I'm in a big hole from wherever I look. I can't find a job, mostly because I lack any confidence that I can succeed. It's the same with women, if someone looks at me and smiles at me, thoughts immediately arise in my head "Am I dirty with something, why is he looking at me like that !" and the like ... You know, the worst thing is that I know that with such thinking I will not get to anything good, neither personally nor professionally. I no longer know what to think about myself, I have come to the conclusion that I cannot be normal, this life I live cannot be normal. Probably someone will tell me "Well, change something then, what are you waiting for ?!". Believe me I'm trying to change something, but how do I change my psyche and start believing? !! Whatever I do, I still think it won't happen, and it usually doesn't. : ) I have tried the opposite - I try to think that it will happen, even if I imagine that it happened, it still does not work. I would like to return to the topic of normal things: D so ... do you think it is normal for my last girlfriend to be 5 years ago, is it normal that I have never talked to a girl live? And is it normal to have only internet dating? All these questions provided that it was a 25-year-old man. And what do you think about internet meetings? I think it's a double-edged sword, if you meet an honest person and you're like that, maybe something interesting will happen. But most people are not what they are on the internet. In this space, everyone can be whatever they want, in the beginning it's nice, but in the end there is always someone hurt. I've come to the conclusion that no matter how honest you are with someone you keep in touch with, there is no guarantee that you will be reciprocated from a meeting. It would be nice if I could make contacts live, but if I see a girl I like, when I try to say something I turn red and swallow my grammar. Funny or not - that's me. I will be happy if people who have been through the same write and share something that will be useful to me.
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Regarding the job, I can tell you that with a little more perseverance you will find about women sori dude no one can help you so you will stay a lifetime. My advice is to start practicing some martial arts to become stronger
man i'm the same but i'm 20 years old. For the job, I can tell you that no matter how complicated it is, it is achieved in practice. Or just even if you can't, say "fuck it" and do it again, or at least try. Whichever way you look at it, this way growth! You tried something new, you got scared. It takes small steps. And it's worse with women because you talk to them these days, you'll say hello to her, for example, and she'll do two things: one is that she won't reflect on you, the other is that she'll look at you with a contemptuous look in style. " where are you to talk to me "and she will wait to see what you have to say to her as if she is testing you. If you don't perform well, he'll leave. In Bulgaria, everyone is a bitch with ungodly self-confidence.
Number 1 - I'm physically strong enough, I'm not a dry type or a relief setter, but I walk 3-4 times a week and I'm more muscular. My goal is just to stay in shape and I think I'm getting it. Do you really think there is no chance for me and I will be like that for the rest of my life? Even now that I think about it, I'm probably pretty funny in the eyes of women - such a big man, and so ashamed ... Anyway ... Dude number 1, even if you're right, I don't think I can still put up with this, I will struggle to change, and if I fail ... I don't have to live such a life. Number 2 - not everyone is a bitch, it's easiest to say so - to blame others for your problems. I tell you because there really are decent girls, but it doesn't always work out. I myself have been lucky enough to go out with such people, but when there is no thrill, there is no such desire. I don't want to be one of those people with someone, just so they are not alone! I want to be happy, I don't care if the woman is beautiful or ugly. Although I have not seen an ugly woman, each has its own charm! Abe, in short, I want a woman who will be my mistress, but also a friend. For me, this is happiness. From the author
I will tell you from experience that this is a social phobia. You need a little psychotherapy. In the beginning you can supplement it with an antidepressant and if you are taking such a drug, make sure it is Coaxil! You have a chance to overcome your condition, do not listen to number 1. But alone without the help of a specialist you have little chance to cope.
From number 1 See now the author does not prevent you from trying with women but 90 percent chance that you will not open the parachute for life. There are few such people, but there are. Of course you will not make every effort, even I advise you to do it, but in the end do not feed too high hopes
5, well done, do you plan to do it? in, stz
Haha, thanks for the extremely constructive comments, how did you think that my chance of not opening my parachute hahaha is 90%: D Anyway, today I tried something new haha. I had written to you that, for example, when I was walking down the street and met a girl with whom we could exchange glances, even if he smiled at me, only negative thoughts would rise in my head. So today I decided to walk down the street and I think in my mind haha that I have nothing to think about, I'm just walking down an empty street, there are no people around me and if you want believe me ... it worked! Well, I didn't take off my babe, but I didn't think the standard nonsense for me when I saw a nice one. And lastly, for all who are like me more or less, do not listen to those above me! Work on your problems, don't give up! The worn-out joke "Every train has passengers" is really true,
There is nothing wrong with online dating. It is normal to have a speck on the first date, but then things get better. And just because someone isn't so honest and sharing on a first date doesn't mean they're not who they say they are. Do you know who the babes talking to on the street are talking about - the drunks and the braziers. You're hardly one of those guys, so scribble on dating sites for women in your city and possibly meet them rather than exposing yourself to annoying pedestrians. And I hope you find a job to gain a little self-confidence. "Am I dirty with something, why is he looking at me like that ?!" - and I think that when someone looks at me, but I don't care, I don't think it's a measure of confidence
5, you are very smart
From 5 to 10 - no, I'm experienced
From 5 to 7 - drug addicts do not shake with antidepressants, there is no addiction to them, on the contrary they help HELL