My Wife And I Are Too Different! Is There A Future For Such A Marriage At All ???

   Well no, you're not for each other. I'm 87 set like you, but I'm just like your wife in character. However, unlike her, I know what I want and what I don't want from life (I don't want children and family life). That's why I wouldn't get into a serious relationship, especially with a person like you, who has a clearly simpler mentality - family, sitting in one place, etc. And I'm like her on the move, although not abroad for now. I love what I do! I enjoy life as I like and as I know! I think you both made the mistake of committing. You (probably maybe quite subconsciously, purely instinctively, not intentionally) managed to deceive her that you accept her way of life, that you accept her as she is and maybe you were even with the attitude that she will probably changed because of you. (Many women and men often fall into such delusions for your misfortune.) You have not understood one very important thing about human nature - a man has never changed for the sake of another man! There are people who simulate! change when they are in need, especially in a dead end. But at first possible, if it is to be in 15 years, it becomes itself again. And another time I heard from various people that the reluctance to have a child and family life was a sign of immaturity ... My opinion is that this is COMPLETE NONSENSE, because the desire to reproduce a person either has it or not! This is just an instinct that animals have! A big sign of immaturity in my opinion is to be 30 years old, to say that you want a child, and to calculate how mom and dad will transfer money from Austria ... Also by logic, that reluctance to have a child is a sign of immaturity (which, as I said, I define as just a purely animal instinct), we can safely say that the Roma are the most mature and mature people, in general, the people who mature the fastest ...! When I mentioned Roma, I now thought of a recent topic in the family section: 'Social benefits for mothers. 'is its title. In it, some yesterday's p **** apologizes directly to us, the conscientious taxpayers, I quote from there: 'is there anything else that can be "sucked" so to speak by the state? 'She wanted' the mature '(because, as a future mother, and by the logic of people like you, the author, she is mature) to suck the state, without a single day of work experience otherwise! Otherwise, she had graduated from university. Well, I'm a graduate, like most people today. But ... oh, come on, I deviated enough. But my thought was that the desire for children is not a sign of maturity, but just a desire. For some people it is often a way to arrange their lives ... so to speak, most often women, but men can sometimes meet. Maybe you author should have focused on someone like the author of 'Social benefits for mothers. 'And from Austria yours to help you ... to you who have matured ... And with your wife just part with good. Initially, you didn't have to get together at all. After all, everyone is free to live as he wishes, as long as he does not harm others. Maybe you author should have focused on someone like the author of 'Social benefits for mothers. 'And from Austria yours to help you ... to you who have matured ... And with your wife just part with good. Initially, you didn't have to get together at all. After all, everyone is free to live as he wishes, as long as he does not harm others. Maybe you author should have focused on someone like the author of 'Social benefits for mothers. 'And from Austria yours to help you ... to you who have matured ... And with your wife just part with good. Initially, you didn't have to get together at all. After all, everyone is free to live as he wishes, as long as he does not harm others.

   If there are so many things that bother you about your relationship, why marry her? All these problems and differences had to be ironed out before the marriage, not during it. You can try to get her to see a family therapist. But if she doesn't want to do anything to improve the relationship, what will you do? Will you become like those women who, like their husband, beat them and do not want to change, stand meekly and repeat how much they love him?

   I don't think she's too in love, you're just comfortable with her. Traveling with her and abandoning the business you just started won't get anything out of your business. Whether or not you can count on your brother. Because, he probably already says to himself "my brother lives his life here and there, and I serve him". Your wife likes traveling and obviously has no intention of tying up with a baby at home, and she takes you away from work. Worse, she does not want to commit to a common solution to the issue, because she has no intention of having a child soon. If he was 23 he would be, but at 33? If you stay with her, you will constantly fight with her desire to impose herself and with "don't bother me". Well, she doesn't even want to talk to you openly! What are we talking about!

   I'm a lot younger than her, but that's my character. As I read, I see myself in time and hope for such a life. I do not know what to tell you. You can't change people like that. They can change if they want to internally. They are definitely not for everyone, if you can't keep up with her pace and lifestyle, you have to either give up or have the patience to wait for her (eventually) to settle down one day - but it's not certain. If she loves her job, don't try to take it away from her. She is lucky. You know how many people are reluctant to go to work, wait for Friday, wake up on Monday with the thought "off again", wait for the holidays, let go by inertia and do not put a drop of desire in what they do - this is not life. Is that what you want for her? I don't want it to sound like I'm just defending her. I'm dumb for you, when I read your story. You are not guilty of anything, but neither is she. No one is. Just when two people with very different worldviews come together, or they both perceive a little of the other and find balance, or they deceive each other until they separate. Maybe you should sit down and talk. Let everyone clearly say what they want from life, where it can be seen in 5, 10, 15 years ... And if you can't put together a "common" picture, a life that will make you both happy, maybe it will be the best it is better for everyone to take their own path.

