I am a boy of the 96th set, I study and work part-time in the mall (I sell ice cream). My parents are out of work, my father works in the laboratory of a pharmaceutical company and he is gone all day, and my mother works in a transport company, where they even work on Saturdays and Sundays and it is a horror. And we all endure this league - my sister, who not only does not move a finger, but is also very impudent and arrogant. She was very diligent in high school and helped at home, but here's how her pampering began. She has 99 sets, graduated last year. Shortly after the ball, in June, she broke her leg very badly, fought while riding her then-boyfriend's motorcycle, another malnourished mother, who set to work.
The garbage was outfitted and he was wearing a helmet, and he hadn't given her anything in a summer dress, in a wooded area outside the city, she had broken her ankle in a very nasty way, had surgery and the whole family was on their toes. Meanwhile, that pickle left her and didn't even visit her once in the hospital. Everything passed life and health, she had to walk normally for months, we were constantly by her side. After that she never wanted to study, she kept saying that she hadn't decided, she didn't have time from the accident, that's how it lasted. He also missed the entrance exams this year. The other thing is that it doesn't work! And she doesn't want to, she brazenly says that she will soon be a student, plus it was the obligation of our parents, having made her, to support her. I told her that by this logic I am not obliged to work either, but I do it of my choice! And she answered me - “If you don't want to and you don't work, have fun, we are young! ”. But I'm not like her, to have fun while ours break from work. They felt sorry for her a lot after the accident, but now she is alive and well, a young straight woman! And she is no longer a teenager, she is 20. Her day consists of sleeping until noon, walking in the malls with friends (and spending OUR money on her things therefore), going home just to eat (as she does not cook, of course, on the princess is always cooked for her or at least food is bought for her), and sometimes in restaurants, in the evening obligatorily at the discos in Studentski (nothing that she is not a student, she has to kill her boyfriends). She brought us different people from Ligli, she changed a lot to tell me straight and in the end my father and I just told her what she wanted to do, but not to take them to us and she presented them as she would change them in a week or two. Earlier conversations did not help.
Mom pampers her especially! Dad and I don't know what to do. And you can easily say, kick her out, but I can't let my sister out on the street, no matter how angry she is, I care about her and I love her. That's why I don't want him to waste his life! And he lives as a complete consumer and parasite. He doesn't touch homework other than arranging and decorating his own room. Mom serves her! And it does not stop arrogant. She wouldn't get a job because no one could be her boss, she did what she wanted. Honestly, I want to slap her! What can we do in this case?
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Well, your sister is definitely not okay, to put it mildly, but she's not your problem. Your mother and father must deal with it as best they can and as they see fit. They are also the people who turned it into what it is. But you don't have the word, and it's actually in your best interest to look at yourself, even though you don't realize it now, I'll tell you why you can't: my personal opinion is that you are slightly jealous of her, you feel some resentment towards her, not that you are really so worried about her future.
If your sister is beautiful, she should strive to find a man with money. If you know one, you can meet her.
Your parents are not responding properly. There is nothing you can do. I would give an ultimatum as a parent, either you start a job or you start studying or you move out. It is a pity that it will not change. Accept it. You will be fine in life, she will find some uncle money to support her, do not worry about her. Well, she might give birth to a child for him, he would abandon her and again on your shoulders. But think, I'll put it on your parents' shoulders and they'll put up with it, because it's their fault. You will continue your life alone and you will be better.
There is nothing you can do. If you cut her a lot, she will become a prostitute and you will be more ashamed. If by ten years she does not find a wealthy bale to take her, she will experience sobriety very sharply and painfully.
I feel from your story that you are a smart and good boy. Stop her money. It's not right to chase her, but all you describe is spending money. Clothes, restaurants, discos ... When she sees that there is no one to give her, she will start working on her own.
Let me tell you, we're two, I'm exactly the same as your sister, only I'm a third-year student, but I don't work or help in us, I buy clothes at the mall, I go to restaurants, I have fun, my parents work, but I don't have a brother or a sister and I don't think anyone can be my boss. I want to tell you that this is a way of thinking, it doesn't change, I've been like this since I was 14, and I'm a little older than your sister. Personally, I might work if I really run out of money, that is, if your father and mother stop giving it to her completely and she doesn't have a penny, maybe she'll work to keep her money for discos. However, once your mother pampers her, it will be difficult. Both my parents pamper me, and so does my boyfriend. All three are my sponsors, my parents give me cash, and my boyfriend buys clothes, food, pays bills. This is a very advantageous position. To receive everything without moving a finger. My excuse is that I am a student and I don't have time. I will be able to rotate it like this for another 2 years. Then my friend will have more money and I will play the same game again. We are parasites, we love everything. This will be difficult to change, unless I said so if we do not fall into a state of empty pockets.
There is nothing more you can do. You have missed the golden age. Your parents are to blame and obviously do not realize it, but continue in the same spirit. Wait, she will bring you a child and you will watch him, and she will be at the discos again. Your problems are just beginning, you haven't seen anything yet.
