Hello, everyone! I'm the 99th set, girl, a week ago I turned 20. I've always been super shy, shy and I'd even say a little crazy. At school I was one of the so-called "losers" and I had no friends. Until the summer between 11th and 12th grade, I didn't decide to make a drastic change in my appearance, and everything has started ever since. I dyed my hair bright red and started wearing pretty heavy makeup (I've always listened and still listen to metal / rock, but I've never looked like a person listening to that kind of music), I made 2 tattoos out of my own pockets, which I collected for a long time. for 4 months (already 7), I pierced my lip and tongue (now I have a breast piercing), as well as the cartilage of the ears. I live only with my mother, my father died when I was 9, my grandparents live in the countryside and when I go to them, I always have long sleeves, I take off my earrings and put on a wig (I have one that I use sometimes and it looks quite natural, I work in a supermarket and it is not very appropriate to look provocative). In addition to my appearance, I changed my entire wardrobe - erotic lingerie, leather clothes, all sexy clothes. I also lost a lot of weight - from 170 height and 60 kg weight, now I'm 47. So far no one knows how disturbing, but here's the biggest secret - I lead a double life.
My mother, although the big change in my appearance, has always considered me her shy girl, but she does not know what kind of life I lead. When I leave us, I wear a black T-shirt and jeans, but then I go to my best friend and change into high heels (not something striking, but high enough), garters and sexy clothes. (I carry everything in my bag because it's big, and my best friend lives two blocks from us). My mother is strict and sometimes, even jokingly, we joke about sex, but we use expressions like "cracking", etc., because we are both uncomfortable. She did it at 22, as far as she told me, and said that if she found out that I was dealing with someone and doing something, she would throw me out of us because she didn't want garbage in the house. And by no means does she allow me to have intimacy before the age of 22-23, but she doesn't know that I am no longer a virgin. At 18 I did it and since then I have done it a hell of a lot, with 4 boys it was only, but it was enough times. The guys in question were not my boyfriends, I've never had a boyfriend and I don't want more. I don't know how to share it ... she'll just throw me out of us, and last week for my birthday I did a threesome, if she finds out, at most to bury me somewhere. What to do? Do you think the whole thing I do is down? How would you react if your 20-year-old daughter shared such a thing with you?
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I understand why you're doing all this, but I'm not justifying you. You're just hurt by your father's death, by the mockery at school, by your overly conservative mother, and that's how you find emotional comfort, but I want to tell you that you went the wrong way. But even if I tell you, without realizing it yourself, it's okay. I don't know, however, when you realize it, it won't be too late.
Maybe it's a good idea to hide or rather save all your mother's information. If you know she's more conservative, there's no point in sharing such details with her. My girlfriends and I used to be metallic, so I understand you and your style, even though I've never looked so striking. However, one of my best friends was much crazier in her teens. In addition to having sex at the age of 14, for drinking, he became involved with various pseudo-Satanists, he started pretending to be a vampire, cutting himself and drinking his blood, vandalizing, etc. She slept with a lot of boys, maybe girls, maybe a threesome tried, I have no idea. But my attitude towards her never changed, because she did not change towards me. Their people at that time did not know what he was doing and I think they still do not know, and we are already 30 years old. To date, he looks quite normal, has a prestigious and well-paid profession and a stable man next to him. She may have been with many men, but she has always been wary of unwanted pregnancies and illnesses, and this life is a thing of the past for her. I advise you and you, whatever you do crazy, always with reason and thought about possible consequences. Everyone your age wants to try new and unusual things, but few people really can afford it. And your mother or future husband does not need to know about your turbulent past. There are things that are best kept to yourself or shared with your most trusted friends. Over time, you will change and one day you will stop dressing weirder. I really like women's clothing in the Gothic style, but without overdoing it. Choose your wardrobe so that you are not ashamed to show yourself in front of your loved ones. There are ways to make a metallic style look stylish and elegant, but in the end you choose how to dress. And to your last question - even if I wasn't thrilled, I would show understanding to my daughter, because I know that teenage madness is not decisive for a person's future. I hope to be of the same opinion in 20 years. If I know that I have taken care to raise her well and be a reasonable person, I will not worry so much. I would only be against if he drank and smoked a lot and the worst - drugs. Everything else is fixable. I hope to be of the same opinion in 20 years. If I know that I have taken care to raise her well and be a reasonable person, I will not worry so much. I would only be against if he drank and smoked a lot and the worst - drugs. Everything else is fixable. I hope to be of the same opinion in 20 years. If I know that I have taken care to raise her well and be a reasonable person, I will not worry so much. I would only be against if he drank and smoked a lot and the worst - drugs. Everything else is fixable.
