I realized that my son was gay. I had doubts for a long time. I asked him directly if that was the case and he confirmed. Although I felt I was almost in shock. But my concern is that his father has no idea. I am very afraid of his reaction to him and to me. I don't know if I'm right but I don't let him tell his father ... It would be a huge blow for a man and a father to understand such a thing about his son. My son has a friend and sometimes even brings him home. My husband accepts it as a male friendship. But I feel like a pimp. If he understands, I don't think what will happen to my son and our marriage. Advise me how to proceed. Am I right or not.
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How old is your son? Sooner or later he will have to accept him as he is ... unfortunately there is no other way out, and if your son is happy to be as he is, you should be happy too, because he has found harmony with himself!
You are not right! My brother is gay ... so what? Don't be sick or infected .. what are these prejudices in the 21st century, people .. tighten it up a bit!
Why should the fact that your son is gay endanger your marriage? You better tell him now. It will be worse later. And he should know, after all he is his son and when he grows up his father will want grandchildren, etc. I don't know, as you judge, success! M. P. =)
Ma'am, I think the best thing you can do in a situation is to share it with your husband. I think that as the father of your child, he has the right to be interested and informed about what is happening to his child. If you don't share, maybe you will feel somehow guilty in this situation because you didn't share. I don't think the child should blame you after you share. I think that every marriage should be built on trust and security, which means that you should share or hint in some way to your husband what is happening to your son! PS I hope I helped, even though I'm a teenager. (I don't think age determines who a person is)
If a husband abandons his wife and hates his child just because he is gay, then this man should not be called a father and husband at all :) And, if he leaves you both, he will do the best he can in this situation. I don't see anything disturbing in someone being gay. Support your child and talk to him so you know what he prefers - he should personally tell his father in a conversation only between the two of them; to tell him in your presence or you prefer to tell him yourself. Do as he sees fit. If he doesn't want to share this with his father now, wait and raise the issue again at a later stage. At some point, either your son will outlive his fear and share it with your husband, or he will guess :) Harp
Hello! In my opinion, your husband does not guess, but blocks this information - this is the reaction of most parents. If he really can't guess, then he doesn't know his child at all. It is really better to tell him now than later, and hope that the reaction will not be negative. If he loves him and respects him as a human being, he must understand him. And if not, you will have the opportunity to decide whether you want narrow-mindedness in your house or prefer to protect your child, as you do now, for which I admire you. Success! Amber
I'm a woman of 24, God forbid one day if I have a son I find out he's gay. I do not mind these people, but not in my life and home.
Why do you as a mother feel guilty that your son is gay? are you to blame for his eye color, hair, or height to blame for his sexual orientation? You tell your husband and so much, he would take him badly, did you take him lightly? The family is common, the son is common, your duties and rights are common.
In order to give adequate advice, we must be at least a little familiar with the character of the father. I am a girl and years ago I set out on the path that your child now walks - I began to fall in love with women. I even had a strong love affair with a member of my gender. I was very worried about how my parents would react. I was ashamed to admit it to them, and I thought that if they found out, they would kick me out of the house. Of course, in the end the truth came out and they both reacted in a very unexpected way for me - they accepted it. They were not particularly happy about this fact, but they did not criticize me at all for my choice. Maybe they did it because they knew me very well and they assumed that in time the women would stop pulling me and I would go my normal way. That's what happened, but even if it hadn't happened, I think they would have reacted the same way. I blamed myself much more for that than they did. Parents are, after all, and whatever their child does they try to understand. I will tell you how my father found out about me - my mother spoke. She sat down with him and explained the whole story to him - that I felt very alone and found intimacy with this girl, that it was probably momentary and would pass and that the main reason for my choice was the loneliness in which I lived for a long time. . I've never talked to him openly about it, and I probably never will. His attitude towards me has not changed since the news and to this day I remain his favorite child. You are the one who needs to talk to your husband. Hint to him and see how he reacts. Don't make your son do it, because a scandal is likely to break out, and he will probably die of embarrassment and fail to say what he wants. Try to explain to him why your child has gone this way and be sure to leave a door, because nothing is known - after a while he may become more interested in women again. Everything is on a mental basis in my opinion. I was on the other side, too, and I think homosexuality is a personal choice, not a birth defect. There are also people who are so obsessed with this topic that they do everything possible to become what they are not - for me they are already sick and need treatment. It's good to talk to your child too. Be his friend and listen to