Stopping giving her money is the most logical thing to do. Your sister is not your problem, but your parents'. If your mother continues to pamper her, she will have to put up with it. Take care of your work, study and life. Save money and be independent. This is one of the best feelings and gives you the advantage of not giving reports and explanations. Ignore her and don't walk and scold her like a mother-in-law. The problem is not yours. You are 23 years old and as you look you have a full house. A young person needs space for himself. If you are so annoyed by her behavior, you may want to consider renting an apartment. Do not succumb to manipulation and blackmail, some people are drones.
The typical muffin. Nothing new under the sun.
Nothing, she has to realize herself. Now just limit her money per day. If she is not studying, for example, your parents should give her a maximum of BGN 2 per day if she does not have enough time to start working.
Stop giving her money. It will recover very quickly. Brother.
You stop her money.
Horror, I was left speechless, but I will try to comment. In the first place, your parents are to blame, how can they leave their daughter to be blood, parasite and laziness? You stop all the money and that's it ... he will go to malls and discos without working or studying ... I have such an acquaintance, he got used to it, he would always record next year and still nothing. He is already 26, without a single working day and without education. She is so tired of wandering back and forth that for months she doesn't leave them, she only puts on make-up and takes pictures and uploads her photos on social networks. This, if it's normal ... Draw your own conclusions and act while it's time!
I think you're jealous of your sister because she "stabs boyfriends" and she's probably prettier than you. This is the real source of your anger, nothing more.
Everything is up to date, then it will fall from a height and it will hurt a lot.
You also turn off the tap and put an ultimatum, or you take yourself in your hands or you go to a room, there is no other way!
Author, why don't you write her a letter explaining everything you write here? Let her read it calmly. He also explained that life without goals, and in a constant parasitic state, is an empty life. Use the words conscientiously, without attacks, just explain that you are wasting your life in a meaningless way. Is this the most important thing for her - to eat and drink? Ask her questions. Does she think that in the future only this will be what interests her? Doesn't she doom herself to misfortune as she has no interests? Isn't it only time for these current whims - to go out, get drunk and eat? Will he drive it that way at 30 and 40? Form it as questions, let her think about whether such a life really satisfies her. And to number 6 I have a question - will you drive it at 30 and 40,50,50? Do you think this works the way you imagine it? No attacks, I seriously ask.
My sister has a similar story, until recently ours paid for everything, now her boyfriend. I really hope to stay with him and live long and happily together, because I know that if he is not there or ours will ask me for money.
20, you don't have to give to your sister. Watch your life. Even if I break up with my boyfriend one day, don't get caught up in something like that, because you will be a total loser.
According to the set, I judge that you are 23 years old and your sister is 20 years old. In order not to offend you, but your sister must be taken in hand, otherwise she will remain an old girl in 10 years
Shall I slap her? I think it's over with slaps, but as you decide, don't be aggressive with your sister. Slaps don't solve problems. My sister is only 13, but she behaves much more maturely - I'm the previous comment - My sister is 13, as I explained. and she clean cooks learns writes homework everything she does. She is never lazy has a friend who is 2 years older than her (15) Let your sister take matters into her own hands is still 20 slaps in your case will not help her but will hurt her soul - at most she will you respond with the same
"And you can easily say, kick her out, but I can't let my sister out on the street, no matter how angry she is, I care about her and I love her. That's why I don't want her to waste her life! And she lives like a full consumer and parasite. Doesn't touch homework "-This is the only thing that can be done, she is already an adult and has to take care of herself!
Well, she's a cook, and you're 23 and you're the "independent man" living with your parents? And why do you pay her and spend your money, why do you believe in that? Meaning, is that really so or ..? This is between your parents and your sister in general. You are not like that, like that, but either be or move out. You both stay with your parents, she was the cook, and you know - who arranged how! As she is cunning, she will be cooked, washed, she will sleep until the afternoon and she will spend in malls, I'm not saying it's fair, but ... and you, being "very smart", will complain on the forums and you will roar, that you can't evict your sister from your shared home while she's spending your money, which is not entirely certain if both of your parents have enough financial means - to fund her to go to the malls with friends. Don't get me wrong, very nice that you set out to make your own money, it's for your satisfaction, but either keep quiet about your sister or put these negative emotions into something more meaningful. This hatred will not be in your favor, on the contrary! If you think it is right in your way - go on, but do not judge another that he has found the easier. For her, this is right, you are not confused and you are not judged, and you do not! Only your parents have the right to talk to her about this, to get angry with her and teach her, you-no! The only thing you will gain - a terrible relationship with your sister, unpleasant feelings, etc. That is, no benefit to you! that in your way it is right - go on, but do not judge another that he has found the easier. For her, this is right, you are not confused and you are not judged, and you do not! Only your parents have the right to talk to her about this, to get angry with her and teach her, you-no! The only thing you will gain - a terrible relationship with your sister, unpleasant feelings, etc. That is, no benefit to you! that in your way it is right - go on, but do not judge another that he has found the easier. For her, this is right, you are not confused and you are not judged, and you do not! Only your parents have the right to talk to her about this, to get angry with her and teach her, you-no! The only thing you will gain - a terrible relationship with your sister, unpleasant feelings, etc. That is, no benefit to you!