You are not what you are, you are just posing.
And do you study somewhere or at least work? At 19, I was already living in a dormitory separate from my parents, and I had more freedom. Otherwise, the path you have chosen is not good, but not because you are hiding from your mother, but it is simply not good for you in the long run ... You simply turn into a failed rag. The problem is not whether your mother knows or not, the problem is what you do with your life. It number 1 felt that you were probably doing everything as a kind of rebellion and even revenge.
Look now, you're 18, sex, couples, threesomes, etc. you have the right to do, especially when you work, it is assumed that you cover part of the maintenance yourself. Just use condoms and beware of diseases. Look, I don't approve of tattoos because they are permanent and you may not like them tomorrow when you come up with another idea.
And when you turn 40, you will be ashamed of the past. You will want to have children. This is your life - ruin it as you want. I just can't understand if you pretended to be a scarecrow and a needle, did you become more beautiful? How will a man enjoy your breasts and nipples with these earrings? !! How can you feel something after more nerve endings are dead? Take a ring on your navel and on your big labia. Make it easier to pull and suck their clit until you pierce it too. It disgusts me more than my ears. If I come across such a needle, I get up and leave. Grandpa Tosho
You are 20 years old, what do you want to become, what are your ambitions, what do you want to happen in your life?
You yourself, if you are a mother, if you put a lot of love, a lot of work, deprivation to raise a daughter, will you want her to be a girl for fun for some people with whom she has nothing to do but have sex? Would it be nice to imagine two men cheating on her? Your vision is your job, personally I like elegant urban style more than metal or the look of a girl with a dubious reputation (I say it softly so as not to offend you) with garters, short and tight clothes, etc. I'm more interested, don't you have any other interests besides your appearance and entertainment with men and in restaurants? Are you happy to be a cashier in a store and do you consider this to be the peak of your capabilities? Don't you have the ambition to follow, to take a course, to become something more, to be able to know more? This should also worry your mother, not just your intimate life. Aren't you talking about your future, how do you see yourself at 30, for example? With more tattoos and irons on themselves, at the box office and with 10-20 men regardless? Because you walk this path. Think seriously about your future.
Your mother is brutally conservative. Don't you dare tell her. Mine isn't exactly like that, but I've been through something like you. Complete metamorphosis. I was blown away, but at 19 I started having sex and went to the other extreme. Over the years, I have slept with almost 50 men and now sex continues to be my top priority. I'm not even a nymphomaniac, but at times I look like one. The more they restrict your parents, the more they kill you. I'm 30 now. I haven't been able to make a connection for 7 years, and I want a hell of a lot. Today my mother called me to talk in a friendly way and what she told me .... To read a super useful article. When I saw her, I was furious ... How harmful the cesarean section was. I am not pregnant, nor is there any chance that I will be soon and when I give birth, it will be a cesarean section! However, she suggests some things to me, which only bothers and strains me. I finally got to the psychologist. I have been going regularly for months. She tells me that it is absurd to tell my mother that I should not. She does it well, but it only hurts me more. I am already psyched on the topic of men and babies ... Otherwise, at your age, a boyfriend did not agree to sleep with us and he did it that way again. He doesn't tell me I forbid you, but he also refused to let me go to sleep with my friend because his father could have raped me. Bullshit. We've been dating for a year, and I never introduced him to her ... Yours is even more extreme. Be careful not to go to a psychologist like me. He doesn't tell me I forbid you, but he also refused to let me go to sleep with my friend because his father could have raped me. Bullshit. We've been dating for a year, and I never introduced him to her ... Yours is even more extreme. Be careful not to go to a psychologist like me. He doesn't tell me I forbid you, but he also refused to let me go to sleep with my friend because his father could have raped me. Bullshit. We've been dating for a year, and I never introduced him to her ... Yours is even more extreme. Be careful not to go to a psychologist like me.