him. These people need a lot of attention and a person to understand them. If you have other questions - ask them, but try to find the right moment and talk to your husband. You both have to decide what position you will take - whether you will directly oppose him and start sharply criticizing him / which is very wrong for me, because there is a chance that your son will close down, stop communicating with you, isolate himself. not only by you, but also by those around you, considering yourself very wrong and even sick, and one sunny day to just go out /; whether you will try to understand him and talk calmly to him to see why he chose this destiny or like my parents you will silently come to terms with the situation hoping one day your child will only realize that this time he will not take it to nothing good, but will only suffer and in time will most likely be left alone. Talk to both - it all depends on you. Success! to isolate oneself not only from you, but also from those around oneself, considering oneself very wrong and even sick, and one sunny day to simply move out /; whether you will try to understand him and talk calmly to him to see why he chose this destiny or like my parents you will silently come to terms with the situation hoping one day your child will only realize that this time he will not take it to nothing good, but he will only suffer and in time he will most likely be left alone. Talk to both - it all depends on you. Success! to isolate himself not only from you, but also from those around him, considering himself very wrong and even sick, and one sunny day to just move out /; whether you will try to understand him and talk calmly to him to see why he chose this destiny or like my parents you will silently come to terms with the situation hoping one day your child will only realize that this time he will not take it to nothing good, but will only suffer and in time will most likely be left alone. Talk to both - it all depends on you. Success! that this time it would not lead him to anything good, but he would only suffer and in time he would most likely be left alone. Talk to both - it all depends on you. Success! that this time it would not lead him to anything good, but he would only suffer and in time he would most likely be left alone. Talk to both - it all depends on you. Success!
I see no reason to tell him. He was expecting grandchildren and had a right to know - nothing like that! Life promises nothing to anyone. He who accounts for others does not respect their choices. Don't tell your husband if he feels it - feel it if you don't live like you do now. And no one loses anything from that. And you don't bother. The gossip in you is torturing you. Kill her. :)
They removed the barracks and all the men became gay. Then we complain that our country is in this situation, it has no men, and the struggle is a man's job. The geographers have nothing to say about the topic! He decided to be gay, ok, then let him live in his own home, work, work, take care of himself, and then invite guests. By turning him on the vortex of life and seeing that he cannot be lazy all day, he will be able to decide what to be. It is a disease that can be treated. However, you need to find a specialist and help, to give an adequate solution to the problem. You are not gay at the center of the world, you are not. Sorry, but there are other more important things than you. And to tell the mother, to stop his money. To start looking after her child, to move to a dormitory, to see life face to face, and then to claim what his "character" was. It is the parents' fault that they sleep like horses with caps and a boy has to shout at home, make white, enroll in sports - wrestling, football, tennis, run, sweat, have no time to think about sexual orientation . Your son, lady, has a lot of free time. And the father, if he is a father on the spot with the rolling pin, will drive you and your son away, you are very rightly afraid. You're obviously scared because you know he's going to blame you, aren't you? And the mothers, those dear ones, were not to blame? Well, not to run the child not to sweat, not to play with boys, not to learn bad words. By playing with girls he copies their behavior of thinking and acting. Being gay is not something in DNA, it's in an overly caring mom. not having time to think about sexual orientation. Your son, lady, has a lot of free time. And the father, if he is a father on the spot with the rolling pin, will drive you and your son away, you are very rightly afraid. You're obviously scared because you know he's going to blame you, aren't you? And the mothers, those dear ones, were not to blame? Well, not to run the child not to sweat, not to play with boys, not to learn bad words. By playing with girls he copies their behavior of thinking and acting. Being gay is not something in DNA, it's in an overly caring mom. not having time to think about sexual orientation. Your son, lady, has a lot of free time. And the father, if he is a father on the spot with the rolling pin, will drive you and your son away, you are very rightly afraid. You're obviously scared because you know he's going to blame you, aren't you? And the mothers, those dear ones, were not to blame? Well, not to run the child not to sweat, not to play with boys, not to learn bad words. By playing with girls he copies their behavior of thinking and acting. Being gay is not something in DNA, it's in an overly caring mom. those darlings were not to blame? Well, not to run the child not to sweat, not to play with boys, not to learn bad words. Playing with girls copies their behavior of thinking and acting. Being gay is not something in DNA, it's in an overly caring mom. those darlings were not to blame? Well, not to run the child not to sweat, not to play with boys, not to learn bad words. By playing with girls he copies their behavior of thinking and acting. Being gay is not something in DNA, it's in an overly caring mom.