   Hard work, it was falling in love, not love and yes - you are different. I don't believe it will change. she saw you sink to your ears and come on, wedding. Hormones evaporate slowly and you see the reality yourself. when starting a family, people agree in advance on basic things - do they want children and when, where will they live, how will the money be distributed and by whom. I see that you do not have such a thing. Talk to her frankly, agree for a while that things will be OK for both of you. Otherwise ... you know. You are not only different, but you are looking in different directions. And for marriage, the opposite is true - similar people, even in temperament, with a similar vision for the future.

   Well, that's why these things are said before a man gets married. It doesn't have two people who fit together perfectly, but they still need to come closer in their views on important things. The only way out of the situation is - compromises, preferably on both sides

   I don't know how you tolerate such couples, honestly! If a person doesn't let you look at his phone, then he's hiding something. I know it from personal experience. So many women hid their phone from me because of "personal space", I stalked them and took it from them, and what do you think I find? Sex chats. : D if a person hides something from you, then he does it for a reason. I've been trying to explain it to people around me for years, but they too? like you, they think it's a "personal space" and they understand infidelity after months, years. You are married. What does personal space mean? At the moment you are one. You have no right to this ... space. And you're a man, pounding your fist on the table and saying, "GIVE ME THE PHONE." That is why it is called a male word. Hard and direct, You look a little under my slipper ... your wife takes you literally by the nose and you are "

   Ugh and I am a shooter and my husband is most angry with me that I rarely say WE. We also love diversity. Grayness and routine kill us. There must be emotions, movement and many energy-consuming actions. I'm already a mom and at times I feel like biting my hand, just to make something interesting happen! This is a joke. To stay together will require a lot of compromises on both sides, but you have to sit down and sign them, to know who will comply with what and who will compromise. Neither of them should be left with the feeling that he is still giving in, because that is until the time and then it explodes like a balloon. This with the move sucks, it will be solved by becoming a mother and she has to settle down. But be prepared for a major depression! If she's used to traveling and suddenly home with a baby ... she'll come out through your nose. It is very likely that he will continue this work, only that you will be at home with the baby. If she is not ready to be a parent, you will be very sorry that you insisted. It will take a lot of conversation, but first iron out the differences and then the child. You should also leave a door for separation if you see that the compromises are too great and you are not happy. My homemaker and I are still sulking and no one is 100% happy, but we are pushing the cart. Good luck

   7, because of people like you, phone passwords were invented. Do you remember that if a person has something to hide, chats and call history are deleted for five minutes. The question is in the trust and respect for the personal space of the other. I've never lied or played anyone behind his back, but I hate being touched by my phone and even my best friend by letting her see something, it's usually in my hands. It's a matter of feeling, but this is a disgrace of yours and I don't know which normal person would tolerate you.

   And why are you traveling with her on her business trips? In the end, you married her exactly as you met her, and not in the idea of ​​what you should be happy for her at the expense of her happiness. So you accepted her like that, you knew about her work and the fact that she is a wave bird, etc., and now you want to turn her into a housewife with the chicks attached to her floor. to help financially ... well no, you are not the one more responsible! She is the one who does not agree to make her dependent on herself and others! I gave birth to two children when my husband fulfilled his promise to hire a wife to help at home with the little ones and I to be able to work and not be detached from social life. No, I didn't want children at that moment, I made a compromise. And do you know what happened? Well, he decided he had already tied me up and could change his promises, to lock me up at home, etc. Well, I hired an assistant myself, I went back to my job, I left it after 3 months! And so far he has said that I was the "love of his life" and did everything for me and my comfort. Offff, that's what you think now, you cover up the elementary manipulations with a supposed thought for both of you. Nonsense! You want to change her, force her to shake her child, to stop doing what she likes, because she has already thought about who will help, to keep her in her emotional cell. Well, she will run away from you, this is the situation, I made it like a mother, and she will probably do it before you get pregnant! you cover up the elementary manipulations with a supposed thought for both of you. Nonsense! You want to change her, force her to shake a child, to stop doing what she likes, that she even thought about who would help, to keep her in her emotional cell. Well, she will run away from you, this is the situation, I made it like a mother, and she will probably do it before you get pregnant! you cover up the elementary manipulations with a supposed thought for both of you. Nonsense! You want to change her, force her to shake a child, to stop doing what she likes, that she even thought about who would help, to keep her in her emotional cell. Well, she will run away from you, this is the situation, I made it like a mother, and she will probably do it before you get pregnant!

