I never imagined that I would ever get here to ask for help from someone else ... I am terribly confused. The problem is the following. My sister, who is 2 years younger than me 2-3 years ago, went blind. My mother works abroad and my father pleases my sister for everything. So far so good. But my sister is overdoing it. She has become even more spoiled than before. He constantly teases me and blames me for things I didn't do, and my dad doesn't believe me. Ok, I'm used to that, although I don't know if it's right.
But many times when we argue and she rushes to hit me, scratches and kicks ... and when I hit her only once and my dad attacks and then I eat even more fight ... even about half an hour ago my sister she didn't let me study for graduation, and she is important to me... I made her leave the room and leave me, but she kept going and Dad didn't do anything ... I started insulting her to leave and she started beating me. It is very clear that I will not sit. I hit her too. And Dad immediately jumped up and kicked me ...
God ... if anyone could see my legs. The targets are red ... I know she can't see and I don't pay attention to her, but she's too much. Too bad I can't do anything. My only chance to save myself is to go to study, but they don't let me study. They keep saying that nothing will come out of me
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It is normal to protect her for everything, in the end your sister will not be lucky to develop in some way like you, she no longer has a chance to live a normal life, of course this is not a reason to be ignored, but you already I'm sure you're old enough to handle yourself. Study, find a job and if there is a way out of you, go to study in another city, develop ... but don't forget what it is! If the problem now is that it doesn't let you study so much that you have nowhere else to go to read, in a friend for example or in a library, let what they say about you that nothing will come out inspire you to succeed in life. Success!
Why don't you talk to your father or sister because being blind doesn't give her the right to treat you like that, but it's not her fault, it's your father's. The fact that she does not see does not entitle your parents to ignore you. They don't want you to succeed because your sister won't have that chance, and they don't want her to feel bad about her misfortune. I believe in you and I know you will succeed
How will your father beat you? To beat a girl and his daughter?!? Give them both a shovel on their heads!
I am a mother of 2 children. The eldest is an 18-year-old girl and the youngest is a 14-year-old boy. She is healthy and he has a health problem. It is also very tense here. I don't know why she thinks he has more rights than him. Maybe this behavior is killing complexes.
Dear girl, my opinion is, study and don't give in to them, prove that you really deserve a better attitude towards you, and not because of your disability to expect to be protected, as your sister does. I've been this way and I know what's wrong with you. The only difference is that my sister is four years younger than me. Here I succeeded, I graduated from university, I have a family, I created two children (a boy and a girl) and despite my sister's insulting words, in my address "I gave birth to them like gypsies" I am happy with what I have achieved, it is a pity that my father you didn't understand me. I believe in you. I wish you success!
I advise you when she does something in front of your father without answering her, look your father in the eye and ask him if he saw what she did. I don't know your mother, but consider whether it will help if you write to your mother about it. She can talk to your father. Tell both your parents directly that you want to study.
I think that your sister hates you very much and she is angry that you can develop and she can't !!! She kills her in complexes and her life is super meaningless, your father is a very big oligophrenic. I should never hit you for such nonsense, he acts super stupid, if I'm in your place I don't know how he will endure :( Good luck darling!
I know he hates me and kills his complexes. I just don't understand what the reason is, they treat me like I'm guilty of not seeing ... anyway. I hope they accept me and get away from them. I'm glad at least that my mother never stopped believing in me, and really, if it weren't for her, what would I do? I know she's my sister, and I've been stupid and naive to feel sorry for her many times, but over time I've realized that she really hates me. I became convinced when in May, when we were 3 in Plovdiv, I was dumped in the center. I didn't mind because I had no idea where the station was, but because of their actions. Despite everything, I know that I will manage :)
when your sister starts kicking you and so on you don't hit her but just call your father or mother and they will see him
If you have some grandparents nearby go temporarily to them. Or if you have a boyfriend, move in with them temporarily, at least until you graduate, find something that you can combine with school to have an income and be independent. After that, when you finish, you go out and don't look at them at all. They have no right to humiliate you in this way, you deserve something better, you deserve a better life and people who really appreciate you. If your father and sister don't do it, someone else will!
And the next time they touch you, get yourself medically to see what they will do then!
Honey, gather your strength, grit your teeth and prepare for the exams! This is your chance. If it doesn't work the first time, don't give up and try until it works. It's a pity, but you can't count on your parents. First, they are obviously obsessed with your sister's problem, which is understandable, second, you have become a buffer that robs everyone of tension. They have no interest in learning and succeeding in life, because they really need someone, easy to manage, with no prospects, to stand there and watch them and your sister in their old age. They also fear that your success would hurt your sister and make her feel inferior.
Unfortunately, you took on the role of scapegoat. Get out of there as soon as you can. There is no point in being angry with your sister - it is unfair and yes, she obviously hates you, consciously or not. Just accept that the disease has distorted perceptions and this is no longer the same person. It is normal that he does not want you to succeed - he will accept it as a blow against himself and a personal failure. Your success would only emphasize the lack of prospects. Focus and learn - this is your way out!