n 13, sorry, but you made up a whole story and the barracks intervened - nowhere does it say that the son lives at home and is almost ready, and one of the main reasons to remove the barracks was because of the perversions that took place there. My cousin was raped there by the other boys and to this day he has a mental disorder. There were also abuses during my father's time - at least a fight, and two of his colleagues even hijacked a train and wanted to be fired - well, they shot them and so on, but in our country not one of them left his life and mental health. in the barracks, and gay performances are most common in closed male communities - barracks, prisons, monasteries and so on. Many gay people deliberately even practice such professions in order to be among men and to easily find lovers, especially if they are superior. And you don't choose to be gay or not.
That's the funniest thing when someone says "well, he has DECIDED to be gay" or "he has CHOSEN to be gay". Are you normal? Who will CHOOSE to be gay? Did you choose to be heterosexual? Have there ever been a time in your life when someone came to ask you "what do you want to be from tomorrow? Gay or hetero?". How is sexuality decided in this way? It's like deciding the color of your eyes. Well, you can't. Or very few people can do it after thousands of hours of meditation.
I was expecting advice from parents with the same problem, but I didn't read it. These comments confuse me more. author
What can I tell you ... I could never tell my parents and sister that I was bisexual. And how can I say that some of the friends I took home are not just ... friends? How can I say that I am the "girl" of these friends of mine? I managed to keep my secret and I think it will remain a secret. So it is better for his father not to understand (if of course he has not already understood) and whatever is going to happen, it will happen. Good luck.
№ 19, I'm glad you realized what attracts you. Can't you just emphasize women. Because I'm a woman and I'm attracted to men, but I can't have all men, so I choose to be with one, the others are just not my property. Look at your case like this. Find a wife, but you just can't have other men and women.
№20 thanks for the advice, but I have already found or .... met a woman who perceived me as I am and from time to time .... satisfies the urge with a penis belt.
Give it all in your ass. To choke as much as possible.
Turn the thread yourself and dissuade your husband that he is also homosexual and your son will become heterosexual again out of shock. It has been tested and it really works! Try it and say how it went. Success! Fingers crossed! Kisses!
Fuck him! Boys have always been aroused, albeit unknowingly, by their mothers. They were the first women to see naked or half-naked. bare your tits in front of him, show yourself to him in thongs, call him to the bathroom to rub your back ... see the man in him, make him look at you like a woman. See if he starts looking at you secretly, if he "stretches the tent" when you flirt with him and finally go to bed with him!
And I'm gay and I've been dating a boy for 2 years, I haven't asked our people how they accept him at all, when they asked me why I don't have a girlfriend I told them I didn't need them and when they went too far they went to introduce me to different girls the truth in my eyes that this boy with whom they see me often and let me sleep in them is not only my friend but also my lover. They were naturally shocked, there was an ugly scandal and then I told them that after I finish school I go to live with him, whether they want to or not! There is nothing they can do about you and your case, or you accept your son as he is and support him or he just won't want to see you anymore, you have no other options!
Complete shock. The choice is his, but how can you allow yourself to take your "friend" and make perversions in your home ??? He is your son, I understand that you love him, but you just encourage him to do abominations. If he is not independent enough to live alone, then he is not independent enough for that.
Number 27, great logic (but Niki Panchev). If the son was heterosexual, he would be independent enough to stretch one, right? It can be hatred for the different, but come on, a little objectivity. Author, your son is one on hand, he is hiding from everyone else. At least tell his father so he can't at least worry in front of you.
26, why did you go to your boyfriend immediately after talking to your parents? If you are old enough to have a lover, then you will be old enough to move out right now.
31 My friend and I are both minors, he is only a year older than me and we still live with ours, so I can't move out yet, but this will happen too! From 26
And what comes out - you're old enough to be ... "go to bed" with him, but you're not big enough to go out with him. Quite strange to say.
I hope you've already accepted it, or at least ... come to terms with the fact that it is. My parents had a hard time accepting that I was gay, but they did accept it ... it took them a while to make sense of it. My partner's mother, she is divorced, is a fairly broad-minded woman and it was not difficult for her to accept her son's "girl" into her home.