   She doesn't love you. I don't see the point in torturing you. You are comfortable with it, as they wrote above. Okay, why do you commit / women at any cost? !! I can't understand that. You are not a couple, but two people who have gathered their loneliness, and the result is deplorable. If you are a family type, a homemaker - you should have chosen such a woman.

   The woman is already old, that is, she has to give birth right now ... It is not known how long the attempts will last, it doesn't always happen right away, talk, there may be no plans for children at all ...

   To number 10 - and what do you suggest according to your experience - to wait for her to be emotionally and cosmically-tantrically ready, to wish, that is, in about ten years? And then at the moment when her fragile soul was hurt by the lack of a cook, cleaner and washing machine to leave him? Ha-ha and ha-ha again.

   H 13, I suggest that he leave her alone and look for a woman who wants the same. A submissive woman, who has given birth to several children with pleasure, will, more importantly, calmly wait for various relatives to help raise them with some money. Hahahaha .... and again ... hahahaha, a man doesn't make a dick! He knew very well what kind of woman to marry, not a submissive, dependent soul. Moreover, she can't even offer herself what she needs to get pregnant and give birth calmly and confidently in the man next to her, no, she will wait for her grandparents! Hahah, hungry pishlyovtsi, but with high hopes to bring the woman down, so that they look a little above ... hahaha funny, so unfortunate.

   It is not the idea to argue who is right and who is wrong, whose mentality was elementary and whose sublime, who was immature and who was not, etc. These are just two opposing worldviews and everyone is right for himself, everyone has the right to choose a lifestyle that makes him feel happy. A woman like this will be unhappy if you lock her up at home and make her babysit and dust, and obviously a man like the author is unhappy about all this wandering and insecurity.

   People, you attacked me without understanding me. My dream is not to bind my wife as a submissive wife and mother. It's just that my biggest dream in life is to become a father. And I am hurt by the lack of a specific answer. Yes, my biggest mistake is that I married a woman very different from me with different goals and interests, but do we choose who to fall in love with? I've been with women like me, but nothing worked, love is not a deal. Yes, some of you are right, but only on one side. What you don't know is that she was the first to insist that we be together, she won me over, so to speak, not me. As you can see, I am the one who is making the compromises now. And no, that's not a euphemism for something else. Because we all know that marriage without compromises does not happen. I talked to her, she told me to wait some more time for such plans. But time flies. And who said that the hostess will be her or something? We have always shared our responsibilities. And she may be cooler, but she's still looking for contact with me, kissing me like a woman she loves. Speak kind words. At the same time, her actions show otherwise. The author

   People, you attacked me without understanding me. Welcome to the forum. Here it is a tradition for everyone who has understood or misunderstood to draw conclusions that have nothing to do with reality. Now, no matter how much you explain, people have already drawn their conclusions and you can't convince them. My only advice is not to rush to have children until you smooth out the differences, because then it becomes much more complicated now and in the end it does not happen that the children pay for your mistakes.

   Allegedly accidentally leave her magazines or websites that talk about how getting pregnant is more difficult with age, how a child with a disability can be born. Or take the question carefully ... Tell her things like that. Maybe I will listen to them ... persuade, for example, your mother or common acquaintances to tell her the same ...

   You had to say these things about the child and her work before the wedding. I don't think there is a solution. For a woman, there is nothing more real than the feeling of having a child. And her years are passing ... 33 ...? It is unknown at this time what he will do after leaving the post. You're talking about zodiac signs, do they matter ... We're all different. I'm a female shooter 87 set, I have nothing to do. I am a homemaker, I look after my house, the child, we even want another one after another year. Yes, it is difficult when you like your work and everyday life to break away to look after a baby, but this is a period. Life is in periods. I realized this during my motherhood. And in the end, this is every woman's mission. You are different, but that is the challenge. I advise you to find a way to check her phone, it must be hiding something. As a woman, I tell you. People change, you need a willingness to compromise.

   I am exactly the set of the Author's wife and I will calm the skeptics - at the age of 33 one is not too old for children. I got pregnant in literally 1 month and I have no problems, and now I am in the 7th month. And we, as the author's family, travel a lot around the country and abroad and I have 4 doctors somewhere in 4 cities (fifth doctor on Monday!) And everyone is of the opinion that my pregnancy is going great. Any tests for chromosomal abnormalities (DAUN, etc.) are perfect for us, and I looked at the clinics with girls much younger than me with miscarriages, sutured cervixes and all sorts of other complications. Having a child is an important decision. It's not a teddy bear to take it back to the store. We have decided now for children, although I am interrupting my career, but such is life. The plan is to give birth to the second one immediately after that and to pass our motherhood and start our own business. My sister gave birth at the age of 35 without any problems. There is a big difference between 33 and 40 years, so do not write off the author's wife yet I support the author to some extent, but in general such plans are talked about BEFORE marriage, not after it. You should have asked the woman directly what her plans were. Sit down as a family and discuss these things. We are not an instance here that we can and should say how to organize your life. As for who is based on the career of the other, we personally have our agreement - we comply with the career of the one who earns more. In this case, my husband earns much more than me and I am the one who moves because of him, but in the future it is very likely that the opposite will happen, because he plans not to work as much as now and to end, so he will comply with me more and so on.

