
Not that anything, chick, but there are many ... He's not the only one. Don't love these years .. He may not even have feelings for you ..