You are 20 and live the life your mother wants. And it's not you. Every extreme is bad. You please your grandmother. Tighten up, separate. Sex at your age is a completely normal thing, sex is health and "beware" because it has to be unrealistic. Who wears garters and heels. In your movie.
If I had a daughter who behaved like you, I would think that I had failed as a parent and it would hurt me not to say whether I would throw you out or not. Maybe the absence of a father is a big part of this behavior of yours now, and as someone above said, you are going down the wrong path, but there is no point in repenting to you. Even if your mother tells you again, it all consists of you personally picking it up and asking yourself to be something more than what people become following the path you are currently following, even if only for a few years. Dual life is a personal conflict and is not good for emotional health. My advice would be to look for a friend who likes you by interests, by how you laugh, how you talk and reason. Rock music is great, metal mueika is great and there is no need to influence the templates ea visual association with these styles mueika ea to enjoy them, the visual is only ea in front of others, image, but in front of others to eat what you are just because of them or to accept you is an era of weakness of character and personal disrespect, perhaps a short life experience. Anyway, I don't approve of tattoos, they attract a certain kind of attention and they are defaulted in the category of people to whom even if you don't belong, the initial impression of those who don't like you will always be influenced by them and that particle will not be good, which on the other hand, it will make you either kill yourself or have to be more convincing in your positive attitude as a woman and a man. but to eat in front of others what you are only for their sake or to accept you is a series of weakness of character and personal disrespect, perhaps a short life experience. Anyway, I don't approve of tattoos, they attract a certain kind of attention and they are defaulted in the category of people to whom even if you don't belong, the initial impression of those who don't like you will always be influenced by them and that particle will not be good, which on the other hand, it will make you either kill them or you have to be more convincing in your positive attitude as a woman and a man. but to eat in front of others what you are only for their sake or to accept you is a series of weakness of character and personal disrespect, perhaps a short life experience. Anyway, I don't approve of tattoos, they attract a certain kind of attention and they are defaulted in the category of people to whom even if you do not belong, the initial impression of those who do not like you will always be influenced by them and that particle will not be good, which on the other hand, it will make you either kill yourself or have to be more convincing in your positive attitude as a woman and a man.
Thanks for confirming my thesis! I knew that the shy were the most perverted. But they hide heavily. Now my question is, why do you lead a double life? I just don't see the point in that, and one day you'll get tired of the mask and take it off. And there's also no point in fucking people you don't love, but that's your job. Be yourself, and you will be relieved so much that you have no idea, the masks over time begin to weigh. Downloaded angel
Girl, take matters into your own hands. I'm also a metal fan, my father also died a long time ago, but I've never done things I regret later. Separately, I am 30 years old and I have only one partner in life and in intimate terms. I graduated from two universities and I have a good job. I go to concerts again, I put on my leather clothes, but I don't do things that make me lose my self-esteem. How can you sleep with guys you don't have a relationship with? Do you realize that now it may not matter, but when you get to my age they will call you Mara General and will look for you all your life just for sex? Is that what you want? To be a thread doll forever, to succumb to all nonsense? Come on! I think you are much more than these clothes, hair, tattoos and everything else in your appearance. Tighten up and think about your future. You need a restart in your thinking, start today.
Eh, dreams .... just to satisfy them! There are discrepancies in the "metamorphosis" but it is generally for a young girl. Are you having a threesome on your birthday ??? Ie you weren't home! Come on! And mom? Or at 3 in the morning, wake up your girlfriend to change into decent clothes. Pocket tattoos work in a supermarket with a wig for sure !? This story is very much transcribed and embellished for me. As for advice, if you want to be a "mess" and your life is a thug - you're on the right track!
since when has sex become something bad and immoral?!? I will share with you a very secret secret and I am very sorry that you learned it from me and it can cloud your life from now on, but all of you who read this are in this world thanks to the fact that two people had sex, so you exist, so if you feel good, keep the others barking, then they will notice you
since when has sex become something bad and immoral? !? I will share with you a very secret secret and I am very sorry that you learned it from me and it can cloud your life from now on, but all of you who read this are in this world thanks to the fact that two people had sex, so you exist, so if you feel good, keep the others barking, then they will notice you