   Isn't it slipper behavior for your wife to determine where to live and to drag you to different cities, not to comply with your business? I learned from your story that you make more compromises. Have you heard the phrase "your actions speak so loudly that I can't hear what you're saying"? I am a woman, I have spoken hotly to many men, just to get what I want. As it seems to me that your wife does. You are comfortable with her and she carries you around the country like a wet newspaper. I would never take such a man seriously, let alone start a family with him. The man has to weigh himself on the spot, to look after his business, not to divorce him like a dog on a leash. And you are, roughly speaking, 35 years old. If you don't start a family now ... when? !! I think he left this woman if he didn't want to have a family. She, until she got pregnant, until she gets pregnant, until she gives birth, you will be 40. And when your child is 20, you will be 60, with completely different understandings of life. I am 50, my husband is 40, my child is 17 and we are in hell! We all have completely different views. Don't make my mistake, act while it's time. If you have a successful business, now is the time for a family.

   Това е малко като тия девойки дето се оплакват че мъжа им станал пияница и лентяй като се оженили. Ама подробността че едно време това му били привлекателните черти и се влюбили в тях понеже можел "да се радва на живота" и да не е скучен някак не могат да направят връзката. Подобни хора са крайни ЕГОИСТИ, не че са незряли. И не, няма да се променят докато те самите не го пожелаят, колкото и да им говориш. Те са научени да се съобразяват с един единствен човек - себе си. И няма нищо общо със зодии. По-скоро с възпитание. Понеже повечето подобни хора са гледани "като яйца" като малки(най-често са сами деца). И са се научили всеки да им ходи след гъза и да ум угажда. И когато не става на тяхната са точно като едно 3 годишно дете - рев и тръшкане. Това на 3 години се израства, ама на 33 е загубена кауза. Останалите от този тип са пренебрегвани като малки обикновено и им е мерак да са на първо място и всичко да се върти покрай тях "най на края". Естествено това не пречи на подобни хора да имат всякакви други положителни качества. Отстрани може да изглеждат наистина перфектни... докато не ти се наложи да поживееш с тях повече от няколко дни или седмици. Те просто не са научени да се съобразяват с чужди желания особено, камо ли пък преди своите. Затова и ти изглежда понякога най-вероятно че не те обича. Но пък всеки си има правото да е егоист колкото си иска. Та проблема че си виждал само положителните и качества досега и сега си започнал да се замисляш че реално не е само цветя и рози, си е лично твой. Тя си е такава каквато е, и изглежда няма желание да се променя. Така че в крайна сметка като не иска особено да си дискуритате различията, или я приемаш с тях(както се разправя в брачните обети принципно), или всеки по пътя си. Вече ти сам трябва да си прецениш кое ти е по-важно - тя или да се примириш със странностите и. Принципно би трябвало да е общо решение. Но ако както казваш няма желание да го коментира, ще ти се наложи сам да го взимаш.

   I do not understand why always being a child according to other people who are not a child is the equivalent of being selfish. Sometimes I suspect that some people who are not one child are just a little jealous of the people we are one child. I know many selfish people who are not one child. 25, does not speak so of people who are one child. I am a child and in my childhood everything always revolved around me, yet there was no one else to revolve around. Although in 5th grade when I was and my father went to England to work because it was very difficult for him to find a job, and I was very sad. Today I am 31 years old and my husband and I are expecting our 3rd child and we are very happy. And my father is already in Bulgaria, he and his mother are retired and are happy to have grandchildren.

   Author, I understand you because I see a lot of similar women in my work. International companies generally take good money compared to others, travel abroad, sleep in nice hotels, eat in good restaurants, etc. Many people quickly get dizzy from this, embracing the modern understanding of "modern person". Modern man is presented as confident, strong, independent and so on. In fact, however, such dizzy people are simply selfish, interested only in their own well-being. For them there is only "I" and never us. You are currently living her life and you are practically comfortable with it. As for the so-called personal space and telephones, it is important for me that two people trust each other and live their lives together, and not two different lives just under one roof. All my phones, emails, Facebook, etc. are available. If someone has decided to hide such things from me, then we have nothing in common and the relationship ends immediately.

   From what has been said, it is clear that you are more in love than she is. I don't know if she got married because her time has come, but I think she looks pragmatically at your marriage.

   Absolutely agree with n 28!